Sober Story: Chris

This week’s Sober Story comes from Chris, a 50-year-old living in St. Louis, Missouri, USA.

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Mrs D: How long have you been in recovery?

Chris: I’ve been in abstinent recovery from alcohol and other drugs for over 21 years. I’ve not participated in any program—12 Step or otherwise.

Mrs D: What can you tell us about the last months/years of your drinking before you gave up?

Chris: It became increasingly evident during my last years drinking that the “fun, party guy” façade would not serve me well in adulthood. And in the final months, once I’d begun to strip the other drugs away, I finally gained the clarity to see the true underlying fuel for all my problem—the alcohol.

Mrs D: What was the final straw that led you to get sober?

Chris: There were two distinct moments that propelled me into my sobriety: One night sitting in my car outside a nightclub I had a flash of clarity and realised I couldn’t bear to walk in as the drunk, coked up, ecstasy-gobbling mess I’d become. Shortly after that realisation I came across Caroline Knapp’s terrific memoir, Drinking: A Love Story. Which, though skeptical at first, I quickly came to realise was completely and totally about me.

Mrs D: How was it for you in the early days? What was most difficult?

Chris: I was fortunate in that I was able to spend the early days in relative seclusion at my family’s home. I’d devised my own “detox/rehab” plan and I almost immediately realized that my “Gatorade and iced tea” replacement plan wasn’t going to get me through the early days. So, I added non-alcoholic beer at about at the beginning of the second week. Other than that, there was some neuro-chemical rebalancing going on that was a bit disconcerting; I remember not being able to force myself to talk for about a day or two early on.

Mrs D: What reaction did you get from family & friends when you started getting sober?

Chris: My step-father and mother are in the wine business. At the time my father was in the beer business. Somehow this lead to a certain level of acceptance for alcohol-fueled aberrant behavior. They weren’t dismissive but they certainly didn’t know what I was talking about and at the time I didn’t have the understanding to allow me to explain it to them. I had a least one sibling get angry at me and I think one tried to pretend it wasn’t happening to help protect their nascent alcohol issues.

Mrs D: Have you ever experienced a relapse?

Chris: No. Though about 4 months after I got sober I accidentally took a bite of a rum-soaked pear which I proceeded to spit out like I’d been poisoned. Which I suppose I had.

Mrs D: How long did it take for things to start to calm down for you emotionally & physically?

Chris: In a surprising case of serendipitous timing, I had an pancreatitis scare the very first day and through my first week sober. About a week after that I started working out (perhaps a bit too obsessively) every day and got into the best shape of my life within the first 5 months. The emotional rollercoaster settled within about 3 months and truly smoothed into an amazing sense of contentment like I’d never know, before or since, at about 10.

Mrs D: How hard was it getting used to socialising sober?

Chris: As a socially anxious introvert it can still present challenges to this day. For me it really depends on how good I feel about my exit plan should I need it.

Mrs D: Was there anything surprising that you learned about yourself when you stopped drinking?

Chris: That I could excel not only at “a” thing, but many things.

Mrs D: How did your life change?

Chris: I was able to know myself and like myself. Which in turn allowed me to let others know me. I have a wonderful wife and an amazing child. They were unimaginable to me before.

Mrs D: What are the main benefits that emerged for you from getting sober?

Chris: The ability to understand how to help myself be healthy and happy (or at least content). Without the understanding I’d just be flailing aimlessly.

Mrs D: Would you do anything differently given the chance to go through the process again?

Chris: I’d learn more and share more earlier with my family. To this day they don’t really understand addiction, alcoholism or recovery.

Mrs D: What advice or tips would you have for those who are just starting on this journey?

Chris: Find what works for you and keep doing it but don’t close out the rest. Also, there is not an ounce of shame in simply wanting recovery much less working for it.

Mrs D: Anything else you’d like to share?

Chris: Once I got here it became clear that one has nothing at all to lose in sobriety and absolutely everything to gain.

You can visit Chris’s website here.

  1. hadenough 6 years ago

    Great interview. Thanks to Chris for sharing. Reading others’ experiences continues to help me deal with my own recovery.

  2. behind-the-sofa 6 years ago

    Thanks for this Chris, I identify with a lot of your journey….. Hope I can make it to 21 years sober.

  3. Cinderella 6 years ago

    Sobriety is a gift of life. Thank you for playing it forward to us with your inspiring journey Chris.

  4. JM 6 years ago

    Wow, 21 years! Huge congrats! I love your last line – “one has nothing at all to lose in sobriety and absolutely everything to gain.” Yes!! Inspiring and honest, thank-you so much!

    • Sunny_Disposition 6 years ago

      I loved that line 2 🙂

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