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It's very important that we throw everything at getting sober in the early days, and that includes soaking up as much material as you can related to recovery. This Sober Toolbox is a space for telling others about the great books, blogs, podcasts, articles and other resources that have helped you on your way. If you're looking for more discussion, interactions and feedback, head inside our Members Feed. That's where the real-time conversations take place.

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  1. NoMore 3 years ago

    I’ve just discovered the website of Micheal Hilton (note the unusual spelling). Lots of helpful video teaching about how to stay off alcohol, but also what you are doing instead. There’s plenty of his videos on Youtube too

  2. Freya 3 years ago

    https://truththeory.com/2017/07/17/20-common-things-people-realize-quit-drinking-alcohol/
    Such a true article. Numbers 12, 13, 14 standing out for me at the minute!

  3. tnt8030 3 years ago

    https://youtu.be/tTb3d5cjSFI – TED talk about cravings and addictions.

  4. hummingbird 3 years ago

    http://nerdist.com/terrified-17-paul-gilmartin/ – I was just listening to a podcast called Terrified. The guest is Paul Gilmartin whose podcast The Mental Illness Happy Hour which is my fav. I can relate so much to everything he says and there is a lot of chat about what drove his alcoholism. He is now sober.
    http://nerdist.com/terrified-17-paul-gilmartin/
    TERRIFIED #17: PAUL GILMARTIN
    Joining Dave in the studio this week is revered comedian and podcast host Paul Gilmartin of the Mental Illness Happy Hour! They discuss alcoholism, and what pushes you there, and recovery, and what comes after, and more. Dave gets nervous that his podcast is similar to Paul’s. (Dave gets nervous numerous times.

  5. Lizzy 3 years ago

    http://www.hipsobriety.com/home/2015/7/8/video-how-to-reframe-relapse – How to reframe relapse and learn from it so you can move forward.

  6. Author
    Mrs D 3 years ago

    http://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2017/06/19/why-arent-you-laughing – Brilliant and sad essay by David Sedaris on his alcoholic mother.

  7. IslandOne 3 years ago

    https://medicalxpress.com/news/2017-06-moderate-linked-decline-brain-health.html – This article describes research on the impact of drinking on brain health.

  8. Anonymous 3 years ago

    I found this article quite helpful:

    On Rejecting the False Promise of Addiction
    by Therese BorchardMarch 17, 2017
    http://thereseborchard.com/2017/03/17/on-rejectinging-the-false-promise-of-addiction/

  9. Megsi 3 years ago

    Thank you, this is perfectly written. I think I will be re-reading this a few times over my journey.

  10. bingerwhinger 3 years ago

    https://soberstaffy.wordpress.com – This is a new blog I have started just rambling about advice for people looking to get sober hope it helps love you all xxx

  11. newme 3 years ago

    The Imbibing Idiot Bias: Consuming Alcohol Can Be Hazardous to Your (Perceived) Intelligence
    Journal of Consumer Psychology
    https://papers.ssrn.com/sol3/papers.cfm?abstract_id=1623056

    🙂

  12. JayJay 3 years ago

    I found this podcast amazing! its by Holly whitaker and Laura Mckowen called HOME. its available free on the App soundcloud. It has guest speakers like Annie Gracie, Ann Dowsett Johnston, Dawn Nnickel, Augusten Burroughs and Sarah Hepola
    It is focused for women but has Male guest speakers for Guys 🙂

  13. Anonymous 3 years ago

    Just finished reading Mrs D goes within. What an amazing read. Mrs D you could have been my biographer it was so close to my truth.
    So glad you got this far in your forties it took me until I’m 65 but I’ve been there now for 213 days.

  14. delgirl68 3 years ago

    I just finished reading “Mrs D is Going Within”, which I really enjoyed. I didn’t want to put it down. I loved seeing how the toolbox changed over time! I loved just hearing abut the journey because it comes from a perspective that other mindfulness books don’t! Seeing how a normal (and amazing of course) woman incorporates these tools into her life, the difference that awareness of the present moment can make, the flow on affect to those around her. Great job @mrs-d! It’s a great read, thank you so much for sharing such personal insights with us!
    With lots of love and gratitude xxxx

  15. CB77 3 years ago

    A book that has helped me enourmously over the past year has been Maps of Meaning by Jordan Peterson. It’s not about alcohol, but rather an exploration of belief systems and structures of meaning, which are tightly coupled with reasons for drinking, in my experience anyway. He is a professor of psychology and clinical psychologist and he talks through psychology, philosophy, mythology, semiotics, theology etc and it is absolutely riveting. He posts his university lectures on YouTube too – one of the courses is also called Maps of Meaning. If anyone struggles with exisistential issues, anxiety, depression, absence of meaning, etc, and uses alcohol to cope, then I can’t recommend this content enough. It has definitely helped me.

    • Cranberry 2 years ago

      @CB77 I searched online for a copy. They’re exorbitantly expensive, presumably because it’s out of print. However, I discovered Dr Peterson offers a PDF version of Maps of Meaning on his website for free. I printed the first 50 pages and will start reading as soon as I finish my current book. Thanks for the suggestion. Sounds really interesting.

  16. Clear 3 years ago

    http://www.soberparent.com/

    Features an interview with Mrs D along with tons of advice and articles on bringing up kids knowing that sooner or later they’re going to be exposed to drugs (including our fave one, alcohol). For those of us who’ve been there, done that! but have not much of an idea how to talk to our kids about it, and about our own experiences.

  17. Sid_Scotia 3 years ago

    I was wondering… What kind of withdrawls did people experience? I know alcohol is out your system quite quickly but how long until you all felt fresh’ish? I didn’t have major WD’s as was a heavy drinker of wine and beer and the odd gin, so wasn’t really dependent. I’m Day 7 now and I’ve had the odd symptom but I still feel so tired! I could sleep for another week! And I have been getting a good 9-10 hours a night!

    • Clear 3 years ago

      hey @sid_scotia your comment has ended up in the recommended reading thread not the community news feed, please repost there and you’ll get a response! Keep going, day 10 for you today woohoo double digits!

  18. Clear 3 years ago

    http://www.theunruffled.com/
    Particularly for those creative types…hang on a minute, that means….all of us!
    Sobriety is creative. We are creating the life we deserve.

  19. KellyReid 3 years ago

    A couple of weeks ago I had a wake up call. My drinking has slowly been getting the better of me for the last couple of years, and a couple of Saturday nights ago, it hit a do or die point. When I drink, I drink fast. It might be two nights a week, or several and of late only (see that validation?) only the two. I can outstrip anyone. Not that they are racing mind you, and not that I am either, but it’s too fast and my tolerance point is lower than it used to be too. I’m not handling life so well. You all welcomed me. Well I guess I am going thru the romance stage of ‘letting me say no, just one or two’ and ended up sharing a bottle on Friday night just gone, and then two glasses on Saturday. I have enabled counsel, which happened yesterday, and have purchased a gratitude journal. I am doing all the right things now. But last night I talked with the better half about what things have been like, and the answer was not pretty. It was hard to hear. And I have had it rolling in my head all. Fecking. Day. To the point where I have had now two wines. Holy shit. Why? Yep to numb that shit down. No more tonight, but fuck me, why even now? I’m feeling like an absolute failure. An idiot. And really not valued. Loved? Everyone says they do, but is it really? Guess I have the fact we are all still here. I have hurt my family, this really is a selfish thing…

    • Clear 3 years ago

      hi @kellyreid your comment has ended up in the recommended reading area, not the community area so please do repost it there or get in touch with us all again to give us an update on how you are going. We are here for you ready to talk! Hugs to you I hope you come back to the site. We’ve all been where you are and some of us still are there. so you are NOT alone.

  20. Author
    Mrs D 3 years ago

    https://www.amazon.com/Going-Within-sugar-binging-internet-addicted-recovering-alcoholic-ebook/dp/B06XS57JZN/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1493149513&sr=8-2&keywords=mrs+d+is+going+within – My new book on next stage recovery.. what to do when the hard work of getting sober is done but there’s still some work to be done…

  21. Petunia 3 years ago

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HPLJuyULAZ8 – Documentary “Making of an Alcoholic” by and about Elizabeth Vargas, high achieving, NBC live Reporter.

  22. Author
    Mrs D 3 years ago

    http://www.takeitfromus.co.nz/ – Hi more listening material than reading material.. there is a great interview on this site with Leighia Dowdall who is sober

  23. hummingbird 3 years ago
  24. Author
    Mrs D 3 years ago

    http://cornerstonerecoverycenter.com/top-drug-alcohol-recovery-blogs/ – Lots of good blogs in here (if I do say so myself ha ha)

  25. livingwithnoalcohol 3 years ago
  26. morgan 3 years ago
  27. Bernie 3 years ago

    My counselor suggested writing as one of the tools for managing feelings, thoughts and time during the recovery process, so I’ve started a blog. Feel free to read it and give me feedback.
    http://justonedayatatime.net/
    Living Sober is a wonderful website, which I have not come across earlier. Great sharing everyone! I feel happy about stumbling across all the wisdom and good common sense I have come across on this site today. One thing I have learnt the hard way recently is how much Alcohol had become my best friend – leaving very little space for any other friends, any real friends. Alcohol is a jealous, controlling kind of friend….

  28. Bernie 3 years ago

    Love it – so true! Thanks for sharing:)

  29. Jellybaby 3 years ago
  30. hummingbird 3 years ago
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    Mrs D 3 years ago

    http://tvnz.co.nz/sunday-news/girls-night-video-6515405 – It’s not really reading material but here is a link to a good TV piece on young women’s drinking habits ..

  32. hummingbird 3 years ago

    http://dramyjohnson.com/the-little-book-of-big-change-the-no-willpower-approach-to-breaking-any-habit/ – With The Little Book of Big Change, you’ll discover what’s behind your habit or addiction. Drawing on a combination of neuroscience and spirituality, you’ll learn that thought is at the root of all habits, so understanding the way you think can help rewire your brain and put an end to unhealthy behavior patterns.

  33. Jane Muralez 3 years ago

    Anthony Kiedis – Scar Tissue
    Eric Clapton: The Autobiography
    A Piece of Cake – Cupcake Brown (I cannot recommend this one more highly)
    Anything by Meredith Bell – favourite is A Sober Year

  34. Lizzy 3 years ago

    http://veronicavalli.com/2017/02/recovery-rocks-esther-nagle/ – Interview with someone who has written a book about yoga and sobriety.

  35. Meryl 3 years ago

    Have found this book and I’m only half way through with no desire to drink POISON. “this Naked Mind” by Annie Grace

    • kayjay29 3 years ago

      On day 30, I am also reading this book @Meryl. I’m taking it slow, reading a chapter a day and am finding it really helpful. In the past, I have gone AF for 100 days, and other shorter stints only to convince myself that I could moderate (which I cannot.) Her approach has provided a way for me to fight back against that voice that is lying to me.

  36. Author
    Mrs D 3 years ago

    http://www.drugrehab.org/profiles-in-recovery – Lots of good recovery profiles to read on this page

  37. Lynnebin 3 years ago

    http://www.npr.org/2013/10/20/234882051/drinking-to-numb-women-gain-on-men-in-alcohol-abuse. Loved this book about women and their relationship to alcohol, how we are drinking more than ever, how it is the new normal, how we are specifically marketed to, college alcohol use and so much more.

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