In the ten years or so since my children flew the nest, my drinking escalated to the 7 - 11 beers/night, (occasionally more or less) until my quit date of 12/5/2016. I was the functional alcoholic type, although I was slowly becoming less functional. My freedom from alcohol has now helped me to turn that around.
Married 38 years, with children & grandchildren. Still working, although now planning and working towards retirement. Update: I joined this forum in early February 2017, it is now May 19, 2017 at my day 166. I'm grateful to all here, you've been an immense help. Further update, now it is October 20th, 2017 and 320 days. This has been a most interesting period in my life, and those here are certainly an important part of it.
I’m not saying it’s impossible to break the parent child bond, but it’s nearly impossible. Parents worry about their children from day one until forever. It’s possibly the most unselfish form of love, that of a parent for their children. Case in point, look at what @juliana wrote. Not saying that improper behavior shouldn’t be recognized and…[Read more]
Stay strong. There’s a world of things you can do, to fill the void of one of those you can’t….that being raising that glass. I like to think there are just two rules, the first being never raise the glass, and the second being never, ever break rule number one. I tend to oversimplify. Good luck this first week, it’s truly a…[Read more]
Had to answer this one, because the same thing happened to me. It’s also referred to in Mrs. D’s early months of her original blog, where she mentions something about just wishing she would stop thinking about it all the time. It never did “just stop” for me, it just trailed off. I’m at about 29 months. Maybe it does go away completely. Maybe…[Read more]
It kind of jumps out at me that you say “he is a very good man”. What if two years isn’t the magic number, what if it’s three, or five? I’m trying to imagine how I would try to get somebody to quit an addiction without being confrontational and putting them on the defensive. Tough issues, @freedom1025, and you know I’m in your corner. I’m sort…[Read more]
Your post echoes my AF path, and it’s nice to read that somebody else has the same problem and solution to alcohol. Yes, the morning voice is the voice of truth! The one that used to tell us “I HAVE to QUIT” and now tells us how good we feel waking up. So unlike the evening voice, which tells us B.S. There is relief and joy in forever. Great…[Read more]
Just in case I’m not here in a couple of days, let me congratulate you now on your one year, Hammer. That’s really big, you should be proud. Sounds like you’ll have to share that event time with your Mom’s birthday, or even move the soberversary treat to a different day, but I do hope that you do something to mark the occasion. I remember that…[Read more]
Lots of family in for Easter. Currently waiting for so, DIL, and baby to wake up so I can turn the three other children loose on the Easter egg hunt….won’t wait much longer. Sprung out of bed when I heard those three come downstairs; there was no “springing out of bed” in the hangover days. Looks like amazing weather for this Easter, Sunny…[Read more]
Man..that legacy….. oxoxoxxo
Had no idea jelly beans grow into lollipops! 🙂
Have so much fun and soak up that so-well-deserved family time. You created this safe space for yourself and everyone close to you. Epic Easter high fice!
Well at least the Jets are winning, that had to take some of the pressure off. Wine, women, and hockey games; there’s a mix. Knew of a mother of a goalie once, a refined person until she was at a hockey game. Then watch out! Looked up Morden, quite a ways from us, probably about 25 hours. Six from Atikokan; was there once when we went into…[Read more]
I was thinking last night that alcohol really doesn’t help you feel as though you’re doing a better job of celebrating a moment; that you feel just as happy with the moment if you are sober. Maybe more so? The moment was the end of tax season, and that used to be a sure night of getting pretty smashed. But back then, I really didn’t need a…[Read more]
Oh happy days @Tom4500. I remember when my biggest trigger was the fact that I was breathing. Now I can’t see any reason to drink alcohol whatsoever unless I am reincarnated into an automobile and that’s not likely.
Welcome back, Bobby. Yep, alcohol has a way of screwing things up, alright. Maybe not every time, but eventually. I don’t know if you’re an alcoholic, but I am. That’s why I don’t drink the stuff anymore. Seems to me, alcoholics shouldn’t drink alcohol.
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