For some reason these three simple words often make me teary. If you can say this to yourself – ‘I am enough’ – and mean it, what a monumental thing that is. If you can say this to yourself – ‘I am enough’ – and believe it, then surely you must have this crazy thing called life nailed. Don’t you think?
I am enough.
Because what else is there to achieve in life but the calm contentment that these three words denote? A calm contentment that comes from a quiet place within. If we can achieve ‘enoughness’ then we win!
Brene Brown the awesome vulnerability guru (watch this talk it’ll blow your mind) writes in her book Daring Greatly “With that sense of “enough” comes an embrace of worthiness, boundaries, and engagement.” Wow. Not much then. Read the whole book if you want to see how she fleshes out this monumental statement.
‘Enoughness’ isn’t hitched to fancy jobs or perfect bodies or marvelous wardrobes or numbers of Facebook friends or the size of your car or dick or boobs (is that too risqué?!).. it comes from a deep, lovely little secret space in your heart and soul. It’s a humble, understated, beautiful, deep-down belief.
I am enough.
And it’s fucking hard to achieve.. and honestly I think it’s a biggie for us boozers. We all know that taking away the alcohol is just the first step and often there may be much more we need to do to achieve this place of ‘enoughness’… but it can be done.
This topic was bubbling around the Members Feed this morning. One member wrote “When I was drinking I used to have drunken ramblings where I would say “am I enough?” “But am I enough though?” “I just don’t feel like I’m enough”. I could never explain what that meant but I just knew that I felt that “I wasn’t enough”. I noticed someone saying it on a post on here and it got me wondering if it is a common feeling amongst drinkers and maybe one of the reasons why we drink/drank. How many of you can relate to that?”
They got this instant response from another member: “Yup….. I never felt smart, pretty, good, rich, thin, clever, fit, tough or kind enough. I’m not sure when I put these expectations upon myself, yet there they were and on occassion still are. Realising who I am is ok as I am. Any improvement onwards is ok too.”
I love that “Any improvement onwards is ok too.” Taking away the booze is an improvement onwards. No doubt about it. Taking away the booze will move you in an ‘I am enough’ direction. If you don’t believe me.. then read this update member @aprilaries posted this morning. It blew my socks off……
@aprilaries: “I just re-read ‘my story’ that I wrote when I joined this site. I was, I think roughly 4 – 6 weeks into my sober life.
The person I describe sounds sad, depressed and very lonely, hiding all this behind a faked confidence and a bravado brought about from plenty of booze.
I really want to give her a hug. Tell her she’s loved. Tell her she IS enough. Tell her that stopping drining is the easy part… The work comes when coping with the real world with real feelings and that is all ok. She will do this, she will be successful.
I am astonished that in such a short time I have come so far emotionally, mentally and (an added bonus) physically. It’s all self motivated and my inspiration comes hugely from you all.
Stay beautiful my lovelies xxx”