• Mrs D posted a new activity comment 6 hours ago

    yep me too.. I think exactly that! x

  • Hi tribe, lovely day here. I’m bloody tired because when Mr D’s alarm went off at 3.45am (he’s a shift worker) I woke up and couldn’t get back to sleep 😩 so it’s going to be a long day. However! To look on the bright side I am going out to lunch with friends later which I’m really looking forward to. I just have to get a bunch of stuff done before then.. so am working hard! I’ve just published a new Sober Story from the fabulous Helana, a brave lady I met when I gave a talk recently. She stood up at the end of my talk and ‘outed’ herself to her colleagues as being 4+ years sober! She was shaking but really proud to have done it. So great. Naturally I then had to ask her if she’d share her story with us here and lucky for us she said yes. Check it out https://livingsober.org.nz/sober-story-helana/
    Also, wondering if there are any members on here from Wellington, Porirua, Kāpiti, Hutt Valley or the Wairarapa who might be willing to do a short anonymous survey for the local DHBs? They’re wanting to hear from people with a lived experience of alcohol and other issues because they’re looking at the services they currently offer and how they might be improved/developed. If you’ve never accessed any services you can still do it, because you might have feedback that lets them know why you didn’t, or ideas of what would have been better if it was offered for you. It is also a really good way for us to get the message through about how powerful and helpful our site is 😜 They say “The survey is completely anonymous, and will help us understand barriers to accessing help, what things make the biggest difference, how we can improve your experiences, and what your ideal alcohol and other drug service would look like. The link is here and it should only take 5 mins https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/AODLEAG
    Today is a great day to be sober! Day 2843 for me, that is a ridiculously large and fabulous number of days. Not all of those days have been fabulous of course.. some…[Read more]

  • Mrs D posted a new activity comment 7 hours, 9 minutes ago

    yep I remember getting pimples.. and being tired and headachy.. your body is detoxing.. it’s fabulous! but also hard work, these early weeks. Like the others have said, keep going..! You’ll be SO THANKFUL to yourself in the months and years ahead for doing this hard work now. I am in awe of the me who went through the early stages of quitting 7 and a half years ago. She was a legend! And so are you x

  • Mrs D posted a new activity comment 1 day, 6 hours ago

    you’re on your way!! Love the tips from @melnz .. you’ve got this! x

  • Mrs D posted a new activity comment 1 day, 20 hours ago

    oh get you gal trippin around Europe all sober and fabulous, love it! x

  • Mrs D posted a new activity comment 1 day, 20 hours ago

    hey congrats!! Now you’re at 3 years you’re keen to do a Sober Story, keen?! x

  • Mrs D posted a new activity comment 1 day, 20 hours ago

    sorry to hear that xx

  • Mrs D posted a new activity comment 3 days, 20 hours ago

    so great you are here x

  • Mrs D posted a new activity comment 4 days, 8 hours ago

    I feel the same @tipsytoegal, it’s such a good exercise in patience.. but really it stresses me out.. I hate tech angst! A big part of the problem is I just don’t understand how any of it works.. but luckily we have a very engaged techie. x

  • Mrs D posted an update 5 days, 3 hours ago

    Aaahhh the sweet sound of no-body having trouble with the site! Huge thanks to our resident techie Dan for working hard yesterday and figuring out why so many of you were experiencing problems. I suppose we should be prepared for glitches to occur again.. and be extremely grateful for when things are running smoothly. All good life lessons really! I have a dog sleeping on my feet as I do some work on the laptop, sitting in the sun. Just ate a massive plate of coleslaw with halloumi on top. Heading into Friday night with not one single thought of booze, should I drink it, what should I drink, how much.. etc etc. Love that I got that shit out of my life. I have just published two new blog posts which are featured on the home page or you can read them on the Mrs D’s Blog page and the Drink of the Week page. One is a fab guest post from @behind-the-sofa which he wrote here in the Members Feed a week or two ago, with his permission I have featured it as it really is a powerful read. And the other is a lovely Irish mocktail that I got out of this cute vintage mocktail book (well, published in ’86.. is that ‘vintage’ enough?!) .. it has lemon juice and PARSLEY in it! And it’s really nice, I just guzzled the entire glass that I made to take the photo. So check them out if you are interested. Today is a fabulous day to be sober x

    • Vintage is considered anything prior to 2000. At least of you follow pinterest. 1986 is practically an antique, lol. Sounds lovely. Going to make that tomorrow, for my Friday night treat:).

    • One of the beautiful gifts of sobriety is PATIENCE! I had about 2-3 days of issues with the site but I knew it would come back eventually and I just commiserated with you all in my quiet meditation time instead. Thank you for the practice in patience! 🙂 🙂 You do a wonderful job keeping us all connected here mrs-d and Dan!!

      • I feel the same @tipsytoegal, it’s such a good exercise in patience.. but really it stresses me out.. I hate tech angst! A big part of the problem is I just don’t understand how any of it works.. but luckily we have a very engaged techie. x

    • Thank you for everything you do for us to have this safe and wonderful space to come to @mrs_D – this community is such a blessing xoxo

  • Mrs D posted a new activity comment 5 days, 6 hours ago

    I’m doing Belle’s podcast again soon @lars x

  • Mrs D posted a new activity comment 5 days, 6 hours ago

    yeah!!! So great! Good on you! x

  • Mrs D posted a new activity comment 6 days, 3 hours ago

    aaarrrggghhh @song-bird our techie @danthedev is working on this problem, it seems like only some members are experiencing it (I’m not – the ‘read more’ is working as it should for me), but having said that it seems to be many of you who are struggling with it. He has put an entry into our ‘Site Support’ page for this and it would be great if you could go in there and enter some details about the device and browser you are using, as the more information he has the better to try and unpick what is happening. The site support page is on the drop down menu at the top where your profile pic is, or you can follow this link here https://livingsober.org.nz/site-support/read-more-button-not-working-as-expected/

  • Mrs D posted a new activity comment 6 days, 7 hours ago

    hero!! x

  • Mrs D posted an update 6 days, 8 hours ago

    Very wet and misty here this morning.. cold and dark. I was out late last night interviewing an amazing woman for my new book, some of the stories I am hearing are so moving and powerful. I’m going to spend today transcribing, drinking mugs of tea, doing chores etc. Dog probably won’t get a walk in this weather but given he’s ruptured his second cruciate ligament that’s probably not a great idea anyway. Poor guy is heading for another surgery.. but at least he’s insured now so we don’t have to fork out $$$. I’m frustrated to hear so many of you are experiencing issues with the site.. buttons not doing what they should and slowness etc. I have no idea what is happening – not being technically minded myself – but will see what I can discover and report back ASAP. Bear with us and remember above all.. booze is shit and all the cool people are sober nowadays!! Day 2837 x

    • @mrs d 26 days for me and going pretty well. Am reading your first book at the moment and loving it. Loving this website also. I’m so very grateful to access this kind of support as I really don’t think I could be this strong without it. Thank you! By the way my husband has joined me with being AF even though he’s never thought he had an issue with booze until the other day when he said maybe he does. That was a WOW moment for me! Very grateful x

    • Hi @mrs d.. so glad you are writing another book.. I did ask you sometime last year if you were going to… your books are my one of my sober tools… so thank you..after another relapse I’m back again..xx

  • Mrs D posted an update 1 week ago

    Hi guys, am hearing from quite a few of you that you are having some trouble on here today.. we are looking into it. Will report back asap! @winner @k1w1 @getclear @tipsytoegal

    • I think this has been resolved 🙂

      • I’m
        Nope still have no post button on iPad did notice that up top on the address bar it says unsecure in red. Have a post button on my iPhone but when I went to comment on @tipsytoegal for some reason on my iPhone it went to her profile page rather than staying in members feed area.

  • Mrs D posted a new activity comment 1 week ago

    Oh curious! I wonder. Other people’s lives are always so fascinating…. 😊

  • Mrs D posted a new activity comment 1 week ago

    sometimes we forget.. especially as time goes on… but every day that I don’t drink and face my emotions head on, I’m a hero. x

    • Annie replied 1 week ago

      Yes @mrsD–Im feeling a hero today copeing with my relationship breakup sober! Never done that before! Hero I am. Thanks for that.

  • Mrs D posted a new activity comment 1 week ago

    Woooo Hoooooo! That is a mighty fine number! x

  • Mrs D posted an update 1 week, 2 days ago

    Heading into a new week with a bit of a sluggish feel, have a yoga class this morning which one side of my brain is trying to talk me out of, but the other side – the wise side – is going to win, knowing that I’ll feel much better for the entire week knowing I went (and it’s always lovely). Visited my friend in hospital yesterday, she has a bad pain condition, and it was lovely to see her and a good reminder walking through the halls that being grateful for my health and that of my families is a good thing to feel … while we are all well and healthy! Am sure sickness and other nasties will come our way, because that’s how life goes, so it’s good to appreciate the healthy times while we have them. Hope you’re all doing ok out there in Living Sober land! Thank you everyone for being here and bringing your bravery and truth. Without our lovely members we would be nothing but a hollow shell of a website.. but the warmth and togetherness that is experienced here is truly magical and thank you all for contributing towards that. Sobriety is gold! Hard bloody work at first but so, so rewarding. Together we are stronger x

    • I feel weird and sluggish after doing a weights class. I think it really does something … major? in the body, as does yoga, but I am more used to that. A couple a week make my whole experience of life more positive and calm. Not sure about the weights though 🙁 I really don’t like the way they do it and the loud music. Pity it is supposed to be the best thing as we age 🙁 🙁
      Happy yoga, happy week XXXX

      • @morgan Did you do a pump/ weights class? They are loud, the other way is pay for one trainer session and get the trainer to give you a basic program and show you how to do them correctly. When bored or weights have gone up significantly make another appointment. I love weights, my sister hates them, she’s a walker which I find boring. Ps music isn’t normally as loud in the weights rooms, in classes I have seen People use Ear plugs

    • Ain’t that the truth sober life is best life, and the wise voice is gold

    • oxoxxoxoxxxo Go you for making it to yoga!!!

    • Thank you Mrs D, and loved the Listener today. Good positive advice and facts.

    • the colder weather definitely doesn’t help in the motivation to get out for exercise! but like you, I’m always so glad I do. xx

  • Mrs D posted a new activity comment 1 week, 2 days ago

    oh is it already out? I’ll have to get a copy tomorrow to read what they wrote about me! x

  • Mrs D posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    such bad luck with those flights!! Love Rome.. so grand x

  • Mrs D posted a new activity comment 1 week, 5 days ago

    I loved getting my tattoo and I love the tattoo every day now that I look at it! Very empowering x

  • Mrs D posted a new activity comment 1 week, 5 days ago

    Oh good luck! Hope it’s lovely and the group has a good vibe. x

    • Thank you. It’s quite close to my old work, which makes me a little bit nervous, but hey, what’s the worst that can happen? 🙂

  • Mrs D posted a new activity comment 2 weeks ago

    never gets old!! Love it, I never wake up wishing I had been drinking the night before x

  • Mrs D posted an update 2 weeks ago

    Good morning team.. I just want to repeat an update that I posted yesterday about a new feature that we are trialling. It is a ‘Following’ feature which should help to ensure you don’t miss updates from members you are particularly connected with. With this function, if you have another member that you have connected with directly or feel a kinship with (because you’re on a similar day count for example, or have a similar situation going on in real life), you can click on their name to go through to their profile page and then click on ‘Follow’. Once you have done that, if you come back to the main feed you’ll see under the comment box at the top you now have a filter that says ‘Following’ (next to ‘All Members’, ‘My Favourites’ & ‘Mentions’. Note: this won’t show up until you have followed your first person). Once you have followed someone and come back to the Members Feed, if you click on ‘Following’ you’ll see a filtered version of the feed with only those members you have followed updates in it. So ‘voila’ you can make sure you haven’t missed an update from them! You can then comment/reply within that filtered feed.. but all interactions are still visible in the main feed. That way we are not splintering our community off into groups at all, or creating side rooms or private chats.. it’s just to enable members to make sure they don’t miss out on updates from other members they’re particulary keen on. This is an entirely PRIVATE exercise – we have turned off notifications – so members won’t know that you’ve followed them and nor will anyone else, and you won’t know if anyone has followed you. This is to ensure we don’t turn out like other social media platforms where it can become a popularity contest and create emotional unease (we don’t want anyone feeling any pressure or vulnerability). Some members commented yesterday that they are still receiving notifications. We think this is because the feature was up for 24 hours before we turned off notificati…[Read more]

    • What a helpful feature, @MrsD. Sometimes it’s hard to keep track of who’s who in the zoo, especially with all our different handles. The new feature enhances the ‘connection’ aspect even further. Thank you so much for continual commitment to LS. What a labour of love. We’re blessed, really. xo

    • “This is an entirely PRIVATE exercise – we have turned off notifications – so members won’t know that you’ve followed them and nor will anyone else, and you won’t know if anyone has followed you”

      i think that is very sensible and wise, thank you.

    • Lol i dont get how to work it, brain dead and dunce lol.

  • Mrs D posted an update 2 weeks, 1 day ago

    Hi gang – ok we are trying out a new feature and we want your feedback! Some members have expressed concern that they’re missing updates from other members that they’ve connected with in the past… if they’ve been off-line for a few days or when the Members Feed is particularly busy. So we are trialling a new ‘Follow’ function. With this function, if you have another member that you have connected with directly or feel a kinship with (because you’re on a similar day count for example, or have a similar situation going on in real life), you can click on their name to go through to their profile page and then click on ‘Follow’. This is an entirely PRIVATE exercise, they won’t know you’ve followed them and nor will anyone else. But once you have done that, if you come back to the main feed you’ll see under the comment box at the top you now have a filter that says ‘Following’ (next to ‘All Members’, ‘My Favourites’ & ‘Mentions’. Note: this won’t show up until you have followed your first person). Once you have followed someone and come back to the Members Feed, if you click on ‘Following’ you’ll see a filtered version of the feed with only those members you have followed updates in it. So ‘voila’ you can make sure you haven’t missed an update from them! You can then comment/reply within that filtered feed.. but all interactions are still visible in the main feed. That way we are not splintering our community off into groups at all, or creating side rooms or private chats.. it’s just to enable members to make sure they don’t miss out on updates from other members they’re particulary keen on. The main thing is it’s all private so there’s no danger of it becoming a popularity contest or making you feel any pressure or vulnerability. You just keep updating and posting knowing that it’s visible to all in our lovely community. So.. what do you think? Please give feedback and let us know. Try it out and see if it works ok for you. One question I particularly wanted…[Read more]

    • thanks for everything you do @mrs-d 🙏🏼

      • Thanks to both of you for all you do. This sounds like a great idea. I reckon you should call it Favourites.

        • haha oh no anything but favourites – favourites already exists in the system. Its the star just under a persons image (I need to move it and make it bigger). Unfortunately it will be to much work to repurpose the word through the codebase. Soz!

    • Sounds fab @mrs-d will make such a difference for catch ups with the overseas crew. ❤️❤️

    • That worked well for me, thanks @Mrs D!

    • I’m happy with the word following, don’t know about others!

    • Hahaha @Danthedev Yeah I realised that straight after I’d written it….duh! but then the phone rang and I’ve been unable to get back here till now. Following is a word people can relate to I guess because of instagram. Short List is too, so I don’t have a preference.

    • Ok I need to legitimately test that I have disabled youtube embeds. So heres a video encapsulating the developer experience #DevOnBrand https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_Nua3Cjdik0

      • Another dev side note: I have increased the number of posts per page to 50. This should result in far fewer needs to click the dreaded “load more button”.

    • I like it and it works fine.

      • Tewy replied 2 weeks ago

        I think ‘following’ makes sense …..to me anyway !! Great idea

    • glad it is not a popularity contest, i hate popularity contests. Either following or short list is fine with me. thank you both for your continued work, @mrs d and @danthedev

    • @mrs-d & @danthedev just wanted u to know i recieved notifications of ppl following me. So it doesn’t seem to be private on that end. (Unless it was a kink that got worked out). It showed up as a blue notification on the bell. (Not complaining! Just want u guys to know). I am SO GLAD u did not change the site to a popularity contest with followers, friends and likes. And im happy u didnt seperate us with private groups and such. I think “following” is a great feature. I’ve heard many members saying they missed posts from ppl so i think that is the perfect solution without turning us into the typical social media site. I think that’s part of what makes this place so special. It’s not like the other sites. This place is almost “old school” and i LOVE it! So thank u both so much for all u do!🌸

      • Yes like Jesss your notification shows that someone is following and when you click it you can see who it is. Do you just mean others can’t see how many followers you have? So the followers are private to you and that takes the popularity contest out of it. Funny question but once you follow can you unfollow too…. just in case you want to follow someone about a thing and then not carry on?

        • Just answered my own question about unfollow as it comes up once you follow, so ignore that.

    • just as a note, we ARE notified when someone else follows us. It shows up on my profile page who is following me. I’m tooooootally fine with this though! 🙂

      • @jesss @rise2015 Hmm notifications you should be turned off as of yesterday late afternoon. They were on up until then so you may have left over notifications from earlier. I just followed you – did you get a notification?

        @tipsytoegal you may be viewing a cached version of the site. I just went and looked at your and my profile and can’t see anything. You can check this by clearing your browser cache, regardless I’ll keep an eye on this ?

        • @danthedev i did not get a notification u followed me. I also did not get a notification u put @ in front of my name😱. I got rise2015 notification before though…

    • Love it!!! Thanks for setting that up!!!
      oxoxox
      I do worry about missing out on updates from people I have connected with over time.

      • @jesss 🤦‍♀️ Oh no I totally gas lit you! I originally wrote (@)Jess with two ss not three and then went and edited it after. Which obviously doesn’t resend the notification. Soz 🙏
        But on the upside that’s validation follow notifications are not firing 😁

  • Mrs D posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 3 days ago

    wooppee!!!!! (not sure that’s how you spell that?!).. CONGRATULATIONS!! one year – brilliant x

  • Mrs D posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 3 days ago

    woo hoo congrats on one year!! That’s epic! x

  • Mrs D posted an update 2 weeks, 3 days ago

    Hey gang, 10.30am and I’m still in bed! Drinking tea and watching tele. Lush hangover-free Sunday morning. About to get up and do some work transcribing interviews.. but will also make some fancy meatballs for tea and potter around doing washing and stuff. Love that my Sundays are no longer about guilt and feeling shit. I’ve just shared on FB and Twitter the link to a podcast I was interviewed for. BBC presenter Janey Lee Grace has quit drinking and now does all this fabulous sobreity work including this podcast – here’s the link to it on Apple if anyone is interested (it’s free) https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/23-with-lotta-dann-author-of-mrs-d-is-going-without/id1448715889?i=1000440241805 We talk about my drinking and recovery story but also the ‘wine mum’ culture and learning how to deal with emotions etc x

    • Ohh bliss! You enjoy that tea and morning tele. Hmm…hangover free Sunday mornings…..I pray I never ever forget what I left behind….and I shall be extra grateful for waking up sober tomorrow myself.
      Thanks for being here in spite of a very full real life of your own! You continue to be such a positive influence on my life and sobriety.
      oxxoxoxo

    • Best way to spend a Sunday morning ❤️

    • Just listened to it as always a wonderful inspiration not only for when I need it but when I am feeling good ❤️

      • Oooo looks interesting but I’ve clicked on the link from Facebook and also the link above but it keeps saying tempoararily unavailable……@sheaney5 somehow you listened to it …..so I’m guessing it’s me?? Anyone else having problems with the link ?

    • Hi @Mrs-D! I like the idea of you taking the time to chill + lounge. Happy Sunday! x

    • Sounds like a great Sunday morning, I am soooo jealous – to have that freedom to lounge. Looking forward to reviewing the podcast. Thanks for the share and all you continue to do bring sobriety to the forefront of society, culture, etc.

  • Mrs D posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 4 days ago

    Take a sarong. It’s a towel, pillow, scarf, blanket, skirt, rug, sling all in one!

  • Mrs D posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 5 days ago

    whoa! That’s a lot! Would almond butter work for you? x

  • Mrs D posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 5 days ago

    Hey! Was that Sonya? I think we’re a week behind here, I watched last night and at the end saw her falling off a chair in the promo for the next episode. Interesting watching Luanne deal with not drinking as well.. knowing that in real life she’s recently fallen off the wagon. Booze always plays a big part in those Real Housewives shows.. which I’m always interested to see. Watching women getting boozed in a real sense on those shows sure is a great way to reinforce how happy I am for being sober! Great to hear you’re doing so well! x

    • sadly I purchased the series so get to see it via Amazon. We’re settled in Welly now which I am loving. Didn’t know Luanne fell off wagon in real life, guess what I’m googling now

  • Mrs D posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 5 days ago

    techie problems stress me out no end…!! (not ideal for someone managing a busy community website 😜) very lovely to see you in here.. look forward to hearing about your sober travels!! x

    • Yes @Mrs-D it was so bad. My web guys telling me my site needs to be uploaded to a new server because its being decommissioned on 20th June, at which time I will be away. And need things working seamlessly so I can operate from over there. I got so stressed I broke out in a rash and then my gmail stopped working. That turned out to be I’d run out of storage so phew…just bought more. In the end after 35 hours of worrying and trying to find new hosts and having complicated conversations, I made my current web guys promise to wait till I’m back in July before moving my website. Calm again now but was just awful for a day and a half, no sleep either. All good now though. And yes I’ll be checking in while I’m away to tell you of my adventures xx

  • Mrs D posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 5 days ago

    I reached for Tara Brach during the time of my mother-in-laws death & funeral etc.. she was so soothing and calming.. really good for tough times I find. x

  • Mrs D posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 5 days ago

    woo hoo! x

    • It’s been a journey Lotta. Thank you so much. I remember this site when we were just a couple of hundred members. Remember how excited we all were to hit the 1000?

  • Mrs D posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 5 days ago

    on their own plane??!! most kiwis don’t have those 😜

    • I was certainly surprised! I thought they were in town for the birding tour. I’ve known people with their own planes, but no one going on such a huge trip!

  • Mrs D posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 6 days ago

    fabulous post and how great to hear from you!! I agree with all you say 100%. Mwah back! x

  • Mrs D posted an update 2 weeks, 6 days ago

    Hi all, the site is running extremely slowly at the moment, which is frustrating. Our techie is onto this problem.. it happened as a result of us migrating the server from the US to Aust (or something ..?!) and he’s working on getting it fixed today. Bear with us! I’m finding it’s a good exercise in patience 😊 Also seems to be logging us out more than usual, which he’s also looking at. x

    • Just so glad to hear that it is not my ancient slow laptop and iPad 🙂 I wish it would log me out as sometimes I come back at the end of the day, still logged in, but then cannot reply to things or lose a response – doesn’t function properly at all …
      Happy day XXXXX

  • Mrs D posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 6 days ago

    I’m having that problem too @winner… hopefully @danthedev will sort it soon!

  • Mrs D posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 6 days ago

    Hi @melnz and @embracingsober I will hook the two of you up via email now! x

  • Mrs D posted an update 3 weeks ago

    Went to see Rocketman last night – so good!! I found the whole thing really uplifting.. just because Elton John is such a legend and his music is fantastic. It was a typical tale (I suppose you could say) of fame and money and addiction.. but as everyone knows it ends very well for Elton. When the caption came up at the end ‘Elton has been sober for 28 years and counting’ I got teary. Yay for sober heroes!!! I wish everyone could experience the true uplift that long-term recovery gives. When you are forced to sit with yourself and a wide open brain through many highs and lows and time passing.. you can’t help but deal with things that need to be dealt with, develop good nourishing strategies to cope with life and really get to know yourself. It’s such a fantastic process to go through. Hang in there those of you in the tough early stages… I promise it only gets better over time! x

  • Mrs D posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 1 day ago

    No absolutely not.. the links will be to blog posts that I publish on the blog pages here – so Sober Stories, or Ask An Expert, Drink of the Week or from the Mrs D’s Blog page. Any posts you guys put inside the Members Feed remain in this space only.. rest assured @jackson xx

  • Mrs D posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 1 day ago

    bugger

  • Mrs D posted an update 3 weeks, 1 day ago

    Guys, for anyone who is on Facebook, we have a new Facebook page which has been set up to help get the word out about this site to others who might need us. It will have links to new posts and inspirational quotes and graphics about sobriety and some of our drink recipes and stuff like that posted onto it daily. It’s not to build a community on FB but just to promote recovery by adding a voice on sobriety etc in that space, and ultimately to point people towards our community here at LS. I’m not running it & doing the postings etc…. but I am across what they’re putting up, and will contribute the odd video for it. Check it out! https://www.facebook.com/LivingSoberNZ/ I’ll still be running my personal page on FB which is here https://www.facebook.com/mrsdisgoingwithout
    And if FB isn’t your thing which I totally get then just hang out in this lovely space where you already are because this is the goldmine of the internet… ! A site filled with warmth and support and truth and honesty and bravery and general all around awesomeness. And so say all of us xx

    • And so say all of us!

    • I agree, the goldmine of the internet!

    • Will the new posts link be our posts on Living Sober?

      • No absolutely not.. the links will be to blog posts that I publish on the blog pages here – so Sober Stories, or Ask An Expert, Drink of the Week or from the Mrs D’s Blog page. Any posts you guys put inside the Members Feed remain in this space only.. rest assured @jackson xx

    • Thanks Mrs D😊

    • That’s great!

    • Hi Mrs D, just a quick question unrelated to your post (sorry) Just wondering who I need to get hold of if I wanted to pass my email onto another member? Melnz and I joined at the same time last year – we’ve just passed our 1 year milestone… is it possible to pass my email on to her at all? If you could let me know who I need to contact that would be great, or if you can email her my email details that would be greatly appreciated 🙂
      Love this site and so grateful to be part of this amazing community… Thank you 🙂

  • Mrs D posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 1 day ago

    I know what you mean.. I always tell myself that the person is an actor and in real life they’re really struggling.. flip the script!

    • I don’t know if I remember right, but I think I read this in the book of Catherine Gray: An actress who plays a sexy role in Mad Man and who is drinking there all the time – in her real life she never touches a drop of alcohol. We must distinguish the cool idea of drinking from the sad reality of drinking. By the way I could read C. Gray because there is a german translation. I didn’t dare to read your book so far because it’s only available in English. But meanwhile I’m well trained in understanding English because of being here every day – I think I could try to read your book now. I’m looking forward to it 🙂

    • That’s a perfect way to get rid of that romantic wine perception ! ❤️❤️

      • Seni replied 3 weeks ago

        It’s necessary to get rid of that, it’s a social accepted lie

  • Mrs D posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 1 day ago

    it’s so hard to practice self care when you’re in a rut, that’s what I find.. but if I start doing little things that are kind for myself it’s like a snowball effect and it starts getting easier to do more kind things for me… so keep going! You deserve the very best x

    • Thank you, every little thing counts. Made myself a coffee and thought this tastes yuk. So I tipped it out and have made a green tea – so much better for me.

  • Mrs D posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 1 day ago

    you’re on your way! x

  • Mrs D posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 1 day ago

    Yum that sounds delish! I make a huge coleslaw at the start of each week – with cabbage, carrot, fennell, herbs, spring onion, capsicum etc.. then eat it for most meals with different proteins on the side (halloumi a winner).. trying to stick to my Bright Line Eating plan, going pretty well right now. Have finally kicked out sugar which had a strong foothold in my brain again since our family funeral. Food is an on-going issue for me! But it’s a battle I’ll happily take part in, knowing how much better I feel when I’m not acting ‘alcoholically’ with any substances. But it’s never the wine, never ever. That shit is GONE forever. Hope you are keeping warm! x

    • Yep @mrs-d ! Loving those warm autumn days but chilly in welly this evening . I don’t miss wine at all but god some days I wish I could block out and broccoli and Brussel sprout salad doesn’t cut it! Exercise is the new stress release block out tool I’ve decided .❤️❤️

    • I love roasted fennel 💚

    • OMG halloumi is the best!!!

  • Mrs D posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 3 days ago

    awesome! x

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