I have been sober for 6 weeks today after a binge that left me feeling anxious ashamed vulnerable and bruised with a broken big toe.I physically attacked my husband who I love dearly and who has given me chance after chance.Drinking turns me into someone I’m not,it makes me angry and defensive,this isn’t me.I am a nice person.I lost myself and want to make things right.Drinking does me no favours.I can’t have one drink because it leads to more and I don’t know when to stop it’s like driving a car with no brakes,I always crash and then feel anxious and guilty.I thought I suffered with anxiety and am prescribed propanalol for it but guess what?since abstaining from alcahol I haven’t had that knot in the pit of my stomach.I feel mentally and physically stronger.I feel content and calm and it’s only been 6 weeks.I am determined to never drink again
Well done Robyn for recognising just how deceitful and alluring alcahol is.Sometimes we need those lessons learnt as a reminder to keep us strong the next time temptation comes our way.Thanks for sharing
My husbands the same!drinking every night he’s not at work.Maybe although they didn’t like us drinking they liked us crawling back to them after a binge. I think because I’m focusing on healing me he’s feeling left out. I don’t know,good for thought
Well done Aprilaries on 155 days sober and for setting wonderful goals for the next 12 months.Happy New Year and I wish you health and happiness and many more good blessings to count. I totally agree with you about this site It’s priceless
Hi Sara1988 you sound just like me at the start of this journey and I’m on day 23 now and my husband has drank nearly every night.My advice is just remember you’re doing this for your own health and well-being.Read lots of books on sobriety,rest,take a bath,go for a walk or drive,write a diary.Anything,just don’t pick up that first drink.Good luck
Thank you! It’s good to know that it is do-able. It’s not that my family are purposely trying to not help, but because their own drinking isn’t an issue, they’re not going to stop drinking or hide the alcohol etc. They will however stop offering me a drink if I ask them to. I do worry about holidays, birthdays, weekends and how to get through them…[Read more]
@sara1988 is this your nuclear family (parents, siblings?) or husband and kids? Just curious as dynamics are different. I agree with @vodcath to do it for yourself and no matter what don’t pick up. If you need outside support with counseling or AA or whatever definitely do that. It can give you a bit more of a backbone when you really might need it. 🙂
Sorry that would help – I’ve moved back in with my parents and sister to save some money for a mortgage. Thing is, that’s probably going to take several years, so I need some advice on how to deal with the here and now 😊
@sara1988 that makes total sense. My daughter is doing the same thing right now. I think it’s almost harder with your nuclear family because we have these weird roles and stuff. Hopefully, you can just be strong and know you are doing it for yourself and no one else. When I think of it with my Dad it would have been easier to stay sober when I was…[Read more]
Hi vhs13 and welcome.Withdrawel for me was night sweats an achy body and low tolerance.Taking a magnesium tablet helped with the aches.I also take vitamin c and I get thiamine from my doctor which is a B vitamin.I also suffered with anxiety and my doctor prescribed propranolol for that and I’m having some cognitive behaviour therapy. I have only b…[Read more]
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