• So I had my job interview yesterday and I totally nailed it! It went so so well and the job and the people sound just so amazing!!!
    However due to the hours I would have to work I would need to swap the day my ex and I do our kid exchange on from Friday night to Saturday morning…no big deal right! Apparently it is for my ex and he is refusing to do this as it interferes with his free time!!!
    I don’t believe in violence but man I imagined hurting him in all sorts of ways last night!!!
    I am SO angry!!! It is literally a matter of hours changing from Friday night to first thing Saturday morning and he won’t do it!
    I explained how important this is to me and how big an opportunity it will be for me if I get the job and he is just being a complete asshole!!!
    Am I being unreasonable asking him to do this for me? I can’t see past my anger and I really need some advice!

    • You are not being unreasonable. Sounds like he is, but that doesn’t help you. Is there a way you can do this without changing the switch time? Cause it sounds like he is going to dig in his heels about this. I’m sure others will have some good insight that may be helpful.

    • Have a think about ‘what’s in it for him?’ Sometimes that brings out an idea which may persuade him to agree. Hope that helps. Plus you could sleep on it as your subconscious may come up with an idea when you calm down.

      • Ewe, he’s one of them. Give it a bit of time and have faith that it will work out but in the meantime maybe there’s someone else that could help out for that short period of time. Congrats on the job! Don’t let him spoil the excitement, things will work out. 🙂

    • Well truth be told he doesn’t have to and that’s okay. Do you feel unsupported by this? What’s behind the anger? Just go ahead and work out another plan. I used to say to a friend well if your ex was dead what would you do, you would find a way. Have they offered you the job? Well done on acing the interview 😁

    • Congrats on smashing your job interview – that’s huge 🙂 The other stuff will work it’s way out – you’ll see.

    • Congratulations on your new job, thrilled for you, well done!!! I would try and get someone else to help you out in the short term, that way you remove the angst of dealing with him. ❤️

  • timidwarrior posted a new activity comment 3 days, 22 hours ago

    Eeekkk! Thank you ❤️

  • timidwarrior posted a new activity comment 3 days, 23 hours ago

    Thank you so much xxx

  • timidwarrior posted a new activity comment 3 days, 23 hours ago

    Thank you ❤️

  • timidwarrior posted a new activity comment 3 days, 23 hours ago

    Thank you!!! ❤️

  • timidwarrior posted a new activity comment 4 days ago

    I am confident, I am confident, that is my mantra for the next couple of days!!!

  • timidwarrior posted a new activity comment 4 days ago

    Aww thank you lovely ❤️

  • timidwarrior posted a new activity comment 4 days ago

    I was the same, I was attracting the wrong type of guys when I was drinking, I also didn’t like myself so thought I didn’t deserve any better. But I have been working on it a lot in therapy and feel like I am ready to get back out there and date with a sober mind!!!

  • timidwarrior posted a new activity comment 4 days, 4 hours ago

    Good on you for taking extra special care of yourself xxx

  • timidwarrior posted a new activity comment 4 days, 4 hours ago

    Yes go you! You have absolutely nothing to fear and he is totally shooting himself in the foot!
    Stay strong lovely xxx

  • timidwarrior posted a new activity comment 4 days, 4 hours ago

    Hahaha yes go you!!!

  • timidwarrior posted a new activity comment 4 days, 4 hours ago

    Great flexing of your sober muscles and not putting yourself in triggering situations! Do what’s right for you right now lovely xxx

  • timidwarrior posted a new activity comment 4 days, 4 hours ago

    I like be this post ❤️❤️❤️

  • So I had my first sober date last night!
    The guy was a great person with a great attitude about life but unfortunately I felt no chemistry, no spark, but that’s ok. I still had a great night and some nice food so it wasn’t a total loss!
    I feel like I have gained a new found confidence in myself which is a really nice feeling to have, it is something that I have not felt before so I must give huge props to my therapist who has helped me get to this point!
    In exciting news I also have a job interview on Monday for a role actually related to my studies! I am so excited for this and feel my new found self confidence will definitely be a big bonus for this interview!
    Right now apart from my health issues life is pretty good and I’m feeling pretty happy! It’s been a long time since I have felt this good about myself and my life! Long may it continue ❤️❤️❤️

  • timidwarrior posted a new activity comment 5 days, 12 hours ago

    I love this, thank you x

  • timidwarrior posted a new activity comment 5 days, 12 hours ago

    Thank you for your lovely words x
    Congratulations on your impressive day count!

  • timidwarrior posted a new activity comment 5 days, 20 hours ago

    I definitely put myself in dangerous situations previously when dating revolved around alcohol, so at least I will be able to make much safer decisions being sober!

  • I am going on a date tomorrow night!!! Eeekkk!!! My first date in quite some time and will be my first ever sober date! I would use alcohol to help me cope with my social anxiety and keep me calm, give myself confidence to be outgoing…..so tomorrow will be very interesting to see how things go and how I cope with my anxiety. I am feeling excited which is good but definitely also anxious. But one thing I have learnt over the last year or two is that I am strong, I can face my fears and once I do I feel pretty dam proud, so this will be another challenge to face but one I am looking forward to!!!
    Here’s hoping for a positive experience 😂

    • You brave woman! My whole experience with dating was awash with alcohol. It would’ve be so different, and so much more interesting I think not drinking. You see the person for who they are, not make any dumb, rash decisions. I hope it goes well, and I’ll look forward to your update! x

      • I definitely put myself in dangerous situations previously when dating revolved around alcohol, so at least I will be able to make much safer decisions being sober!

    • I haven’t had a date in almost 20 years, but maybe your anxiety is just butterflies and butterflies are beautiful! Stay excited!

    • Hey timidwarrior for taking a huge step! I am excited to read how it went. Either way – it is a victory for you.

    • Sounds exciting. I go on dates too, with that lady on my left. But pretty much, after 40 years, we know what to expect. Hope you have a good time, and whoever it is, I hope they aren’t a drinker. That might not be the best match. But what the heck, it’s just a first date. Happy for you!

    • That exciting!! Think of it as another whole new fresh start. Your date will meet you as a non-drinker. That’s who you are now – along with a lot of other exceptionally wonderful things. He or she will be meeting the real you – and you’re awesome! Nothing to be anxious about. Have a great time! I’ll be thinking of you.

    • It will be positive no matter what the outcome person-wise, as you will be in command of your thoughts, able to observe yourself, and the date, and consider each aspect. I still get nervous as hell when seeing my (long distance) partner – takes days to settle down to half nervousness, and I really see the role alcohol played, made everything so much easier, BUT now it is way better, in a very different way. Never going back. (nearly 5 years 🙂 )
      Hey, it will be over right? How was it?

  • timidwarrior posted a new activity comment 5 days, 21 hours ago

    Oh wow what an amazing holiday you are having!!! Pompeii must have been amazing to see!

  • timidwarrior posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    Congratulations, what a positive post! ❤❤❤

  • timidwarrior posted a new activity comment 1 week, 5 days ago

    OMG I love Rome I will definitely be going back there again ❤️ the food, the views, the people, the history OMG heaven on Earth!

    • Love Rome 😍 – the Ara Pacis Augustae and Monte Testaccio (pottery mountain) worth checking out – have fun!

  • timidwarrior posted a new activity comment 1 week, 5 days ago

    What a beautiful post, it makes my heart feel so happy for you lovely! Would be awesome to meet you when you come to New Zealand ❤️ Take care x

  • timidwarrior posted a new activity comment 1 week, 5 days ago

    What an awesome day!!!!!

  • timidwarrior posted a new activity comment 1 week, 5 days ago

    I hope you are doing ok, look after yourself lovely ❤️

  • timidwarrior posted a new activity comment 1 week, 6 days ago

    Wow! Congratulations! 100 days that’s awesome! Superstar ❤️

  • timidwarrior posted a new activity comment 1 week, 6 days ago

    Wow! What an amazing day!

  • timidwarrior posted a new activity comment 1 week, 6 days ago

    Thank you for the shout out lovely. I am not having the best time at the moment health wise I have three separate issues going at the moment, it is just so frustrating!
    But in good news I finished my last two assignments yesterday so I now have three whole weeks of rest and relaxation ahead of me to focus on my health before starting my final paper! Eeekkk!
    PS I love tahini!

  • timidwarrior posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 3 days ago

    Congratulations on your 1 year soberversary!!! What a sober superstar! Bet that feels amazing ❤❤❤

  • timidwarrior posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 3 days ago

    Wow 1 year!!! Congratulations that is amazing!!! You must feel so proud of yourself! I know all of us here are proud of you ❤❤❤

  • timidwarrior posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 3 days ago

    Love that ❤️

  • timidwarrior posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 3 days ago

    Best way to spend a Sunday morning ❤️

  • Day 220! Woke up this morning sick as a dog but forced myself out of bed because I have assignments to do.
    But the sun is out and I am sober so it is a good day ❤️❤️❤️

  • timidwarrior posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 4 days ago

    Hahaha oh dear!

  • timidwarrior posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 4 days ago

    Amazing!!! Congratulations 🎉🎉🎉

  • timidwarrior posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 4 days ago

    You are doing so well! I am so happy for you lovely ❤️❤️❤️🤘🤘🤘😁😁😁

  • timidwarrior posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 4 days ago

    That’s so awesome! Go you!

  • timidwarrior posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 5 days ago

    Thanks lovely x
    Just another hurdle to face!

  • timidwarrior posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 5 days ago

    He wants to see if any of them can be dissolved first. So I have to drink this alkaline drink four times a day for the next eight weeks then have a CT scan to see if the number has reduced then start the operations lol

  • timidwarrior posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 5 days ago

    No I haven’t luckily! I had no idea I had any! They were discovered by accident when I went in for an ultrasound for something else hahaha.

  • timidwarrior posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 5 days ago

    I know! Weird aye!

  • timidwarrior posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 5 days ago

    Unfortunately not! I also have to avoid nuts, spinach, beetroots and kumara – all of my favorite things!

  • So I had my CT scan yesterday and saw the specialist today….turns out I have 12-14 kidney stones!!!
    I am booked in for surgery on 25th July and will probably need at least 3 surgeries to remove them all!!!
    And to top it off he told me I have to stop eating peanut butter as it is well known for causing kidney stones 😭😭😭. Peanut butter is my most favouritist food in the world!!!
    Grrrr stupid kidney stones!!!

  • timidwarrior posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 5 days ago

    Have an awesome time!!!

  • timidwarrior posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 5 days ago

    Oh yay congrats on the job! That’s awesome!

  • timidwarrior posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 6 days ago

    OMG that is terribly sad news!!! Such a huge reminder of why we are doing what we do! ❤️❤️❤️

  • timidwarrior posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 6 days ago

    Wow! 28 years!

  • Argh I am so over sickness and health issues! It is one thing after another at the moment! I have a CT scan tomorrow on my kidneys then a doctor’s appointment Friday for 2 other issues I am having…both my boys were sick this weekend and now I’m sitting on the couch with my 4 year old asleep on me because he has a sore ear and he just wants to be with me. Of course I will look after him poor thing but I also have two assignments due next week which I really need to be working on! One of them I haven’t even started yet!
    Aaahhh the joys of single parenthood and trying to get everything done!

    • Sorry to hear you’re poorly and the little people. You’re a good Mummy. Yes very hard trying to wear many hats, don’t forget to make time somewhere in there for you. None of it will be worth it if you blow a foo foo valve. Here’s to the rest of your week running smoothly and smashing out those assignments 💪👩‍👦‍👦🏃‍♀️👩‍💻🧟‍♀️🤯😴

    • Stupid Kids…neys. 😛 whats up with them? It always sucks when the young boys are sick. They just want hugs etc. Just keep doing the superhero thing for them 🙂 If the other isnt around at all, you just get double love but double responsibility so be awesome haha.

    • You’re a real deal rock star in their eyes – and you really are. Hang in there. You’re doing the best you can. And it’s so much more than you can even realize right now. Superhero. That’s you! I hope everyone feels better. It’s Wednesday here in the states. The weekend is in the distance. Good luck!

    • Awww sending positive vibes your way @timidwarrior!💗

  • timidwarrior posted a new activity comment 3 weeks ago

    That so exciting! What a happy time x

  • timidwarrior posted a new activity comment 3 weeks ago

    I’m am also learning to embrace my own sober weirdnesses!

  • timidwarrior posted a new activity comment 3 weeks ago

    Happy birthday 🎉🎂🎈

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