• time2quit posted a new activity comment 1 week, 5 days ago

    That’s great @laurali 🙂 Days 4 & 5 are REALLY hard. Keep going and stick close to here when you need to 🙂

  • time2quit posted a new activity comment 4 months ago

    Well Done @tewy! A great ‘first’ to get out of the way!!! Go you!!! 🙂

  • time2quit posted an update 4 months ago

    Crazy busy weekend with events and houseguests… but today is Day 10 🙂 🙂 🙂

  • time2quit posted a new activity comment 4 months, 1 week ago

    Thanks so much! Xx

  • time2quit posted a new activity comment 4 months, 1 week ago

    Thanks… I Gave in in Sooooooo many Day 4’s 🙁 Feeling really good so far?!?! X

  • time2quit posted a new activity comment 4 months, 1 week ago

    Thanks… it already feels like a win this week x

  • time2quit posted a new activity comment 4 months, 1 week ago

    Thanks! I think the kids got a bit more chocolate out of the ‘booze free budget’… might regret that one Sun night!?!? Haha x

  • time2quit posted a new activity comment 4 months, 1 week ago

    Thanks…. Go you too! X

  • time2quit posted a new activity comment 4 months, 1 week ago

    Well done! No ‘booze stock up here’ either… which is kind of liberating!?!? 🙂

  • Day 4 Done and dusted! 🙂 Was slightly harder than I thought… but mostly cause I had to shop 3 times… and the normal ‘stock up on booze and food for Easter’… was totally different!?!? Still… booze free… home for a weekend of Kids, Chocolate and No work! Haha

  • time2quit posted a new activity comment 4 months, 1 week ago

    Yay for Day 10!!! yay you for pushing through… you will feel incredible in the morning! Well Done!!! x

  • time2quit posted a new activity comment 4 months, 1 week ago

    Thanks @juliana

  • time2quit posted a new activity comment 4 months, 1 week ago

    Stick close @kissingmyrainbow … together we can do this! x

  • time2quit posted a new activity comment 4 months, 1 week ago

    No inspiration here … but can I say @daveh how grateful I am for your presence and contributions on this site! 🙂

  • time2quit posted a new activity comment 4 months, 1 week ago

    Thanks @newstart100… I quickly fired that status off before work to keep myself ‘accountable’?!? You are correct… it is not a ‘piece of cake’ … quite the opposite 🙁 However I do feel after MANY, MANY attempts… I truly feel ‘I AM DONE’ this time… I simple CAN’T DRINK ALCOHOL… EVER!!! Wish me luck and thanks for commenting! x

  • time2quit posted a new activity comment 4 months, 1 week ago

    Well done @newstart100! 🙂

  • time2quit posted a new activity comment 4 months, 1 week ago

    Well done! I’m right here with you! Keep going and UP THE WATER INTAKE!!! It will definitely help with the headaches! x

  • time2quit posted a new activity comment 4 months, 1 week ago

    Great post! LOL Well done on 40 days! x

  • Day 4!!! But I spent yesterday surrounded by alcohol at a boozy day long function… and didn’t touch a drop… so i’m hoping today is going to be a piece of cake?!?! 🙂

    • Well done yesterday @time2quit!! I have found that nothing about this sober life is a piece of cake, but that is ok, nothing worth having every came easy, right? I find that after I get through a particular difficult gathering without drinking alcohol it is important to reward myself with something that makes me feel good. A ‘treat’ if you will – doesn’t need to be food or even something that you purchase (although that tends to be my go-to). Maybe a nice long walk or bath or a solid hour of reading a good book? Just something to say to yourself, I am not taking things away from my life but rather adding joy to my life through non-alcoholic tools. Again, great job yesterday, you are building those sober muscles one outing at a time xo

      • Thanks @newstart100… I quickly fired that status off before work to keep myself ‘accountable’?!? You are correct… it is not a ‘piece of cake’ … quite the opposite 🙁 However I do feel after MANY, MANY attempts… I truly feel ‘I AM DONE’ this time… I simple CAN’T DRINK ALCOHOL… EVER!!! Wish me luck and thanks for commenting! x

    • I hope it is a piece of cake, but if it isn’t, I recommend eating a piece of cake or 3 to get past any tough spots. Treat food helped me a lot at the beginning. Day 4 is a lot of work acvomplished! @time2quit

  • time2quit posted a new activity comment 4 months, 1 week ago

    P.s this site and the people on it was the only reason I succeeded in any of my attempts… especially the first one! Sticking close by now for some added ‘connection’. Have a great day! X

  • time2quit posted a new activity comment 4 months, 1 week ago

    Wow @tamsil … I could have written that post! On my Day 3 now after 4+ years of exactly what u described above. Stick close and we can NEVER HAVE ANOTHER DAY ONE … Together! 🙂

    • P.s this site and the people on it was the only reason I succeeded in any of my attempts… especially the first one! Sticking close by now for some added ‘connection’. Have a great day! X

  • time2quit posted a new activity comment 4 months, 1 week ago

    Well done @tamsil … i’m On Day Two for the ‘multiple time’ too. I’ve been ‘quitting, binging, sober, binging, quitting … for 4 years now! No wonder my husbands not taking this time too seriously… yet! Lol 🙂 Keep going strong over Days 4-5… they are the height of the acute withdrawal symptoms. Personally I always turn a corner around 7-10 days… and life is sooooo much easier! 🙂 Well done… u are doing great!

    • I absolutely agree!!! Day 3-5 is usually when I slip back into bad habits!!! Going to my recovery meetings and checking in here helps. Thanks for the reminder to be aware of this withdrawal time!!! Congratulations on Day 2, sounds like we have a very similar story of bingeing and sober time.

  • time2quit posted a new activity comment 4 months, 1 week ago

    Well done… the sense of freedom is very liberating isn’t it??? On my ‘Forever Day 2’ … feeling it is really going to stick this time 🙂

  • time2quit posted a new activity comment 4 months, 1 week ago

    I also have a ‘non communicating’ husband at times… even if he doesn’t respond… he still has heard your valid and genuine input… it will have a effect in his thoughts. Yay you tho…. u can now plan some plans U actually want to use you Easter for! X

  • time2quit posted a new activity comment 4 months, 1 week ago

    Welcome @justjen … you’ll find support like no other here!

  • time2quit posted a new activity comment 4 months, 1 week ago

    Auckland is my hometown @enzedgirl… living in Sth Island 🙂

  • time2quit posted a new activity comment 4 months, 1 week ago

    Thanks @tipsytoegal… forgot about the ‘early days insomnia’ i currently have at 3.30am! Still turned down 3 alcoholic drinks at a function tonight! 🙂

  • time2quit posted a new activity comment 4 months, 1 week ago

    Day 5!!! Yay you!!! Day 4 REALLY SUCKS!?!?! 🙂 Well done! x

  • time2quit posted a new activity comment 4 months, 1 week ago

    Safe Travels MrsD and wishing you a relaxing remainder of the holidays ahead… your doggy will be pleased to see u! x

  • time2quit posted a new activity comment 4 months, 1 week ago

    One Day I am going to make one of these… will plan something next year to coincide with one date x

  • Day Two… onwards and upwards. Lots to do and no time for booze to feature 🙂 x

  • time2quit posted a new activity comment 4 months, 1 week ago

    Thanks @kissingmyrainbow … This does feel different… and relieving!!! I AM SIMPLY DONE… I’ve already drank my lifetimes worth of alcohol… and my family deserves better x

  • time2quit posted a new activity comment 4 months, 1 week ago

    Thanks @winner x

  • time2quit posted a new activity comment 4 months, 1 week ago

    Well done @KikiD … I’ve been a ‘slow learner’ but Go You on Day 4!!! That’s Super Great!!! Keep going!!!!!!!!
    x

  • time2quit posted a new activity comment 4 months, 1 week ago

    Thanks @jm… I’ve been here MANY TIMES before, lol… but it does feel different! So hanging onto that for today x

  • time2quit posted a new activity comment 4 months, 1 week ago

    Thanks @buckeyeone! When my facebook memories fed up the ‘Forever Day One’ 4 YEARS AGO?!?! 🙁 I know now I AM REALLY DONE! Still loads of challenges… but feeling confident, and relieved!!! x

  • Day One done and dusted! I’ve done ‘all the research’ multiple times… the fact is I CAN NEVER DRINK ALCOHOL again! 🙂 Feeling pretty good about the space i’m in… sticking close here for a bit x

  • Embarrassed and desperate to be writing this post 🙁 After MANY long and varied stints living ‘alcohol free’ a crisis a few months ago has me back in the grips of this drinking cycle… have aimed for so many ‘Day Ones’ in the last week… only to drink every night!?!? I am currently drinking a bottle of wine a night (hidden), as I go about my family’s night time routine… all the time my husband… thinks ‘I’ve stopped drinking…’ (which is scary a bottle of wine shows no effect???) …. this has to stop… the ‘bottle of wine tolerance’… the hiding bottles… and the round about on/off boozing 🙁 🙁 🙁

    • great you are here being honest.. that is the first big step and you’ve taken it!! You’ll get that shit out of your life, it will take some effort but you’ll do it ❤️

      • Seconded! Tolerance can hide some of the effects of alcohol. When you increase the amount it will become obvious. Good time to stop lovely! ❤️

    • Gather up all your resolve and put on your big girl pants…….you CAN do this

    • Hi @time2quit It’s time to take stock of where you’re at; what you do and don’t know. The pivotal question for me was whether or not I still had control of my drinking. Finally accepting what I so didn’t want to, that I could not control or manage my drinking, completely changed the landscape for me.

      Do you still have control of your drinking? I drank because I drank because drank. I didn’t drink because it made me happy and I can’t even begin to count the times I failed to not drink when I’d intended to, or when “just a couple” saw me pissed again. I had tried everything I knew to limit my drinking over a period of years, but nothing had worked. I was completely out of ideas, and eventually had to give in and accept the truth. It was a terrifying conclusion to reach, but in the end I couldn’t deny it. I could not control my drinking.

      It’s odd, but this acceptance of defeat was the breakthrough that enabled me to succeed. It removed doubt. Once that the idea that I could reduce the amount I drank was removed then there were only two choices: I could either drink, or not drink. But I could not drink a little; this option was no longer on the table and in truth it hadn’t been for many years… I was a slow learner on this one.

      Once the choices were reduced then my path became clear. I could not carry on drinking… it had to stop. When doubt was removed I had a clear direction in which to proceed. Whether I wanted it or not the only course for me was to stop drinking altogether. It was an horrific realisation, but it was what had to happen, and that is when my recovery ball started rolling. My real recovery began in that moment because immediately following the realisation that I had to stop, it was essential, came the awful recognition that I didn’t have a clue how to do this. I’d half-pie tried a thousand times and got nowhere at all. I didn’t know how to do this… I had to ask for help.

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      • Thanks for the wise words @DaveH. Your post really hit home for me. Like Wile E. Coyote having the anvil fall on his head, hitting home..

      • Your words resonated with me. It was/is the situation I found/find myself in. Thanks

    • @time2quit I let a tragedy send me back out too after five years AF. Big hugs to you, you can do this….one day at a time. So many awesome resources on this site. I love that you are just honestly putting it out there…that is the first step to getting better and it will happen.

    • Please don’t be embarrassed, you know there’s no judgement here. I’m glad you’ve had the courage to post and to me this means you do want to stop drinking. Can you think what’s causing you to not stop?

  • time2quit posted a new activity comment 9 months, 2 weeks ago

    Welcome back Ange… Same faces?… Different faces?….. It’s all a shared journey! Congrats on posting again… Great to see u here! 🙂

  • time2quit posted a new activity comment 9 months, 2 weeks ago

    Totally awesome response @prudence … As always x

  • time2quit posted a new activity comment 9 months, 2 weeks ago

    Awwwhh… One day I hope to make one of these! I will give @mtedenmummy the biggest hug… For friendships formed online xxx

  • time2quit posted a new activity comment 10 months ago

    Great @claloula … this site really is something special! I also apply a logic to really bad times…”this too shall pass” … its sometimes bad shit difficult … but it does pass. Happy Sober Weekend to you! x

  • time2quit posted a new activity comment 10 months ago

    Well done @trace … brussel sprouts are a ‘no go’ for me as well! Greatest thing about being an adult… knowing I will never have to eat them again! hahaha x

  • time2quit posted a new activity comment 10 months ago

    Good to hear you feel safe and well. Have a good time with your friend… safe and supportive friends really are the ‘gold’ in life! 🙂

  • time2quit posted a new activity comment 10 months ago

    Good Morning @reginald … Happy Sober weekend ahead of you! 🙂

  • time2quit posted a new activity comment 10 months ago

    @agirl … 31 days alcohol free is a bigger enough decision for now! Congratulations!!! You seem to have great insight.. so just keep going on a sober path and the medication decision can wait for a later time! Just stay Alcohol free for now…at all costs. Have a great weekend, however you choose to spend it! x

    • Thanks so much @timetoquit. The support of folks here makes it so much easier. You have a great weekend too!

  • time2quit posted an update 10 months ago

    Thanks everyone for your comments yesterday… frighteningly aware that it was only because I keep my house AF that I didn’t drink yesterday. Still got the same commitments and stresses today… but at least I don’t have a hangover! I have full respect for anybody that navigates this sober path with another drinker in the house. Now… to attempt all the things I procrastinated about yesterday!?!?!

    • oxoxox My therapist always stresses how important it is to “slow down” especially (!) when we feel like we have too much going on. Not always easy….I struggle with it myself…..Let’s do one thing at a time today…..chipping away at what may seem like a mountain. Just one thing…then the next best thing or task…You got this. It is going to be ok.

  • time2quit posted a new activity comment 10 months ago

    @reena my husband rarely/never drinks… But when I stop (and yes there were many,’many previous attempts.)… He buys alcohol, brings it home… And definitely seems to drink on more occasions? It has me totally confused?!?

  • time2quit posted an update 10 months ago

    https://www.stuff.co.nz/national/health/108120890/one-third-of-kiwis-drinking-hazardously-their-entire-adult-lives-research-shows?fbclid=IwAR00aNy81URom4kqRSlJNge7c6Myii1uYya7-IoCu11I1eZTshsixMMqsqk
    Interesting research… I’ve certainly been a ‘binge brinker’ since I first started drinking. Always drank ‘more’ and ‘faster’ than my peers at every stage of my life 🙁

    • Interesting- thanks for sharing im in the UK i wonder what the stats are here. I have also always drank faster and more than people around me. So glad to have this site x

    • Yes, but we are now bucking the trend and breaking those habits!

  • time2quit posted a new activity comment 10 months ago

    Thanks @joni Great advice I had a nap and keep my house AF so today is all sorted now 🙂

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