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The naked mind. (Book) and YouTube videos by Annie grace.
This is worth a look:
There are a few interesting articles and you can read the first 5 chapters of the book for free.
I read it and enjoyed it. Some of it is downright funny. The section on “people get weirded out” especially. Good to keep in mind, though, that most drinkers will accept your sobriety. And that whether they do accept it or not is irrelevant.
This was in response to nomore’s link…..http://www.cracked.com/blog/the-6-most-disturbing-realities-that-come-with-getting-sober/
People get weirded out section is so true. Just knowing helps. The first time out with people/telling them was the hardest…..then I took their cues how much to share.
https://www.theguardian.com/news/2018/jan/05/william-leith-alcohol-how-did-i-let-drinking-take-over-my-life. – A useful article to remind us of the reasons why….
https://www.lifewithoutbooze.com is a site I put up a few years ago to help me get sober. I just found living sober.org and love it.
https://youtu.be/499ajGowVqM – Youtube video with Annie Grace and a doctor talking about how alcohol affects the brain and neurotransmitters.
I found this video extremely helpful. Many members of the LS community say that their sleeping patterns and anxiety levels improve when they stop drinking. This has not been the case with me. I am 64 days AF and still have very stressful and anxiety filled dreams. Consequently, I have not yet experienced waking up in the morning feeling rested and refreshed. This video explains why this may be happening to me (and perhaps some of you). Realistically, it will take 6 months to a year for the brain to fully restore itself. Thanks for posting this link!
Seek support or help in your area. Help is out there, do a google search or phone the Alcohol and Drug Helpline 0800787797, they will be able to talk to you about what is going on for you.
Super interesting if you would like to know the timeline of recovery. All the ups and downs are there. I found the kindling effect also interesting.
https://youtu.be/__0dNKJV0zo A bit of meditation when you do not have more than 12 minutes to gain control.
L-Glutamine has helped me punch a hole in a craving (for both alcohol and sugar) if I put a heaping teaspoon in powder form (I use NOW brand) under my tongue and let it dissolve. There’s lots of reading to be found about it, and the above is just one article that helped me to understand the mechanisms behind it.
I have been reading Russell Brand’s book called Recovery. Well to be more honest, I’ve been listening to it on Audible. I love it – I love his honesty and humour and I think he is super smart and I’ve had lots of laugh out loud moments in the car. It’s basically about the 12 steps and his re-iteration of them. he looks at them quite in depth and talks about his journey with lots of stories and examples from his life along the way. He’s a very clever man and I’m really enjoying it. It does make me think about going to AA, which I’ve not been brave enough to give a proper go. I can see that the 12 steps is useful to actually everyone, addict or not.
It’s a great book.. i’m half way through it.. he’s so funny and has made me understand the steps more… very interesting..
Omg I nearly bought that book today……going back to get it. Thank you
I am still drinking and really wish I could stop. But, it’s so very hard. Why can’t I just give it up?
http://stepsbybigbook.net/show_docs.php?Type_ID=2 – Print outs and questions to help work the 12 Steps of AA
https://youtu.be/dBnniua6-oM – Info about the evils of sugar.
https://singleandsober.com/my-top-20-recovery-blogs-and-sites/ – Great list of online sites here – including ours!
http://mummywasasecretdrinker.blogspot.com/2017/10/why-dont-you-just-drink-less.html?m=1 – Mummy Was A Secret Drinker blog post on why moderation does NOT work.
That’s s good read! Exactly me!
Thank you all for your recommendations. I’m day 4 today and doing well, except for sore eyes, headache and minor anxiety. I have just purchased Blackout, The Naked Mind and Mrs D is going without.
http://www.aaonlinemeeting.net/living-sober.html – Practical tips on staying sober
http://www.williamwhitepapers.com/blog/2013/07/recovery-durability-the-5-year-set-point.html – Recovery durability – the 5-year set point
I THINK THE BEST ONES WERE “BLACKOUT” AND “THE HAPPIEST HOUR”, BUT I HAVE READ MANY ON MY NOOK. TONIGHT I AM GOING TO TRY TO MAKE THE GINGER BEER. I HAVE HAD IT AT BARS WITH MY FAMILY , BUT 49 GRAMS OF SUGAR UGG!!…..I AM GOING TO USE STEVIA AND SEE IF IT IS AS GOOD! THANKS TO ALL THAT HAVE WRITTEN TO ME. I WAS GETTING ORGANIZED AFTER COMING BACK FROM FT. MYERS AND BACK TO MY OWN SURROUNDINGS AND HUBBY.
https://www.littlethings.com/quit-drinking-benefits/?utm_source=LTdiy&utm_campaign=health&utm_medium=Facebook_Shared – What happens to the bod when you stop drinking
I’ve just discovered the website of Micheal Hilton (note the unusual spelling). Lots of helpful video teaching about how to stay off alcohol, but also what you are doing instead. There’s plenty of his videos on Youtube too
https://truththeory.com/2017/07/17/20-common-things-people-realize-quit-drinking-alcohol/ Such a true article. Numbers 12, 13, 14 standing out for me at the minute!
https://youtu.be/tTb3d5cjSFI – TED talk about cravings and addictions.
http://nerdist.com/terrified-17-paul-gilmartin/ – I was just listening to a podcast called Terrified. The guest is Paul Gilmartin whose podcast The Mental Illness Happy Hour which is my fav. I can relate so much to everything he says and there is a lot of chat about what drove his alcoholism. He is now sober. http://nerdist.com/terrified-17-paul-gilmartin/ TERRIFIED #17: PAUL GILMARTIN Joining Dave in the studio this week is revered comedian and podcast host Paul Gilmartin of the Mental Illness Happy Hour! They discuss alcoholism, and what pushes you there, and recovery, and what comes after, and more. Dave gets nervous that his podcast is similar to Paul’s. (Dave gets nervous numerous times.
http://www.hipsobriety.com/home/2015/7/8/video-how-to-reframe-relapse – How to reframe relapse and learn from it so you can move forward.
http://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2017/06/19/why-arent-you-laughing – Brilliant and sad essay by David Sedaris on his alcoholic mother.
https://medicalxpress.com/news/2017-06-moderate-linked-decline-brain-health.html – This article describes research on the impact of drinking on brain health.
I found this article quite helpful:
On Rejecting the False Promise of Addiction by Therese BorchardMarch 17, 2017 http://thereseborchard.com/2017/03/17/on-rejectinging-the-false-promise-of-addiction/
Thank you, this is perfectly written. I think I will be re-reading this a few times over my journey.
https://soberstaffy.wordpress.com – This is a new blog I have started just rambling about advice for people looking to get sober hope it helps love you all xxx
The Imbibing Idiot Bias: Consuming Alcohol Can Be Hazardous to Your (Perceived) Intelligence Journal of Consumer Psychology https://papers.ssrn.com/sol3/papers.cfm?abstract_id=1623056
I found this podcast amazing! its by Holly whitaker and Laura Mckowen called HOME. its available free on the App soundcloud. It has guest speakers like Annie Gracie, Ann Dowsett Johnston, Dawn Nnickel, Augusten Burroughs and Sarah Hepola It is focused for women but has Male guest speakers for Guys 🙂
Just finished reading Mrs D goes within. What an amazing read. Mrs D you could have been my biographer it was so close to my truth. So glad you got this far in your forties it took me until I’m 65 but I’ve been there now for 213 days.
I just finished reading “Mrs D is Going Within”, which I really enjoyed. I didn’t want to put it down. I loved seeing how the toolbox changed over time! I loved just hearing abut the journey because it comes from a perspective that other mindfulness books don’t! Seeing how a normal (and amazing of course) woman incorporates these tools into her life, the difference that awareness of the present moment can make, the flow on affect to those around her. Great job @mrs-d! It’s a great read, thank you so much for sharing such personal insights with us! With lots of love and gratitude xxxx
A book that has helped me enourmously over the past year has been Maps of Meaning by Jordan Peterson. It’s not about alcohol, but rather an exploration of belief systems and structures of meaning, which are tightly coupled with reasons for drinking, in my experience anyway. He is a professor of psychology and clinical psychologist and he talks through psychology, philosophy, mythology, semiotics, theology etc and it is absolutely riveting. He posts his university lectures on YouTube too – one of the courses is also called Maps of Meaning. If anyone struggles with exisistential issues, anxiety, depression, absence of meaning, etc, and uses alcohol to cope, then I can’t recommend this content enough. It has definitely helped me.
@CB77 I searched online for a copy. They’re exorbitantly expensive, presumably because it’s out of print. However, I discovered Dr Peterson offers a PDF version of Maps of Meaning on his website for free. I printed the first 50 pages and will start reading as soon as I finish my current book. Thanks for the suggestion. Sounds really interesting.
Features an interview with Mrs D along with tons of advice and articles on bringing up kids knowing that sooner or later they’re going to be exposed to drugs (including our fave one, alcohol). For those of us who’ve been there, done that! but have not much of an idea how to talk to our kids about it, and about our own experiences.
I was wondering… What kind of withdrawls did people experience? I know alcohol is out your system quite quickly but how long until you all felt fresh’ish? I didn’t have major WD’s as was a heavy drinker of wine and beer and the odd gin, so wasn’t really dependent. I’m Day 7 now and I’ve had the odd symptom but I still feel so tired! I could sleep for another week! And I have been getting a good 9-10 hours a night!
hey @sid_scotia your comment has ended up in the recommended reading thread not the community news feed, please repost there and you’ll get a response! Keep going, day 10 for you today woohoo double digits!
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