• Trace posted an update 1 month, 1 week ago

    I thought being AF would also fix a lot of my aimless scrolling of social media habit – endlessly researching stuff that is interesting and not important – but I don’t think I am getting any more disciplined around this! I lose a lot of time, and a lot of things don’t get done, because I’ll sit down with my computer and before you know it its…[Read more]

    • Too true ❤️

    • It’s pretty easy getting hooked into the internet/social media, isn’t it. I have a heap of jobs to do, so I’m allowing myself to surf with my coffee, and then back to mucking out the house!

    • I am always jolted by the instagram yoga message – or maybe FB, stop scrolling and roll out your mat. Such a great idea …
      I just ordered The Shallows from Fishpond, I think a good inspiring writer on the subject may be good – and good for my new job if parents are concerned, or hooked themselves. Apparently the number 1 thing kids say they…[Read more]

    • Oh this is sooo me! Amazing how much time scrolling can waste!

    • @trace I read this when you posted, but was on my phone and couldn’t be bothered trying to write one of my many long winded messages on the phone – so finally, here I am with my two pennies. I too, am very conscious that I spend too much time online (whether it is social media, ‘researching’ or just flicking around whatever, but remember we are…[Read more]

  • Trace posted an update 1 month, 1 week ago

    Great article in the latest Listener about addiction!

  • Trace posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    Ah how I miss that view, and I can picture Akaroa in all its Autumn glory. Beyond beautiful! I say get your travel agent to do all the running around for you, then you’ve got someone else to blame lol 🙂 Sounds like you are doing some really great planning, I think if your gut is saying take the easier road, then its time to take the easier…[Read more]

  • Trace posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    so bloody awesome @morgan! I’m definitely needing to get over my ‘foggy’ brain. I guess my poor brain has been like a sponge, marinating in sauvignon blanc, for far too long. Going to take a while to ‘wring it out’ I guess! I think the sugar thing helps too, you’ve inspired me, must go back to my healthy eating habits! xoxo

  • Trace posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    Geez this is a tough one @NoJudge. I wasn’t allowed to drink, strict parents, but started drinking (always to excess) behind their backs at 14 and I was probably hooked pretty early on, setting off a lifetime of struggle. My husband was allowed one or two from a young age, then to drink sensibly etc, went to parties but wasn’t hugely social so…[Read more]

    • The drinking culture here in Canada is a challenge too @trace . I went out last weekend with friends we usually get pretty wasted with, and my friend gave me such a hard time. Teasing me non-stop and I was FINE having my little “mocktail” — I was more annoyed with her lack of acceptance of me not drinking.

  • Trace posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    well we get you @janus2 – sleep well, sleep v important as you well know! Hokitaki sounds really lovely, just go with it, and go with the bag too lol. You’re no dumbarse, you’re a beaut xx

  • Trace posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    Ooh max weber @riseup2015 sounds like I have a lot of books she’d like!

  • Trace posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    Not everybody is going to ‘get it’ and understand @safeandsound – and not everybody is capable of forgiveness – that bit is about them and their journey and you have no control over it. Totally sucks, but the situation isn’t set in concrete. From my experience, the best that can be done is to just put some space around it – drop all expectations…[Read more]

  • Trace posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    @Prudence I’m going to stick my neck on the line and say you will LOVE it -and I can totally see you losing yourself in travel over the coming decade – hope to join you in one or two excursions, that is going on my (growing) bucket list! I think travelling solo will be surprisingly empowering and not having to juggle somebody elses agenda will be…[Read more]

  • Trace posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    that now right there is some power packed thinking @Mari135! I too have an inner teenager – she’s distrusting, shy but brash at the same time, thinks everybody else has been given ‘the code’ on life and she’s trying to muddle through without people noticing she doesn’t know what she is doing…have a great day and you too @timidwarrior, so…[Read more]

    • Hey @trace that’s a great description of me. Seems people are never too old to be influenced by their inner teenager! I hadn’t thought of it that way before @mari135 plus I identify with imposter syndrome lots! Yes thank you for your wisdom!

  • Trace posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    I can understand your feeling of lost trust in people @tipsytoegal – but please don’t let this one f*&(&d up man ‘win’. It might be that isolation is what your heart truly desires but I’m uncertain if that is ever the answer for anything. I’m hoping his abuse of you finishes now – and that you don’t let him put his sticky claws into your future…[Read more]

  • Trace posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    have a great day @enzedgirl and thanks for your organisation skills – looking forward to chats about your new work!

  • Trace posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    @morgan that’s true, I’m not often bored by people,in fact I’m mostly curious and in case you didn’t notice I have an unfortunate tendency to want to get behind people’s masks and see the ‘real’ – I think I do get bored – or is it frustrated? – with peoples masks. And I get terribly bored with myself at times! Oh, and I was one of those scoffed…[Read more]

  • Trace posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    you too @Oceania!

  • Trace posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    hell no @morgan! Not a single boring as batshit type there!

    • Hahaha – well that says a great deal about you actually. I own it, and don’t mind, though sometimes the scoffing from the ‘cool’ people can bring back the school day rejections or criticisms. Interesting what arises in groups. However, as a listener, I doubt you are bored with people often? or does it bring it on, the stories and self obsessions I…[Read more]

  • Trace posted an update 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    Hard to express what the weekend away with LS peeps has given me. I don’t mean to give anybody a case of FOMO, but instead to encourage you to muck in and find your tribe. I was nervous as all f*(& and even said to somebody, in a fit of honesty, that if I hadn’t booked air tickets i.e. if it was local, I’m not 100% sure I would have turned up.…[Read more]

    • Sharing my home is so easy @Trace, I built it for friends and family, not just for me. So so So glad you came, I felt like I’d always known you as soon as I saw you, you are real comfy like a loved soft toy. I too got so much from the weekend, meeting you and @Rise2015 was such fun and seeing everyone else again, and not needing anything at all…[Read more]

    • Amazing post @trace , so well put , so stoked to meet you xx

    • Aw, beautiful to read this @trace, so pleased for you. It’s just so damn special. Prudence is truly an incomparable hostess, yes? Even though I’m an exaggertarius I don’t think that’s anything but the plain truth.

    • Loved meeting you! and though I am one of the boring as batshit types, you were so gracious ❤️💖😚

      • hell no @morgan! Not a single boring as batshit type there!

        • Hahaha – well that says a great deal about you actually. I own it, and don’t mind, though sometimes the scoffing from the ‘cool’ people can bring back the school day rejections or criticisms. Interesting what arises in groups. However, as a listener, I doubt you are bored with people often? or does it bring it on, the stories and self obsessions I…[Read more]

    • Beautiful post! I am really hoping to make the next one whenever and wherever it is!!!

    • oxxoxox Ohhhh I am just so glad you all got to get together!!!

    • @morgan that’s true, I’m not often bored by people,in fact I’m mostly curious and in case you didn’t notice I have an unfortunate tendency to want to get behind people’s masks and see the ‘real’ – I think I do get bored – or is it frustrated? – with peoples masks. And I get terribly bored with myself at times! Oh, and I was one of those scoffed…[Read more]

  • Trace posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    I’ll say it again @rise2015 I just LOVED talking and hanging with you – within a very short time I felt like I had known you all my life. You’re awesome, with a capital O but I’m definitely not going to say anything about you being ‘strong’ etc etc coz I know if I do next time you are going to thump me and thump me hard! You are very gracious…[Read more]

    • Thank you @Trace, and ditto to you. Great how a westie and a southsider can have so much to talk about! Had to laugh when I got home I found my girl reading a book on sociology by Max Weber and thought of you. Got her to do the fingers thing and she did it no sweat – also, mentioned something to her about Gate when I said about the fingers…[Read more]

  • Trace posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    @scared SO great to meet you!

  • Trace posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    @janus2 I just loved meeting you, but next time I’m gonna make sure we talk a bit more! I’m so glad somebody else walks into glass doors its kinda one of my specialties, nearly did it this time around too. I have to admit you weren’t completely how I’d imagined you…you are even better in the flesh….

  • Trace posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    wow @dreamer88 that is quite a dream – and I’m going to tuck that image away in my mind because it is very freaking powerful!!

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