• WobblyBird posted a new activity comment 1 week, 2 days ago

    thank you @song-bird live in London and really need this just now. Take care hun x

  • WobblyBird posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    Hey Thor, fabulous, congratulations. Hope this Monday is better than most!

  • WobblyBird posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    Call again if you need to. Maybe they find it a bit difficult to judge sometimes?

  • WobblyBird posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    And @Bobby I think you are in the UK like me? If it’s all too much please ring the Samaritans if you need to 116 123. They are highly trained, very caring and have really sympathetic ears – bit like rugby cauliflower ears but different! xx

    • Thank you I did call this morning. They didn’t talk to me long.

    • Call again if you need to. Maybe they find it a bit difficult to judge sometimes?

  • WobblyBird posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    Hey @Bobby sweetheart just hang on in there. It will end and you can start to sort things out from tomorrow or the day after.All you have to do is get through today – can you maybe eat something, watch some rubbish on tele/netflix? It is all fixable but not today – just look after yourself today. xx

    • And @Bobby I think you are in the UK like me? If it’s all too much please ring the Samaritans if you need to 116 123. They are highly trained, very caring and have really sympathetic ears – bit like rugby cauliflower ears but different! xx

      • Thank you I did call this morning. They didn’t talk to me long.

      • Call again if you need to. Maybe they find it a bit difficult to judge sometimes?

  • WobblyBird posted a new activity comment 6 months ago

    Yes bring it on!

  • WobblyBird posted a new activity comment 6 months ago

    PS My neighbours mother has just died so I have been looking after her two pet rabbits – gosh I hope they are happy and surviving as haven’t a clue what I am doing

  • WobblyBird posted an update 6 months ago

    Hi all you lovely LS peeps. A brief sorty out of my lurking! Quite a year for me with a lot of mental and physical health problems, medical appointments and a couple of relapses so Christmas has been a time to take some time out and regroup (I don’t do Christmas so obviously some stuff there but love having some time out). So far it has been a really good break but today have hit a real downer and then I see all the struggles and triumphs of others and realise that Christmas is such a mixed bag and I’m not alone.
    I am so grateful for LS and the wonderful people on it and the way it is so caring and safe with no pressure. I think of you all so much and would like to thank the fabulous @Mrs-D and also @SueK for special wisdom – oh yes and everyone!
    Was happy to see this https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-46632332 as it suggests some things are moving in a good direction

    Bring on 2019 – it’s just another year after all but maybe a good chance to reset the course – yes I think that’s good from time to time! Hang on in there!

    Wobblyxx

    • PS My neighbours mother has just died so I have been looking after her two pet rabbits – gosh I hope they are happy and surviving as haven’t a clue what I am doing

    • Good to hear from you Wobbly. I’m sure the rabbits will be absolutely fabulous under your care. I’ve got a really good feeling about 2019 too. It’s going to be a good year.

    • Hi there stranger! Lovely to see you. It sounds as if it has been a really tough year for you. May 2019 be easier.

  • WobblyBird posted a new activity comment 6 months, 1 week ago

    Love this, guess I’m a bit of a nerd as well.

  • WobblyBird posted a new activity comment 6 months, 1 week ago

    Hey hey @enzedgirl may be in NZ in Feb. and would love to come along if possible xx

  • WobblyBird posted a new activity comment 6 months, 1 week ago

    Sorry for your loss, perfect response and I hope you find peace from it ❤️

  • WobblyBird posted a new activity comment 7 months, 3 weeks ago

    I only occasionally catch up with LS at the moment but save your music contributions if I catch them.

  • WobblyBird posted a new activity comment 7 months, 3 weeks ago

    Thank you @songbird your music contributions are such a comfort to me

  • WobblyBird posted a new activity comment 9 months, 3 weeks ago

    Ditto ๐Ÿ™‚

  • WobblyBird posted a new activity comment 9 months, 4 weeks ago

    Thumbs up here to that @iowadawn you are one brave lass and I can only wish you some wins this coming year – well not being sober is one big win straight off xx

  • WobblyBird posted a new activity comment 10 months ago

    And you, the hello much appreciated ๐Ÿ™‚

  • WobblyBird posted a new activity comment 10 months ago

    ๐Ÿ™‚ xx

  • WobblyBird posted a new activity comment 10 months ago

    Thanks to a great GP, consultant and therapist – all NHS – what can I say xx

  • WobblyBird posted a new activity comment 10 months ago

    Thx ๐Ÿ™‚

  • WobblyBird posted a new activity comment 10 months ago

    Hi @reena, thanks for the greeting. I don’t think @chick has been around for a couple of months. Hope she’s doing OK. Come talk to us chick whatever is going on. Love to you both.

  • WobblyBird posted an update 10 months ago

    Continue to lurk, continue to be inspired by you all, continue to struggle with posting myself but making progress on the psychological front. Love to all you sober heros – oh yes almost forgot – that includes me! xx

  • WobblyBird posted a new activity comment 10 months, 1 week ago

    PS Most of us hate crying in front of potential help but often it is the best thing possible – it allows the helpers (e.g. Dr) to get in there and help!!

    • Yes. I already have benefitted from the medicine, and believe the therapy will help even more. I took some this morning and feel lighthearted enough to run errands and clean. Daughter coming over this afternoon and we are going to map out her medical help for the relapse. She asked for help. That is a good start.

  • WobblyBird posted a new activity comment 10 months, 1 week ago

    @ChardaNO I so admire and thank you for this post and marvel at how well you are coping under such very sad and gut wrenching circumstances. Sounds as if you are doing everything you can to deal with this in the best possible way. I hope you are able to keep taking care of numero uno through it all and remember you will come out the other side. Wobbly xx

    • PS Most of us hate crying in front of potential help but often it is the best thing possible – it allows the helpers (e.g. Dr) to get in there and help!!

      • Yes. I already have benefitted from the medicine, and believe the therapy will help even more. I took some this morning and feel lighthearted enough to run errands and clean. Daughter coming over this afternoon and we are going to map out her medical help for the relapse. She asked for help. That is a good start.

  • WobblyBird posted a new activity comment 10 months, 1 week ago

    Or you have care duties/obligations that day (true and you don’t need to say who) X

  • WobblyBird posted a new activity comment 10 months, 3 weeks ago

    What, rain, windy? Down here in the south of the island I am so hot and lacking in breeze I don’t know what to do with myself, 33 degrees in my place today and as much outside. I should head north methinks!

  • WobblyBird posted a new activity comment 10 months, 3 weeks ago

    Would love some frosty pops over here in the NH but at least I’m sober and clean as well @Ro x

  • WobblyBird posted a new activity comment 11 months ago

    Like it ๐Ÿ™‚

  • WobblyBird posted a new activity comment 11 months ago

    Haha Reckon she’s probably dangerous enough walking or cycling @Marmite. Glad you had such a brilliant day tho @Janus2

  • WobblyBird posted a new activity comment 11 months ago

    @Morgan (can’t reply) below your comment. I’m not sure telling you is mandatory here anyway. I did have someone some years ago who caused a train wreck for (of) me, I don’t know if she had supervision or think it was mandatory at the time anyway. Thanks for your indignant care! Much appreciated xx

  • WobblyBird posted a new activity comment 11 months ago

    Thanks hon. No I know about Lithium and I don’t have to take the pills so might as well go and find out – can’t make things worse! Diary idea good if only I can find the energy.

  • WobblyBird posted a new activity comment 11 months ago

    She even told me she has been to her supervisor for advice which most won’t tell you – here at least.

  • WobblyBird posted a new activity comment 11 months ago

    So fantastic 114 days sober. You’ve fought so hard for this – you are a hero. Maybe it’s coming up time for you to have a meds review?? xx

  • WobblyBird posted a new activity comment 11 months ago

    Mmmm sounds good and I love the idea. I’ve always found it a bit odd that northern hemisphere festivals are translated into the wrong season in the Southern Hemisphere. Santa in a swimming cos?? Harvest festival at he end of winter?
    Your meal sounds lovely – I might just pop in StarTrek teleport style. Enjoy and well done on your now 88(600) days. xx

  • WobblyBird posted a new activity comment 11 months ago

    Good point @DaveH. Yes she understands but if I took up the referral would make sure they understood as well. Thank you

    • Your therapist sounds good @wobblybird

      Honest and genuine – of course sheโ€™s been to her supervisor for advice! Thatโ€™s what supervisors are for! And good on her for being transparent about that.

      If you ever come across a therapist who somehow pretends they know everything and donโ€™t need support in their work – be extremely wary.

  • WobblyBird posted a new activity comment 11 months ago

    Good to hear from someone who has found this helpful xx

  • WobblyBird posted a new activity comment 11 months ago

    @enzedgirl, thank you that is good advice. I do trust the therapist because she has been very honest with me unlike a previous one. Will consider what you are saying and try to remember I am in control! xx

    • She even told me she has been to her supervisor for advice which most won’t tell you – here at least.

    • What do you mean they don’t tell you they consult their supervisor? Isn’t that mandatory @wobblybird? You need to know who is involved in your life. YOUR life

  • WobblyBird posted a new activity comment 11 months ago

    Only 25 years – honey you’re just a beginner!! But yes I agree hearing them out can’t hurt and maybe accepting that meds will help will be a step forward. Sometimes we can’t do it ‘all by ourselves’ xx

  • WobblyBird posted a new activity comment 11 months ago

    @R51 I like that – even if I only learn one new thing it is worthwhile xx

  • WobblyBird posted a new activity comment 11 months ago

    Hi Jes, Yep the research is all over the place. However it is slowly progressing. I am thinking I will at least talk to this person.I don’t expect a miracle cure but maybe a little push in the right direction? I have taken SSRI’s before and they didn’t help me but maybe something different would. I was luck in that coming off them was easy for me. I know it is different for some.
    I really wish you well coming off your meds and thank you for replying but no miracle cures for sure. xx

  • WobblyBird posted a new activity comment 11 months ago

    Thank you Im thinking maybe I will try it for the same reason xx

  • WobblyBird posted an update 11 months ago

    Witching hour for me as well but it has just rained – big thunderstorm and the temperature come down a couple of degrees – Yeah so no drinking for me as it would spoil the enjoyment. My therapist (NHS)wants to refer me to a psychiatrist, I feel very confused/ambivalent about this. Does anyone have any words of wisdom here?? I have to decide by Wednesday xx

    • @wobblybird – you’re getting through that witching hour!! That’s what counts. I don’t have much experience in the therapist vs. psychiatrist route except to say that I’ve gone to a few therapist who didn’t really provide much help or relief to me. A psychiatrist is a doctor and will be able to prescribe medicine if need be. Good luck with your decision.

    • Hi Jes, Yep the research is all over the place. However it is slowly progressing. I am thinking I will at least talk to this person.I don’t expect a miracle cure but maybe a little push in the right direction? I have taken SSRI’s before and they didn’t help me but maybe something different would. I was luck in that coming off them was easy for me. I know it is different for some.
      I really wish you well coming off your meds and thank you for replying but no miracle cures for sure. xx

    • Hey, why not try a new person/perspective. Even if you only learned 1 new thing from a different person it would be worth it. Me, personally, Iโ€™ll accept all the help I can get. Best wishes.

    • @wobblybird I’m sorry that things aren’t great for you. I do love those storms that break the summer tension, something quite primal about it.
      I’ve seen a psychiatrist and found it useful. There are loads of drugs they can suggest, many different mechanisms, hormonal approaches, all sorts so it’s good that you will hear it out. Meds have saved my sanity although it took 25 years of resistance before I got there ๐Ÿ˜‰
      I hope you have a wonderful sober sleep and wake feeling proud of yourself for being the stunning, calm, sober woman that you are x

      • Only 25 years – honey you’re just a beginner!! But yes I agree hearing them out can’t hurt and maybe accepting that meds will help will be a step forward. Sometimes we can’t do it ‘all by ourselves’ xx

    • I think it depends what she wants to refer you for. And of course you might not want to say here.

      Some psychiatrists are very good therapists, too, not just mental health doctors. But I donโ€™t know if thatโ€™s what the psychiatrist is available for.

      Do you trust the therapist? Consider what her reasons are for referring you. What are your goals? Do you think there might be anything helpful about it?

      All of those are questions are just meant for you to consider, not to answer here ๐Ÿ™‚

      Whatever you decide to do, you are in control. This is your story.

      All power to you @wobblybird xxx

      • @enzedgirl, thank you that is good advice. I do trust the therapist because she has been very honest with me unlike a previous one. Will consider what you are saying and try to remember I am in control! xx

        • She even told me she has been to her supervisor for advice which most won’t tell you – here at least.

        • What do you mean they don’t tell you they consult their supervisor? Isn’t that mandatory @wobblybird? You need to know who is involved in your life. YOUR life

    • Hi I went to a psychiatrist to get help with my underlying anxiety & depression. His assessment/s were very thorough & with a bit of trial & error I ended up with medication that addresses my individual pattern of depression. I found it invaluable & I still see him a couple of times a year.

    • I think the most important thing here is to be sure that everybody is fully in the picture and that they have knowledge of dealing with addiction (very many medical people have no idea at all about this). If the psychiatrist has no experience of treating addiction then they’re going to reach the wrong conclusions… so try to make sure that the one you’re referred to does. It is perfectly routine that our addiction is accelerated by other mental health problems, but often a psychologist is the more useful professional rather that a psychiatrist. Does your therapist fully understand your drinking? and are they the right person to have made this referral?

      • Good point @DaveH. Yes she understands but if I took up the referral would make sure they understood as well. Thank you

        • Your therapist sounds good @wobblybird

          Honest and genuine – of course sheโ€™s been to her supervisor for advice! Thatโ€™s what supervisors are for! And good on her for being transparent about that.

          If you ever come across a therapist who somehow pretends they know everything and donโ€™t need support in their work – be extremely wary.

    • Honey child lol give it a go! Most psychiatrist view your health probs trial meds to see what works then see in bout mnth to review untill sussed. Lol dont panic for how long i been seeing mine for 14yrs!!! If i dont have meds tell ya id go mad or bat shit crazy!!! Most often test bloods. Tell ypu this dont go on Lithium if he says but go lamotragine, not so hard on liver, also dosage is not so high. They will start low dose but keep diary of how you feel if any side effects worth a shot nige ๐Ÿ˜‰

      • Thanks hon. No I know about Lithium and I don’t have to take the pills so might as well go and find out – can’t make things worse! Diary idea good if only I can find the energy.

    • @Morgan (can’t reply) below your comment. I’m not sure telling you is mandatory here anyway. I did have someone some years ago who caused a train wreck for (of) me, I don’t know if she had supervision or think it was mandatory at the time anyway. Thanks for your indignant care! Much appreciated xx

  • WobblyBird posted a new activity comment 11 months ago

    ๐Ÿ™‚ xx

  • WobblyBird posted a new activity comment 11 months ago

    Ha @Reena we don’t know what a/c is in this part of the world. I don’t have to wear scrubs but a lab coat, gloves and full enclosed shoes. We worry more about the machines breaking down than the people!

  • WobblyBird posted a new activity comment 11 months ago

    Enjoy. You may not be able to catch up but mathematically the difference will decrease!

  • WobblyBird posted a new activity comment 11 months ago

    Oh @robynb this sounds like a wonderful opportunity for you, your grand and great grand – wow. Sounds like the little house might be a really nice cosy place to stay. I haven’t managed to kick the cigs which I agree are evil (don’t tell @Prudence or she might be on my back!!) so I have great admiration for your grand doing that as well as everything else.

  • WobblyBird posted an update 11 months ago

    Well Hallo everyone. I would like to express my gratitude for all the kind, thoughtful and wise messages I have received. They have really meant a lot and encouraged me to keep on keeping on. You may have heard about the “heatwave” we are having here and in London it is very uncomfortable. It always feels like so many degrees hotter than it is with all the built up heat absorbing materials and the pollution. However today I have moved and worked very slowly (we have no cooling in most of my workplace) and been grateful that I got back on that wagon real quick as I don’t think alcohol would’ve helped haha. I learnt a good trick – fill a rubber glove up with ice from the ice machine and put it in your bra or if you’re a bloke find somewhere else to put it! or wear a bra maybe haha.
    I don’t have to wear a uniform like some poor folks – how do fire, police, nurses, chefs etc manage? I do have to wear fully enclosed shoes and that is bad enough.
    Also desperately desperately sad about the fires in Greece and my lovely Greek colleague who cannot find some friends who live in the area.
    Tomorrow is another (very hot) day and I will keep putting one foot in front of the other and go to my therapy tomorrow evening. xx

    • Nice to see you here @wobblybird.

    • Hey friend @wobblybird, always good to see you! What about @chick? where are ya girl?
      I have to wear scrubs at work, they do get a little hot but the hospital is usually well air conditioned. Hot and rainy, thundery here today … sorry you had some hard times but glad things are looking up.
      I think it’s odd I feel good checking in, doing my meditations, working it so to say then I stop and wonder why I am not feeling as good? I mean DUH! So maybe that’s the case for you, just keep the sober momentum going? Love and fist bumps (too hot for more) glove idea a good one!

      • Ha @Reena we don’t know what a/c is in this part of the world. I don’t have to wear scrubs but a lab coat, gloves and full enclosed shoes. We worry more about the machines breaking down than the people!

  • WobblyBird posted a new activity comment 11 months ago

    I missed you and everyone as well @Mtedenmummy and as soon as I came back I relapsed WTF. But am back on board. xx

  • WobblyBird posted a new activity comment 11 months ago

    thanks for the support Reena xx

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