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“Numbing the pain for a while will make it worse when you finally feel it.”
I love this! I’m sober going on 8 days now and I feel so great for the first time in 10 years without a bottle in my hand can I mean hard liquor. I feel wonderful already I know it could have been longer I relapsed. Thank you for sharing this and if you don’t mind I am sharing this.
Happiness can be found in the darkest of times if one only remembers to turn on the light
I like this – thank you
How you act reveals who you are
In my current distress that is helping me be honest with….myself.
Shame is a soul eating emotion
I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength.
Phillipians 4:13
The grass appears greener on the other side because it is fertilized by bullshit.
From a book I finish a couple of days ago. It’s a good reminder for me.
“Alcohol gives you wings, then takes away the sky.”
~Clare Pooley
That’s a great one thanks
Amazing and so true!
“A beautiful day begins with a beautiful mindset.
When you wake up, take a second to think about what a privilege it is to simply be alive and healthy.
The moment you start acting like life is a blessing ,I assure you it will start to feel like one”
Yes so true, spend your morning focusing on the good and the beautiful, be kind to yourself and get through another day.
Yes!!! I love this. Every morning I say how grateful am for waking up, to have another day and every day I actually hear the birdsong and smell the trees.
Quotes from a book I’m currently reading.
” So it must be imagined. For it is in our imagination that we can dream across boundaries, deepen the narrative, and design alternative outcomes.”
“Anger is a poison you mix for your friend but drink yourself”
Eve Ensler – The Apology
The purpose of life is to be restored back to Love, moment to moment. To fulfill this purpose, the individual
must acknowledge that he is 100 percent responsible for creating his life the way it is. He must come to see that it
is his thoughts that create his life the way it is moment to moment.The problems are not people, places, and situations
but rather the thoughts (interpretation) of them. He must come to appreciate that there is no such thing as “out there.”
(It is all within)
—Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len
Recovery is a Journey about the discovery of “Who Am I”. In that sense everybody shares that journey, irrespective of whether they have ever had problems with alcohol or drugs. Having abused alcohol and drugs is almost an advantage, as it forces one on that journey.
Physical sobriety is relatively easy — Emotional sobriety takes a good deal longer, and is very much the road to happiness, even though it takes a lot of forgiveness.
Someone once told me..
“I heard you finally got rid of your addiction”
I smiled and said
“NO addiction doesn’t work like that”
“once you have it .. you will always have it”
“i just choose not to feed it!”
Very true
Oh my. That does seem to be so.
You never fail until you stop trying
It is better to believe than to disbelieve; in so doing you bring everything to the realm of possibility.
Albert Einstein
I have been drinking 2 bottles of wine a night. Is it possible to manage your drinking as a social thing, maybe just drinking at weekends and only having 2-3 drinks a night at the most.
Hi there
Can you be honest with yourself and truely say you will only have a glass or 2. Even though you know that amount won’t give you the buzz you want. You will just frustrate yourself and feel weak. It’s like torturing yourself. Alcohol is addictive and your body and brain will crave more to reach the level you have created that it needs to reach before you get the feeling you crave. That level is not the bodies natural state and all your organs are suffering to maintain that false, unhealthy level you have created. You are poisoning yourself. That is a fact. If you could only have a glass or 2, don’t you think you would have already.
I think you need at least a month of sobriety first before deciding if you can manage drinking, or even want to manage it ever again!
Hi Some people can but for me once I crossed the line to drinking up to two bottles of wine couldn’t just have one or two occasionally, I just had no off switch once I put alcohol in my system, I find it so much easier to just not have it…its not an option for me because once I have one I just don’t know who will happen, the only time I can predict the outcome and feel at peace is with zero alcohol in my system, good luck I hope you find what works for you
Hi docherjo, i drink every weekend for 15 years can not stop blackouts, ect even though it is only one day of the week, i still do enough damage for a week lol. i know it’s so hard i went to AA and told everyone “hello my name is Shona i dont think im a alcoholic” they all just stared at me lol. i didn’t want to believe it because i only drink weekends but like i said i still do the damage of a week’s worth of drinking, I even told my alcohol counselor i just want to be a part time alcoholic… lol doesnt work ALL or NOTHING! Hate it as i love drinking its like a kid going to the Zoo.. All the best hun thoughts and prayers are with you. 🙂
It takes more than one human brain to create a human mind – Lisa Feldman Barrett
If you put everything in God’s hands, you will see God’s hand in everything
I like it:
“Religion is for people who’re afraid of going to hell. Spirituality is for those who’ve already been there.”
― Vine Deloria Jr.
I love this x Religion isn’t for me either but appreciating nature, each other and spirituality is awesome x
The best way to predict the future is to create it
One of my favs. I have it typed and on my office board.
The anger and resentment you carry around never hurts the other person, it only poisons your heart and stalls the healing process. LET IT GO… ?❤️
Why go back to day 1 when you are looking forward to Day 100 – My son (15)
Amazing!
What a beautiful boy! My son is also 15. I love this age. I love how we have our children to give us daily gifts of wisdom.
Day 1 of Sobriety I know its never easy an quiet often it is a Journey but I am looking forward to it,,,,Wish me luck,,,,I could use some support
Day 3 for me. I’ve made so many empty promises. But the fact my family and some close friends know and watch me with suspicious minds….and fair enough….just made me more sneaky and a bald faced liar..tho more accountable also. I have woken up in jail…lost a good job for drinking at lunchtime….and ruined my last relationship with a fantastic man. And worse and more. I’ve been doing this for years and it only gets more and more out of control. I’m seeing physical problems for the first time. I’m completely sick of it all. I liked this quote I saw recently…..I dont drink. Because I drank it all.
Used to be wine now its whatever I could get my hands on. Its madness. I really want to stop and am telling myself it will be easy…because I think that may help me worry less. This site and other books etc are really helping me. If others can attest to a better life af I can and so can others. They prove it’s possible. I may be optimistic on the easy bit!!!
Good luck good for you
It’s day 1 for me today. My birthday ( a big one) is in 113 days. On that day I am going to be on day 113. Wish me luck, I’ve tried and failed so many times. Not again. I have disappointed my family so much.
I’m on day 13 after drinking a bottle and a half most nights for a very long time. Been doing lots of reading and am inspired by all your stories. Sick to death of blacking out, hang overs and saying things to friends I’d never say if I was sober. Reminding myself alcohol is poison and support from my partner and friends is keeping me sober. Feeling very proud, clear headed and sleeping better. I’m doing dry July, taking a day at a time and plan/hope to continue, sadly I don’t think I can just have one or two, so best to just cut it completely. I’m looking forward to not feeling sad about not being able to drink, reading all the stories it does seem that for everyone who has given up, life is better without the booze.
Hi, I saw you posted this 4 weeks ago. How’s it going? I’m on day 4 today – I did get to one month once, I will do better this time 🙂
BEST OF LUCK @beasleyyy Try to read about sober people’s lives and how awesome they sound. That’s what I’m trying. I need lots of support too. I binged on Day 12 AF, (that’s why I’m back to Day 3 today) but I learned a lot from it. Hangovers only get worse as we get older. Mine last for 3 days. So much is lost being hungover. For example today we are expecting rain rain rain. It only starts at 2:00pm. I woke up fresh and clear (no alarm) at 6:30am….. to a beautiful deep orange surprise of a sunrise! ❤️ And that was a gift I would not have seen if I was in a drunk slumber. Look for the gifts!! There are many! BEST
Hello, after so many years of being sober and then drinking again . i have started again now i am 10 days sober. today is the worst day yet. my body is not feeling good and my mind is playing games and my need for sugar is great , but even with all of this I dont want to drink because deep done i know it is the worst place for me. Sometimes i just get pissed off that i have to fight this all the time. Sorry for being so down but i think it will help. Thanks
It sucks that our minds are so powerful, yet we are so powerless to the drink. The drink that makes us ugly, bloated, scared, unproductive, slow, stupid and useless. Congrats on day 10! Take all my negative words and flip them to positive words because that’s what you deserve for your efforts. You are human and life is constant learning experience. Don’t beat yourself up for learning. ❤️
Oh Lord that made me laugh… It was pretty harsh (but true) the bloody Wine Witch has been in my ear too but im not listening to her anymore -such a lying Cow, promises everything, gives nothing but suffering .
I quit drinking, started loving myself again, and now my girlfriend can’t stop yelling and showing me how much she loves me and is proud of my strength in giving it up. Just finished 7 night Carib cruise without one drop of alcohol. I feel blessed.
Can’t stop telling me and showing me I meant. Typo 🙂
?yelling…
If God seems far away….Who moved ?
The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy. -King
Such great words.
The only person I ever lost and needed back was myself…
So much yes
How true. In fact my Higher Power is my inner self. The person I knew must be inside me somewhere, but was drowning in alcohol while I was drinking.
Having recently been tested by family problems I can honestly say that speaking to my Higher Power and determined mindfulness got me through.
Just recalculated my days of sobriety…………3152, more than 8 years.
It works if you work it!
Mindfulness is a super power
love love love this!! Thank you!
Me too!!
I love this.
Hi every-one, I haven’t been on living sober for about 3 months, time flys when things are going well. My daughter has come out of re-hab on the 4th of January. She had lost her job just before re-hab because of her drinking. She is going into a brand new field and setting up the office administration. She will shine!! Doing really well
I want to thank you guys for your help and advice through the really hard days, weeks and months. I am just a mother who wanted good advice to help my daughter. Cheers
It’s easier to stay sober,than to get sober!
❤️??
So true. I certainly don’t want to go through stopping again.
Love this…so true
Absolutely. More difficult each and every time. Day 1 please.
I saw this sign on a post and am not sure who the author is. “Doubt kills more dreams then failure ever will.”
Either get busy living or get busy dying – shawshank redemption
Love that one!!!!
Never Underestimate The Power of Self Love and feeling BEAUTIFUL!!
Love this! Thank You.
“Do today what you did yesterday.” I have this as a note on my fridge, to remind me that I did not drink yesterday.
I’m entering it on my calendar each tomorrow. It reminds you that you Can do it because you just did!
As a newbie here, I’m definitely borrowing this!
Take your addiction off the Throne and put your higher power back on the Throne
I wanted to stop drinking for about two years but the day I quit for good I had woken up after a terrible night where I made a complete drunken fool of myself on so many levels. I was staying at an Air Bnb and on the bedstand was a book of quotes from the Dalai Lama. I picked it up and opened it up at a page that directly spoke to me that bleak morning:
‘When unfortunate things happen in our lives, there are two possible results. One possibility is mental unrest, anxiety, fear, doubt, frustration and eventually depression, and in the worst case, suicide. That’s one way. The other possibility is that because of that tragic experience, you become more realistic, you become closer to reality. With the power of investigation, the tragic experience may make you stronger and increase your self-confidence and self-reliance. The unfortunate event can be a source of inner strength.’
I decided I would make that unfortunate event the event that was going to spur me on to quit booze for good. Not a quick mantra – but a mantra nonetheless that I take with me wherever I go now. I am now 81 days AF and amazed that I’m actually doing it! Thank you Dalai Lama! And to all the awesome people on this blog that help us AF folk to stay strong.
This is awesome.
That really speaks to me too, I’m going to stick it on the fridge!
‘The wine witch never says go on just one carrot you deserve it’
I picked up a bible for the first time ,and just randomly picked a page ,looked down to read!,,WINE IS A MOCKER ,AND BEER IS A BRAWLER,WHOEVER Is LED ASTRAY BY THEM IS NOT WISE,I think this was a sign
That’s awesome
wow
Totally feel you!
If I quit now I will be back to where I started & when I started I was desperately wishing to be where I am now.
Good one =)
I heard this at my first group session
“Shoot for the moon cause if you miss you are still amongst stars”
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“….let your sparkle replace your bubble…” whenever I would hear a great quote or saying I would often ‘doodle’ it and pin it up on the fridge.
Writing it now … gratitude
No.1 my husband (for not leaving me)
It’s been a steady increase in drink intake since I lost my mum. It’s become a habit and it’s shameful what I can put away and not even appear to have been drinking.
Life has changed since kids etc – and I think I drink to numb the mundane and to remember who I was. I’m trying to get a grip on enjoying my kids and being present and not continually numbed.
Thank you all for being inspirational – tomorrow is day 1 xx
You sound just like me 🙂 Last time I got hammered, my husband said he didn’t care anymore. That hit me HARD and I knew I was on the verge of losing him. Today I stopped drinking and I have no intention of ever drinking alcohol again. I thank my lucky stars I still have him, the kids, my job, house etc. We can do this 🙂
Skibabe, I hear you, my daughter has just finished an 8 week re-hab stint. She is counting her stars as well. Family so important children are so happy she is home now. good luck, keep on looking forward not back. all the best skibabe
“Have a reason bigger than Alcohol”
Have Motivation to quit!
https://www.facebook.com/groups/230213121062330/
“I was forever waiting for my life to get better so I could quit drinking. What I didn’t realize is that if I quit drinking, life would get better.” ~ SoberCourage.com
I love this quote. So true
“When you quit drinking, you stop waiting.”
Strive for progress, not perfection.
You will never wake up in the morning wishing you’d got drunk the night before
This is so true
I love this one and it is so true
Amen!
Soooo true Looking forward to waking up grateful I don’t have a hangover
I’m not who I used to be. I’m slowly becoming the person I should have been a long time ago.
So true. So very true.
Amazing. This ‘key’ is the reason I too am here.
Sobriety gives you what alcohol promised.
My favorite of all the quotes. So, so true!
If we could put how we felt in a bottle,after a drinking binge,and took it out,every time we were faced with the temptation to have ‘just one!’we would definitely remember,why we never want to drink again.
There is nothing that can happen to you that a drink won’t make worse.