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Mrs D’s Blog
Here Lotta Dann writes on topics inspired by discussions taking place within the Living Sober community, and on themes that arise for her as she moves through her own sober lifestyle. Guest posts from other writers in recovery also feature on this page.
Well this is exciting! Finally I get to publish the results of the Members Survey that we ran over...
This guest post comes from Jay, the Community Outreach Director at One Mind Dharma. ========== On March 20th of...
We are so fortunate in today’s world that we can do all manner of research, investigation and exploration from...
Love, Peace, Joy & Hope (Guest Post)
Mrs D | | Mrs D's Blog, bravery, community, gratitude, hope | 4If anyone is reading this post and hasn’t yet registered to become a member here at Living Sober and...
Our tribe…
Mrs D | | Mrs D's Blog, bravery, calm, community, emotions | 30This might sound strange but in many ways I am grateful for being an addict. Why? Because without having...
Remember (Guest Post)
Mrs D | | Mrs D's Blog, gratitude, honesty, raw | 22This guest post comes from Mark Goodson, author of the blog ‘The Miracle of the Mundane” (great title, great...
I think a big part of the reason I’ve never picked up a drink since I made the decision...
Blessed relief…
Mrs D | | Mrs D's Blog, cravings, regret, shame | 11I was interviewed by a journalist the other day (you can read the article here) and I was describing...
This guest post comes from my lovely friend Ali Ikram – a man who grew up in New Zealand...
Today is day 1630 of sobriety for me and this is proving an interesting time for me right now… The...
A lovely man who worked in the addiction sector here in New Zealand passed away recently. His name was David...
I deserve this…
Mrs D | | Mrs D's Blog, brain re-training, bravery, emotions, self-care, self-help | 17Once again here I am going on about brain re-training. It is VITAL! It is CRUCIAL! It is HUGELY...
Self-Care (guest post)
Mrs D | | Mrs D's Blog, calm, happy, hope, self-care, self-help | 19We talk about self-care a lot here at Living Sober. It’s so ridiculously important. Right now for me it’s the...
I just celebrated my 1600th sober day! I probably wouldn’t bother counting days at this stage of my sobriety...
This guest post was written by the wise and lovely@suek after she hosted some friends for dinner recently. ============ @suek:...
It doesn’t solve or fix anything…
Mrs D | | Mrs D's Blog, brain re-training, emotions, self-help | 8Alcohol is such a tricky drug. On the surface it appears to help us deal with things by relaxing us...
Learning to understand ourselves
Mrs D | | Mrs D's Blog, brain re-training, fun, gratitude, happy, self-care, socialising | 7I knew after I stopped drinking that in order to be genuinely at peace with being sober I needed to retrain my...
A powerful observation
Mrs D | | Mrs D's Blog, brain re-training, cravings, drinking-culture, socialising | 12I go on a lot about brain-retraining in early sobriety… how we need to really embrace the reality of...
Sobermass and New Cheers (Reposted Guest Post)
Mrs D | | Mrs D's Blog, drinking-culture, self-help, socialising | 9Some more Christmas and New Years inspiration for you – this post comes from @_jjw_, a smart and lovely kiwi dude,...
This post follows on from @suek’s last guest post ‘When Sober Gets Old‘. Here she offers some fantastic practical...
This guest post comes from my dear friend @suek. She writes brilliantly and is always full of such wisdom and...
I’m not sure that you can just stop drinking alcohol and make no other changes or do no other...
A special Christmas gift (Guest Post)
Mrs D | | Mrs D's Blog, brain re-training, gratitude, happy, hope | 7The Silly Season is fast approaching and already there are rumblings in the Members Feed about what a difficult...
It’s very hard to explain the intensity of a drinking dream to someone who isn’t sober. It’s one of those...
The Fear
Mrs D | | Mrs D's Blog, celebrities, gratitude, happy | 20The biggest thing I always want to say when I’m asked about my sobriety is that living alcohol-free life is not...
The little things…
Mrs D | | Mrs D's Blog, gratitude, happy, self-care | 23It seems to me that a lot of people have been commenting in the Members Feed recently about all...
Wellington Get-Together..
Mrs D | | Mrs D's Blog, community, fun, gratitude, happy, socialising | 15Living Sober has just had it’s inaugural annual get-together! A community-led meet up of brave sober warriors in Wellington....
This might seem a bit silly and trite but I’m often incredulous about this. Before I got sober I...
Am I a failure?
Mrs D | | Mrs D's Blog, bravery, honesty | 34Am I a failure because I’m not calm and contented all the time? Am I a failure because I...
There’s so much talk in sobriety about us all learning to take care of ourselves (so often a foreign...
It’s never too late to grow up (guest post)
Mrs D | | Mrs D's Blog, bravery, emotions, self-help | 28We are very fortunate that the lovely @suek has written another exceptional guest post for us. Sue’s writing ability...
Occasionally I get asked to speak at events about my drinking and sobriety story. Strangely it’s not something I...
Today’s guest post comes from Bren Murphy who writes the blog Last 100 Days Alcoholic. Bren was a HUGE support to me...
Resilience
Mrs D | | Mrs D's Blog, calm, emotions, hope | 5I don’t think I was very resilient when I first got sober. My emotional coping mechanisms weren’t well formed...
Today marks one year since my big TV ‘outing’ as an alcoholic in recovery. It was a huge scary...
Did you know that when you get sober you develop X-Ray eyes? You do! It’s amazing. @chatnoir discovered this...
There is no downside (guest post from @ylang-ylang)
Mrs D | | Mrs D's Blog, calm, gratitude, happy | 17Member @ylang-ylang posted this update in the Members Feed the other day and many of us thought it was...
Sober Freak
Mrs D | | Mrs D's Blog, gratitude, happy | 11Ok I am officially a sober freak! It’s Saturday morning and I woke today at 6.20am, picked up my...
I’ve been doing this new thing in regards to my emotions. Lately I’ve been finding that I’m not only...
A member posted this question in the Members Feed the other day… “I need some wise advice. So how do...
On my lowest days I sometimes have glum thoughts about my sobriety. It happens rarely nowadays (at 3+ years sober)...
5 o’clock was bloody hard for me in the early days of getting sober. Very bloody hard. Because this...
It’s such a loaded word ‘boundaries’. People say it with such gravitas sometimes. ‘Know your boundaries’ they might say...
My ugly recovery…
Mrs D | | Mrs D's Blog, emotions, honesty | 17Sometimes my recovery is extremely ugly. Sometimes my recovery involves tears, yelling, feeling low or inadequate, self-destructive thoughts, grumpiness, a...
Techniques for being around drinkers…
Mrs D | | Mrs D's Blog, self-care, self-help, socialising | 21It’s definitely an extra layer of ‘hard’ for us sober people if we have to spend a lot of...
One of our wonderful members @mac007 (who I have had the pleasure of meeting twice!) has just travelled away...
It’s hard sometimes to convince other people that we have a problem with booze. They might see us have...
Up up into the giant sky (guest post from @suek)
Mrs D | | Mrs D's Blog, bravery, honesty, hope, writing | 27Some of you may remember that my dear friend (and long-time member of this site) @suek has recently been...