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Tools to take control

Sick of waging a fierce internal battle with yourself about alcohol? Ready to try and turn things around? This site is a safe space dedicated to helping you help yourself. From the countless tips and techniques in our Sober Toolbox, to our ‘Days Sober’ and ‘Money Saved’ calculators, there are many ways this site works to empower you.

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Caring online community

There are loads of people online here every day, talking openly with one another. Countless different voices sharing their truths, trials and triumphs. No pretending here, and no judgement either. Our ethos is one of tolerance, understanding and kindness and our vibe is unfailingly positive and forward-looking.

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Wealth of content

You’ll find plenty of thought-provoking and inspiring reading material on our site. Advice on reframing your thinking, wisdom from people who have faced their own drinking issues and insights from addiction experts. You’re welcome to add your voice or just lurk and read what others have to share.

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When I first got sober, I was desperately lonely.  I was sure that there MUST be other women out there like me, who drank like me and hadn’t wound up on skid row, but I didn’t know any in real life. In finding Living Sober, I found those women (and men) and I found the community and connection I’d been looking for my whole life. The advice, love and acceptance I found on Living Sober literally changed my life.

I first joined the Living Sober forum after an especially difficult day in February of 2017, and received immediate support from other members. The many useful ideas and resources here are very helpful, but it’s the ability to connect with others and share their experiences, their sober lives that means the most to me now. 

I am very grateful and also very proud to be a member of Living Sober. I can say without reservation that the reason I now have a happy, full and successful life without the desire to drink alcohol, ever, is because of the power behind this site. It is about connection. It is about feeling heard. It is about giving and receiving support – each one just as important as the the other. We feel safe here. We feel understood. It is such a privilege to be a part of this community.

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