Illuminating and rewarding


Boy does life change when we quit drinking and are no longer subject to the impacts of artificially altering our moods with alcohol.

It’s something quite else when you stop drinking for a long length of time and live through ups and downs and moods and interactions and gatherings and events and challenges and more ups and downs and ... so on and so forth.

Only after living sober for some weeks on end do you start to get a sense of how living 100% raw to everything all of the time is quite a earth shattering and groundbreaking act.

Never escaping anything ever. Never taking the edge off. Never enhancing your experience. Never altering your natural state. Always maintaining a wide open brain. Always sitting with your natural brain chemicals. Learning how you flow and how life flows. It's a very incredible way to experience life (especially to someone like me who had alcohol in the mix almost daily for so many years).

But let's be honest. Sobriety is hard as hell at times and relentless. It can be lonely when you're the only sober person in a group environment. But if I'm ever hit with discomfort I just try and settle inwardly into my truth and reassure myself knowing I’m doing the absolutely the best thing for myself.

And I also always remind myself that even though it might seem like I'm the only non-drinker in the world, I'm not. Far from it. I know that there are many thousands of people doing exactly what I’m doing - being brave, swimming against the boozy tide and and living sober. I feel great solidarity knowing I am a member of the awesome group of sober heroes around the world.

Being sober has helped me to unveil  parts of me I didn't know existed. Being sober is illuminating and rewarding on a grand scale. It's also quite countercultural and rebellious.

Quite simply, I love it, and wouldn't want to live any other way.

Love, Mrs D xxx

  1. Joni 5 years ago

    I happened to stumble across this statement today which made me think of how much time I wasted drinking. I’m so thankful to be on day 72 sober and free.

    Time is your most valuable asset. You only get so much, and that is it. You can’t horde it. You can’t get it back. You can’t turn back the clock. The best you can do is to start investing your time wisely.

  2. Michelle 5 years ago

    Hi to newlife im day 5 and this morning like any morning i drive the same route like i have many mornings and low and behold at 8.10am theres a booze stop. It felt great knowing i hadn’t had a drink the nite before. Is this the universe working or wat???

    • KarenM 5 years ago

      The feeling that those little wins give us are just the best. So many more to come. I am almost at day 100 and I still get a kick out of those times. Keep ump the good work.

  3. NewLife 5 years ago

    Such a true statement. I am only day 3 and have spent most of the day thinking about what I am giving up… but I’m not!

  4. Steph73 5 years ago

    thank you for this. Really timely.

  5. behind-the-sofa 5 years ago

    This quote is in the ‘Inspirational Quotes’ section: “I’d rather spend my life sober wishing I was drunk, than spend my life drunk wishing I was sober”.

  6. Maija 5 years ago

    Very inspiring, thank you very much mrs.D ❤️

  7. Begoodtomyself 5 years ago

    Exactly! Thanks Mrs D xx

  8. Cinderella 5 years ago

    Yeah!! the slurring words, the unfocused eyes, the not quite getting the gist of someone’s story….poop!! the list goes on. I always look forward to the Sober stories and these gem posts. Great reminders of how awesome real self is. Cheers Mrs D xOx and to all of us Living Sober warriors who acknowledge the messages going out to us so regularly 😉 It sets a neat mood for the weekend too!!

  9. JM 5 years ago

    Yes!! I felt kinda choked up reading the post, feeling proud of this amazing, strong, cool tribe and the statement you write about loving the sober life. What’s interesting about sobriety is that it soon becomes something entirely other than ‘giving something up’. It becomes this huge learning experience and a whole lot of benefits – each that unfold in its own time. Thank-you! xx

    • Happysober 5 years ago

      Loving the comments which all ring so true. It’s so good to be genuine, true to oneself and real in every day to day experience. Some are unpleasant but need to be there as part of our human existence. Yin can’t exisf without yang.
      Great post Mrs D.

  10. marmite 6 years ago

    Yes! That’s exactly what sobriety is and we’re all stood together (in my head I heard the last 3 paragraphs as a battle cry and we’re all stood together like mighty warriors on top of the hillside with you having a braveheart moment) Freedom at last x

    • Begoodtomyself 5 years ago

      I like that, a braveheart moment, extraordinary 🙂 xx

  11. janabel 6 years ago

    Thanks Mrs D xx

  12. Kerris 6 years ago

    Here here.

  13. Prudence 6 years ago

    Nice post Mrs D xo

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