Hi everyone. Great to see everyone on here. You are amazing Mrs D.:-). I have always been an enthusiastic drinker from the age of 17, beginning in the "Palm bar" at the old Carlton hotel in Chch. Flatting with Lincoln students we had a ball. ! Drinking was the norm. Over the nxt twenty years I was always pretty social. Over the past four years , my drinking increased , marriage break up , lawyers and settlement took its toll. I am a health professional , four months ago I decided to quit that bloody poison. I seem to be ok for ten days then slip up. I don't want that horrible stuff in my life anymore. I have been going to AA and attended an IOP group course. Both have been great. At the moment I'm 16 days sober and I want to stay that way. This website is fantastic Lotta, thank you. Also thanks everyone for being so honest and telling your stories. Let's go and support each other.:-)
Sending you lots of love Lotta. I understand how you are feeling. My mother 74 (in Canterbury) and fit and healthy, was diagnosed with stage 4 (terminal) bowel cancer in July last year. It is life changing, but I have acceptance now, she is doing ok.
Know that i am thinking of you and your family. Lots of Love xx
Oh that’s great news Morgy! Of course you deserve it, I hope it all comes together for you both, how exciting!
I’m about to go and start painting my fence, which will take me all weekend no doubt, get this property on the market so I can head down south later this year. Can’t wait!
I hope your work goes well xx
Hi @noelle. Lovely to hear from you. Great that you are back. I’m here , still sober and lurk abit!
Great that you have a new home. Keep up the great work and remember lots of self care , much love to you xx
Yes @Watergirl and @Reena I am totally inexperienced! Had no idea things could turn to shit so quickly with what just looked like a bit of a wind come up. Sheesh! It was so bloody fierce out there, and when we got on the yacht and were higher up in the water, standing up the front of the yacht, we couldn’t believe how strong the wind was and how…[Read more]
Goodmorning @prudence. Thank you so much for having us and the lunch and nibbles you whipped up.. which we really weren’t expecting.
Your home is so beautiful and so is the location and view is amazing and it’s so peaceful. (Brings back memories as a teenager- many weekends in Akaroa spent) .
I just loved all the in-depth conversations we sha…[Read more]
I’d sleep on that if I was you…don’t complicate things by involving someone else… well I wouldn’t… that’s only a temporary fix, just like booze, which will then turn into a complication and a pile of shit.
As you know booze won’t fix a dam thing, it will only exacerbate everything.
Sleep well x
I agree with @watergirl 100%. Definitely don’t involve someone else. What’s weird is that I’m getting a lot of connection requests on various sites from military men lately. Not that you aren’t special, I’m just curious why it’s happening a lot more lately. I never ever accept anyone I do not know on Instagram or FB. On Linked In they have to have…[Read more]
@watergirl and @sober4real you are correct!! I will just not reply and stay off Instagram kinda lay low. But I’m embarrassed I like the attention and I’m not line this AT ALL I am not. I am cracking (lol and true) And yes people are not what they truly are..I JYST talked about trust issues. Me guarding my heart. Well..now I feel like a fool once…[Read more]
@iowadawn everyone needs those things, it’s not dumb silly. I’d just rather stay alone until I know it’s legit. I’m sorry you are sad about unofficial fiancé. It stinks when timing is off or things are overly complicated. Looking back when that happened to the man I loved more than anything I should have walked away- we could have been together…[Read more]
Hey @Sober4real I hear ya. And I thank you! And I’ve been with unofficial fiance for 7 years and he’s a good man. My heart still skips a beat and my eyes light up when I see his name when he texts. He just texted “sleep Tight love you” The logical and mature side of me knows all what you are saying. And factor in my oversensitivity of assuming…[Read more]
@iowadawn I don’t advocate you giving up on that – no way! Just commit to it and then focus on you there is no other choice when you really love someone. I am so scared about my Mom dying as she is the only one left that loves me unconditionally too. I understand. I really do. You deserve a happy ending.
Watergirl is right, and of course, you know. Think about the loving text. Is there a meditation you like and can listen to? Calm the wild thoughts? And maybe plan a more sane workout – great to do exercise, but….
Yes, wild racing thoughts… dangerous . Xxxx much love. I am likely to miss my man completely as he travels home via my city. Work…[Read more]
I’m not drinking today because i know I would wake full of regret, anxiety , 2ndly – I have no desire to drink, 3rdly I want to be present and enjoy my day with my family and extended family .x
Merry Christmas to you all. Wishing you a happy sober fun filled day.
A few people looking abit weary (hungover) in this household. Pleased I’m not feeling that way and can enjoy and appreciate the day for what it is.
Much love to you all xx
Crickey! As others have said, a reflection of her own drinking problem. Truth be known she would looked bloody foolish yelling that out. !!
Sounds like she needs help. Im sorry you had to go through that.
Congratulations on your fifty days, you are a bloody legend. Xx
Just for today get through this. Have a cup of tea when you get home and go to bed early.
It’s a lie re all the Mums enjoying their drinks. I have been watching someone very close to me whose “mum drinks” are starting to get out of hand.. ending up in screaming matches with friends, her husband and drink driving…
Hang in there and stay sober…[Read more]
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