• Treehugger posted an update 5 days, 7 hours ago

    Morena koutou. Firstly, sending much love to all of our whรฅnau in Christchurch. My heart just aches for everything that you are going through. For those who have lost friends and family, Kei te mihi atu ahau ki tou whรฅnau pani, ka nui te aroha. I acknowledge and send love to you as you are grieving. I’m really at a loss of what else to say. For m…[Read more]

    • Thank you @Treehugger you beautiful girl, enjoy your surf xoxo

    • Lovely words dear friend. Much love back to you. This is a grievous thing for the whole country, no one is free of the pain of it. XXXX Arohanui XXXX I hope the sea cleansed and reset you. I longed for the beach, but at least got to my lovely nearby park and that felt so healing. Just the drizzle and the trees, dogs playing, oblivious to the human…[Read more]

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 1 week, 5 days ago

    @Tom4500 – thank you for your kind words ๐Ÿ™‚ I will stay strong my friend xo “me koe” – and you too!

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 1 week, 5 days ago

    Awww, bless, exactly what I was thinking too ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 1 week, 6 days ago

    826 days with not a drop…I’m looking forward to a 1000 ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 1 week, 6 days ago

    Totally! Hope all’s going well with you @timidwarrior xo

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 1 week, 6 days ago

    I know, it was such a great reminder of why sober mornings are just so amazing! Feeling very tearful this afternoon, and although I didn’t act on my thoughts of feelings to drink…maybe a little ashamed that I was falling into a place of complacency. But, if my honestly helps someone else, then that’s a huge positive ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 1 week, 6 days ago

    Aww, thanks. Been thinking of you too ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Treehugger posted an update 1 week, 6 days ago

    A cautionary tale – always. be. vigilant. I haven’t been present on the members feed much recently, mostly because of my busy day to day life, but also deep down, I have been feeling quietly confident that I have this sober gig sussed. Well, I’ve had a few drinking dreams lately, the voice has been seductively whispering and last night I had the…[Read more]

    • Yes be vigilant. I felt that by reading your post I was there the next morning having breakfast and feeling completely disappointed in myself that I chose that life. No thank you!

      • I know, it was such a great reminder of why sober mornings are just so amazing! Feeling very tearful this afternoon, and although I didn’t act on my thoughts of feelings to drink…maybe a little ashamed that I was falling into a place of complacency. But, if my honestly helps someone else, then that’s a huge positive ๐Ÿ™‚

    • Glad to see you @treehugger Iโ€™ve been thinking of you xxx

    • Wow a great reminder that we must always be vigilant of our thoughts! Also a great reminder of why we don’t drink!

    • Whoa (can’t see it, how long have you come without a drop, now?) Ohhhh….staying very vigilant …good reminder.

    • Day companion. Glad I got on tonight, before I get to bed. You’re right, we don’t drink. Rule number 1. No matter what else, we follow rule 1. We know that. And it’s not a curse, it’s a renaissance. We have been restored. Day 824, you’ve always been two steps ahead of me. Kia kaha e hoa.

    • Thatโ€™s so helpful to know. From my newbie perspective of 10 days, I assumed I would have it completely nailed by day 826. Thank you for sharing it xx

    • ❤️💕 @tom4500 thereโ€™s a LOT of history of the suppression of this beautiful language which @treehugger is probably more qualified to talk about than me – so part of the goosebumps is seeing a language nearly lost being used in new places.

      Youโ€™re right itโ€™s a lovely warm language which is embedded in a beautiful culture …. and you ainโ€™t no ordi…[Read more]

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    Oh what a relief, and soon after you will have the results too. Have been thinking of you both. Yay, it’s actually really exciting when people get to that point where you are simply not a drinker, no big deal let’s move on stage, don’t you think? So cool ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    Oh my gosh @Tom4500, I haven’t been on for a while and I just read this and thought, shit, we’re day buddies (pretty well) and so I checked and my 800 days was yesterday. I didn’t even realise! Gosh how things have changed for me in that time, my life is completely different, different friends, different hobbies, my health is soooo much better,…[Read more]

    • Congrats to you too @treehugger ๐Ÿ˜€

    • We sure are day buddies, every time I hit one of these milestones. I think about you getting there too. More important, I fell like I’m doing great and it sounds like you’re doing even better! No way I go back to the old way.

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    Aww, thanks for the shoutout @enzedgirl ๐Ÿ™‚ I’m good, very very busy in a new role at work, but good. Still loving sober life of course and sticking with my new year resolution to maintain a healthy work life balance… a constant struggle! Hope all is well with you too xo

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    Welcome and nice name ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    I hear you @Pandapower, I was really affected by this movie too. So powerful and really well done. My friend called watching this movie, “a journey”. Don’t let your feelings of uncertainty get you down, nothing wrong with the future being unknown. The unknown can be exciting, it holds promise and possibilities. It’s ok to be scared too, take each…[Read more]

    • Thank you…thanks for saying it ok to be scared. It just is hard some days!

      • I loved the movie and I saw it drunk first when it came out last summer (or buzzed) and now I saw it sober today at almost 90 days and had a completely different take on it today. I really enjoyed it but it is sad…..I knew it would be as I had seen the 70’s version several times. Definitely remember it’s just a movie- it’s easy to allow movies…[Read more]

    • I heard that movie is intense!!

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    to be honest I can’t remember exact timeframes but i think I noticed improvements in my memory after around 6-8 months sober. That said, everyone’s journey is so very different depending on so many factors so try not to get hung up on lengths of time too much. Just focus on day to day is my advice x

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    I suffered with terrible short term memory loss. It got much worse initially, as did the insomnia, but it settled eventually.

    • @treehugger how long did that take for you? Glad you are on the mend. That dang booze!

      • to be honest I can’t remember exact timeframes but i think I noticed improvements in my memory after around 6-8 months sober. That said, everyone’s journey is so very different depending on so many factors so try not to get hung up on lengths of time too much. Just focus on day to day is my advice x

      • @treehugger oh yes, I am counting my lucky stars I didn’t have that issue much….but if I start again it will obviously happen! Day by day is the best advice on just about everything isn’t it? ๐Ÿ™‚ xx

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 week ago

    Welcome! Love your user name @janelovescats, I love cats too!

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 week ago

    Oh, yay, I love Nina Simone! Have you seen the documentary about her on Netflix? Was a real eye opener. Glad you had another fabulous tank of joy filling weekend @Prudence xo

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 week ago

    Sounds awesome @Noelle, enjoy xo

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 week ago

    @kitten – initially I was the master drink counter. I could be in a room of 10+ people and be able to recite exactly how many drinks, what they were, and over what period of time for each person. Gradually I cared less and less and about who was drinking what and became more present in what was happening for me. I am still very aware of other…[Read more]

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 week ago

    I agree with as above @kjpeche, it’s ok to grieve and feel sad – I was the same, there was a time that drinking was a fun, cool activity that I did with my husband…until it wasn’t fun anymore. You have those happy memories, you won’t lose those. But with time, you will also create some amazing, special and authentic sober ones too. Big hugs, I…[Read more]

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