Day One of Living Sober.. not sure how many people are going to be on here tonight, but if you are here (hello!) how are you going with the 5 o’clock pull?
Tonight’s witching hour…
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I survive with a wine glass filled with ice, 2 orange slice, and seltzer. When I want a bit more I add fancy flavored lemonade that comes in a glass bottle. If you can find blood orange lemonade you will think it is the perfect mock-tail. Going to gentle yoga also helps to get through the 5:00 temptation. Love the new site
This is my day 1 – a different time zone here I will be travelling around 5pm-plan to NOT DRINK TODAY!
You probably know this already Mrs D. Smiley faces are the colon : followed by right hand bracket. ) So you get this 🙂
Very successfully told the 5.00 pull, the 5.00 fight, the 5.00 wine hour to get stuffed, piss off, and generally get out of my life. Day 17 and feeling great!
Walked the dog at 5pm – it was a great distraction!
Five O’Clock for me is pour a schweppes soda with a twist in a wine glass and then I feel it’s still a special treat when cooking dinner. Not to fizzy either.
Hey this is great, I love it. One thing I really like about not drinking alcohol is how long a four pack of sparkling bundabergs lasts. Like 4 days!!! haha You can only drink so much, after all, when it is not full of poison!!! Man I was so stupid for such a long time. Glad I woke up.
We were all stupid Prudence. Thanks to Mrs D, we have made a tough, and a hugely important decision – not to drink. And with the support of each other, I know we can make it. 🙂
Same as Firebird – cooking and glass of wine went hand-in-hand – now it’s one part apple/pear juice to three parts fizzy water.
Just spent the day with a couple of recovery friends. I have never felt so comfortable with any other women. We have nothing to hide from each other and we are all the same. We laughed and laughed at our drinking behaviour in the past and how everything in our heads made sense at the particular time we wanted our poison. I came home on a happy high only for my partner to knock me off it. Wasn’t pleased that I had had such a good time without him. Momentarily I was thinking f**k you! I will go and get a bottle but that passed and I will go to a meeting instead.
Fantastic news on the majority of your day. It made me smile too. Hold on to that memory and block out the negative stuff as much as you can
Nice cold glass of diet ginger for moi then later a big deep bubble bath reading Jason Vale – poor Jason I dropped him in the bath the other night and he has just about dried out – no pun intended – hopefully I can keep his head above water tonight! Along with mine, this time of day is always difficult – being on here helps a lot!
Yep – 23 days not giving up now Jason! Ill keep dry! No promises for Jason though!
Ha ha that made me laugh.. poor Jason xx
Well raising my cup of tea to ya both staying dry and keeping ha head above water tonight Nancy
It’s late here (US West Coast) and made it through my witching hour (5-7pm when winding the kids down for the day) by getting a sitter and going for a long run. day 2 done. yay. thanks for this site!!
Well done! Glad to see someone in my time zone. 🙂
Hellooooo US West Coast!!!!!! How cool is that!!!!!! Great to see you here Rowena. I love that you got a sitter to go for a run, now THAT’S smart thinking xxx
Hi Mrs D,
Congratulations on this new site! 🙂 I’m sure it will support many, many people. Your blog is amazing….thank you for your honesty and your enthusiasm (and your courage to go public). You’ve created a safe forum and an opportunity for people to share and seek support. I know I will visit this site many times. I need to…
Hey Kassie, great to hear from you! And look forward to seeing you around xxx. How are people doing smiley faces… ):
Wow Mrs D looks like youve reached far and wide good on you 🙂
Thanks Roulette72 …. it’s so freaking amazing having all these wonderful people around being honest about booze.. I love it.. we don’t need that shit in our lives and we can all help each other so much xxx
Wine o’clock was always my “switch off” mode. But these days I’m actually enjoying being switched on! If I am ever tempted with the thought of wine (and there’s wine in this house) I just think of how gutted I’d be to have to start at day one again… AND in spite of the odd temptation, I am absolutely not ever going back to the booze. I am far happier sober and switched on than I was sloppy and switched off.
hi sue, I feel the same. if I let myself think at 5pm it’s time to chill with a glass of wine, I then make myself think that it wouldn’t be one glass it would lead to 2 bottles then large voddies and an awful nights sleep and an raging hangover. So I really try to stay strong every day is a battle but one I intend to win.
Yes I had my first thought of restarting at day 1 again yesterday. I did not want to drink but the thought of restarting was awful, I think that may be one of my go to tools!
Well said Sue… that is a good thing to remember. I get home from work now wanting to engage… thanks for reminding me of that tonight
Good on you Sue, enjoy being ‘switched on’ 🙂
Have sat down with a nice warm cuppa watching the wonderful Wellington sun set over the hills.
That sounds fantastic. I’m going to do the same thing.
Witching hour for me is anytime but normally I would want to have a glass of wine (or 7) around now. That was when I was a civilised drinker. So I have already planned dinner and because I am getting antsy I decided I would come and check out this cool site and I am going to pop myself in the bath and read my book .
Having a bath is definitely one of my go-to sober treats…. sometimes I get in a bath at 2pm, it sends me a message that I’m looking after me…
My god Cherie that sounds fantastic. Can’t think when the last time I had a nice relaxing bath…. of course I do shower regularly…..
I find that anytime after 12pm can be the witching hour for me. And the industry I am in there is often booze around and always offered. After 50 odd days of being strong I am finding the days I am feeling weak increasing. Hopefully it is just a phase I can push through
Thanks Mrs D… sitting in my happy place relaxing…. well keeping busy actually which helps take my mind off it with a good strong cup of tea. Good simple gunboat variety… was offered a very nice bottle of wine today from a supplier as a thank you for going out of my way for him. Think that has been on my mind too. Perhaps K am not at your stage yet of being happy to not ever drink again.. but I know I need to be.
Oh Nugget sorry to hear that.. yes push through.. it’s all you can do (unless you go back to boozing and NO NO NO don’t do that!!!)… try just sit quietly with your feelings and figure out what’s going on.. and of course keep in touch with the rest of us. Also – what sober treats are you indulging in? You need some feel-good things around you…xx
One little bonus I found from being alcohol free, is that I didn’t have to wait until 5 Oclock to have my favourite drink! Cooking and a glass of wine went hand in hand and if I was having to get dinner ready ahead of time, around 4, I would always curse I couldn’t have a glass of wine….but NOW I can pour away with ‘gay abandon’. A glass of elderflower cordial over lots of ice with sparkling water…mmmm
Yeah I think I”m going to get myself some more elderflower cordial … I’ve just made myself a green juice! Spinach, cucumber, lemon, ginger, apple & celery.. yummy goodness ..
A few thoughts around 5-6pm (it’s now 9pm), but I just kept thinking about how great I am going to feel tomorrow when I wake up !! I am in bed with teeth brushed and ready for lights out … day 2 down.
Well done on day 2 Kristy and thanks for that timely reminder of how good it feel in the morning… I also love the feel of going to bed sober too.. stupidly I used to worry about getting to sleep when I gave up the wine…
Yay for day 2! Where are you Kristy? You will feel great when you wake up tomorrow xxx
Hi Mrs d
Congrats on the site (loved your blog) looking forward to your continued inspiration. There’s no 5 o’clock pull where I am (its 5am) 🙂
Israel
Ha that’d be a bit early to start wouldn’t it Marc…! Where are you?