Sober Treats

These are the little things we buy and do to treat ourselves and help get us through the flat times. They're hugely important, as each small act of kindness sends an important self-care message - that we're worth treating because what we're doing in quitting booze is heroic and deserves recognition. This Sober Toolbox is a space for sharing sober treat ideas. If you're looking for more discussion, interactions and feedback, head inside our Members Feed. That's where the real-time conversations take place.

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  1. Sobergirl104 5 years ago

    Hi. Just tryi g to find some friends to be my sober support.

    • Alopeciaprincess 5 years ago

      Where are you located? Hang in there!

  2. annemarie haggarty 5 years ago

    Where do you get relax deck can I ask plze ??

  3. Franny 5 years ago

    I’m off to the bridge programme. Anyone got any positive comments????

    • behind-the-sofa 5 years ago

      Hi Franny, I wish you well, try posting that comment in the members feed (click the little tab with the three lines on at the top right corner of the page) and you should get a few replies 🙂

  4. AubreyMichelle 5 years ago

    Falling asleep at night next to my partner not ashamed of my wine breath. Waking up every day feeling clean in my skin, waking up and my first thought being, “I’m sober, not hungover!!” I’ve got a pair of shoes waiting for me if I finish the week, a couple Victoria’s Secret items at the end of the month, and new camping gear for some TBD date. The satisfaction of knowing I’ll be able to exercise more regularly again now that I’m not hungover every single day–I want to be able to jog all the way up my hill without stopping. The anticipatory pride of knowing I’ll be able to look back and say FINALLY I DID IT! And when stress comes along: Tension Tamer and Stress Relief teas, CBD oil, deep breathing, mindfulness, perfume samples, lavender anything, gratitude exercises, getting outside, gardening, and actually listening to my body and sleeping when I need to all help tremendously.

    Plus (and this may be somewhat of a bass-ackward treat, but I’ll take what I can get…) I hate pickles. While cancer, cirrhosis, and DUIs are all of the “maybe possibly doubtfully someday” kind of consequences, I know with a visceral and immediate and utter certainty that here and now, in this moment, I loathe and detest even the thought of going anywhere near a pickle. So: I have promised my partner I will eat a pickle before I have another drink. And I have given him permission to pour pickle juice in said drink should I ever pour one for myself. Just the relief I feel from avoiding that fate feels like a sober treat, lol!!

  5. Anonymous 5 years ago

    I was bad about driving while drinking. I couldnt drink at home. I dont want to get stopped, arrested, hurt someone, fines$, or get paralyzed (plus my husband will disable my car and then,to go anywhere, he has to take me. Eat some candy or nuts (cashews, pistachios) or something. Are you bored? Think of something you want to do

  6. Emptynest 5 years ago

    4 days today, feeling so proud , kindle books are my treat of choice at the mo .

  7. Jus072 5 years ago

    5 months today! online shopping treats for me… sounds trite but I love a lipstick! So purchased a beautiful red shade of MAC. looking better and feeling better about myself has been such a bonus when kicking the grog.

  8. JeanetteQ 5 years ago

    I am enjoying some simple things that are gratifying and don’t cost too much. A hot bath is almost instantly a fix for over thinking and aches and pains. A good herbal tea at night or green tea during the day. First cup of coffee in the morning is sooo wonderful. Homemade popcorn with real butter. A walk to enjoy nature and the sound of the birds. Loving my pets. Working on my business. Sitting in bed and watching ASMR. 🙂

    • Cata 11 months ago

      Ooh, I love this idea. I love popcorn and I can see pairing it with a LA beer would really hit the spot, especially in a summer’s evening (have to wait a while for that yet though…)

    • Cranberry 5 years ago

      @jeanetteq I went with your buttered popcorn idea last night. I sat in my big armchair with a big bowl of it in my lap, in front of the fire, nibbling and sipping on a really realistic no-alcohol beer. I was happy. I’ll be doing that again. Thanks!

      • JBanne21 4 years ago

        Need to go buy some kernels and butter!

  9. Anonymous 5 years ago

    I pick, at random, a card from my “RELAX Deck. Look at the picture on 1 side – analyze it. And then read the Title and words written for the picture on the other side of each card. Today I looked again at a card I have stuck in my mirror. The Mask….it asks you to draw a mask of the authentic you. Art feeds my mind, heart & soul…in process of designing my authentic mask now. Very soothing and meditative. Relieves my mind and trains my brain to think good thoughts so I DO RELAX!!!

    • NotToday 4 years ago

      I love the idea of your Relax Deck. Did you make this yourself? I think even just the act of putting the deck together would be very therapeutic, so I’m going to try this. Thanks and good luck to you.

  10. choosehappy 5 years ago

    sometimes, i just “sit in my stuff.” it is uncomfortable i wont lie. and i talk to the wine. i tell it. “no, you didnt solve all my problems. you only created more. no you werent my best friend. you are my enemy. no you didnt make my life easier. you stirred up trouble. no you are not going to take me down. i am going to lay you down. its a battle and i want to win.

  11. Marsha 6 years ago

    Just starting day 2, having found this website, I am feeling positive. That’s a great idea about the beads. I am going to try something similar. I am going to buy a nice glass vase and a bag of pretty coloured glass stones, and each day ,I don’t drink, I wii add a stone to the vase. I will place it in a place where I can see it, from the chair I sit in at night and drink. A visual reminder of each daily achievement.

    • Cranberry 5 years ago

      I love this idea! Thanks for suggesting it. I’ve got some stickers I was going to stick on my calendar for each day alcohol-free but I like the idea of having a vase out in the open in the house, but having it be my secret what the little stones signify.

      • Bijou 5 years ago

        I’m going to do this too!!! I have a really nice chunky glass vase that’ll do the job perfectly! Thanks Marsha 🙂

  12. Belladonna 6 years ago

    I love this going to do it too

  13. saski 6 years ago

    totally agree. so ncoew to start getting back into it after only 5 days drink free

  14. cassie 6 years ago

    I do yoga now! When I go to bed sans booze I can wake up with the energy, free time and (sometimes) motivation to set aside an hour for myself to practice yoga. It’s truly just for me: I light incense, play some blues or jazzy tunes and get to be alone with my thoughts for an hour.

    Plus, I can have the occasional chocolate something or other and not feel guilty.


  15. Clear 6 years ago

    Hi all, talking self care here this is a post about colonic irrigation for anyone who has wondered about it, and the benefits. Like many my partner seems to find the topic schoolboy-level amusing however i take my colonic health seriously! For me it’s a sober treat and it’s kind of like a spa treatment. i have had several sessions and will have more, as a cluster of treatments is recommended when you first start. it’s likely you have a lot of cleansing to do if like me you are in your forties, whether you are a boozer or not it’s likely that by now you have A LOT of waste sitting around in your gut.
    The colonic therapist explained that (it is her belief that) we carry traumas and our experiences in our physical bodies, not just in our heads and this can manifest in inflammation, discomfort and tension. Our lower intestine (bowel) can stop working effectively and the waste ends up bulging out into pockets of the bowel wall and just festering there. Even if you keep regularly (or not so regularly) eliminating waste, the old stuff still sits there as a toxic masses or blockages and can leak back into the body, making you feel crappy (he he) or actually ill.
    I also heard Laura McKowen talking to Andrea Owen on one of her podcasts and she believes as do others that we ‘carry our issues in our tissues’, and this is precisely one of the reasons why yoga is so beneficial to mental recovery as well as physical. stretching and movement helps our bodies to release the toxins and chemicals that have been released during trauma (or our everyday drama) and hang around in our bodies. Sounds good to me! Also, boozing dehydrates you as we know so that does not help with keeping your beautiful intestine moving things along smoothly.
    After maybe 4 sessions a couple of weeks apart I felt a lot better ie not so bloated, my stomach and abdomen are looking more like they were pre-pregnancy and i’m feeling good about myself. The most recent session released a LOAD of toxic waste and I felt a big improvement to the bloat. My therapist put her hands on my abdomen when I first went along and said ‘wow you are really bloated’. I was like, am I?? I had basically just got used to feeling like that! Now clothes are fitting much better and I feel lighter and healthier. The actual mechanism is completely enclosed, no mess, it’s not gross. the therapist massages your abdomen during the treatment, you can see what is being eliminated through some clear pipes on the machine if you want – fascinating! that’s the best bit, seeing all the toxic waste going out of your precious body! So I would recommend it as a part of the detox picture.

  16. Shebe 6 years ago

    I get my nails done or read a book or pour my heart into my family, housework and work. Anything to keep my mind busy.

  17. Clare 6 years ago

    I’m loving buying new clothes,fresh flowers ,scented candles,good books-clever thrillers,going to the movies,getting massages,& delicious hot baths .

  18. Anonymous 6 years ago

    I’m new here and grateful for all of you as i thought i was alone. I haven’t quit yet but have cut back and i’m planning the “great escape” for the 4th time. I’m a woman, a mother, a wife, and a closet drunk. No one knows. My family, my friends, my employer. I find it tough when i get home not to drink. I’m chronically bored by nature and think this has been my issue when analysing how i got caught up in this situation. I went most of my life without any alcohol to being a closet drunk the past 8 years. Are there also supplements to help cure this problem? And i heard eating grapes 3 times a day works wonders. Thanks again everyone! Love you all.

    • Intervale93 1 year ago

      Me too! I haven’t quit yet, either, THIS TIME, but I also never drank much but watched my husband drink a lot and finally succumb to heart disease. Now I’m by myself and drinking by myself and nobody knows and it’s not a good thing. I’ve quit for awhile before and I know how good I feel not drinking. My birthday is in a month and this time I’m going to really quit.

    • AubreyMichelle 5 years ago

      How are you doing Anonymous? I tried to cut back dozens of times and it finally got so hard, and I got so tired of disappointing myself, that I finally said F it and quit altogether. Amazingly, it’s been much easier than moderating! Definitely get yourself into some hobbies if you are able–find something that really lights you up inside, something good for yourself or the world that you would do even if no one knew just because it feels good and right. In the meantime, milk thistle is good for your liver, and I have heard kudzu supplements can reduce the cravings. Good luck and I hope you are well!

  19. robynb 6 years ago

    Going to start scheduling regular massage. Can afford since not drinking. Also, since I recklessly wasted a good sum of money playing slot machines..realized could of had a massage daily and a nice shopping spree for myself. When I’ve properly saved back that money..I will do a small version of just that!

  20. Snaphu 6 years ago

    Every morning I wake up and tell myself Iwon’t drink tonight. Then somewhere throughout the day, I find an excuse to not resist that impulse to stop at the store on the way home. There’s a couple beers left in the fridge, still, but trying not to stop on my way home today.

    • Mr.Collins 5 years ago

      I can so relate to that

    • choosehappy 5 years ago

      i found the thought of going the first day without my “best friend” the toughest. i couldnt imagine how i would do it. the thought itself was way worse than doing it. i remembered what a non drinking friend of mine said when i told him i couldnt imagine how id break the habit. he said “just dont buy it and bring it into the house.”. i keep focused on that. i keep many different things in the fridge i CAN drink. i also have “unfriended” my alcohol and remind myself that no matter how innocent it seems, it is NOT my friend. just another bad relationship i have to say NO to.

    • Snaphu 6 years ago

      Ooops, sorry, meant to post this as a daily reflection, wrong section!

      But in the spirit of this thread, I love to cook and finding my interest declining. If I had to start with something to treat myself for not drinking, I think making some very tasty meals would be where I would start.

  21. ChardaNO 6 years ago

    Feeling the need to journal through this af day. Need to post and share. It is only lunchtime. I went for a walk outdoors, but it was overcast and windy so I cut it short. Started a Netflix movie while having a slice of ham, sweet potatoes and field peas for lunch. I’ve cooked a lot the last two days so have plenty of good leftovers. Feeling content so far. Thank goodness the old habit of having wine with an early movie isn’t beckoning right now. It is a vacation day, so will keep you posted.

  22. Lindy 6 years ago

    My main treat is time for me. I too have rediscovered reading and I also try to escape to my room just for ten mins or so and listen to a track I love and just lie and rest.
    Am aware that this is a dangerous time for me. The main festivities are over and I am back to the reality of everyday life and problems.
    Am trying to put things in place to ensure my safety, phone calls, meetings, texts, this site and routine.
    After my relapse am now on day 11 which I am pleased with especially over Christmas was very stressful but I had support from my long suffering family.
    Am making a plan each morning at this time which has helped me focus in the past and seems to be helping me now.
    Would be grateful for any ideas from others.
    New Year to negotiate now. We are staying home and relaxing quietly and watching fireworks at midnight. I don’t want to go out. Have got in lots of interesting soft drinks and no alcohol in the house.
    Happy , Sober New Year to everyone!
    Here’s to a peaceful 2017.
    Lindy x

  23. Lindy 6 years ago

    Am aware that this is a dangerous time for me. The main festivities are over and I am back to the reality of everyday life and problems.
    Am trying to put things in place to ensure my safety, phone calls, meetings, texts, this site and routine.
    After my relapse am now on day 11 which I am pleased with especially over Christmas was very stressful but I had support from my long suffering family.
    Am making a plan each morning at this time which has helped me focus in the past and seems to be helping me now.
    Would be grateful for any ideas from others.
    New Year to negotiate now. We are staying home and relaxing quietly and watching fireworks at midnight. I don’t want to go out.
    Happy , Sober New Year to everyone!
    Here’s to a peaceful 2017.
    Lindy x

  24. FreedomForMe 6 years ago

    I am going to put the money I would have spent on alcohol in a jar. I’m saving for a horse!! I am nearly 43 and have always dreamed of having my own horse. This is the year for it

  25. Lillyby 6 years ago

    Living on my own I was concerned about what I would replace drinking with, particularly with no one “to keep an eye” on me. But for the first time in I don’t know how many years, I have embraced the freedom to drive at night because I’m no longer drunk by 6pm! Now most evenings I drop in on a friend or family, or go to an AA meeting, hang out at the library, catch an evening movie or just drive into the city and take in the city sights and lights. I get such a kick out of being able to leave the house after the sun goes down and it reinforces my pride and commitment to my sobriety!

  26. Robertds 6 years ago

    I am enjoying having clean clothes! And I also am happy to clean them

  27. Jellybaby 6 years ago

    Clean fizz, Kombutcha or clean juice.
    Moore Wilsons have a great range and I have always loved

  28. Yogalady 6 years ago

    Day 15 , and I feel strong and dedicated ….I love the way my brain and body get healthier everyday !!

  29. marnie 6 years ago

    sorry ,think I may have posted a message on Sober Treats instead of Member’s Feed (which I can’t find) I didn’t mention any actual sober treats apart from reading but must say I am loving green tea & cake X

  30. marnie 6 years ago

    I can’t believe I missed my 800 days on the orange counter yesterday..Guess I was too busy with my family & celebrating my son’s 44th birthday. Anyhow so happy to continue my sober journey, I am going on holiday this week & on a holiday to the same place,where over 2 years ago I decided to have my last alcoholic drink ..right in the middle of the one was more surprised than myself but I had been reading a lot of books about giving up & the clincher was Allen Carr’s book ‘Stop Drinking Now’, I often think about it now..must have been the right time for me..After that I read Jason Vale’s book & Mrs D’s which led me to this great site which is so supportive..Happy sober day to you all X

  31. Robert Rzeszut 6 years ago

    I really don’t know what this is but I’m very interested

  32. reena 7 years ago

    I have been treating myself with all the money that is now in my account. I made a garden room, bought plants and thrifted cool items so my ‘hang out’ space is inviting, no booze allowed. I bought an instant camera and I am making a summer book of photos what I did, after a suggestion from Prudence. I get a mani pedi every once in awhile and take care of my skin, hair and nails to try to maximize what the change has been for me physically. I allow myself some carbs (sweets) once in awhile they help with the cravings. Good stuff helps.

  33. Diane 7 years ago

    Playing ping pong with my teenage son…..we laugh and laugh and laugh because I’m usually the one winning.
    Also I enjoy reading Jesus Calling daily devotionals. If I find that I’m needing help or struggling a little bit, rereading that day’s devotional gets me over the hurdle.

  34. setfree 7 years ago

    I am just starting out and today is my last ever hangover. I have decided to treat myself every third month to a facial or body treatment. I am also going to join the leisure centre to do some fitness classes.

  35. Aria_maria 7 years ago

    Oh, a facial Lucy! I should do that too. And scented candles.

  36. Aria_maria 7 years ago

    I have read through all the comments and envy you people the peace you have found! I am still a bit frantic, being newly sober. Here is a list I am making up on the fly:
    – buy a new puppy; she is my treat for doing something right for myself
    – buy a new book? So many of you on here seem to find comfort in reading
    – garden, garden, garden–buy a pretty new birdhouse for the garden? Lots of new plants and run out even in the middle of the night and plant something to avoid drinking
    – keep a jug of green smoothies in the fridge so I can have a refreshing sip whenever I want. I just drank 900 ml of “extreme green” smoothie recipe…oops. That’s 540 calories. Oh well
    – keep some delicious snacks on hand…but what. Will think about that.
    – start exercising. But what? A little run down the street at night? yoga?

  37. clinpsyaddiction 7 years ago

    I’m just looking online at buying myself some RayBans and then I’m going to fix up my car so that it doesn’t look like a drunk/crazy person has been driving it!

  38. Mrs H 7 years ago

    need to share

  39. KTMchris 7 years ago

    How about being honest ?
    I’m an alcoholic and cannot drink responsibly
    Or, I have an addictive personality and one drink will not be enough and I’m unsure when I will be able to stop, 1 day, 1 week, 1year I don’t really know so I’ll leave it this evening. But thank you for asking……
    Then look at the faces

  40. Frog 7 years ago

    Tazo green lemongrass ginger tea. Mmm.

  41. Lexi 7 years ago

    Dried fruit is my new go-to treat in the late afternoon. Especially dried cherries. Totally weird and random… must be needing a sugar fix! 🙂

  42. Lexi 7 years ago

    So this might sound a bit odd … but since I’ve stopped drinking, I’ve really been enjoying dried fruit as a little snack/treat in the late afternoons as a little pick me up. Must be a sugar craving but the cherries are really good! 🙂

  43. Gilbert 7 years ago

    No -Cook Ginger Slice (gluten,dairy &refined sugar free)
    2 Cups of unsalted nuts (I used almonds,cashew and Brazil)
    ! cup fresh dates (or dry soaked 15mins and drained)
    2 tbsp coconut oil (melted or soft)
    ! tsp ground ginger
    Process and then press into a lined swiss roll tin.
    Chill in the fridge while you make the icing
    3/4 C Soft or melted coconut oil
    1/2 C honey
    1/2 C cashew butter
    3 tsp ground ginger.
    Whizz up and smooth over with a wet knife or spatula
    store in an airtight container in fridge or freezer until ready to serve.

    • Authenticated 7 years ago

      Yum! Gonna make this right now thanks, might have to hide it from the rest of the fam tho!

  44. purplegirl 8 years ago

    I brought myself a `pandora’ bead saying `faith’ for my evolve (like Pandora) bracelet the other week, and this week a massage – yep i’ve gone all out, but don’t feel so guilty or would have spent it on wine anyway!

    • robbz 8 years ago

      That’s a lovely idea 🙂 my Pandora only has room for one more bead and it’s reserved for my grandson due in July. Will get his initial. Then I am going to start an Evolve bracelet.

  45. happierme 8 years ago

    Searching the internet for nice recipes, making desserts, new little rituals like eating in the garden. Make simple stuff more fancy and luxurious, buying lovely fruits which i usually found too expensive in the past. Basically spoil yourself with lots of small inexpensive things.

  46. NewShoes 8 years ago

    Each week that I stay ahead of the ‘fray’ (alkie), I put $30 in a jar. Each month, I now treat myself to a nice mani/pedi….SO RELAXING, and when they offer that complimentary glass of vino, I ask for water instead. I leave the salon hydrated and relaxed, with jazzy hands & feet! Fellow sojourners, treat yourself well, be good to yourself, be PROUD of your decision, and don’t let any slip-ups sink your sub…..carry on~!

    • Beermonster 8 years ago

      Thats a great idea putting the money to one side

  47. davenajean 8 years ago

    My sober treat has been a new skin care product each weekend. Something slightly expensive( saving so much money on the weekend not drinking!). People are telling me I look good lately. I like to think its a combination of no alcohol in my system and the new skincare products in my medicine cabinet:)

    • NewShoes 8 years ago

      @davenajean-great idea. I too notice how my face,eyes look less haggard when I don’t drink.

  48. morgan 8 years ago

    Chia dessert or breakfast or snack
    I have a plan for sugar cravings. Got chia seeds? Shake them up in almond or coconut milk, throw in vanilla or favourite flavours, a bit of stevia, honey or coconut syrup, & voila, a gorgeous healthy treat to have with pure yogurt &/or cream, any fruits. Mixed with whipped cream & frozen berries, put in freezer, & voila, icecream, but with a powerful protein & nutrition hit. Love it

    • Misstessa 8 years ago

      Yum! That’s a great idea – I’m going to give it a try. Thanks for sharing 🙂

  49. Davey 8 years ago

    Just thought I’d share this gorgeous, and it truly is gorgeous, mushroom soup recipe I made this week following a pretty bad stomach bug I had where i couldn’t eat anything solid, but this was a bit more filling than tinned soup so I gave it a go. At the end of the recipe, I blended the whole thing into a smooth soup rather than with the chunky mushrooms in but that was only because after putting the 2nd batch of flour in, there were lumps of flour i couldn’t get rid of. I didn’t think it needed the extra flour so may well be worth just leaving that bit out if you want it chunky. But it is still beautiful as a creamy soup so either way you want to do it will be great still.


    8 ounces fresh mushrooms
    2 tablespoons onions, chopped
    1 -2 garlic clove, minced
    2 tablespoons butter
    2 -3 tablespoons flour (separated)
    2 cups chicken broth
    1 cup light cream or 1 cup evaporated milk
    1⁄2 teaspoon salt
    1⁄4 teaspoon pepper
    1⁄4 teaspoon nutmeg


    Cut the mushrooms into slices.
    Melt butter in large frying pan. Add in onions, garlic, and mushrooms. Cook until onions are soft.
    Blend in 2 T. flour and stir.
    Add in the chicken broth and heat until slightly thickened while stirring frequently.
    Stir cream with additional 1 T. flour and seasonings. Add in cream to soup. Heat to thicken while stirring frequently.
    Serve and enjoy!

    • Aria_maria 7 years ago

      Lovely!!! So trying this!

    • LJ 7 years ago

      That looks great. Cooking for myself and others is a great pleasure of mine as well.

    • NewShoes 8 years ago

      @Davey Yum-o. I def need to try this recipe. Thx for sharing!

    • ali 8 years ago

      Looking forward to making that soup tomorrow, thanks

    • soberlynn 8 years ago

      Thanks Davey! I’m off to get mushrooms! Hope a variety will work. Chanterelles, Oysters, Buttons, etc.?

  50. Salvia 8 years ago

    I have discovered online jigsaw puzzles. I do small ones – 100 pieces – which gives me a 20 minute burst of pleasure. Doing doing jigsaws is apparently very good for getting both sides of brain to work together and producing good brain chemicals. I certainly find it very calming and there are so many beautiful pictures to choose from – like chocolates in a box!

    • MalibuStacey 7 years ago

      I’m going to try that. Lately, I’ve been playing this dumb-ass game named “Candy Crush”. It takes me to la-la’ville. Perhaps the jigsaw thing would be a little more appropriate, heh. xo

    • afchicky 8 years ago

      what a great idea Salvia, thanks xx

    • Midsummer 8 years ago

      I too recently discovered jigsaw puzzles. They are fun and quite satisfying. Glad to hear they are good for the brain. I do some word games too. I think the games may be addictive and I’m okay with that.

    • ginger60 8 years ago

      I’m going to search these out … Thank you!

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