• Watergirl posted a new activity comment 4 days, 16 hours ago

    Hold tight @janus and look after yourself. Make yourself your top priority, lots of self care. Lots of love , hugs and strength from me to you hunxx

  • Watergirl posted a new activity comment 2 weeks ago

    Thats great, pleased your new job is working out for you. Hav e a happy day xx

  • Watergirl posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    Have a fabulous time away @prudence, you might bring back a lovely Italian or Frenchman… enjoy and happy travels xx

  • Watergirl posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 week ago

    Oh that’s awful @mrs-d, I have had that on and off for the last ten years. The exercises certainly help me. Rest up and I hope it rights itself ASAP.xx

  • Watergirl posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    Hi @janus, thinking of you, much love. xx

  • Watergirl posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    Time to kick it to the kerb @squizzi, I have been where you are and its a slippery slope to hell. Take care of yourself and put plans in place and come on here for assistance and help. x

  • Watergirl posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    I really enjoy Brené Browns work. She is a researcher and would had to quantify her work for her PHD. She did do studies. I think she is great. Each to their own though. 🙂

    Research

  • Watergirl posted a new activity comment 3 months, 1 week ago

    I’m so sorry for your families loss Lotta, cancer sure is a bitch.
    Love and hugs to you xx

  • Watergirl posted a new activity comment 3 months, 1 week ago

    oh congrats @enzedgirl, thats bloody fantastic. x

  • Watergirl posted a new activity comment 3 months, 3 weeks ago

    Likewise @enzedgirl. Have a lovely weekend xx

  • Watergirl posted a new activity comment 3 months, 3 weeks ago

    Much love to you xx

  • Watergirl posted a new activity comment 3 months, 4 weeks ago

    Great post@enzedgirl and congratulations xx

  • Watergirl posted a new activity comment 3 months, 4 weeks ago

    Thinking of you Lotta. I am so sorry to hear this. Much love to you xx

  • Watergirl posted a new activity comment 4 months ago

    Sending you lots of love Lotta. I understand how you are feeling. My mother 74 (in Canterbury) and fit and healthy, was diagnosed with stage 4 (terminal) bowel cancer in July last year. It is life changing, but I have acceptance now, she is doing ok.
    Know that i am thinking of you and your family. Lots of Love xx

  • Watergirl posted a new activity comment 5 months, 1 week ago

    Oh that’s great news Morgy! Of course you deserve it, I hope it all comes together for you both, how exciting!
    I’m about to go and start painting my fence, which will take me all weekend no doubt, get this property on the market so I can head down south later this year. Can’t wait!
    I hope your work goes well xx

  • Watergirl posted a new activity comment 6 months ago

    Hi @noelle. Lovely to hear from you. Great that you are back. I’m here , still sober and lurk abit!
    Great that you have a new home. Keep up the great work and remember lots of self care , much love to you xx

  • Watergirl posted a new activity comment 6 months, 1 week ago

    Pleased you are ok and safe.
    Used to do lots of sea kyacking when I lived by the ocean, the sea/ocean can be very unforgiving!
    Rest up , and pleased that you were picked up xx

    • Yes @Watergirl and @Reena I am totally inexperienced! Had no idea things could turn to shit so quickly with what just looked like a bit of a wind come up. Sheesh! It was so bloody fierce out there, and when we got on the yacht and were higher up in the water, standing up the front of the yacht, we couldn’t believe how strong the wind was and how high the sea and that we had just paddled right across the harbour in it. Oops!! xo

  • Watergirl posted a new activity comment 6 months, 1 week ago

    You are one strong lady, but promise to practice self care and nurture yourself. Don’t beat yourself up about the slip on New Years- it happened – lesson learnt aye?
    Xx

  • Watergirl posted a new activity comment 6 months, 2 weeks ago

    Goodmorning @prudence. Thank you so much for having us and the lunch and nibbles you whipped up.. which we really weren’t expecting.
    Your home is so beautiful and so is the location and view is amazing and it’s so peaceful. (Brings back memories as a teenager- many weekends in Akaroa spent) .
    I just loved all the in-depth conversations we shared, who needs alcohol to enjoy each other’s company. Lovely to spend time @morgan and @begoodtomyself. I just love these friendships that have developed out of the LS site, it’s so enriching.
    I hope you get better soon, have a restful day, you need it . Thanks again xx

    • It was really great to see you @Watergirl and I was so pleased it was such a beautiful day. The time flew though, who ever thought 5 hours could go so quick!

  • Watergirl posted a new activity comment 6 months, 2 weeks ago

    I’d sleep on that if I was you…don’t complicate things by involving someone else… well I wouldn’t… that’s only a temporary fix, just like booze, which will then turn into a complication and a pile of shit.
    As you know booze won’t fix a dam thing, it will only exacerbate everything.
    Sleep well x

    • I agree with @watergirl 100%. Definitely don’t involve someone else. What’s weird is that I’m getting a lot of connection requests on various sites from military men lately. Not that you aren’t special, I’m just curious why it’s happening a lot more lately. I never ever accept anyone I do not know on Instagram or FB. On Linked In they have to have a few connections in common. It’s the smart thing to do – never know who these people are…

    • @watergirl and @sober4real you are correct!! I will just not reply and stay off Instagram kinda lay low. But I’m embarrassed I like the attention and I’m not line this AT ALL I am not. I am cracking (lol and true) And yes people are not what they truly are..I JYST talked about trust issues. Me guarding my heart. Well..now I feel like a fool once writing this out Grrrrr
      Signs I need to have self care and hibernate from all this chaos!!!
      @sober4real I just responded to ur post on your atepbrother and I am so sorry for this. My ❤ goes out to you

      • @iowadawn everyone needs those things, it’s not dumb silly. I’d just rather stay alone until I know it’s legit. I’m sorry you are sad about unofficial fiancé. It stinks when timing is off or things are overly complicated. Looking back when that happened to the man I loved more than anything I should have walked away- we could have been together now….but it wasn’t meant to be. Self care is important……I’m going to go get a few items like face mask, hair conditioner, candle, etc for the say goodbye to 2018 routine Sue K posted tomorrow night. Thanks on my brother. It is no fun.

      • Hey @Sober4real I hear ya. And I thank you! And I’ve been with unofficial fiance for 7 years and he’s a good man. My heart still skips a beat and my eyes light up when I see his name when he texts. He just texted “sleep Tight love you” The logical and mature side of me knows all what you are saying. And factor in my oversensitivity of assuming men (and face it..women too) will leave me. As my mom is the only person who loved(she died) unconditionally
        It is what it is I am working on this..yet I also am happy to say I am good in my own skin. I know I am a survivor and I don’t need a man to make me happy. But…when u truly love ..in my case..I want a happy ending ❤

      • @iowadawn I don’t advocate you giving up on that – no way! Just commit to it and then focus on you there is no other choice when you really love someone. I am so scared about my Mom dying as she is the only one left that loves me unconditionally too. I understand. I really do. You deserve a happy ending.

    • Watergirl is right, and of course, you know. Think about the loving text. Is there a meditation you like and can listen to? Calm the wild thoughts? And maybe plan a more sane workout – great to do exercise, but….
      Yes, wild racing thoughts… dangerous . Xxxx much love. I am likely to miss my man completely as he travels home via my city. Work has arisen, 24/7 stuff for me, and I doubt he will wait. I have to keep a grip on my mind and remember the huge changes he has revealed. Vulnerability I never thought I would see. Surprises occur.
      Talk tomorrow hon xxx

  • Watergirl posted a new activity comment 6 months, 2 weeks ago

    Goodmorning.
    I’m not drinking today because i know I would wake full of regret, anxiety , 2ndly – I have no desire to drink, 3rdly I want to be present and enjoy my day with my family and extended family .x

  • Watergirl posted a new activity comment 6 months, 3 weeks ago

    Well done, isn’t it just a great feeling. Merry Christmas xx

  • Watergirl posted a new activity comment 6 months, 3 weeks ago

    Hi @morgan, hey I will be down ini Chch from the 28th until the 7th of Jan.
    Would love to catch up , lunch or coffee.
    Are you going to be around in chch those dates hun? X

  • Watergirl posted a new activity comment 6 months, 3 weeks ago

    Merry Christmas to you. Xx

  • Watergirl posted a new activity comment 6 months, 3 weeks ago

    Yes it most certainly is, merry Christmas x

  • Watergirl posted a new activity comment 6 months, 3 weeks ago

    Merry Christmas to you x

  • Merry Christmas to you all. Wishing you a happy sober fun filled day.
    A few people looking abit weary (hungover) in this household. Pleased I’m not feeling that way and can enjoy and appreciate the day for what it is.
    Much love to you all xx

  • Watergirl posted a new activity comment 7 months ago

    Crickey! As others have said, a reflection of her own drinking problem. Truth be known she would looked bloody foolish yelling that out. !!
    Sounds like she needs help. Im sorry you had to go through that.
    Congratulations on your fifty days, you are a bloody legend. Xx

  • Watergirl posted a new activity comment 7 months, 2 weeks ago

    Just for today get through this. Have a cup of tea when you get home and go to bed early.
    It’s a lie re all the Mums enjoying their drinks. I have been watching someone very close to me whose “mum drinks” are starting to get out of hand.. ending up in screaming matches with friends, her husband and drink driving…
    Hang in there and stay sober, you won’t regret it tommorow x

  • Watergirl posted a new activity comment 7 months, 3 weeks ago

    Thanks @mrs-d, didn’t explain my self very well.
    What I’ve noticed that when on my phone, it’s really difficult or it’s not obvious where a new post and where the replies start- replies not indented like they are on a desk top. Photo all sorted thank you.
    Otherwise the site looks fabulous xx

  • Watergirl posted a new activity comment 7 months, 3 weeks ago

    Thanks Morgy xx

  • Watergirl posted a new activity comment 7 months, 3 weeks ago

    Thank you @joyy , happy Sunday to you too xx

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  • Loving the new site @mrs-d, thank you for all of you and Dan’s hard work. Just a bit of constuctive feedback, I’m finding it quite hard to read the feed easily, maybe it needs abit more contrast. Has it been designed to be mobile friendly, eg, I can’t see the logo properly, and as I type this on my phone, I can’t see the txt on both sides of the feed.
    Otherwise it looks fabulous. Many thanks xx

    • hi @watergirl you’re not the first to say it’s hard to read, will pass that on to see if this can be remedied. The logo is cut in half on the mobile version for some reason, Dan the techie is aware of this.. he will rectify. Not sure what you mean by ‘can’t see the txt on both sides of the feed’..? Also – don’t know why your profile pic isn’t showing.. could you try re-entering it on this new site, I’m thinking some pics didn’t come over from the old site for some reason….(but maybe it’s a bug.. if you could let me know if you’ve tried to put a new one in here and it still doesn’t show that’d be good) x

      • Thanks @mrs-d, didn’t explain my self very well.
        What I’ve noticed that when on my phone, it’s really difficult or it’s not obvious where a new post and where the replies start- replies not indented like they are on a desk top. Photo all sorted thank you.
        Otherwise the site looks fabulous xx

  • Watergirl posted a new activity comment 8 months ago

    Ironically as I scrolled down my feed having read this article, there was a photo of some acquaintances/friends having a girls weekend (school reunion) 5 of them along with a photo with 15 bottles of champagne in the fridge! – no judgement here though, I would have done the same a few years back. Pleased it’s not me. Very happy to moved on from there. Happy days everyone, stay sober And have a happy healthy weekend. Treat your body and mind like a temple, on that note I’m off for a swim. Love to you all xx

  • Watergirl posted an update 8 months ago

    Good morning all.
    Just sharing this article that arrived in my FB feed .. a good eye opener…… https://eu.usatoday.com/story/news/health/2018/11/16/alcohol-deaths-emergency-room-increase-middle-aged-women-addiction-opioids/1593347002/

    • Ironically as I scrolled down my feed having read this article, there was a photo of some acquaintances/friends having a girls weekend (school reunion) 5 of them along with a photo with 15 bottles of champagne in the fridge! – no judgement here though, I would have done the same a few years back. Pleased it’s not me. Very happy to moved on from there. Happy days everyone, stay sober And have a happy healthy weekend. Treat your body and mind like a temple, on that note I’m off for a swim. Love to you all xx

    • Really great, important article, thanks so much for sharing. I think it’s easy to forget the very real health effects when we are romanticizing the wine. Have a great weekend!

    • I see it being a trend in women I know. I told my friends that I want to go in a new, healthier direction for the last half of my life and they think Ilm nuts! Their view is the kids are gone, we’re settled in life-time to party up a storm! Wine and painting, wine and yoga, wine and shopping, and it’s time to drink before 5!

    • Wow that link was amazing thanks!

    • Wow, what an article. So much in there. Have a good swim, @watergirl.

  • Watergirl posted a new activity comment 8 months, 1 week ago

    Awesome @frog, great entertainment. Thank you xox

  • Watergirl posted a new activity comment 8 months, 1 week ago

    That is awesome on both accounts. Xx Bloody brilliant .

  • Watergirl posted a new activity comment 8 months, 2 weeks ago

    Oh yum, I’m loving your salad recipes. I have made that Thai dressing with the crushed peanuts a few times now, its a real hit with my sixteen year old daughter. Time to you wrote a cook book!
    Good luck with ACC today . and be strong like King Kong xx

  • Watergirl posted a new activity comment 8 months, 4 weeks ago

    Bit harsh Janus ? Xx

  • Watergirl posted a new activity comment 8 months, 4 weeks ago

    Hugs and love to you and Mrs Thor. Xx

    • Yep can’t and don’t want to imagine the pain of losing a sister. Thoughts are with you mr and mrs Thor .

  • Watergirl posted a new activity comment 8 months, 4 weeks ago

    Yes you will be emotionally drained. I hope you feel like eating now. .

    Ha, had to laugh about him txting re the pillow. Crickey he is certainly pushing it!! Haha, hope he has a terrible sleep with out his pillow tonight ……
    Sleep well hun. Xx

    • @watergirl I managed to put most of the weight back on in a week. It was horrible tho. Having to force food into an anxious stomach isnt easy. I think the most helpful thing was actually simple juice and I was putting 3 tspns of sugar into my coffees lol
      Didnt seem to matter how much fat i ate. It wasnt working. Sugar is definately a weight gainer for me more so than fat. Interesting really.

  • Watergirl posted a new activity comment 8 months, 4 weeks ago

    Just read your post from yesterday. Good the ex is finally moving out.
    You sound a bit chirpier.
    . I hope your weekend goes well – freedom xx

  • Hi @seedynomore, I have been thinking of you. How are Hun? Xx

    • Just read your post from yesterday. Good the ex is finally moving out.
      You sound a bit chirpier.
      . I hope your weekend goes well – freedom xx

    • Thank you @watergirl Ive just jumped into bed. Im exhausted really but feeling a little more relaxed than i have in a month. Ex is in his own place as of yesterday but let hinself in today while i was at work to take a few items. Not cool really
      Didnt even tell me he did that. Anyway tomorrow is the day he will be moving all of his things out so in going to make myself scarce until thats done. You know he texted me to ask if he could come get his pillow tonight haha. Seriously? Anyway i told him no, im exhausted ovet this whole thing, i have suffered enough and he can come get it tomorrow along with the rest. I seriously just don’t understand any if the last 4 weeks and his behaviour or lack of. He told me the other day he just wants things to run smoothly!! Omg I have granted him that but to my detriment. Why am i so nice?? Anyway im beginning to feel myself relax…finally thank god. Almost over. Just one more sleep. Thanks lovely. I must have heard your shout out cos i logged on here and there you were xx

      • This has been a long and arduous time aye, finally some headspace for you. I hope you know we all care @seedynomore . I will never frgt Takamatua and hope we catch up another time xo

        • Thanks @janus2 Ive missed you. Yeah this is the hardest thing ive ever been through and I think its because ive had to sit with the pain, nothing to numb it away. In all reality I am so proud of the way I have handled myself. No swearing or pleading or over reaction on my part though ive had to work so hard to contain it all. The very best thing is ive keot my self respect and behaved in an adult manner. Um maybe once he has moved everything out and paid for the carpet to be cleaned like he said i may let rip lol…na hes not worth it. Hope you are well lady xx

      • Yes you will be emotionally drained. I hope you feel like eating now. .

        Ha, had to laugh about him txting re the pillow. Crickey he is certainly pushing it!! Haha, hope he has a terrible sleep with out his pillow tonight ……
        Sleep well hun. Xx

        • @watergirl I managed to put most of the weight back on in a week. It was horrible tho. Having to force food into an anxious stomach isnt easy. I think the most helpful thing was actually simple juice and I was putting 3 tspns of sugar into my coffees lol
          Didnt seem to matter how much fat i ate. It wasnt working. Sugar is definately a weight gainer for me more so than fat. Interesting really.

      • Have an awesome weekend ! Peace at last for you! Good work re the pillow not being given back to the ex tonight! If you have a cat or dog let them sleep on it instead!

      • Just chuckling re your cat throwing up a fur ball on your exes pillow! Now that is an example of poetic justice and karma rolled into one. Hope you just left the fur ball to dry on it as a special goodbye!

    • Haha hope ya didn’t wash it.
      Make sure you get his key off him tomorrow. If you aren’t going to be there leave him a note to leave it somewhere. No way does he get to keep that. You are doing real fine. He and this relationship have been holding you back I reckon. You will love your new life once you get used to it. Hugs. Xox

      • Yep ive told him to leave all the keys on the table. As for my new life @prudence I am a bit scared of being lonely. I was terribly lonely before I met him xx

        • Oh @seedymore…just reading this. My heart goes out to you,friend! You are not ever alone. We are here and u are so so so strong and beautiful. Don’t forget

    • @seedynomore, can you change the locks or is that too much money? My ex kept coming by to get this and that, and finally said give me your key, the rest of the shit is mine. Bye. We are still friends, but enough is enough. thinking of you. hate the feelings you are feeling for you.

    • Hi dear @seedynomore, delighted he’s going and you will find some peace. “Whatever we resist, persists” as the saying goes…our hardest feelings are the ones we need to make peace with in some way, or at least learn to include, so they don’t rule us. That’s the truth I think, and it certainly feel grim facing into it, but, one thing I’ve noticed for myself is that the other side of those fears is unlike anything I could have imagined. That new space and the sense of freedom. Anyway this probably sounds like waffle. Sending love. Hope it’s the same beaut day there that it is here. xx

  • Watergirl posted a new activity comment 9 months ago

    Hi @seedynomore. Yes try and eat hun. It’s not good that you are feeling like that. Please try and see you Gp this week?
    The weekend will be over tomorrow. Yes I would try and keep your dignity, re texting the ex, write what you want to say to him on a peice of paper then burn it… it works wonders.!! I hope you get some sleep tonight hun. Take care and hugs to you xx

  • Watergirl posted a new activity comment 9 months ago

    Hi @seedynomore. Yes try and eat hun. It’s not good that you are feeling like that. Try and see you Gp this week?
    The weekend will be over tomorrow. Yes I would try and keep your dignity, re texting the ex, wrote what you want to say to him on a peice of paper then burn it… it works wonders. I hope you get some sleep tonight hun. Take care and hugs to you xx

  • Watergirl posted an update 9 months ago

    Goodmorning @seedynomore, how are you today, I have been thinking of you. Take good care of yourself xx

    • Thanks @watergirl I slept a bit better last night but still quite anxious. I jumped on the scales and ive dropped a ton of weight really fast so have been eating tablespoons of peanut buttter and porridge all morning. Not like thats going to help me immediately but I’m not looking so good. I feel like if I can focus on getting some weight back on then at least that is a distraction. Im up and dressed so thats a start. Finding it so hard to put one foot in front of the other but I won’t drink and I definately won’t let thoughts of ending my life take over. I have never ever felt this low before. Its got to be more than just my partner leaving me for someone else. This would not have affected me quite like this in the past. Something has definately chsnged within me. I just don’t know what! Thanks for caring watergirl xx

      • Hi @seedynomore. Yes try and eat hun. It’s not good that you are feeling like that. Try and see you Gp this week?
        The weekend will be over tomorrow. Yes I would try and keep your dignity, re texting the ex, wrote what you want to say to him on a peice of paper then burn it… it works wonders. I hope you get some sleep tonight hun. Take care and hugs to you xx

      • Hi @seedynomore. Yes try and eat hun. It’s not good that you are feeling like that. Please try and see you Gp this week?
        The weekend will be over tomorrow. Yes I would try and keep your dignity, re texting the ex, write what you want to say to him on a peice of paper then burn it… it works wonders.!! I hope you get some sleep tonight hun. Take care and hugs to you xx

    • Me to @seedynomore. Hope the low yesterday was actually a turning point. How are you sweetheart?

      • I havent reached my turning point yet @morgan Just trying to get through each hour at the moment without crumbling into a crying mess.

        • The worst part is trying to stop myself from sending him abusive texts. So close so many times but I cant because its a matter of maintaining my self respect

        • Oh hon, your warrior super woman is lurking there waiting to rise up xxxx be patient and she will arrive.
          Well done for not texting, absolutely no use, in fact he may feel better if getting those. Your dignified sorrow must be a killer to take.
          I think you are right about this being way more than about a worthless, nasty little cheat. (Hopeless in bed too remember)
          You deepest being, the part of us that we so often hide from, our inevitable aloneness and loss must be sensitized, awakened.
          Do you need to get your daughters to walk with you, hug you, go to a silly or beautiful film (not Stray). Gather people/a person to you.
          Keep eating that peanut butter! And bananas help with mood. Have you got multivits etc? You need the best nutrition to gain some strength.
          Sorry about another lecture. Ring if you want. ♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡

    • Rejection is an absolute mofo, both to deal with and for what it brings up from the depths. Sending love @seedynomore. You’re doing so well. Can you do something for yourself today? Drive out to see the Albatross? Seals at Sand Fly bay? xx

    • “And once the storm is over, you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won’t even be sure, whether the storm is really over. … When you come out of the storm, you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what this storm’s all about“ haruki marakami
      I am so sorry for this hard time @seedynomore

  • Watergirl posted a new activity comment 9 months ago

    Happy Birthday @mrs-d, have a lovely day xx

  • Watergirl posted a new activity comment 9 months ago

    Excellent read , thanks @enzedgirl. X

    • lol @eola i coined the term not long after i first joined and have used it ever since 🙂

      i’ve considered t-shirts but haven’t gotten round to it yet 😀

  • Watergirl posted a new activity comment 9 months ago

    Thanks @ro, making it tonight now. Got the limes.
    I’m always keen for low carb type salad ideas.
    Yes it’s an ongoing battle with ACC. I hope you get the outcome you want soon.
    Have a great day @Ro xx

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