• Treehugger posted a new activity comment 17 hours, 33 minutes ago

    @peterbarlow – sorry to hear you are feeling low. I’ve also suffered for years with depression, been on meds for years, thankfully I found one that helps me, and now along with sobriety I’m much better. That said, I still have days when the bloody black dog catches up with me. I think for me, that was the hardest part, remembering that it would pass eventually, if I could just keep going, one foot in front of the other, at some point, something would help. Whether it was something on tv that made me laugh, sitting in the sun, a hot shower. I hope you find some form of relief soon. Just remember you are not alone in this x

    • It really does mean a lot to know that there are many like me.Its easy to think u are the only one who has suffered.Its part of the poor message,I go through.But I WILL get through this,even if it kills me.lol😊

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 17 hours, 41 minutes ago

    Oh yes, for sure. I was very emo and sensitive in the first few months!

  • Kia ora koutou. In just over a week I will reach 1000 days sober. I’m thinking of getting some ink to mark the occasion, any suggestions of tatts that others have gotten as a symbol of their sober journey/recovery/new life? Not my first ink, but I’m thinking of something on my lower arm perhaps, something I can see often as a reminder. Arohanui x

    • Wow that is so inspirational and motivational – great job!!!!

    • Hi hunny 😊 wowsers coming up a thousand days ❤️

      I don’t really have any suggestions. I quite like the Tt that some peeps get. Very personal choosing a tattoo eh?

      I imagine it will be something wild and beautiful, like you xxx

    • For me – 47 days ago – it was the letter M. Mille. Merci. And Memarg of course. Not a tattoo, though. That’s for the young and the brave…. Tell us what you decide on.

    • 1000 days. That is something to really be proud of. I’m afraid of needles, I’m with @Memarg that’s for the young and the brave. Maybe you would make it your profile pic when its done and all healed up so we can see what you chose? Congratulations on 1000 days of Freedom!

    • @treehugger, congrats on soooo many 0s. I have been looking at symbols that mean new beginnings, rising from the ashes ish type thing. An infinity sign with a circle in the middle is one symbol I have looked at. (all continuous line, but cannot describe well.)

    • Hi @Treehugger! Congrats on a huge milestone! I love Holly Whittaker’s (hipsobriety.com, The Temper) tattoo: nqtd – which stands for Never Question The Decision. Love it. : )

    • Wow!! So much admiration for you!! 🙂

    • You’re making me smile, Pathfinder. Perhaps a little too wild for me. I have no tatts. Maybe if it didn’t show?

    • @treehugger– as u approach the 1000 milestone – hats off- kudos- quite an accomplishment! all the best as the journey continues. stay strong girl- as I love to say- the struggle is real.

    • Congratulations on that thousand days! I got inked with my sister this Summer while on vacation. We each chose half a pair of elk antlers. Antlers represent new beginnings, growth and strength.

    • Exciting! No ideas at all sorry. Tell us what you decide XXX

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 3 days, 18 hours ago

    @elais – unfortunately those feelings of doubt come in ebbs and flows, sometimes when you least expect it. It’s in the good times that we make plans for those crappy moments arrive. Bed and a book sounds like a great plan. Tomorrow is a new day, and you will be hangover free x

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 3 days, 18 hours ago

    So well put @Prudence. I absolutely had this experience myself, where I knew deep down that this was it for good, no other option for me but to stop. Then I made “the decision”, done. @DavidFS kia kaha x

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 3 days, 18 hours ago

    Arohanui e hoa, that really is such tragic sad news x

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 3 days, 18 hours ago

    Kia ora @alan1960 – huge congrats on one year sober, that’s so awesome 🙂 Your 3 questions: I’ve never been to AA so can’t comment. I had outpatient counselling at local addiction services and found this wonderful place, a true lifesaver! I have tried both AF beer and wine, the wine I couldn’t drink much as it gives me a crook tummy, and the beer I enjoyed. I did find it a bit triggering at first because it tasted so real, but because there was no alcohol in it I didn’t have that urge to just keep drinking. Felt bloated after two! It was a reminder to me that had there been booze in it, I would have just kept on drinking it for sure. I have avoided boozy foods like tiramisu and boozy trifle but I guess because those dishes can be soaked in booze rather than it being cooked off, my personal choice I guess. Congrats again 🙂

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 5 days, 5 hours ago

    @Mandles – well done. Social events can be tricky at first but it sounds like you’re in an empowered mindset and have put good strategies in place. It’s so interesting what you notice sober, I find when people start leaning in too close to me, slurring, and dare I say it spitting when they talk is a sign that it’s time for me to leave. Congrats on 60 days 🙂

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 5 days, 5 hours ago

    Morena @Tom4500 – my counter reads 988 days, so 12 days away from the big 1000. For me this falls on August 30th, my sober anniversary is December 3rd. It’s funny, because purely by chance, at day 500 I was overseas on a family holiday, and doing something awesome, and then again, by chance on my day 1000 I will again be on a family holiday, doing something awesome, and celebrating. Funny how the universe provides reminders to me about what’s truely important, family and living sober life to the full. I actually have a card which by my bed which reads, “Happiness is letting go of what you think life is supposed to look like and celebrating it for everything that it is.” So very true. Arohanui e hoa, not long now!

    • Morena @treehugger. December 4th for me. We’ll be camping at Hartwick Pines State Park, easy driving from the Mackinaw Bridge, where there will be the annual bridge walk on September 2nd. So, August 31st we’ll likely go out to dinner to recognize and treat. Love that saying about happiness. AF is great. Take care….

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 6 days, 22 hours ago

    I think we are all guilty of being too hard on ourselves at some point in the sober journey, whether it’s regrets of past mistakes, regrets that we are ‘missing out’. I know I have a habit of chastising myself for still pining for a drink when I just wish I could just bloody forget about alcohol already! It sounds like you are looking within and in a period of self growth. That takes guts and grit, so I say congratulate yourself for living in the raw. You are human, a brave and courageous sober human.

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 1 week, 2 days ago

    Hope and intention are powerful things, you absolutely have a chance 🙂 You’re doing amazing xo

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 1 week, 5 days ago

    I also live by a gorgeous beach and it just ticks so many boxes for me, te moana is cleansing, it’s therapy, it feeds my soul and spirit to be in nature, and it’s incredible exercise. I do believe that if you can find that special pass time that grows you holistically, it is a massive support in getting and staying sober.

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 1 week, 5 days ago

    Oh, how do you put a macron over letter? Soz, I am so IT illiterate

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 1 week, 5 days ago

    @MåoriGIrlSober – I took up a new hobby, I learned to surf. It was something that I had always wanted to do, but I was so often hungover and anxious and never had the courage. Now, sober, getting up for ‘dawnies’ (a surf as the sun rises) is not an issue and with less anxiety I have the courage to push myself to take risks and I have the motivation to persevere. Sing loud and proud e hoa x

    • Oh, how do you put a macron over letter? Soz, I am so IT illiterate

    • Maybe I might take up surfing too…I do live next to one of the best beaches in Aotearoa to do it this Summer 🤔 sobriety gives me proper confidence to believe in me 🌊

      • I also live by a gorgeous beach and it just ticks so many boxes for me, te moana is cleansing, it’s therapy, it feeds my soul and spirit to be in nature, and it’s incredible exercise. I do believe that if you can find that special pass time that grows you holistically, it is a massive support in getting and staying sober.

  • The last few months have been a real struggle. I felt so victorious and elated at 500 days sober, and I had convinced myself that by 1000 I’d have this sober shit totally sorted. Ha, so naive of me. The last few weeks I’ve been surrounded by people, raving about how awesome it is to be drinking again after doing dry July. “That was so fucken boring” they say, “Omg, never doing that again” they say. There’s photos of post dry July piss ups, hilarious after night out debriefs. Fun, fun, fun. It gets me questioning why wasn’t it that fun for me? Why was I one of ‘those drunks’, the one who’d over shared, drunk cried at nothing, got angry and unpleasant to be around, talked absolute shite to people that made me want to crawl under a rock the next day, danced and behaved suggestively in front of everyone and anyone. It wasn’t fun, fun, fun for me at all. As 1000 days approaches, I need to remain vigilant against my internal shit head addictive voice. Yep, definitely finding it hard, but vigilant none the less. Arohanui ki a koutou xo

    • Yes, vigilance is something we can never let go of. It’s (sobriety) not constant work but persistent work. We must keep it up. ❤️

    • I had a previous near 25 year sober stretch and still felt envy at times when I was around folks able to just have one or two that enhanced their experience. That will never be me or you or likely 99% of the people that are here. We just have to believe we’ve made our best right choice.

    • It’s something I know I’ll always have to work on …..good to acknowledge as that takes the power out of it. I regret relapsing after 5 years but have to remember the lessons I’ve learned. Not likely I’ll ever go back to that ugly hamster wheel of drinking. Thanks for the reminder!

    • Hi @Treehugger! Fantastic that you’re on it – knowing that you have to stay vigilant. I feel like people put on this show about how great boozing it up is, like everyone buys in to the lie and doesn’t talk about debilitating hangovers + stupidass regrettable behaviour. I find people put on a big act when it comes to alcohol. Even in my 20s, when I was having fun, I knew I needed to stop. By my 40s, I knew it would kill me if I kept going. That ‘oh it’s so much fun’ seems like it’s very performative. Congrats on being close to 1000 days, amazing!!!

    • I think its a bit like a gambler only telling you about how much they won – never about their losses. We know it’s not all fun, been there and done that, plus one month of DRY JULY is not enough time for anyone to feel the benefits of sobriety. While it is a positive thing to do and for a good cause, you are the winner by not drinking. Go you on your long term aim.

    • Well done to observe and think this through beautiful one. The question does remain, is it fun fun fun? Is it fun for their children to know life is boring if their parents cannot drink? Are we finding a deeper level? Appreciating real life to the full (at least more often than if eagerly anticipating getting out of it yet again.)
      And in the end, it is perhaps fun fun fun until you get cancer, liver disease, early onset dementia, or find you have few resources to get you through the hard times.
      XXXXX

    • I’m so sorry things are tough for you right now @treehugger xoxo I think maybe digging into the reasons you quit drinking to begin with and then focusing on all of the positives we get by not drinking might help to get you on the path again. I find that people like to talk a lot about how much fun drinking is, until the next day when they feel horrible. Often times they don’t even know how horrible they feel because they are just so used to always feeling hungover. Focus on those beautiful mornings, focus on the things you do now that you wouldn’t be able to do if you were drinking. Pick up some new hobbies (for me I have been really getting into essential oils and learning all about natural cleaning, bath salts, scent mixes I can spray around the house, etc.) that keep your interest. Keep posting here lovely, we have your back xoxo

    • Kia ora e hoa. As we approach the 1,000 day marker I went looking for you, and found this post. I too have had my difficult moments, not difficult staying sober, but moments where it hurts a little to be the one not drinking. I have nothing against others drinking, but if I imagine the world without other people drinking, then in that world, sobriety seems easier. So alcohol isn’t the only problem. People are. I’m smiling as I type that, because it’s an awful thing to say, really. Seems as though we’ve swapped problems, the old alcohol problem, which was very real, for the new no alcohol problem, which I have trouble describing. It really is as you say, our internal shit head addictive voice. Let’s toast with an AF glass to the next 1,000 days. I’ll check back with you in 12 or 13 days, can never figure out if you’re one or two days ahead of me. And then there is the time zone thing. Peace.

      • Morena @Tom4500 – my counter reads 988 days, so 12 days away from the big 1000. For me this falls on August 30th, my sober anniversary is December 3rd. It’s funny, because purely by chance, at day 500 I was overseas on a family holiday, and doing something awesome, and then again, by chance on my day 1000 I will again be on a family holiday, doing something awesome, and celebrating. Funny how the universe provides reminders to me about what’s truely important, family and living sober life to the full. I actually have a card which by my bed which reads, “Happiness is letting go of what you think life is supposed to look like and celebrating it for everything that it is.” So very true. Arohanui e hoa, not long now!

        • Morena @treehugger. December 4th for me. We’ll be camping at Hartwick Pines State Park, easy driving from the Mackinaw Bridge, where there will be the annual bridge walk on September 2nd. So, August 31st we’ll likely go out to dinner to recognize and treat. Love that saying about happiness. AF is great. Take care….

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 1 week, 5 days ago

    Sounds like your tank of joy was well and truly filled 🙂

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 1 week, 5 days ago

    Yahoo, that’s amazing! Huge congrats on the news of your precious moko. And just when you’d made the decision to move, and your post about wanting to share love. Super stoked for you xo

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 1 week, 5 days ago

    Yahoo! Well done, that’s so cool. Enjoy those warm fuzzies, you’ve earned them 🙂

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 1 week, 6 days ago

    @Kez84 – I also found weekends really hard at first, still do sometimes if I’m honest. I used lots of strategies, early bed, ate lots of crap food, drank way too many sugary af drinks. Really, it was just an hr by hr situation initially, especially between 5 and 9 pm, my previous binging time. I guess I’m sharing to let you know you’re not alone. I found comfort in knowing that somewhere, someone else got me. Cause sometimes, being sober, can be a very lonely place initially. I hope you start feeling better soon, it’s okay to feel pissed off. Just don’t have that first drink. Kia kaha

    • I’m Day nine and fragile. My first Friday night at home without booze. It used to be a biggish drinking night. It’s 2030. With wife and friend and they don’t drink. But you can’t beat the going to bed and waking up feelings. Your post nailed it for me

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 6 days ago

    So glad I read this, it’s like reading about myself on and off over the past 3 months or so. I’m on the verge of a good cry as I type this, your post has really stuck a chord…I also will not drink with you xo

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 6 days ago

    @Erica375 – I was referred to an outpatient clinic through my local addiction services at the local hospital. This basically included being “assessed” by a psychologist and counsellor, followed by regular counselling sessions where I was learned about the physical and emotional mechanics of addiction, and strategies for how to deal with cravings, recognise and avoid potential relapse. That lasted around 3 months and I was lucky to get a counsellor that I gelled with, which I think is why I felt it was so helpful to me. Also, Living sober has also been my main sober programme, along with eventually meeting people from this site in person. My advice, do what works for you. What resonates with you, fills your tank of joy and heals your soul is what you should choose. My two cents xo

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 6 days ago

    Beautifully articulated. I can relate to what you are saying, as a mum and as a spouse. Keep on holding your choice tight and protect it. I believe that choosing sober, and staying sober, really is first and foremost about ourselves, but that the positive effects of our choice absolutely radiate out and touch our whaanau and friends. As said above, kia kaha e hoa, your are doing amazing xo

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 6 days ago

    Eight hundy, well done e hoa xo

  • Morena koutou / good morning everyone. Musings at 973 days … people bond socially over shared or common interests. This might include pubs, bars, binge drinking at each other’s homes. I was struck with a strong feeling of being left out this morning, seeing video of drunken antics of people I know well. I guess the part that left me with the most visceral and emotional response, was that sometimes people assume that I won’t enjoy being with them, joking with them, dancing with them, while remaining sober…so they don’t invite me. It’s a shitty feeling being left out, but after breaking it down and remembering that the main night’s event is often about getting on the piss, I don’t want to be part of that anyways. So, after allowing myself that weird flashback to the emotional feelings of high school social rejection, I can reboot and reconnect with the empowered and strong soul base that I have built for myself. Through all the lonely feelings, I can peel it back and remember what the actual reality of these social events was for me, depression, physical sickness, remorse and cyclic pain. I have new shared interests with people, that still fills my tank of joy, without all of the negatives that came with drinking. If you have chosen to stop drinking and live totally sober, believe in the power of your choice. Connect regularly with the positives of the ‘why’ behind it. Arohanui ki a koutou xo

    • What a nice reminder 🙂

    • hey, @treehugger, it is lonely sometimes, watching friends bond over their drunken antics. congrats on your day count, 973 AF, really becoming a way of life. congrats.

    • So very true @treehugger – i’ve soon learnt to socialise and do things with people that don’t drink or who support me and have cut out those people who can’t accept my choices. Their loss and most definitely my gain. Take care x

    • Nice post treehugger. Meh, I don’t miss the socialising scene. I love the me I’ve come to be. Massive day count too. Awesome.

    • ‘Rejection’ can be so hard to manage and get into perspective. It seems you have done a top job bringing a new perspective to the situation – inspiring XXXX Po marie e hoa

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 4 weeks, 1 day ago

    big hugs @maxjessnj. If you have people around you that know about your sober journey, and they don’t seem to have remembered or realised the significance of tomorrow for you, I reckon it’s totally ok to remind them. Just say, “hey did you realise…” and explain that you’d love to do something special with them to celebrate, or whatever it is you’d like. I hope you have a fabulous day, however it ends up. Well done xo

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    @Mac007 – Kei te mihi atu ahau ki a koutou. Huge acknowledgements to you, along with @Prudence and @normaleelucid, for your 5 year soberversary. I am so grateful that I have had the privilege of meeting each of you in person. Three strong, inspiring and caring people who along with many others on here, that I credit for supporting me to stay sober. Much love to you all, and have a bloody fantastic holiday. What a fricken cool thing to do to celebrate 🙂 Arohanui xo

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    @tom4500 and @enzedgirl – Sorry I did reply to your replies earlier but lost them when I had to delete and repost because I couldn’t edit a mistake I’d made…anyhoo, yes a get together sounds awesome, and @tom4500, I love to weed when it’s been raining cause I reckon they are much easier to pull out! 🙂

    • That’s alright hon, I’ve been having a few odd things like that recently too …

  • Treehugger posted an update 1 month ago

    Ata marie ki a koutou / Good morning everyone. I’ve had an extended break from the members feed but have been enjoying back on here again this week. I think in the earlier days I would reach out for support from other people by posting on here, whereas now I feel like I gain just as much support from reading other’s posts and replying to them by sharing my experiences. Maybe that’s part of the journey? A shout out to @bondi, @Prudence, @Normaleelucid, @Marmite, @Janus2, @Tom4500, @enzedgirl, @Agent99, @oceania, @Temperance, and a friend from the south who I think may have have changed their handle name, and the many others who I have probably missed, thinking of you all and a big thank you to you all for being a huge support to me since I joined this place. Can’t believe I am at 2 1/2 yrs sober now. Holy shit what a ride it’s been. Arohanui ki a koutou xo

    • Kia ora e hoa, nice to see you here. I’ve also been away from the site, but feeling drawn back again to support and share with all the amazing sober warriors on here, no matter where in the journey we all are. 2 and a half years sober, yee har, go you super star xx

    • 2 1/2 years sober is so inspiring. I for one really appreciate the advise and support from some of you “long timers”

    • Yes, I’m just getting back in to it too after being overseas for several weeks. It takes a bit to reorient but once you start reading the Sober Stories and the members feed it, doesn’t take long before, you’re feeling right at home. Ata po ki a koe Treehugger.

    • Reading the posts of those that have been in it for the long haul helps me out so so much. Amazing, I can’t wait to be 2 1/2 years sober too. 🙂

    • Hey there @Treehugger good to see you and thanks for the shout out. I’ve been off site for quite a while too while I went overseas and haven’t got fully back into it yet, been a tad busy. Me and Normaleelucid hit 5 years tomorrow Yee Haa! Have a glorious fun fabulous weekend xoxo

    • @tom4500 and @enzedgirl – Sorry I did reply to your replies earlier but lost them when I had to delete and repost because I couldn’t edit a mistake I’d made…anyhoo, yes a get together sounds awesome, and @tom4500, I love to weed when it’s been raining cause I reckon they are much easier to pull out! 🙂

      • That’s alright hon, I’ve been having a few odd things like that recently too …

    • Great to hear from you @Treehugger xx

    • Hey @treehugger lovely to hear from you lady ! Congrats on 2 1/2 years !!!

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    @womackm – Kia ora, nau mai haere mai / hello and welcome 🙂 You have come to a safe and supportive place! There was a great post written to those on their day one, was it you @Mrs-d that wrote it? Maybe do a search of “day one” and see if you can find it? A very worthwhile read x

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    @Whogoessober – when I first stopped drinking one of my strategies was to read, read, read. Sobriety books, addiction books, I joined here and read the members feed…the more I read the more I realised that I was an alcoholic. I think deep down only you can know what goes on inside your head when you drink, when you don’t, the reaction that you have once alcohol first enters your system. There are some who can moderate, but I believe that these are people who have experienced periods of alcohol abuse, as opposed to having an alcohol addiction. Unfortunately, there is such a fine line between the two, that many don’t understand or recognise what’s happening to them until it’s too late and they’ve crossed that line into addiction. From my personal experience, I cannot moderate. I tried and failed, and typical of addiction each time my drinking got progressively worse. Then, one day, I made a decision to stop, forever. I’ve never looked back, it was a bloody hard process no question, but I am free and alive. No regrets xo

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    Funny @Lucy – this is my plan for today. Was a full moon last night so today I plan on opening all the doors and windows and give the house a bloody good cleansing 🙂 Hope you felt like it helped xo

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    Sending you much love and strength, I can’t imagine what that’s been like for you 🙁

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    Sounds bliss! Totally relate, I remember many child-free times wasted boozing, only to feel like total crap when they came home. Not anymore! Thank you for continuing to inspire and encourage us with your posts 🙂 Arohanui ki a koe xo

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    Don’t be too hard on yourself @ginny, because let’s be honest, the majority of people do go to the pub to drink alcohol, albeit they may have only one or two, but they’re still going for the booze along with socialising, food, music etc. It takes time to get your head around being sober in a place like the pub, you’ll get there in time. It’s ok to avoid places that may trigger you or make it more difficult to stay sober. I would suggest that it’s actually a good strategy. Challenge yourself when you’re ready, hope this helps xo

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    @chasingthedandelion – I had the same experience. I think it took me 3 months or more to get into a good sleep pattern. One thing I’ve noticed, is that I recently moved and no longer have a TV in my bedroom. I am sleeping soooo much better, it’s like night and day (excuse the pun). Do you limit screen time before bed? Hope you find something that helps you soon x

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    @Andian – I hear you, by the end of my time drinking I used to buy my wines (my top choice of alcoholic drink) based on the alcohol content too. Was part of the reason I switched from Sav to Pinot Gris, due to most having a higher content. As for mocktails, AF wine and beer, I agree with @SteveF, each to their own. If you find that drinking mocktails triggers you, then don’t drink them. I drank AF beer and wine for a time, but this did trigger me somewhat, and left me bloated so I stopped. We are all very different and what works for one, may not for another. If you are choosing sober, just don’t pick up that first alcoholic drink, whatever that may be 🙂

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    Massive congrats to you on your soberversary. I love that you, and others who have years of sobriety under their belts, are still here to offer your wisdom and support. I remember when I first joined here that you really helped me to stay sober. Have a fantastic holiday! Arohanui xo

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    @janus2 – ditto! Kia kaha e hoa. Arohanui xo

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    Morena / morning @jenu 🙂 Yes, I found that AF beer gave me bloating. I also would have one or two max and stop because of that full feeling. I’ve stopped drinking it now because of that reason, I found AF wine even worse! Well done on day 21, almost a full month, go you! 🙂

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    Nice, having an outside job which you will see results from after is such a good strategy. I used to clean like mad to keep me busy, and sort and tidy out cupboards. Was a win win, tidy house tidy mind in my case. Have a fabulous day 🙂

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    Totally agree @LucidBeing. I took up surfing when I got sober, something that I’d wanted to learn for many years, but was too hungover and anxious to try. Turns out it’s been a life changer! Yep, learn a whole lot from being sober 🙂

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    Morena, well done you for 40 days! I also spent lots of my drinking time around music, not night clubs but live bands at bars and boozy music festivals. There were lots of bands which I wouldn’t listen to early on because I felt that they triggered my drinking thoughts. I take my hat off to you for feeling strong enough to get back out there and dance and enjoy music without the booze. Now that I’ve had some practice I reckon dancing sober is so empowering and fills my tank right up! Have an awesome weekend x

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    Kia ora Lucy, big hugs. I’m an over-thinker with a brain that races so I empathise! While I sleep a lot better than I ever did while drinking, I still have 3am wake ups because my brain just keeps ticking over. I find that visualising writing my thought on paper and then posting it into a post box, or crumpling up the paper, and then putting it onto a leaf which floats away down a river helps. I like the second one, cause I find water so calming! Enjoy your self care, however that ends out looking x

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    Yusssss, sober birthdays are the best! Enjoy 🙂

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    @Saoirse – massive hugs and strength being sent your way as you ready yourself for reading the report and as you continue being your ‘best true self’. Thinking of you x

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    Kia ora @Lizk – I can’t really comment on your specific issue, but I do remember experiencing a flurry of repressed emotions bubbling to the surface about lots of things when I got sober. If you are able to get some therapy or speak to someone to support you I’d totally recommend it. For me I’d drank heavily from my early teens through to my late 30’s so I really believe that my emotional development was stunted, as I’d been numbing and not dealing with things my whole adult life! Big hugs, such a rollercoaster I know, but it’s totally worth it believe me. I also will never go back xo

    • Thank you tree hugger. I will look into therapy, although most of it is shite where I live. Sorted some stuff out while in rehab. Came back with great expectations of doing all ( (as suggested )stuff together again. Only I find I don’t want to. Can’t think of anything worse. I’m really loving who I am for the 1st time.
      Thankfully I have roses to prune today!

      • Nice, having an outside job which you will see results from after is such a good strategy. I used to clean like mad to keep me busy, and sort and tidy out cupboards. Was a win win, tidy house tidy mind in my case. Have a fabulous day 🙂

  • Still here, 951 days in and still sober. Feeling pretty sad actually, not sure why, perhaps its the dreary weather and lack of ocean time plus a dose of cabin fever? Anyhoo, no thoughts of drinking. Just checking in…Arohanui ki a koutou xo

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    Kia ora @Andlan. You are doing amazing, those early days can be really tough, there’s no sugar coating it. Sometimes, I felt like I was just trying to get through the hours until bedtime. I used to try all sorts of tricks to distract my mind and body, anything that could get me to another day sober. I cleaned like crazy while listening to heavy metal super loud, tidied and sorted cupboards, I took baths and listened to meditation music, I went to bed at 6.30pm, at times crying into a cup of tea. Please know you are not alone, try to keep things really small and manageable. And stay warm! Hugs x

    • Kia Ora. Yes, I grab sleep when it comes in the knowledge it won’t happen at 3am. Yes we are together, and warm and comfortable here. Very safe and strong I love it. Hugs and warm feelings.

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Hope you get better quickly, and well done on 220 days!

  • Treehugger posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Yay! Well done that’s really awesome 🙂

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