• Tom4500 posted a new activity comment 12 hours, 16 minutes ago

    I’m not saying it’s impossible to break the parent child bond, but it’s nearly impossible. Parents worry about their children from day one until forever. It’s possibly the most unselfish form of love, that of a parent for their children. Case in point, look at what @juliana wrote. Not saying that improper behavior shouldn’t be recognized and…[Read more]

  • Tom4500 posted a new activity comment 1 day, 8 hours ago

    Okay, I’ll bite, I predict 700. Very nice, Ro. The two year is with your sights I’m sure.

  • Tom4500 posted a new activity comment 1 day, 8 hours ago

    Feeling blessed here. 1500 days is a nice number, Jessi, congrats! I think I would celebrate the scan and the milestone on two different days, they each deserve their own day.

  • Tom4500 posted a new activity comment 1 day, 8 hours ago

    Sounds very nice. A belated happy birthday!

  • Tom4500 posted a new activity comment 1 day, 14 hours ago

    Way overdue in looking you up to say hello. The new name still throws my old brain off, I have trouble remembering it! Nice to read of your AF progress.

  • Tom4500 posted a new activity comment 1 day, 14 hours ago

    You’re right about it taking your life away. I turn 66 soon, and who knows how many years I have left. Whatever the number, I don’t want to spend them drunk.

  • Tom4500 posted a new activity comment 1 day, 14 hours ago

    Stay strong. There’s a world of things you can do, to fill the void of one of those you can’t….that being raising that glass. I like to think there are just two rules, the first being never raise the glass, and the second being never, ever break rule number one. I tend to oversimplify. Good luck this first week, it’s truly a…[Read more]

  • Tom4500 posted a new activity comment 1 day, 14 hours ago

    Had to answer this one, because the same thing happened to me. It’s also referred to in Mrs. D’s early months of her original blog, where she mentions something about just wishing she would stop thinking about it all the time. It never did “just stop” for me, it just trailed off. I’m at about 29 months. Maybe it does go away completely. Maybe…[Read more]

  • Tom4500 posted a new activity comment 1 day, 14 hours ago

    It kind of jumps out at me that you say “he is a very good man”. What if two years isn’t the magic number, what if it’s three, or five? I’m trying to imagine how I would try to get somebody to quit an addiction without being confrontational and putting them on the defensive. Tough issues, @freedom1025, and you know I’m in your corner. I’m sort…[Read more]

  • Tom4500 posted a new activity comment 1 day, 15 hours ago

    Your post echoes my AF path, and it’s nice to read that somebody else has the same problem and solution to alcohol. Yes, the morning voice is the voice of truth! The one that used to tell us “I HAVE to QUIT” and now tells us how good we feel waking up. So unlike the evening voice, which tells us B.S. There is relief and joy in forever. Great…[Read more]

  • Tom4500 posted a new activity comment 1 day, 15 hours ago

    Just in case I’m not here in a couple of days, let me congratulate you now on your one year, Hammer. That’s really big, you should be proud. Sounds like you’ll have to share that event time with your Mom’s birthday, or even move the soberversary treat to a different day, but I do hope that you do something to mark the occasion. I remember that…[Read more]

    • Thanks Tom, I am considering taking Friday off, but already had Monday off this week, so I might just leave it at that and celebrate this Saturday!

  • Tom4500 posted a new activity comment 3 days ago

    I think that religion is complex. I enjoy attending weekly. Already had the HP even before I started this AF gig. One step ahead, I suppose.

  • Tom4500 posted an update 3 days, 16 hours ago

    Lots of family in for Easter. Currently waiting for so, DIL, and baby to wake up so I can turn the three other children loose on the Easter egg hunt….won’t wait much longer. Sprung out of bed when I heard those three come downstairs; there was no “springing out of bed” in the hangover days. Looks like amazing weather for this Easter, Sunny…[Read more]

    • Have a lovely day with your family!

    • Hi Thom4500. What a pleasant post to wake up to. You’re sure to have an exceptional day! Happy Easter to you an yours. And congrats on day 68!

    • Man..that legacy….. oxoxoxxo
      Had no idea jelly beans grow into lollipops! 🙂
      Have so much fun and soak up that so-well-deserved family time. You created this safe space for yourself and everyone close to you. Epic Easter high fice!

      oxoxox

    • You’re a good grandpa Tom! What sweet memories you’re making for those dear grand babies. My “baby” is 16 and 6’1” but I’m still going to make him search for his Easter basket. 😊

    • Happy Easter to you and yours! It sounds like a glorious day. What a wonderful gift to both yourself and your family-sobriety!

    • 69, wow! Im in Nome and temp in down in single digits, up to about 20 later on. I’m just a bit envious, haha. Sounds like a great day Tom, enjoy😎

    • ❤️

  • Tom4500 posted a new activity comment 3 days, 16 hours ago

    Happy Easter JR. The path you’re focusing on is the path I’m trying, that is, to not drink, but to still socialize with my drinking friends. Not always easy, but much easier now than it was at first.

  • Tom4500 posted a new activity comment 1 week ago

    Well at least the Jets are winning, that had to take some of the pressure off. Wine, women, and hockey games; there’s a mix. Knew of a mother of a goalie once, a refined person until she was at a hockey game. Then watch out! Looked up Morden, quite a ways from us, probably about 25 hours. Six from Atikokan; was there once when we went into…[Read more]

    • Hey Tom been to Atikokan a few times for work. There is supposed to be good fishing out that way.

  • Tom4500 posted a new activity comment 1 week, 1 day ago

    Missed your post the other day, Robynb, busy times. Sounds like some relief from anxiety about your children. That’s

  • Tom4500 posted a new activity comment 1 week, 1 day ago

    It really is great, isn’t it? Congrats on the 300 days, Cath. On to the one year, I know it’s in your sights!

  • Tom4500 posted an update 1 week, 1 day ago

    I was thinking last night that alcohol really doesn’t help you feel as though you’re doing a better job of celebrating a moment; that you feel just as happy with the moment if you are sober. Maybe more so? The moment was the end of tax season, and that used to be a sure night of getting pretty smashed. But back then, I really didn’t need a…[Read more]

    • Oh happy days @Tom4500. I remember when my biggest trigger was the fact that I was breathing. Now I can’t see any reason to drink alcohol whatsoever unless I am reincarnated into an automobile and that’s not likely.

    • So glad you were happy yesterday, and enjoying to feeling sober!

    • I like that-it was a duty to drink. I felt like that sometimes. Thank you for paying for our roads! (?). #FTDR

  • Tom4500 posted a new activity comment 1 week, 1 day ago

    Welcome back, Bobby. Yep, alcohol has a way of screwing things up, alright. Maybe not every time, but eventually. I don’t know if you’re an alcoholic, but I am. That’s why I don’t drink the stuff anymore. Seems to me, alcoholics shouldn’t drink alcohol.

  • Tom4500 posted a new activity comment 1 week, 1 day ago

    Hi Lizzy. Yep, no alcohol. Nice to see you again!

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