• Vodcath posted a new activity comment 3 weeks ago

    Now you’re free😁scary at first but a relief to get it off your chest and that’s brave.my advice Now is find out where your local support groups are and talk to like minded people you’ll realise then you’re not so alone.Im proud of you I had to do this myself I was a teaching assistant x good luck

  • Vodcath posted a new activity comment 3 weeks ago

    I’m here for you stay strong

  • Vodcath posted a new activity comment 3 weeks ago

    Yeah!I’ll drink to that!a nice cup of tea 😁

  • Vodcath posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 1 day ago

    You can do this ❤️

  • Vodcath posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 1 day ago

    Stay strong you know the pitfalls.forwarned is forarmed 💪

  • Vodcath posted an update 3 weeks, 1 day ago

    So today I am 50 years old and I am happy to be alive and 2 weeks sober.love and happiness to everyone on this site today on my special day and always ❤️❤️❤️

  • Vodcath posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 2 days ago

    I too had all those sweats from everywhere!my face,legs,head…for about 6 days. I had anxiety,palpitations,crap sleep.But now on week 2 they have subsided and I feel so much better.We’ve all been there so don’t worry,easier said than done, I know,but I promise it will get better.Your bodies just ridding itself of that awful poison.good luck

    • God so I have another week or so of greasy gross sweats to go eeeewww!!!! But I guess all those toxins have to go sumwhere ! Thank u so much for taking time to help me and talk xx

  • Vodcath posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 2 days ago

    Hi hbnick well done on your 1month sobriety. I am from Manchester in England

  • Vodcath posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 2 days ago

    Well done

  • Vodcath posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 2 days ago

    It’s just your body going through a healing process.just rest and relax it will pass.Try some magnesium too.Good luck

    • Thank you for the reassurance … I will try magnesium as I used to take it and found it useful. Thanks again for the support 🙂

  • Vodcath posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 3 days ago

    Me too I nearly ended up under an express train in a blackout.moderation!ha!more like misery.Dont go there

  • Vodcath posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 3 days ago

    Great words on moderation.It just doesn’t work

  • Vodcath posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 3 days ago

    Happiness sent right back to you x

  • Vodcath posted an update 3 weeks, 3 days ago

    12 days sober today and happy and blessed to be alive.❤️

  • Vodcath posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 6 days ago

    Hi Heidi19 I’m doing good thanks glad to see you are too.day 9 for me let’s do this once and for all xxx

  • Vodcath posted a new activity comment 4 weeks, 1 day ago

    Thankyou Mrs D ❤️

  • Vodcath posted a new activity comment 4 weeks, 1 day ago

    Great list There’s no comparison 💕

  • Vodcath posted a new activity comment 4 weeks, 1 day ago

    Thanks Mari135 but I don’t even remember thinking it or trying to do it.Its like the alcahol cursed my thinking that’s whats scary and I still have no recollection of it.Without alcahol I am content and happy so it was a very out of character thing for me to do.mindblowing.Thankyou for your kind words ❤️

  • Vodcath posted a new activity comment 4 weeks, 1 day ago

    Thankyou lee for your kind words.how many rock bottoms does it take?This has been a real wake up call for me I could be dead ☹️Proud you’ve turned your life around after your rock bottom and inspiring me to do the same ❤️

  • Vodcath posted a new activity comment 4 weeks, 1 day ago

    Thanks buckeyeone I really believe that now

  • Vodcath posted a new activity comment 4 weeks, 1 day ago

    I know it’s really awakened me to a higher source looking out for me.no one should have been there ❤️Thanks jesss

  • Vodcath posted an update 4 weeks, 1 day ago

    Thanks everyone for your kind messages again. I am so grateful to be alive too. and glad to hear you can all relate and give me support. I found the man who saved me on Facebook and have thanked him so did my husband. I keep him updated every day now on how I m doing

    • Aww that’s really cool @vodcath. Your personal little angel👼.

      • I know it’s really awakened me to a higher source looking out for me.no one should have been there ❤️Thanks jesss

    • An angel looking after you. God saw that you were saved because he knows there are still many great things you can do for yourself, your family, friends, and even strangers. Grab hold of this opportunity and fly.

    • Glad to see you here @vodcath and hear that you are OK. I thought that I could moderate last year as well and ended up behind the wheel in a blackout. I hit someone from behind and fortunately no one was hurt. There are countless other bad things that have happened throughout the years, all alcohol related, of course. You’d mentioned another awful blackout experience 5 month ago. I can relate very well to your stories and they don’t change until we stop drinking. I’ve finally surrendered to the fact that I cannot drink and have any sort of peaceful, risk free and happy life. I have that now and am wishing you the same. I had to make a firm commitment to myself and devote time and effort into my recovery but it’s working. You can do this my friend! xo

      • Thankyou lee for your kind words.how many rock bottoms does it take?This has been a real wake up call for me I could be dead ☹️Proud you’ve turned your life around after your rock bottom and inspiring me to do the same ❤️

    • Just know it is not your fault. If you could, you’d press a button and feel ok.
      I have had many suicidal ideation waves in my life, and I know they will be back. It sounds like yours was an active ideation and I really want to encourage you to seek professional support this week. It can be such a lifeline. Had it not been for my therapist, I may have done worse to myself than I did, and I was already self-harming which can be indicative of future suicide attempts.
      I don’t want to die. I just want the suffering to stop.
      Therapy and/or medication can REALLY make a huge difference. I know so many people in my immediate circle who went through suicidal ideation and serious clinical depression. They all swear by getting professional help.

      You can do this.
      You will be ok.
      It won’t always be this bad or heavy or scary.

      oxoxoxoxoxoxoxxoxoxoxoxo

      • Thanks Mari135 but I don’t even remember thinking it or trying to do it.Its like the alcahol cursed my thinking that’s whats scary and I still have no recollection of it.Without alcahol I am content and happy so it was a very out of character thing for me to do.mindblowing.Thankyou for your kind words ❤️

    • You definitely had a beautiful angel on your shoulder……

  • Vodcath posted an update 1 month ago

    Thanks for all your kind messages yesterday. I walked to the shop bought vodka and drank it at a quiet railway station on a bench,mixing it with lucozade.Next thing I know I’m being whisked off to hospital because by some lucky chance a man saved me from jumping in front of an express train twice.He had to pull me to the ground and was left traumatised.The scary part is I don’t remember any of that or why I wanted to die. I would not be here today only for that man.God must have sent me an angel and that is why I’m getting rid of this demon drink once and for all. I choose life.Day 6 sober after that traumatic experience

    • JM replied 1 month ago

      Hi @Vodcath! Whew, what a relief!!! I’ve had some close calls, hitting my head hard on a street. And the fear of losing my own life helped to get me sober. Lots of great online resources here and on other sites. Annie Grace has great videos on youtube and a great book and site. xo

    • I am so glad you are here. oxoxoxoxo
      How is your support system like right now?

    • Wow, go easy on yourself right now! I’m right behind you,day 3 for me! Just don’t let me catch you up @vodcath!

    • My last drinking session left me hitting my head hard on concrete , vomit in my sleep , yes i could of choked to death . These are close calls . Drinking for us is like playing russian roulette .
      One day at a time . Never forget why you stopped and gather ALL the tools to stay sober . Oh yeah and drink water . xx

    • What’s the name of the man who saved your life (twice) @Vodacath? I’m sure your emergency support crew will kindly deliver a card on your behalf. If you also think that might be the right thing to do?

    • You are sure meant to be here … Lord… Take care, please

    • Im so glad u are here @vodcath. I’ve had some near death experiences too. Some self inflicted, others not. Again, so glad u are here.🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼

  • Vodcath posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    I feel exactly the same the anxiety is horrendous

  • Vodcath posted an update 1 month ago

    Well here I am back again after trying to moderate😩haha what a joke that was.Nearly lost my life and don’t even remember.Scary stuff.Anyway on day 5.I will never touch that poison again

    • Good for you for renewing your commitment. Sometimes we have to find out one more time if we can moderate or not. Once it’s sunk in that we simply cannot moderate, everything else falls into place. Glad you’re back!

    • Well done on getting right back up on that horse. Day 5, boom!
      I lapsed a few times after I convinced myself I can moderate…only I forgot I am an addict and can’t moderate.
      oxxoxoxo

    • @vodcath so glad you are back. What happened?

    • Shit. That doesn’t sound good. The key words there is “nearly lost”. Day 5 heading for another chance. Glad you’re back on the train.

    • Welcome back @vodcath

    • Shez replied 1 month ago

      @vodcath, with you on thinking I can moderate! Sorry to hear you had such a terrible experience, but good to hear you’re on day 5!! Good luck (as I enter day 1)….

    • glad you are able to be here with us again, @vodcath

  • Vodcath posted a new activity comment 5 months, 1 week ago

    Why not paint your own mountain.Get a blank canvas and paint and create your own,then every time you look at it,you’ll remember your climb and just how strong you are.x

    • Oh @vodcath what a great idea!!! I have creative ways but not much of a good drawer..yet I do live painting. And what great symbolism. Thank you!!☺

  • Vodcath posted a new activity comment 5 months, 2 weeks ago

    Well done Robyn for recognising just how deceitful and alluring alcahol is.Sometimes we need those lessons learnt as a reminder to keep us strong the next time temptation comes our way.Thanks for sharing

  • Vodcath posted a new activity comment 5 months, 2 weeks ago

    Food for thought I meant 😁

    • Hmm, you could be right @vodcath, definitely food for thought, I’ve tried to ask, but I always end up talking too much…I just wish he/men would just spit it out and say what they mean or want 🙄

  • Vodcath posted a new activity comment 5 months, 2 weeks ago

    My husbands the same!drinking every night he’s not at work.Maybe although they didn’t like us drinking they liked us crawling back to them after a binge. I think because I’m focusing on healing me he’s feeling left out. I don’t know,good for thought

  • Vodcath posted a new activity comment 5 months, 2 weeks ago

    Happy New Year Mrs D and thanks for this wonderful site I’d be lost without it

  • Vodcath posted a new activity comment 5 months, 2 weeks ago

    Lovely words of encouragement.thankyou.And yes a big shout out to each and everyone of us and Mrs D❤️Love you all too.Have a wonderful happy healthy sober 2019

  • Vodcath posted a new activity comment 5 months, 2 weeks ago

    Happy new year to you too LT18.We are all part of a wonderful community.Wishing you health and happiness for 2019

  • Vodcath posted a new activity comment 5 months, 2 weeks ago

    Well done Aprilaries on 155 days sober and for setting wonderful goals for the next 12 months.Happy New Year and I wish you health and happiness and many more good blessings to count. I totally agree with you about this site It’s priceless

  • Vodcath posted a new activity comment 5 months, 2 weeks ago

    Happy New Year soberstylist mine is just beginning.Going to be a quiet one at home on the sofa with hubby.Hope 2019 brings you health and happiness ❤️ Love right back at ya

  • Vodcath posted a new activity comment 5 months, 3 weeks ago

    Welcome JenB

  • Vodcath posted a new activity comment 5 months, 3 weeks ago

    We have all reached that bottom,that’s why we’re here.Now,the only way is up.Now you can start your recovery.Good luck you can do this

  • Vodcath posted a new activity comment 5 months, 3 weeks ago

    Hi Sara1988 you sound just like me at the start of this journey and I’m on day 23 now and my husband has drank nearly every night.My advice is just remember you’re doing this for your own health and well-being.Read lots of books on sobriety,rest,take a bath,go for a walk or drive,write a diary.Anything,just don’t pick up that first drink.Good luck

    • Thank you! It’s good to know that it is do-able. It’s not that my family are purposely trying to not help, but because their own drinking isn’t an issue, they’re not going to stop drinking or hide the alcohol etc. They will however stop offering me a drink if I ask them to. I do worry about holidays, birthdays, weekends and how to get through them without drinking… I stopped drinking for a year a few years ago, and then got to Christmas and relapsed in a big way.

      • @sara1988 is this your nuclear family (parents, siblings?) or husband and kids? Just curious as dynamics are different. I agree with @vodcath to do it for yourself and no matter what don’t pick up. If you need outside support with counseling or AA or whatever definitely do that. It can give you a bit more of a backbone when you really might need it. 🙂

      • Sorry that would help – I’ve moved back in with my parents and sister to save some money for a mortgage. Thing is, that’s probably going to take several years, so I need some advice on how to deal with the here and now 😊

      • @sara1988 that makes total sense. My daughter is doing the same thing right now. I think it’s almost harder with your nuclear family because we have these weird roles and stuff. Hopefully, you can just be strong and know you are doing it for yourself and no one else. When I think of it with my Dad it would have been easier to stay sober when I was mid 20’s early 30’s because he was getting so bad then. A real incentive not to drink at that time. Whatever works for you. I like Annie Grace’s podcasts online – she’s fantastic. You might check those out as well.

      • Thank you, I’ll check that out! I’ll try to start listening to podcasts in the car on my way to work rather than the radio 😊

  • Vodcath posted a new activity comment 5 months, 3 weeks ago

    Wow! Powerful words.thanks for sharing Cinderella

  • I went to an AA meeting tonight and when I came home my 24 year old son said he was proud of me for going to meetings😁I can’t tell you how much that meant to me.22 days sober today

  • Vodcath posted a new activity comment 5 months, 3 weeks ago

    I’m with all you soberistas NO ALCAHOL for me today

  • Vodcath posted a new activity comment 5 months, 3 weeks ago

    I am not drinking today so that I won’t wake up tomorrow full of sorrow and regret

  • Vodcath posted a new activity comment 5 months, 3 weeks ago

    Hi vhs13 and welcome.Withdrawel for me was night sweats an achy body and low tolerance.Taking a magnesium tablet helped with the aches.I also take vitamin c and I get thiamine from my doctor which is a B vitamin.I also suffered with anxiety and my doctor prescribed propranolol for that and I’m having some cognitive behaviour therapy. I have only been sober for 19 days but already I can feel a difference in my stress levels.Be kind to yourself and rest when you need to this will be one of the best gifts you can give yourself! A healthy mind and body.Get as much support as you can and try to remember whatever you go through it’s your body’s way of getting rid of all the toxins.Good luck and keep posting

  • Vodcath posted a new activity comment 5 months, 3 weeks ago

    Lovely prayer

  • Vodcath posted a new activity comment 5 months, 3 weeks ago

    Love and prayers sent your way.Take care Jes,you are not alone,we are all here for you ❤️

  • Vodcath posted a new activity comment 5 months, 3 weeks ago

    So happy for you.life can be much more rewarding without alcahol x

  • Vodcath posted a new activity comment 5 months, 3 weeks ago

    Merry Christmas Gilligan5323.Love your positivity

  • Vodcath posted a new activity comment 5 months, 3 weeks ago

    Merry Christmas Ladyjawke,just imagine how good we’re going to feel tomorrow with no poison in our systemxx

  • Vodcath posted a new activity comment 5 months, 3 weeks ago

    Thankyou Elizabeth66,you too xx

  • Vodcath posted a new activity comment 5 months, 3 weeks ago

    Thankyou,have a good Christmas xx

  • Vodcath posted a new activity comment 5 months, 3 weeks ago

    Thankyou,you tooxx

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