Heading south with my dad
For a boys trip to Kakanui
Hope the surfs a good size and pumping!!
Bonfire on da beach taking my guitar and my didgeridoo some soul time!
So cool to be emotionally sober and cool to hang with dad he’s 74 this year!!
Remember good times..tuff times
So jst try to enjoy the…[Read more]
90 days peeps
Only 10 more sleeps to the hundie club
Stay as strong as a strong thing!!
We can do this
If i dont pick up the first drink i wont get drunk!!
Keep up the good fight
Peace n lov 2 ya!!
Yesterday i was realy sad and depressed as to what happened in chch.
Realy felt like numbing the feelings out,spent the day by myself got no /very little support from family which is sad.(no more isolating )
Im a Big feeler/very sensitive person this can make living in the world difficult and a challenge.
I normally dont watch the news…[Read more]
i’m sorry @Tim, I am also an “empath” or sensitive person, I pick up vibes or waves of emotions from others or just sometimes places themselves. Treat yourself gentle, is there something you can indulge in to feel better? Swim in the surf? probably cool there now tho. Whatever, sending good vibes (which you could possibly pick up too) out…[Read more]
Hi @Tim I was feeling extra sensitive yesterday too. Unfortunately my daughter watched the live stream footage of the attack before it was removed and had sent the link to me. I chose not to watch it and am so glad I didnt because it affected my daughter deeply. So glad you woke up sober and feeling better this morning. Sometimes looking after…[Read more]
Big hugs to you! It is so devastating even more so being a sensitive person and living in Christchurch ❤️ Well done on staying sober and looking after yourself, that’s awesome!
Can you get out today, go for a surf, go for a bush walk, go out for a coffee with a friend just for some connection?
Stay strong @tim…[Read more]
Aw, Tim! Good on you staying away from the media. The psychs here told us to not watch happenings such as this over and over because we get retraumatized everytime and never get to move on to healing. Hugs to you and all my NZ friends!
Yes @Tim I am struggling deeply with it too. One nice thing was yesterday in Tauranga when my friend @normaleelucid was taking me back to the airport we passed a mosque and there were people there milling about, some praying, some bringing flowers, some muslem, some not, all there together, far away from Christchurch, feeling it, connecting,…[Read more]
Hi Tim. It is sad your beautiful city is suffering once again. Our safe little haven NZ has been violated. Well done on remaining sober and using your knowledge to keep safe. Sending my compassion to you Tim.
Hi @tim, just checked in here to make sure you OK, happy to learn you are safe. We don’t know each other… but I always read your posts & silently ‘cheerlead’ your AF journey & great progress. Remembered you mentioning Brighton so assumed you live in Chch and just wanted to reach out to you & all my fellow kiwis going through this terrible time.…[Read more]
The sobriety counter says
Bit o rain on the roof
Time to hav a nice pray
And go about the day
Smile as i work
Connect with people and the earth
Happy to be clean n sober
Keep up the good fight
As Maori tim used to say
Don’t repeat it
Be coming mentally healthier by the day!!
Give your self a pat on the back or a self bear…[Read more]
Hi @Tim You’re onto it. “mentally healthier”… that’s the goal isn’t it. The days counter is an interesting thing, but it doesn’t show what really matters. The aim of recovery is mental wellness. The counter doesn’t measure wellness, it measures sobriety.
It’s uplifting to see your message every morning; thank you.
Sober 71 days
Been a lot overwhelmed lately
NOT GOING TO DRINK OR DRUG
Letting my emotions go im not in control
Ive jst lately realized im addicted to selfpity and afraid to be happy a lot of the time.
Seems crazy but is true
There seems to be a safe place in being blue
Learning to hand it over to god
God actually wants me to be joyous…[Read more]
Hows it going
Try to be strong today!
The sun is rising down the beach
A beautiful orange yellow
Over a green blue ocean
With amazing mysterys
Unfolding in the light
The driftwood sits on the shore line
In the shadows of day and night
Footprints on the sand leading
To a better way
Raised arms to the sky
And i say hallelujah SOBER…[Read more]
62 days:) thats good for my ego!!
Well my funk has passed
Thanks to jesus
Having a higher power in my life is awesome
Jst take my hands off the wheel and let him steer.
I do take back my will alot this gets me in trouble.
Need to live the thy will be done way
As my will and ego wants me using everytime.
Been traveling well with the drinking side…[Read more]
Feelin a bit flat
Well how about that
Up n down
Round n round
Cant be happy all the time
If i dont hav the lows
Wont know the highs
Lows are better hangover free
No headaches for me
Or empty wallet with blackout memories
Or my gods what happened last night
So people keep up the good fight
Jst ask god to set you free
He will help you and me!
Hav a…[Read more]
Hello sober super stars
Well im 59 days sober today
Been a lot happy today
Hope i dont crash and burn
Hav a few days off till next wed so good time to catch up on meetings and selfcare.
Hope to catch a wave or two as well…and a gym sesh.
Any good tips to loose a sugar belly
Spose eat nutrient meals and exercise
Smaller portions i cook…[Read more]
Definitely try the keto way of eating. I have barely touched sugar for 29 weeks and not craved anything much. Great food, never hungry.
It is known to really help with mood too, many on the NZ keto FB site saying they don’t need their depression or anxiety meds any more. Amazing healing occurs for so many years health issues. Check it out 🙂
Yes! Challenge your thoughts: It’s not about you, it’s about them. Maybe they’re having a bad day. Wow, it must be hard to be them. They just don’t understand how that hurt. Etc. Etc.
It may be easier to challenge your thoughts if you understand your underlying schema. A schema is the primary theme that underlies your negative thoughts…[Read more]
Loved your advice and explanation of schemas and how they affect our thoughts, Frog! Either you are in the business of therapy or you have a damn good therapist. =) To put in my 2 cents @tim, I also like to think of them as “the stories we well ourselves”. For example, what are the stories I tell myself about why I’m never supposed to feel…[Read more]
Yeah, another perspective is when. People say hurtful things it’s often a reflection on them and their own issues which are being deflected on to you. Try to put the mean comment in an imaginary balloon @tim and imagine letting it go as it flys away ! ❤️❤️❤️
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