Bring your curious, upbeat energy..

I think one thing that really helps in early sobriety is to bring a healthy level of curious, upbeat energy to the entire process.

I know that seems like a tough thing to muster at times..anything of an upbeat nature that is.  Things are often quite grim and hard work in those early days and weeks. Cravings, grumpiness, tears, bad sleep, bad skin… all measure of nasties can fly at us when we quit.

Why would you want to bring a curious, upbeat energy to that?

Because, trust me, there are better things around the corner. Revelatory things. Positive things. Beneficial things.

In getting sober you are embarking on a massive life change. You are grinding your way through a period of major personal growth. And you are likely to emerge from this process a better, calmer, more well-rounded, and more authentic version of yourself.

Yet at the beginning it’s impossible to know exactly what is in store.


It’s hard to see it as great at first because it’s such a long-winded and grim process.. but trust me, in years to come you are going to look back and marvel at the lengths you have come.

You’re likely to figure some shit out about yourself that will astound you.

You’re likely to realise things you had no clue were going on.

You’re likely to uncover truths that will be revelatory and beneficial.

You’re likely to discard misguided beliefs that have been dragging you down for years.

You’re likely to achieve new things you never thought possible.

You’re likely to ditch things you never thought you could get rid of.

This IS a really exciting process! Trust in it. Be curious about it. Be fearless and brave and back yourself to manage it.

Tell yourself to hang in there NO MATTER WHAT because around the corner there are developments awaiting you that will seriously rock your world for the better.

Don’t believe me? Go to the Sober Stories page on this site and read them. Read them one after another. Every single person who has shared their Sober Story with us talks about how their life was radically transformed for the better after they got sober.

It doesn’t happen overnight. But it does happen.

Belive. Trust. Grind through and remember to bring your curious & upbeat energy to this wonderfully challenging and rewarding process.

You won’t regret it.

Love, Mrs D xxx

  1. Choosewisely 4 years ago

    Yup it is hard to imagine what is ahead in the early days of giving up the booze, when every cell is screaming out for a drink, that things will get better. People tell you this and you are like; yeah whatever, it’s easy for you to say. I was at an AA meeting when this positive bubbly person shone their light on me directly. I was like f-off you little ray of sunshine, I feel like shit. And now as I near a 3 month sober, I am feeling that sobriety, or being lucid, clear headed, and vaguely sane – really rocks! I have more energy than I know what to do with – which is probably the energy ‘normal people’ have, ie not booze hound.
    It’s almost scary, but I was lying here thinking, I so deserve to feel good. I have done the hard yards, and I deserve this health. For me. And now the family and others are sharing in the fruits of this good health. ‘Every day, in every way, I am getting better and stronger.’ That is what my dad said when he quit the booze… Thanks everyone for sharing .

  2. Ms.Penelope.Dropped 4 years ago

    Word, sister!

    Because I have lived this, now I know every word you have said here to be true.

    As Gilbert has said, if you are just starting out trust in the process.

    When you come out the other side of this life hiccup you will find yourself there, complete, authentic as you always were. You can’t keep a good thing down. You are still there so get the heck out of the way and allow yourself to come back.

    No matter how far down the rabbit hole of horror you are you can turn everything around and access the right to a happy life outlined by the wise and wonderful Mrs.D above. It is your responsibility to chuck the booze in the rubbish and never look back.

    YOU is waiting for you to wake up, so get to it! Seriously, even life at its most challenging is doable without the confusion and merry h$ll of booze.


    • Choosewisely 4 years ago

      Like the h$ll spelling !

  3. Lizzy 4 years ago

    ‘Believe, trust, grind your way through it…’ Yes, that’s what I need to do @Mrs-D. My belief and trust waned recently, I drank, I regret it. So now I’m going to take note of your message here to hang in there no matter what, because every drink is a step backwards and is delaying the day when I can really start achieving all those things you talk about here. Thank you for this post. Xx

    • Choosewisely 4 years ago

      Hey Lizzy – if you slip up and drink – it can actually kick you in the ass forwards rather than thinking its a backward step cause you have reaffirmed that you do not want that booze anymore…

  4. April 4 years ago

    This is a timely post – thank you. So much I am hearing and reading recently is really resonating for me at the moment. A comment made to from someone two years sober (I think) a few days ago was along the lines of; “I wish I had become sober at your age”. I am 44yrs and was complaining that I had so much to do still and had wasted so much time drinking.

    The ‘take home message’ for me from this was: stop looking at the negatives and get on with appreciating how MUCH you HAVE got and work from there. Getting sober is only going to make all of this even better. This fab sober warrior was (IMO) sucking up the juice of her life and really living her dreams. Thanks to being sober. All of this can be mine (and yours) too if we just get on with it.

  5. Gilbert 4 years ago

    Wow! I’ll say! You will be amazed and no regrets.Just when it seems to be taking forever and you wonder when the witch will go..suddenly you’re free and this is your new normal and you can grow and develop and stretch yourself in ways you didn’t imagine when you were lost in the booze fog.At times this trust was all I had and it really did happen.Thanks Mrs D.

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