Getting through wine o’clock

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  1. Anonymous 1 year ago

    Day #2. Feeling the 5:00 urge. Staying at work a bit later and going to take a class to break up my pattern. If I really DECIDED to drink, it would be ok, but the drink decides for me. I HATE being a prisoner, besides feeling completely ashamed of myself.

  2. Wally 1 year ago

    Day 1 not sure how I’m going to go but I’m sick of not knowing how I got to bed and waking up with such a headache and the all the lies and excuses and hiding the bottles etc etc etc. But here’s to courage and a very very strong will

  3. maddoglady 1 year ago

    Day 1 and already a stress head lol. First dry evening ahead in 20 years arghhhhhh. Armed with books and this web site to help.

  4. run30us 1 year ago

    It’s hard to get through the afternoon sometimes. It’s almost like a switch goes off. But I know when I want to drink that it’s not really about the drink itself. In that moment, I want connection. It is so hard to fight that urge, though.

  5. ColoradoMan 1 year ago

    I crave alcohol more in the afternoon if I have had an exceptionally busy day at my part-time post-retirement Job. I always thought I needed a glass of wine to relax but it always turned into a full bottle. Most times recently it turned into a full magnum. That is three regular bottles. Talk about not feeling well the next morning!! OMG!!
    Now, when I have been busy and am tired, I come home, say HI to the pups and go to my room and take a nap. Sometimes I nap for more than an hour. Afterwards, I find the need to have some wine to relax is gone or more easily tollerated with.
    It seems to work for me. That first glass of wine always relaxes me, but then I need more and more to make myself numb. I hate that but it’s part of the addiction.

  6. HopeElephante 1 year ago

    My first day of joining this group. I can’t even tell my Love as he’d say “Yeah right”. Do I have a drinking problem, or just a habit that I’d like to get rid of? I would normally drink 1/2 btl of wine or 3x drinks (doubles) almost every night at home. We live in the country so we don’t go out…and I’m not that social anyway. I don’t drink to get drunk…just to get a slight buzz…still…I’d like to take a break for awhile. The habit starts at Wine O’clock…what else would I do whilst cooking dinner? This will be an interesting journey.

  7. Wildflower 1 year ago

    I have a cold glass of of 0% beer
    Then walk my dogs and get into the garden and nature.

  8. r51252 1 year ago

    I am on Day 5 of being Sober. Travelling alone in Italy (Florence, Naples, now in Rome), I drank a whole bottle of wine one evening (darn, the Italian wine tasted good) and texted All of my siblings in a group chatting and embarrassed myself (and I can’t forgive myself). My family is very important to me so I am going to choose my family over wine. There are 20-30 cozy/beautiful restaurants/bars between my lodging and a museum or Capitoline or Coliseum, etc., very tempting as everyone is holding wine/beer glasses but I am drinking Coffee in the evening.
    I make a Big pot of coffee, but drink just a little with Sugar, it seems this is helpful for me.
    I know I will struggle more when I return home with my hubby, 2 kids, and MIL w Alzheimer.
    I find it that I feel more stress with my own family but reading a book called Emotional Agility has been very helpful .
    Good luck everyone!

  9. Nowlearnon 1 year ago

    I went drinking yesterday, I went down to my local and borrowed money for alcohol. I wish I hadn’t, I totally regret drinking. I won’t drink today I will keep out of pubs, especially my local. I’ve sent away for a book, from amazon This Naked Mind, by Annie Grace, I’ve heard great feed back about, this book.

    • jlamont 1 year ago

      Let me know how the book helps thanks

  10. Modular 1 year ago

    I’m drinking now I’m sorry to say. I didn’t make it through beer o’clock. I’ll come back and go again. Why didn’t I make it? The Voice isn’t a voice, for me it holds my arm in a lock behind back and marches me to the shop. It’s that bad.

    • Sally 10 months ago

      Wow…
      I am certainly not alone. I swear off drinking in the middle of the night with a headache and desert mouth, wake up determined and by 4:00 am sure just one drink ( and not just wine) would be great. Of course, two is better het. All self control leaves after one. And that goes for food too so my target weight is a joke. Did read this naked mind last year and it was a miracle! No craving. Happy. So happy that while out to dinner with friends I decided ( in my happy wisdom) to have one glass of wine. Moral to this story for me? Been drinking ever since. I cannot stop after one. Crap. So now I join the blog realizing I have to abstain. Loved the 4:00 dog walking schedule change. After two happy dogs and mother nature, a drink may be a lot less appealing. Starting today. Wish me luck.

    • Tobeabettermum 1 year ago

      Hang in there

  11. PermacultureKiwi 1 year ago

    yay friday night and got through the supermarket without buying wine and my 3.30 first glass watching peoples court… patterns… i bit bored and looking for things to do… listening to podcasts and making a nice dinner and netflix… tomorrow after the vege market trip will be tough… i have a plan to keep busy… fingers crossed… i am glad today to join this group… fingers crossed 7 days sober
    take care

    • Hope5 1 year ago

      I am on day 7 too – feeling nervous about tonight though but hopeful too every part of my being is telling me to keep going and that it is the right thing and that some point not too far off in the future I will look back and feel proud of myself for the first time in a long time – let’s get through this …

  12. AmazinGrace 1 year ago

    First night down!! Yay ? feel so much better today, but it’s sat night and I live alone too. Reading all your posts is so helpful, so over feeling sh*t everyday and not remembering the night or how I got into bed. I have to go to different liquor stores now, so ashamed of how much booze I drink in a week, I rotate around 3 or 4 of them. In between buying the cheapest cask wine I can find and then tell the cashier ‘it’s just for cooking’. The shame. Here’s to night number 2, please please please let me do it ?? X

    • JudyB 1 year ago

      Well done for getting into it! I hate that not remembering and feeling guilty and shameful too. Sucks. I’m on day three. If I can, you can!

  13. Gail Seatter 1 year ago

    Day 4 going home tomorrow scared frighted determined anxious I feel great please please please give me the strength to make a life long change in my life….. I know its up to me… I live alone so many triggers there but I can and will do this I hope and pray (to whom I dont know yet) but I need to do this xxxxxx

    • YakimaRidge 1 year ago

      Hang in there! It DOES get better.

  14. Creed 1 year ago

    I just had friends over. first weekend booze free. I didnt want me not drinking to be a thing. So I got alchohol removed edenvale rose and chardonnay wine. no booze but the wine taste. I actually enjoyed it.

  15. manda7080 1 year ago

    Any help in this time would awesome. That wine o’clock feeling is a tough one!

    • YakimaRidge 1 year ago

      I had a tough time with the cocktail hour, hungry, waiting for dinner and watching my husband enjoy a glass (or two) of wine. Finally I told him we were skipping the cocktail hour and eating early. Why should I endure a cocktail hour, dammit?

  16. Kimi 1 year ago

    Got through my first working week without alcohol, which is amazing for me because normally I’ll drink almost every night starting around the afternoon.

    Now it’s the weekend. And I’m really starting to struggle. Have enjoyed being sober but I’m really quite nervous for this weekend. Any one else? Tips?

    • Jocord 1 year ago

      Plan, plan, plan every minute of your weekend. Stay home if you don’t trust yourself to drive past a liquor store. Sleep, A LOT, eat sweets, bingwatch tv, keep your hands busy. Now is not the time to embark on a big project. The big project is you. Immerse yourself in sober reading and listening.

      • Tobeabettermum 1 year ago

        Great advice

  17. devoyage 1 year ago

    You’re all inspiring. It’s close to 2am on a Monday night/Tuesday morning. I’m on the 12th 440ml Carlsberg with four more in the fridge. I’ll feel like shit when I wake up and then having made it through the day I’ll feel like I’m a champion for having made it so need a reward….. I’m a coherent, functioning, non-violent, functioning drunk.

    I’m not going to work tomorrow, I have a small day surgery. I’m going to tell my Dr I need valium to stop any seizures and I’m joining soberland. See you there.

    After the last four Carlsbergs, because that’s how this shit addiction works.

    • MissyC 1 year ago

      Hey @devoyage. How did you get on?

      • devoyage 1 year ago

        So far so good thanks MissyC. Tell you what, 5 valiums makes it tough to get out of bed in the morning but I’m on the way. About to dose up again and hit the hay for another 12 hour sleep, lord knows my body needs it after all the abuse I’ve given it the last 15 years. Thanks for asking, I appreciate it.

  18. JoanneAlbrecht 1 year ago

    Hi All, I am 22 days sober, after a cycle of sobriety and relapse. I have backed myself up with antabuse and naltroxene, which I find assists a lot. I’m still in the cycle of drinking loads of diet coke and some energy drinks, not the best but a substitute at this time, until I am brae enough to try the many alternatives that others have spoken about on this site. My partner is an active alcoholic which I know many have said to reassess this, however in one way when I see what his third bottle of wine does to him, it reaffirms my commitment to my sobriety. It is a daily challenge, I have isolated myself at this challenging time to stay away from friends who drink. As of course all of my friends were are drinkers. oh and lollies have been a go to substitute and I started smoking cigarettes again. One vice at a time. I find making plans for my week helpful, so I dont have spare time as boredom is a killer for addicts. Im fortunate I have stopped working until next year when i’m healthier and stronger.

  19. NewStartNewMe 1 year ago

    After a year off alcohol due to having my baby girl, ive now fallen back into bad habits, struggling with being a stay at home mum to a small baby, emotional challenging and live for wine o’clock when bubs in bed. need to stop this now and find support and other ways to wind down

    • JoanneAlbrecht 1 year ago

      Hi I have always drank throughout my life and yes I stopped when i had my children, but it accelerated when the children were babies, 5 o’clock was beer o’clock. I felt exhausted from being a mum, bored and felt i deserved it, it gave a silver lining to my day. As toddlers the kids didn’t notice, but by this time I’d developed a habit and they were noticing, and I started planning my drinks, bath kids make dinner early feed them, and then start drinking read a story and bed time, however by this stage , I was quite drunk. One night I feel asleep the kids couldn’t wake me up, and were playing on the trampoline at 9pm at night. My son phoned his Dad at work and he came home to me, and asked me to leave the next day.
      That is what my experience was, the deserved harmless drink in the evening had evolved into a demon

  20. Sober45 1 year ago

    I pour a nice cold Coke Zero in a big Gin glass with plenty of Lemon!

    • Kimi 1 year ago

      I did this after reading your comment and it worked well for me, thanks 🙂

  21. BusyBee 1 year ago

    Only 7 days sober and I am trying to divert myself ie reading, walking the dog, jigsaw puzzles. Thinking of joining a gym.

  22. manda7080 1 year ago

    Any tips would be great.

  23. pullingl 1 year ago

    I am still new to being sober 3 weeks. I’m doing a lot of reading about self care, self compassion and also the word shame. I’m realizing what a big role shame has played in my life as well as perfectionism. The shame I realize has been with me since childhood. Anyone have any suggestions to help overcome it. It’s really been debilitating. Thanks.

    • ggirl 1 year ago

      Hi pullingl, I’ve been in the shame cycle and its not nice, what helped me was counselling to confront the emotion (which was hard) and understand the effects, also a book “the gifts of imperfection” as I am also a perfectionist. I refer to sections on a regular basis to remind myself that nobody is perfect and also embracing mindfulness and acknowledge (not accepting) the shame and letting it go. All the best. XX

    • BeeOnAFlower 1 year ago

      I know what you mean about shame. I feel some days like I’m drowning in shame; other days I feel like I’m wading chest-deep through shame. It’s part of why I wanted to find a community of others who are going through the same kind of things; I thought maybe that would help me let go of some of the shame. Hang in there.

  24. pullingl 1 year ago

    Day 14. I’ve been here before so I am familiar with the ups and downs. There are days when I have no cravings and I think I’ve got this thing licked then an hour later the cravings kick in. A devious disease. What I think of when the cravings hit is sleep. Sleep is so, so much better when going to bed sober. It’s a pleasure and the thought of it gets me through. Good luck to everyone today.

  25. DebO 1 year ago

    I keep busy. I am lucky to have an AA meeting that I enjoy and meets at 5:00 every weekday. My work schedule is such that I can make that meeting.
    Sundays are the hardest day for me since I would drink from morning to night. If I do errands alone, I am not out past 1:00. If there is something past 1:00 like my grandson’s soccer game, my husband always drives and makes sure I have seltzer, iced coffee – something in hand to get through it.

  26. maggie 1 year ago

    Can’t tell you how good it is to find others with the same issue. I thought that late afternoon/early evening craving was a unique, personal torture. I’m very curious to understand the real reasons behind it, whether it’s a physical-hunger thing or more psychological-reward/destress thing. Anyhoo, either way, understanding that it will pass is helping a little.

    I’m 4 weeks into trying to maintain a 2-3 day break a week. I don’t tend to drink a lot on the days I am drinking; averages out to around 6 units a night which for 4 nights a week can come in around the 20 mark which I’m not too uncomfortable with. My problem was that I was doing that every night previously which meant I was consuming over 40 units a week which is clearly very dangerous territory. One of the things that is helping is that I have 2 teenagers and I don’t want them to continue to think that it’s ok to drink every day. Becoming more aware of them seeing me drink is helping but it’s still really, really hard…..a little bit of alcohol really does take the edge of the world. Just got to keep focused on the fact that in a few hours the craving will pass and that I can indulge in a few days.

    Also agree about eating alcohol unfriendly things-ice lollies are awesome! 🙂

  27. Anonymous 1 year ago

    So it turns out, I have the same problem as many many many others…that late afternoon/early evening window. Like many of you: 1) I’m glad I found this forum 2)if I can only get past the witching hour 3) once I have dinner, I’m not bothered about alcohol. My terrible habit is preparing dinner and glugging as much wine as I can. I actually signed up on this forum last week and felt so positive and compelled after reading many posts…and guess what I did when I got home? Yup, “celebrated” reaching that damn 6pm by pouring-downing-pouring-downing a lot of wine. So pathetic 🙁

    But this weekend, my son turned 15 and we had dinner out early on both Friday and Saturday and I didnt drink anything, and neither did I look for it when we got home (hubby did though and he is a bit of an enabler!). I did have a couple of (big) glasses last night as I prepared dinner. But still – throughout the whole weekend and today all I can think is how i DO NOT want to drink which I want to take as a positive. I just need to get past a “real” day/night 1 and take each day as it comes I guess.

    I don’t do “normal” social media so this post is a relative first. I kinda think that by typing it down, it makes me both vulnerable and hopefully accountable. Good luck to me…and to all of you!

  28. JudyB 1 year ago

    I make sure I have plenty of other options. I still use a wine glass because I like the feel, but a tasty at drink in it is just as good. And perhaps a walk when the weather is good, with my husband, instead of blobbing on the couch with chips and dip etc…

  29. Rachieroo1984 1 year ago

    I start to feel twitchy and agitated from about 5pm.. I find I’ll eat my evening meal early with my daughter as this seems to quell the craving… Sometimes I’ll have a zero beer or a ginger ale. After I’ve eaten I usually feel a lot more relaxed and sleepy.

    • soberup 1 year ago

      Our stories are all the same now how do we find a solution to this. Hours between 5pm to 8pm? Most of us are cooking tea usually with a glass of wine .

  30. Laura 1 year ago

    After work is the danger zone for me. I feel it before i’ve even left work, around an hour before. Sometimes it comes with a feeling of excitement, sometimes anxiety, but whatever form it takes i recognise the feeling as a craving. It builds and builds and preoccupies my mind until i give in. Then i’ll down a bottle of wine, sometimes more, and wake in the early hours of the morning an anxious wreck.

    It’s bad throughout the week but more so on a Friday. I’m dreading this Friday.

    I’m currently 7 days booze free. Feeling a lot of ups and downs, mainly downs for the past couple of days if i’m honest. It seems to help if i go for a run so i think i’m going to give that a try.

    I’ve also quit smoking, probably a little naive to do them both at the same time but i thought what the hell. They tend to go hand in hand for me anyway so i may as well tackle them together. I do feel quite lost though.

    Hopefully this gets better.

    • MrsHoochie 1 year ago

      I ONLY smoke when I’n drinking, which increases the financial loss! I remember an ad on TV for quitting smoking and one woman said the same thing; that when she drinks she wants a cigarette, so she’s gonna have to stop drinking as well. Doing them together is just natural for me.

    • Anonymous 1 year ago

      I do the same, wake up in the middle of the night really anxious and not able to sleep. But do notice that after a workout I feel less like a glass of wine

  31. DoubleB 1 year ago

    Hi people I’ve just joined, I’m into day 8 of cold turkey. The weekend was really tough. I nearly had a drink. I was really wound up and dieing for a drink from Friday night on. Buy tea time Sunday I couldn’t cope. I went to the supermarket to get a wine. I felt guilty as hell and stressed out, it felt good to walk down that Isle. I found some 0 alcohol wheat beer and a 0 alcohol chardonnay so I brought it. My stress level just dropped awaye. I got home and my father’s day dinner was ready. The wine won’t win any medals but it felt good to have that glass in my hand. During the week I find I have to keep busy , and distract myself around the witching hour, especially while I’m cooking dinner. Coffee helps. Can’t stop the cravings though. I’m hoping I can keep going because I can’t go back to the way I was. I hope these cravings will subside soon. Thanks everyone

  32. jrdry 1 year ago

    Hi people. I’ve done CADS twice…still drinking. I found it so easy to bs them. I’d go dry for a week or two and then…we’ll you know. My stress time is straight after work…99 times out of 100 I’ll give in…I HAVE to stop. Liver and marriage in trouble. Just started diet too. Low carb high fat….I know how those sugar cravings hit! I’ve turned to tobacco to ease the stress in the past as well. Hoping to meet people so we can share and support. I drank tonight..,, tomorrow day 1 I hope. Thanks…

    • MrsHoochie 1 year ago

      I’m with you there. Everyday I wake up and think “today I’m not going to drink” and by home time, I’m fighting an internal battle to stay away from the booze. I am one of those people that need a strategy to get past it. I need to start some social activities that are alcohol free as I get a real buzz from socialising. I have been in NZ for 14 years, but as I’m older have not really made any meaningful friendships. There’s an idea, call someone, join yoga classes or book clubs etc….

      • Biliam 1 year ago

        This will be day one tonight ,started at 10am yesterday,watched football and drank. had 13 beers . Im such a closet case .I drink every night no one really suspects much, i hide it pretty well .I have about 7-8 during the week…. always light headed . I get up and think “o.k. im not drinking tonight after work , ” But then i seem to justify it somehow . Use it some time for like a procrastination . I cant take the guilt anymore . a prisoner – trying to escape . GOOD LUCK TO ALL!!!!

      • Xazriel 1 year ago

        I’m in the same boat “the internal battle”. My first time here, and I’m astounded at how many people are going through the same thing as me.

  33. Janis 1 year ago

    So strange , what does one do with that clock, what is there to look forward too, where is the reward, well we shall see, so far day 3 have kept focused, not as relaxed at all but very very awake, pottering around, joined this site and blogging away

  34. mungomaryandmidge 1 year ago

    Hello! Day one and first time. I drank a bottle of red while doing the laundry yesterday while
    listening to the book on audible

  35. WENDY l WATSON 1 year ago

    In between preparing dinner, I am at my computer (which is by my kitchen) to watch a favorite program for an hour or two. Or if we are having prepared meals that just need to be popped in the oven. I might go to bed to watch Lightbox etc.

  36. Lucinda Church 1 year ago

    I was wondering if anyone had had luck with smoking pot in lieu of drinking? I’ve tried this a couple of times, but just end up snacking more and feeling foggy brained the next day…but I worry about my liver, gut and extra calories associated with alcohol consumption. I know abstaining from all crutches is the goal, but thinking pot may be a way to get over the alcohol cravings in a gradual way. I have 3 boys in a small house and their constant energy makes me feel so anxious, unfortunately I don’t have the luxury to do any self fulfilling activities that time of day. So just need some sort of distraction/coping skills from 5:00pm-8:00pm! This website is already feeling very helpful, thanks to all who have shared.

    • MrsHoochie 1 year ago

      I appreciate what you’re trying to do. That said, isn’t that what they call “switching the witch for the bitch”? Just a thought.

    • DoubleB 1 year ago

      Hi there I’m 9 days in and the cravings are unbelievably strong, especially when I get home from work and I’m preparing dinner. Last night I had a wee puff of weed and a double shot of good coffee it sure took away my some of my craving and the coffee gave me a bit of a lift. I got home late from work tonight stress out, desperate for a drink, so I tried the same trick and it helped. I just had 2 puffs on my pipe that’s all. Not enough to get wasted just relieves the cravings. I hope this is of some help

  37. Mere 1 year ago

    I find it very hard after work I will drink a whole bottle of wine within an hour. Actually today no wine today but struggling.

  38. Lexus 1 year ago

    Hi, just joined I’m on my third night off wine. Nimbling everything in the cupboard. Hard habit to break as I always drink wine with a meal so I’m even changing the meals I eat that dont associate with wine. I was drinking a btl a night but find I’m on a btl and a half. Sunday night roast beef dinner with 2 btls enough is enough.

  39. Komninos 1 year ago

    I usually find getting up early and reminding myself of what I don’t want to do later in the day helps, as well as eating something after work – early dinners work well! And not lining up any tasks/jobs in the evening, allowing myself just to switch off and watch something,. A major trigger is feeling like I have to get dinner organised for myself and son, then the evening routines – this is a hard one, as there is no one else to do this and I don’t get to tune out when I need to sometimes. Still working on that one..

    • Max-Alabama 1 year ago

      Junk food snacking last night at 5 pm instead of drinking definitely enabled me to not drink last night. I decided that come 5 pm I would drink as much Coke as I wanted and to eat junk food. Three small 100 calorie cans of Coke seems like a soft-drink addict, but a single craft brew, high alcohol beer has 250 calories. I have been drinking four of those a night, easy. That’s 1000 calories of beer.

  40. elais 1 year ago

    This is day 1 for me. No hangover this morning but don’t remember much about last night. Feeling ashamed about the past and scared about how this is going to go.

    • Janis 1 year ago

      Day 2 for me and I ate two helpings of dinner instead of drinking wine while making dinner and then not eating dinner but drinking more wine, so very likely that I will get fat, oh my gosh the horrors of all the things one does not want to remember aye. All the best for our first week, I am terrified about the weekend

    • peterbarlow 1 year ago

      Same here mate.Day 1and scared.Been here before don’t make it any easier.Kia Kaha,be strong.

  41. Hortihoney 1 year ago

    Hi everyone. I’ve just joined and am on day 5 sober. The posts here are incredibly helpful and engaging thankyou all. I agree that food ie. Eating an early meal in the evening helps a great deal. I never used to eat when drinking at all. I only drank. My consumption could be spread out over a week like a bottle of wine a day or lay off then drink a bottle or 2 in one night. Ironically I am physically fit, a bodybuilder and have a physical job. This never stopped me drinking though for over 35 years now. All your tips are great…..thank you

  42. Tommy D 1 year ago

    It’s nice to know I am not alone. I’m good all week. I work from home and live alone, and I dont drink at home or during the week. So then Saturday happy hour from 4-7 I crave going to bar and socializing. Just to be around people. There is always someone to talk to. If I can get past 7 I’m fine. I find it odd that I need to socialize this way. But it’s like they say if you hang around a barber shop, you’re gonna get a haircut. I have tried to expand myself socially around sober activities, but it always seems after two months of sobriety, I’m back to socializing at a bar. I really feel stupid.

    • MS 1 year ago

      I have the exact same situation. I think the only solution is to keep socializing at the bar with non alcoholic drinks which is NOT FUN I know, and I don’t like soda and don’t like any non alcoholic beers out there. But socializing is very important, it meets a host of needs, so cutting that out is detrimental.

  43. Jdub2019 1 year ago

    I’ve started working out at night, even though I’m exhausted after work and just want to hit the couch, zone out and have some cocktails. So I work out after work, and I walk the dog later. I also take some Valerian Root extract to help relax me and get me moving towards the bed routine. I’m 21 days booze-free and some nights are easy, some nights are hard. This past weekend was HARD. Hard tonight as well which is why I’m posting here I guess…

  44. DaisyM 1 year ago

    Raw carrot and celery sticks with hummus dip! Totally not compatible with alcohol so removes the craving for me. Or homemade soup. Not salty snacks, that makes the cravings worse. Knowign it will pass helps too. And trying not to have a late dinner.

    • LauraLi 1 year ago

      What a great idea. Snacking on foods that do not mix well or taste good with alcohol.

  45. elenabright 1 year ago

    i’ve started playing an instrument :p seriously, it helps! i’ve always wanted to get back into playing music, and making a habit of practicing when i get home from work helps me resist the urge to drink to relieve stress. i always come home from work feeling like my heart is going to explode from anxiety because of all the pressure and fast pace and rude people and endless tedious paperwork and crashing computer software and running around for 8 hours trying to please impossible people and feeling like nothing is ever good enough and then dealing with a long commute. when i get home from that, i’m so drained that i just want to drink until i pass out. but instead i’ve started telling myself i have to practice for 45 minutes before i can do anything else, including drinking or going to the store to get booze. by the time i’ve finished a practice session, i feel almost like a human again, or at least i feel like i can breathe normally, and i’m better able to fight the urge to drink usually. 🙂 if it’s been a particularly hard day anxiety-wise and playing music isn’t enough, i try to go for a run in the woods nearby as well.

  46. connilynn 1 year ago

    I stay busy, I walk the dogs. It helps that my day 1 was shortly after I moved to a new house. It is giving me a new foundation to change and reform a lot of habits.

    • LucidBeing 1 year ago

      I find that my strongest way of staying sober is ironically having a hangover. Feeling seedy for approximately 2 or 3 days, then I self-medicate all over again. I think talking about this just may have a positive effect like looking in the mirror. For ever trying to come up with alternatives. As for the witching hour, my personal weakest hour is lunch time and then on to after midnight.
      Ash?

      • Lyney 12 months ago

        Eat well before and sart a cooking adventure so the alcohol is not so absorbed

  47. Nan 1 year ago

    Glad I found this site. I have a hard time between 4&5 that’s when the cravings are the strongest. Love to cook and drink wine however, a bottle a day (sometimes more) for the last 5 years has caused stomach problem…acid reflux and gastritis.
    I have tried quitting several times over the last two years. I now have 5 days sober and want to stay that way.

    • Morehealthy 1 year ago

      Hi Nan, i am in the same boat. A bottle (sometimes more) a day for many years. I keep saying red wine is good for me. But i know a bottle a day isnt. So glad i found this site

  48. Tawdrey 1 year ago

    I used to take a warm bath, with candles etc. Also jumping on to sites like this helped.
    Now there is no wine o’clock in my life. It gets better, so hang in there!

  49. LeslieLily 1 year ago

    I wake up in the morning every morning and tell myself I am not going to drink tonight, I don’t need to and it makes me feel gross. I have to work from home in the evenings and need to keep my head clear, and I have kids that wake up at 6:00am that I need to be fresh for. When I don’t drink I go to bed at a reasonable time, I read until I fall asleep and I wake up feeling refreshed. When I drink I stay up too late, I often also snack, I don’t read, I pass out asleep instead and I wake up feeling like total crap. I’m a worse parent when I drink and then can’t handle the next morning and end up slumping around on the couch. Right now I’m not doing well getting through the evenings even though I keep myself very busy in the evening (I just am very busy with a beer in my hand at the same time. 🙁 ) Looking for any other ideas to distract myself and get out of this awful habit.

    • shinyhappypeople 1 year ago

      Hi @LeslieLily, I relate so much to this. I am fine up till around 4pm. After 7pm, if I can get through till then, I am fine. But those few hours… Ugh! Last night I struggled through, not without tears, and 2 nights last week I managed. I have a 4 year old and am finding myself so so impatient and I hate it. I know if I can stick it out I’ll be better in the long run but it’s so so hard.

  50. Angelz 1 year ago

    Just found this website today, not sure where I am at with my drinking, I can go 2-5 days without drinking however will drink 1-2bottles when I do. I am concerned about this as some weeks I will do this 2-3 times a week. I have reflected on what I might be trying to escape and that’s tough facing that. I find it gets me through facing the hard stuff like lots of kids fighting, complaining and at each other and then also an absent husband who consistently sobotages our finances by not doing the work he should.

    • Tawdrey 1 year ago

      It’s easy for me to say now, because I remember when I was like you, and it was a real struggle, but when you drink you have all your problems, plus the problem of drinking too much. If you stop drinking you’ll still have the other problems, minus the drinking problem. Eventually you’ll be able to cope better with the other problems too.

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