Trueness and Beauty (Guest Post)

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This guest post comes from member @djstarheart. It was written as an update in the Members Feed and resonated with so many I thought it worth featuring here. Enjoy!


I started drinking from the age of 14, gradually progressing to a daily and binging habit until my body was literally screaming at me, "you are killing us!". I am two years sober now, so in this spirit I was inspired to write about some of my sober gifts. I have learnt:

1. My feelings are strong, sometimes painful to sit with and often difficult to accept. But once they move through me, (and they always move through) I am ok again. Feelings are intuition detectors telling me the truth – in my humble opinion nothing (except for freedom) feels better than truth.

2. In hindsight the first year was difficult and sucked really, but I worked away at it. The second year was easier and bubbled up my traumas I had numbed away, but overall, both years have given me the gift of personal growth and more peaceful life where I can live and love myself.

3. I trust myself more than ever to do what I say I am going to do, the next day promises, I am there. I am showing up and most of the time in a naturally pleasant mood – bonus. I now have an opportunity to be 1% better each day.

4. It was difficult to socialize at first, but as time went on, life naturally became calmer. Now I tend to seek out discomfort and look to push outside my comfort zone. I trust I will be ok, I have got my back. After all I am a thrill seeker at heart – and I can see now mostly in the big scheme of things whatever it is won’t be a big deal.

5. I have become familiar with my brain and how it works, I am most probably on the neurodiverse spectrum, my brain seems to work differently, but now I am able to work with it and mange it rather than try to numb it and shut it down

6. I was able to claim my queerness more fully, and express myself naturally and genuinely

7. My spiritual practices are far more consistent, and have been able to practice reliably for two years

8. Because of all the above, I have learnt, I can be a geeky, a bit woo and unique, and somedays in the right mood I might just be fun to hang with 😊

I am an amateur at this, and just starting out on this journey but so far it seems once we stop drinking, over time, we go back to a more natural way of living which leans into the trueness and beauty of being human.

Peace out and keep at it, the treasure is waiting to be found.


  1. Leone 1 year ago

    Love your post – thank you so much for posting – your self-awareness and insights are enlightening! Congratulations on your success – you rock!!!!

  2. Camille 1 year ago

    I appreciate you sharing this! I also found it uncomfortable to be socialize sober at first, but it got so much easier with time!

  3. Ginger1960 1 year ago

    Thank you for sharing this. Truly insightful and I loved how you said, “I seek out discomfort”… I tend to try with all my might to avoid it. Maybe I’ve been doing it all wrong!

  4. ojala 1 year ago

    Love #3 especially! It’s so nice to be able to trust what I’m thinking and feeling and know it’s not the disjointed, overly dramatic effects of alcohol on my brain. I may not always understand things but I know my reasoning is sound and will not change in the clear light of day! I think I’m about where you are on this journey, 750 days tomorrow. It’s been a wild ride! Thanks for sharing.

  5. mrsorry 1 year ago

    So relate to this… its a truth and honesty, being born again to free oneself into becoming who they were really meant to be, and always were under the corruption. Opening up and bringing light to my spirit which I woefully repressed – and now talks to me and guides me. Thank you for sharing this x

  6. reena 1 year ago

    Truly an invitation to seek being chemical free instead of being sober, in the joy or mystery of it all rather then grit your teeth can’t ever have it again way we originally approach eliminating alcohol. Thanks for this @djstarheart

  7. wiser4it 1 year ago

    I absolutely love this. Relate 100%. Thank you for sharing. X

  8. morgan 1 year ago

    I am so glad I got to see this lovely, inspiring post as I missed it in the feed. Love it! Thank you

  9. JM 1 year ago

    Wow, love this!! Feelings of intuition detectors – yes, never thought of it like that before. Thank-you! x

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