• I was feeling pretty down about myself earlier. Ive gained 10lbs in the past couple months. Note to myself and others at the beginning of sobriety; stay away from the scale for a while. It really threw me in to a “fuck it” kind of attitude… BUT! I held on to sobriety today. I let myself feel like trash for longer than I should have. Then I treated myself to a brow wax and mini facial in my bathroom. I ate a healthy dinner and now I’m sitting on the couch with a mug of chai tea. And you know what? I FEEL lighter. Like physically skinnier lol I know that’s crazy, but it’s true. I took my shitty attitude and forced myself to do something other than wallow and here I am a couple hours later not feeling hopeless anymore. The bad moments pass. Hang tough everyone. ✌️ We can do this!

    • Your insides will be so much healthier too.

    • Good job! I bought ingredients to make homemade high protein granola bars to go with my protein water for the morning. I’m going to stop this scale in its tracks.

    • Ah..Thanks. I needed this on a Friday..feeling somewhat isolated and lonely..and realized my body just tired so don’t want to do anything. Really feeling homesick tonight, for friends and family back home. Realize that oftentimes when I am tired I do feel depressed. On the weight loss journey as well and seem to be plateaus but I can feel my body has changed with more muscle. So..let’s just celebrate the benefits of our s ok bet life and these down moments should be fleeting!

    • Yes we can do this! I love your proactive attitude-less wallowing and more positive action-that will be my motto for today. Thanks x

    • Hey there, don’t beat yourself up, look how far you have come! Reflect on all the positives of not drinking (which I’m sure you have done!) It takes a while for our hormones to adjust and sometimes their levels can be completely out of whack making us gain a bit instead losing it. If you can go and get a hormone level test may help you understand your body. Might be fluid too, carbs like bread, rice and pasta all hold a heap of water within our bodies.
      I’ve always said scales are for fish! Doesn’t reflect on what’s going on inside us. Have a great weekend x

    • Brilliant brilliant brilliant!!
      Just had a lovely footbath and got a few things done. Feels so good.
      The simple things.

    • That’s really great @Tryingsobriety! You’ll look + feel great tomorrow too. : )

  • TryingSobriety posted a new activity comment 1 year, 10 months ago

    @kate23, I would love to talk more about the “30 day increments”. I’ve only tried that once. Did you ever finish reading Girl Walks Out Of a Bar? It talks about making goals. Anywho, yes! to emailing. I’m tagging @mrs-d and will also email her to exchange emails with you! This makes me so happy!

  • TryingSobriety posted a new activity comment 1 year, 10 months ago

    @kate23 there are many different degrees of “embarrassment” when it comes to the morning after. I do know what you mean, but I got to a point where I ALWAYS felt embarrassed when I woke up and I would torture myself about it only to realize that I didn’t actually do anything outwardly embarrassing. I hope that’s the case with you ❤️ And if not!… you’re absolutely right; family matters. Our insecurities, fears, and internal thoughts all come out when we’re drinking… take these times to reflect on the root of what caused the “embarrassing” part of your night and use it to reflect, make changes, and heal from it. I think you’re an amazing mother and wife for just being on here constantly working towards a healthier, happier YOU! Did we ever exchange emails through Mrs. D? If not we need to do so. If we did, I will get your emails a lot easier than searching for your replies on here. (Sorry, my short term memory is shit after abusing alcohol for 12+ years)

    • Yes! Let’s exchange emails! That would be great! I am doing this sobriety thing in 30 day increments. So, I did my 30 initial days, and then knew I was going to be in a situation where it would be hard to turn down alcohol. So I figured I would do another 30 after. I’m not drinking around my kids, so that’s huge! I was just embarrassed because we were with friends I hadn’t seen in years. I really didn’t want them so see me wasted. I’m just worried I looked like an idiot drunk. It also makes me so sad that I wasted an entire day (beautiful fall day) hung over. But I’m pretty much over it now. I am committed to these next 30 days and hopefully I will feel as great at the end of these 30 as I did at the end of the last, and not even want to drink. Let’s definitely exchange emails! It will be so much easier to communicate and support each other through this if we can email!

      • @kate23, I would love to talk more about the “30 day increments”. I’ve only tried that once. Did you ever finish reading Girl Walks Out Of a Bar? It talks about making goals. Anywho, yes! to emailing. I’m tagging @mrs-d and will also email her to exchange emails with you! This makes me so happy!

    • I’m kind of creating my own way to deal with my issues with alcohol. The idea of giving it up forever just seems so hard and sad to me. When I’m with just my husband, and we’re on vacation, I’m fine with it. And we have a great, carefree time after a few drinks. So that makes it hard for me to give it up completely at this point. My plan is, I give it up for 15, 30, (eventually) 60 days at a time. My hope is that eventually I will come to the point that I just don’t want to start back again. But this way, I’m totally reducing the amount I drink. Cutting out the environment that triggers me, because I have to find other ways to socialize or get through I comfortable situations during my 30, 60 days. So at least if I don’t cut out the booze completely, I am cutting waaaay down and just being more healthy mentally.

      • It’s working so far. Aside from the fact that I drank way too much last weekend. But I also had extra stressors. So I’m trying so hard to not beat myself up about it. It’s kind of about fixing my emotional issues. Taking the focus away from “youcant drink anymore” or “you have an alcohol problem” to “let’s fix all this emotional stuff”. I’m switching the narrative in my mind. Or trying to. 🙂

  • TryingSobriety posted a new activity comment 1 year, 10 months ago

    @prudence, I’m not counting days this time around. (Haven’t figured out if that’s a good idea or not yet lol) but I’m right around 2 weeks. Thanks to years of drinking my memory is shit, but yes the clarity of my mornings are amazing now! I can wake up with 30 minutes to spare before work and not have to worry about showering off the booze from the night before. No more waking up at 3am then tossing and turning for hours checking the clock wondering if I’ll be sober when the alarm goes off.

  • TryingSobriety posted a new activity comment 1 year, 10 months ago

    @kate23 im glad you jumped right back on the wagon after your slip up! That takes a lot! I’m also glad to hear from you! You’re doing amazing! So you’re past 1 month with one slip up! That’s fantastic!

    • Thank you! Why don’t I come on here more! It’s just the greatest place to get support! It was a pretty bad slip. I hadn’t drank in so long and was so stressed about leaving my kids for the weekend that……we’ll, I probably don’t even need to tell you what happened

  • TryingSobriety posted a new activity comment 1 year, 10 months ago

    OMG yes @kayjay29! Arent we all! lol

  • TryingSobriety posted a new activity comment 1 year, 10 months ago

    @eschia I love all of the different viewpoints on this topic! I realize we don’t have to choose one way to approach this! That makes me feel more flexible when approaching it in conversation, without downplaying the severity of it and the importance staying sober. I love flexibility!

  • @kate23, I haven’t seen anything from you lately! Check in, you lovely human! *hugs!

    • Hi @tryingsobriety! Thank you for checking in! I am sober! I slipped this weekend, after 31 days. But I’m back at 4 or 5 days. I’m sorry I haven’t been on as much! I will do better! I like checking in with you, especially since you’re back!! If you’re back, I need to come back!!

      • @kate23 im glad you jumped right back on the wagon after your slip up! That takes a lot! I’m also glad to hear from you! You’re doing amazing! So you’re past 1 month with one slip up! That’s fantastic!

        • Thank you! Why don’t I come on here more! It’s just the greatest place to get support! It was a pretty bad slip. I hadn’t drank in so long and was so stressed about leaving my kids for the weekend that……we’ll, I probably don’t even need to tell you what happened

    • @kate23 there are many different degrees of “embarrassment” when it comes to the morning after. I do know what you mean, but I got to a point where I ALWAYS felt embarrassed when I woke up and I would torture myself about it only to realize that I didn’t actually do anything outwardly embarrassing. I hope that’s the case with you ❤️ And if not!… you’re absolutely right; family matters. Our insecurities, fears, and internal thoughts all come out when we’re drinking… take these times to reflect on the root of what caused the “embarrassing” part of your night and use it to reflect, make changes, and heal from it. I think you’re an amazing mother and wife for just being on here constantly working towards a healthier, happier YOU! Did we ever exchange emails through Mrs. D? If not we need to do so. If we did, I will get your emails a lot easier than searching for your replies on here. (Sorry, my short term memory is shit after abusing alcohol for 12+ years)

      • Yes! Let’s exchange emails! That would be great! I am doing this sobriety thing in 30 day increments. So, I did my 30 initial days, and then knew I was going to be in a situation where it would be hard to turn down alcohol. So I figured I would do another 30 after. I’m not drinking around my kids, so that’s huge! I was just embarrassed because we were with friends I hadn’t seen in years. I really didn’t want them so see me wasted. I’m just worried I looked like an idiot drunk. It also makes me so sad that I wasted an entire day (beautiful fall day) hung over. But I’m pretty much over it now. I am committed to these next 30 days and hopefully I will feel as great at the end of these 30 as I did at the end of the last, and not even want to drink. Let’s definitely exchange emails! It will be so much easier to communicate and support each other through this if we can email!

        • @kate23, I would love to talk more about the “30 day increments”. I’ve only tried that once. Did you ever finish reading Girl Walks Out Of a Bar? It talks about making goals. Anywho, yes! to emailing. I’m tagging @mrs-d and will also email her to exchange emails with you! This makes me so happy!

      • I’m kind of creating my own way to deal with my issues with alcohol. The idea of giving it up forever just seems so hard and sad to me. When I’m with just my husband, and we’re on vacation, I’m fine with it. And we have a great, carefree time after a few drinks. So that makes it hard for me to give it up completely at this point. My plan is, I give it up for 15, 30, (eventually) 60 days at a time. My hope is that eventually I will come to the point that I just don’t want to start back again. But this way, I’m totally reducing the amount I drink. Cutting out the environment that triggers me, because I have to find other ways to socialize or get through I comfortable situations during my 30, 60 days. So at least if I don’t cut out the booze completely, I am cutting waaaay down and just being more healthy mentally.

        • It’s working so far. Aside from the fact that I drank way too much last weekend. But I also had extra stressors. So I’m trying so hard to not beat myself up about it. It’s kind of about fixing my emotional issues. Taking the focus away from “youcant drink anymore” or “you have an alcohol problem” to “let’s fix all this emotional stuff”. I’m switching the narrative in my mind. Or trying to. 🙂

  • TryingSobriety posted a new activity comment 1 year, 10 months ago

    @JM I didn’t end up napping, but i took a minute wrapped in a blanket to just breathe and recharge my brain. Now I’m on the go again. I will definitely sleep well tonight and who knows, maybe tomorrow after my 8am client and before my 3pm clients i will end up really needing that nap! Thanks for your input as always!

  • TryingSobriety posted a new activity comment 1 year, 10 months ago

    That is so true @prudence! We are pretty awesome! Especially since a majority of us KEEP TRYING no matter how many times we cave to the temptations!

    • Too right @tryingsobriety but I reckon the trick is not to try it, as that always leaves the door open, just decide, then do it. It’s so flipping great when the trying is over and you are living totally free of it. I can’t remember where you are at, how many days have you clocked up? Don’t ya just love the clarity that comes with being off it for a good stretch, that is what is amazing for me, I really love it xo

    • @prudence, I’m not counting days this time around. (Haven’t figured out if that’s a good idea or not yet lol) but I’m right around 2 weeks. Thanks to years of drinking my memory is shit, but yes the clarity of my mornings are amazing now! I can wake up with 30 minutes to spare before work and not have to worry about showering off the booze from the night before. No more waking up at 3am then tossing and turning for hours checking the clock wondering if I’ll be sober when the alarm goes off.

  • TryingSobriety posted a new activity comment 1 year, 10 months ago

    That makes so much sense. I don’t think negatively about the term either. Its really nice to have alternative ways to refer to it whether for ourselves or others 🙂

  • TryingSobriety posted a new activity comment 1 year, 10 months ago

    @JM, @sobermomm1013, and @soberheart I decided to lie down and listen to a head space meditation for 5 minutes… At the end I made myself get back up and see how i felt. I felt refreshed enough to jump in the shower and now I’m feeling like getting a few things done. It was only 11am when i wanted to take a nap so i probably would have been ok to sleep tonight. After napping at 7pm last night i know later naps aren’t going to work for me lol Thanks for your input guys! I just need to get in to my new sober groove. XO

  • Woke up, checked in on here, worked out, ate breakfast… and I’m ready for a nap at 11am. Ugh. Being out of shape sucks. I’m not sure if I should give in and nap or power through it.

  • TryingSobriety posted a new activity comment 1 year, 10 months ago

    That was very well put. I think I’m happy (for today) not labeling myself an alcoholic. Like i said in the original post, its just mincing words. But for today, at this moment, not using the label makes me feel lighter. Tomorrow may be a different story. Tomorrow being the weekend, may bring on urges strong enough that i will need to use that label to remind myself how serious this is. I think its great either way, as long as we are using however we identify our relationships with alcohol as motivation to stay clear of it! You are all kick ass friends to travel this road with @wvlheel @sobermommy1013 @R51! Hugs to you all!

  • TryingSobriety posted a new activity comment 1 year, 10 months ago

    Thats so very true. I can absolutely see that perspective. By saying “I’m an alcoholic” you are owning that title and the accountability that comes along with it. Saying, “Im a problem drinker” may leave room for excuses. It doesn’t come right out and call it what it is; a disease. I like your viewpoint a lot @sobermommy1013.

  • TryingSobriety posted a new activity comment 1 year, 10 months ago

    That will be an interesting article to read in its entirety! I have to get moving this morning, or ill never get my planned workout it, but just reading through the first paragraph already has my brain working overtime. Side note; how awesome is it that waking up hangover free allows me the ability to work my brain “overtime” at 8am? ha ha!)
    Believing to a degree that everyone who drinks is on the spectrum of addiction. That makes some sense for a few reasons. Why would anyone who can “control” their drinking get intoxicated? Knowing the morning hangover feeling isn’t appealing to anyone. So, just taking that in to consideration; their drinking is actually not in as much control as they think it is, or they’re purposely drinking to lose control, which opens up a whole new subcategory ha ha! Are they running from something? As a society have we just been taught that we can’t have fun without intoxication?
    My grandpa has always had a cabinet full of liquor. not once has anyone (including my mother and her siblings) ever seen him drink more than 2 “two finger” glasses in a day. And it wasn’t everyday. Im talking after dinner cards, holidays, birthday parties, etc. I can remember him being offered a third glass (or sometimes just the second one for that matter) and him saying something like, “oh no no. Thats enough for me. Any more and it will get me.” Now, that is someone who has control of his drinking… but! he also knew and completely accepted that he had a limit before he would feel he wasn’t controlling it, so he stuck to it religiously. Thanks for sharing that article @wvlheel. Ill be getting back to it a little later.

  • TryingSobriety posted a new activity comment 1 year, 10 months ago

    The part you left out is the most important thing about your post… WHAT KIND OF ICE CREAM?! ha ha ha! Good for you passing on that wine! Thats very encouraging!

  • Good morning! Good morning! I heard something this morning that got me considering the reasons some people don’t like the label “alcoholic”. “I am an alcoholic”. The “I am” part is where the problem lies. YOU are not an alcoholic. You are experiencing alcohol addiction. By labeling it as “I am” you are saying “this is me” and in some ways that takes away the opportunity to deal with the root causes and grow from it. Hmmm… It makes sense. I still don’t have a problem with using the term “alcoholic”, but I can definitely see the appeal of not having that label for myself stuck in my own head. Its really just mincing words in my opinion, but when I’m in a situation someday where someone asks me why i don’t drink anymore (if i want to be completely honest with them); or if someone reaches out to me with concerns about their own drinking habits, “Ive experienced alcohol addiction in the past” has a certain charm to it compared to, “I’m an alcoholic”. ha ha! Anyway, thats whats on my mind this morning. Coffee in hand, maybe a quick haunted house show (i love everything paranormal lol) before my day really gets going! @kate23, i haven’t seen anything from you for a few days. Hope all is well!

    • I liked this explanation. I don’t accept the label for me but it works for some people. There are many shades of grey in this experience.

      http://www.hipsobriety.com/home/2014/12/16/my-name-is-holly-and-im-not-an-alcoholic-because-no-one-is

      • That will be an interesting article to read in its entirety! I have to get moving this morning, or ill never get my planned workout it, but just reading through the first paragraph already has my brain working overtime. Side note; how awesome is it that waking up hangover free allows me the ability to work my brain “overtime” at 8am? ha ha!)
        Believing to a degree that everyone who drinks is on the spectrum of addiction. That makes some sense for a few reasons. Why would anyone who can “control” their drinking get intoxicated? Knowing the morning hangover feeling isn’t appealing to anyone. So, just taking that in to consideration; their drinking is actually not in as much control as they think it is, or they’re purposely drinking to lose control, which opens up a whole new subcategory ha ha! Are they running from something? As a society have we just been taught that we can’t have fun without intoxication?
        My grandpa has always had a cabinet full of liquor. not once has anyone (including my mother and her siblings) ever seen him drink more than 2 “two finger” glasses in a day. And it wasn’t everyday. Im talking after dinner cards, holidays, birthday parties, etc. I can remember him being offered a third glass (or sometimes just the second one for that matter) and him saying something like, “oh no no. Thats enough for me. Any more and it will get me.” Now, that is someone who has control of his drinking… but! he also knew and completely accepted that he had a limit before he would feel he wasn’t controlling it, so he stuck to it religiously. Thanks for sharing that article @wvlheel. Ill be getting back to it a little later.

    • I think there is a certain stigma people see when they hear the word alcoholic. Perhaps it’s the bum in the street w/ his brown paper bag, or the person stumbling into or out of a bar at 10:30am. I personally have no issue with the word and label myself freely an alcoholic. I find the word freeing and empowering. It’s not easy to admit it, because once that word leaves your lips, you can’t really take it back. You are not someone who enjoys too much wine, you are not someone who got carried away at a party over the weekend. You are someone who cannot control your alcohol consumption and your life has become utterly unmanageable while you drink. To me, that is an alcoholic. Saying it out loud has helped free myself from going back to just being a ‘problem drinker’.

      • Thats so very true. I can absolutely see that perspective. By saying “I’m an alcoholic” you are owning that title and the accountability that comes along with it. Saying, “Im a problem drinker” may leave room for excuses. It doesn’t come right out and call it what it is; a disease. I like your viewpoint a lot @sobermommy1013.

    • Hmmm. Now you have me thinking.
      1. I am a child of God.
      2. I am a woman – who wants to be best me I can be
      3. I am a wife of 27 years – who wants to be the best wife I can be
      4. I am a mother of 4 – who wants to be the best mom I can be
      5. I am a Daughter, Sister, Friend, Neighbor, etc. etc. etc. etc.

      For me personally (ONLY), in my case it’s not best for me to label myself an alcoholic. Yes. A nasty habit turned SUPERNASTY. Hourly on a daily basis I am figuring this nasty booze boss out and putting in the work for the how’s and why’s I ended up where I am with it. It’s a long haul and process. Unpeeling layer by layer like a onion. As much as alcohol ruined so much of my life and relationships it isn’t who I am.

      Good luck to all of us on this journey!! It’s not what we call ourselves that matter as much as the daily grind of being our best, authentic self. Happy, sad, cranky, elated, nervous, anxious, calm, content, etc. Whatever feelings we are having we know they are authentic and not booze induced and we certainly will remember them to learn from and grow with. And we certainly won’t add alcohol related shame/regret/guilt/remorse, etc!

      Thanks for sharing my LS friends. You all are certainly making this AF go-round MUCH easier then trying to bear it all alone.

      • That was very well put. I think I’m happy (for today) not labeling myself an alcoholic. Like i said in the original post, its just mincing words. But for today, at this moment, not using the label makes me feel lighter. Tomorrow may be a different story. Tomorrow being the weekend, may bring on urges strong enough that i will need to use that label to remind myself how serious this is. I think its great either way, as long as we are using however we identify our relationships with alcohol as motivation to stay clear of it! You are all kick ass friends to travel this road with @wvlheel @sobermommy1013 @R51! Hugs to you all!

    • And after all, “it’s really bad for my health” is a strong, true, unloaded answer – except given the dangers of even ultra moderate drinking, ‘it is really bad for OUR health ‘is far more accurate.
      “I’m cutting my risk for breast and brain cancer ” is a good way to shut up those wanting to label us 😉

    • Hi again @TryingSobriety. I responded to your post above, maybe you had a good nap. I really like this – I’ve never liked the term ‘alcoholic’, I like your phrase much better. x

      • @JM I didn’t end up napping, but i took a minute wrapped in a blanket to just breathe and recharge my brain. Now I’m on the go again. I will definitely sleep well tonight and who knows, maybe tomorrow after my 8am client and before my 3pm clients i will end up really needing that nap! Thanks for your input as always!

      • For me, saying I am an alcoholic takes the prettiness out of it. Alcoholism comes in many different forms and I’d like to see the riddance of the stigma attached to it. I need raw honesty when it comes to my addictions and using the word, “alcoholic” is strong, raw, undeniable and powerful for me. It keeps me from being an active alcoholic. While I don’t use the word when describing myself in casual conversation, I find I must when speaking with others in recovery. For me, it keeps me honest.

        • @eschia I love all of the different viewpoints on this topic! I realize we don’t have to choose one way to approach this! That makes me feel more flexible when approaching it in conversation, without downplaying the severity of it and the importance staying sober. I love flexibility!

    • Thanks for this. I bristle and feel unsettled when I tell someone I am not drinking and they ask if I am an alcoholic. The term does not work for me. I am so much more…when I don’t drink, I am better, healthier, sharper, more attractive, wittier, wiser…. I am all those things.

    • I don’t think less of myself or anybody else who is an alcoholic. I can call myself an alcoholic, and around other alcoholics, there is understanding. The problem is that the term has a history. I have a hunch that my boys don’t like to think of their Dad as an alcoholic. It’s just as easy for me to say that my drinking started to accelerate, so I decided to just stop it entirely. Then, they don’t have to deal with the label. The important thing is that I never forget that I really did need to stop, and that things were spiraling dangerously out of control.

      • That makes so much sense. I don’t think negatively about the term either. Its really nice to have alternative ways to refer to it whether for ourselves or others 🙂

    • I used to smoke. I used to do cocaine when I was young, and smoke dope and take acid and ecstacy. I used to drink. I do not consider myself an anything “aholic” because I gave them all up!! That is what I disagree with about AA – the way they say you’ve got a disease that you will have for life. While I realise I need to have a healthy respect for the pull of tobacco, drugs and alcohol, my past use of them does not define me at all. I think my past use of them was rather character building actually, until it wasn’t! I just say to people “No thank you, I don’t drink”. If they push it and ask questions I borrow a line from @Mrs-D and say “all the cool people are getting osber these days”. If they continue to push it I say something like “Yeah well like most things I love, I loved too much” haha. End of story. Keep it simple. Like you’ve said, it’s the way we feel about ourselves that counts. And what I think we should feel like is conquerers! We have conquered addiction, we are heros and winners who happen to appreciate our lives and our feedom just that little bit more than most. Go us!! xoxo

      • That is so true @prudence! We are pretty awesome! Especially since a majority of us KEEP TRYING no matter how many times we cave to the temptations!

        • Too right @tryingsobriety but I reckon the trick is not to try it, as that always leaves the door open, just decide, then do it. It’s so flipping great when the trying is over and you are living totally free of it. I can’t remember where you are at, how many days have you clocked up? Don’t ya just love the clarity that comes with being off it for a good stretch, that is what is amazing for me, I really love it xo

        • @prudence, I’m not counting days this time around. (Haven’t figured out if that’s a good idea or not yet lol) but I’m right around 2 weeks. Thanks to years of drinking my memory is shit, but yes the clarity of my mornings are amazing now! I can wake up with 30 minutes to spare before work and not have to worry about showering off the booze from the night before. No more waking up at 3am then tossing and turning for hours checking the clock wondering if I’ll be sober when the alarm goes off.

    • Hi @tryingsobriety ooohh you picked a goid topic to post about! I like the way you put that and also saying it in past tense… because after all if you dont drink alcohol then its not a problem 🙂 so ex-drinker is how I think of it. I used to drink too much and it caused me problems because I had a hangover most days and I was not fully present most nights, and so I didnt get as much out of life as I do now. Now I dont drink I dont have those problems any more. Thank goodness! 🙂 If I drink again then I will have those same problems again, I know that, and so I choose to be sober. Whichever way you choose to frame it, its fine if it truly helps you to live a full and free life. I believe there is no right or wrong in this… whatever works for each person is their ‘right’ Xx

  • TryingSobriety posted a new activity comment 1 year, 10 months ago

    I like the enthusiasm!

  • Another sober day in the books (still not really counting the days). I went to sleep at 7pm and woke up at 9:45pm… going to bed early to avoid alcohol might not be for me lol. I really wanted a glass of jack after my husband went to bed… instead I drove down to the liquor store (little risky) and grabbed a pack of smokes. I decided to quit that habit the day before yesterday and realized tonight that it might be too much too soon. I smoked a couple cigarettes, brewed some tea and finished reading A Girl Walks Out of a Bar. Now the sleepiness is creeping back in and the urge to drink has passed. I’ll be bright eyed and well rested in the morning, ready to get a good workout in when I wake up. I’d love suggestions for what to read next. Happy sober day and a big AF cheers, friends!

  • TryingSobriety posted a new activity comment 1 year, 10 months ago

    Wow! There’s no way I would have been fine watching people share a bottle of wine in week one… or possibly now. Use that as encouragement for the weekend! Boozing just isn’t for you anymore and you’re happy with that.

  • TryingSobriety posted a new activity comment 1 year, 10 months ago

    That was a perfect post to read at the end of my work day! ❤️❤️ Have a fabulous night!

  • TryingSobriety posted a new activity comment 1 year, 10 months ago

    @mari135 it’s really unbelievable how much self loathing comes with addiction. Ive known it for a long time, but I think I had kind of resigned myself to “well, this is just who I am now. I’m gross and ugly and such a loser”. But along with sobriety comes the realization we aren’t any of those things. That’s how the poisonous boozing makes us feel on the inside and in our own eyes we see it reflected in the mirror. I’ve been trying hard not to obsess over my too round face or extra belly fat in the mirror since I stopped drinking. I had to give myself a break from the self punishment. I’m not going to get over excited because every day is different and I know I just need to count my blessings and focus on my HEALTH. Everything will fall in to place after that. Keep your head up! I’m so happy to have an LS friend like you! ❤️

  • TryingSobriety posted a new activity comment 1 year, 10 months ago

    An AF cheers to our health @synchrony!

  • TryingSobriety posted a new activity comment 1 year, 10 months ago

    Ah yes! I had the exact same thought this morning about not being hungover and in a rush. I wasn’t actually in a rush this morning which is ultimately what made me think of it. Getting moving in a timely fashion hungover is so hard.

  • TryingSobriety posted a new activity comment 1 year, 10 months ago

    Thank you! I’m not sure “proud” has been reintroduced in to the vocabulary of how i feel about myself yet, but ill get there!

  • TryingSobriety posted a new activity comment 1 year, 10 months ago

    And look at you! One year right around the corner! Good going to you too!

  • Last night was probably one of the most “normal” feeling nights I’ve had in a while. After receiving a huge confidence boost from a client in the morning my day flew by. Fast forward to 8pm, standing in front of my bathroom mirror; I think its the first time in a long time i didn’t roll my eyes or make some sort of disgusted sound while looking at myself. I even thought about pulling out the old fake tan bottles and really getting my glow on… I’m not ready for that though lol I just want to feel like my entire body is breathing and detoxifying.
    Its so true that getting sober is a PROCESS. I have done 30+ days in the past without drinking and didn’t mentally feel anywhere near as healthy as i do now at 2-ish weeks. Every sober stint for me has been a learning experience and has gotten me closer to making it permanent.

    • Good going! I began with a four month challenge and am so happy to be still going. Drinking is boring!

    • @tryingsobriety – hold onto those good feelings when you start to feel yourself slipping. You are doing amazingly well and I hop you are proud of yourself!

    • Lovely to hear, @tryingsobriety!

    • I feel the same way!! I’ve done 30 and 42 day detox diets without drinking but because I wasn’t focusing on the not drinking because its a problem I didn’t grow from it, I just white knuckled my way through it. So much different this time. Day 28 and I’m going strong, just got back into my makeup and actually doing my hair instead of messy buns. I didn’t realize how much I let my physical appearance slide. Here’s to being healthy on the inside and out!

    • Love this post @tryingsobriety!

    • standing in front of my bathroom mirror; I think its the first time in a long time i didn’t roll my eyes or make some sort of disgusted sound while looking at myself.

      oxxoxox

      That had me instantly in tears. It’s what I did several times this week alone, and it makes me sad. Why would I treat myself like that? oxoxoxox

      Thanks for this amazingly raw and authentic post. I needed to read this. I’ll make sure to send that lady in the mirror tonight a gentle smile and approving pat on the back when I brush her teeth.

      oxxoxoxo

      Congratulations on the amazing self-compassion, self-care, and resilience. You are on your way girl.

      • @mari135 it’s really unbelievable how much self loathing comes with addiction. Ive known it for a long time, but I think I had kind of resigned myself to “well, this is just who I am now. I’m gross and ugly and such a loser”. But along with sobriety comes the realization we aren’t any of those things. That’s how the poisonous boozing makes us feel on the inside and in our own eyes we see it reflected in the mirror. I’ve been trying hard not to obsess over my too round face or extra belly fat in the mirror since I stopped drinking. I had to give myself a break from the self punishment. I’m not going to get over excited because every day is different and I know I just need to count my blessings and focus on my HEALTH. Everything will fall in to place after that. Keep your head up! I’m so happy to have an LS friend like you! ❤️

  • TryingSobriety posted a new activity comment 1 year, 10 months ago

    Gotta love the glow! It’s just crazy how quickly it repairs after years of being treated horribly!

  • TryingSobriety posted a new activity comment 1 year, 10 months ago

    Thanks for the advice. I steer clear of simple carbs for the most part… but I do love my roasted red potatoes

  • TryingSobriety posted a new activity comment 1 year, 10 months ago

    To your day! Having others drink around you makes it feel almost impossible. I also have people I live with who drink every evening. It’s just 1 or 2 but for those couple hours I feel like I need to lock myself away in my room. But we can do this!

  • TryingSobriety posted a new activity comment 1 year, 10 months ago

    Welcome back Indy! We definitely have a special place within this community to share our struggles and give/receive support with our addiction, don’t we? I look forward to seeing updates from you kicking this habit to the curb!

    • Thanks @TryingSobriety it’s certainly is. I find it a real struggle as all the people around me drink, every day. So here’s to my day one of not!

      • To your day! Having others drink around you makes it feel almost impossible. I also have people I live with who drink every evening. It’s just 1 or 2 but for those couple hours I feel like I need to lock myself away in my room. But we can do this!

  • TryingSobriety posted a new activity comment 1 year, 10 months ago

    It passed pretty quickly once I started moving around doing busy things. It definitely feels like a celebratory thing to me too even though I know it’s just something that makes me miserable.

  • TryingSobriety posted a new activity comment 1 year, 10 months ago

    It’s the worst! I hope someday it gets better.

  • It’s really incredible just how resilient the human body can be. After a couple weeks of not drinking my skin is more clear (I’m still bloated like crazy), I feel much healthier, and I know I’m carrying myself differently. A client that I’ve met a couple times in the past told me today, “I’ve been trying to figure out who you remind me of and it just popped in to my head!” She told me I look and sound just like Erika Christensen (who I had to look up after lol). What a compliment that was! I didn’t get compliments like that when I was drinking. What a way to start my day!

    • Definitely have a glow on when you are free from the booze. The human body is amazing, it wants to live so give it a chance and it repairs and revitalises. Well done , great start to your day!

    • Well done you!
      Try Alpine Tea. Its great for fluid retention and regular number 2’s.
      Oh – and make sure you’re not feasting on too much simple carbs (rice, bread, kumara, spuds) .. for every 1g of those, you’ll hold onto 4g of water. 🙂

  • TryingSobriety posted a new activity comment 1 year, 10 months ago

    I hadn’t even thought about that, but you’re probably right! They might actually feel a twinge if envy that I’m really doing this and bettering myself. Maybe that will turn in to them looking up to me in the future. Thank you for that perspective!

  • TryingSobriety posted a new activity comment 1 year, 10 months ago

    I really just want to be able to say “I don’t drink anymore” and not have to answer a million questions. It would feel so good to say that. But you can bet your booty when I meet new people from now on I’m going to be saying “no thanks. I don’t drink” just because it sounds so classy to me lol that might be annoying to other people

  • Most people I know have some sort of alcohol addiction. When I have tried to talk to people about my feelings on my drinking habits I get responses like, “who doesn’t finish an entire bottle of wine after they’ve opened it” or “why would you start drinking and not put all your effort in to getting shitfaced?”. Crazy how social drinking or not drinking at all has become abnormal in people I associate with. And not just my “friends”. I see it with people at work as well, and people my husband works with… ah well, it’s too early to be getting caught up with alcohol on the brain. Time to hit the gym.

    • These sound like all the people I know!! It’s so annoying isn’t it? I just pull the ‘not drinking due to bad sinus reaction’ card all the time because I can’t be bothered to respond! I totally get you. X

      • I really just want to be able to say “I don’t drink anymore” and not have to answer a million questions. It would feel so good to say that. But you can bet your booty when I meet new people from now on I’m going to be saying “no thanks. I don’t drink” just because it sounds so classy to me lol that might be annoying to other people

    • Good highs come from the gym! At least you get to wake up feeling well and with a clear mind, they probably wish they were like you when they wake up and have to look at their phones for clues as to how the night went, assess how bad they feel and try to make it through the day.

      • I hadn’t even thought about that, but you’re probably right! They might actually feel a twinge if envy that I’m really doing this and bettering myself. Maybe that will turn in to them looking up to me in the future. Thank you for that perspective!

  • TryingSobriety posted a new activity comment 1 year, 10 months ago

    How beautiful! I love that you used something seemingly small as a tool to remind you why you have made it day 104 and will continue on with your sobriety.

  • Another day, another craving to drink… Its barely afternoon! Im not even a day drinker ha ha! I got back in to the gym today for the first time in about 2 months, got a great sweat going… and here i sit eating my post workout meal, thinking about a glass of wine. Its so weird that even though I can’t think of anything I don’t like about being sober, nor can i think of anything i like about drinking anymore, I’m still craving it. COME ON BRAIN! GIVE ME A BREAK! So i picked a random episode of Recover Elevator (#123) and thats just going to get me through this craving. I hope everyones weekend is off to a good start!

    • wow thats great you were pounding things out at the gym, you inspire me
      that part of our brains is so annoying

    • Bugger that the craving hit. But you sound like you’re doing all the right things… posting here, eating, listening to a podcast. It will pass, and you’ll come out stronger on the other side xx

    • Hi @TryingSobriety, Sometimes I get back from the gym & I’m feeling great & suddenly want to drink. I think it’s because I want to celebrate feeling great or take that gym endorphin high to a greater level. Still not quite sure why it happens! Hope that craving has gone for you now & you’re feeling good x

      • It passed pretty quickly once I started moving around doing busy things. It definitely feels like a celebratory thing to me too even though I know it’s just something that makes me miserable.

  • TryingSobriety posted a new activity comment 1 year, 10 months ago

    It felt so good to read this, that I read it a second and third time out loud. Thank you for those words today. <3

  • TryingSobriety posted a new activity comment 1 year, 10 months ago

    That number is HUGE! Good for you! Remembering the terrible hangovers is definitely a good motivation to stay sober.

  • TryingSobriety posted a new activity comment 1 year, 10 months ago

    Way to go! That voice is not easy to ignore. How do you get through it without giving in?

  • TryingSobriety posted a new activity comment 1 year, 10 months ago

    I am so glad to see this! You are doing an amazing job!

  • TryingSobriety posted a new activity comment 1 year, 10 months ago

    Thank you @sobermommy1013! Im trying to make the best out of it. It could definitely be worse.

  • TryingSobriety posted a new activity comment 1 year, 10 months ago

    Go @Ro! Thats huge! I fell off track a while back, but I was still creeping around the page and silently rooting for my LS friends! Im so happy for you!

  • Terminal cancelled the termite tenting for my house due to high winds. I was a little bummed it was cancelled so last minute, but… I woke up this morning with some sort of stomach bug… sooo, I slept in, I drank tea, laid in the morning sun in a patio chair… now I’m listening to a recovery podcast while I lie in bed with a hydrating face mask on and the breeze blowing through the open windows of the house… just being thankful that I’m not stuck in a hotel room or out camping (like I had planned) while my tummy is feeling so bad. Im also really glad I’m not dealing with a hangover today! A big AF cheers to another sober morning! Day 7? day 6 maybe? Guess I’m going to roughly count days this time ha ha! Happy hump day, friends!

  • TryingSobriety posted a new activity comment 1 year, 10 months ago

    I just started listening to Recovery Elevator. I’ve only listened to a few episodes, but I like it. It’s one I will definitely listen to more in the late evenings as it does seem a little boring at times.

  • Another sober day. Lots to do to get ready to leave the house for 3 days while it gets tented for termites

  • TryingSobriety posted a new activity comment 1 year, 10 months ago

    Oh the memories that pop in to my head reading that. Thank goodness those days are in the past, ay?! Have a lovely Monday!

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