• Hi all, 54 days and not a single drop. I had a really challenging day yesterday, went to sleep and woke up in the middle of the night, realising I did not have a single thought of alcohol to drown my emotions yesterday. Wow. That was a first. Usually I think:”Oh how easy it would be to just have a few wines and drown the emotions ” I don’t do this anymore and I will not go back there, it was an evil place to be. I have this strange strength in me that will not allow me to go back, it feels a bit like someone or something is looking out for me. Quite lovely really. Be strong all you people out there. Look after your amazing bodies. πŸ™‚

  • therealme posted a new activity comment 5 years ago

    I think without knowing that there are other people under the alcohol claws, realising that they need support to get off this stuff, I wouldn’t have stopped drinking 17 days ago. I am not thinking of drinking as much and like myself so much better.Reading other posts is an eye opener. Some are finding it easy, some difficult. But we are all there for each other. This is what COMMUNITY is really about. Reaching out. And we don’t even know each other. Pretty powerful! Thank you Lotta, thank you all, I can’t say it enough πŸ™‚

  • therealme posted a new activity comment 5 years ago

    OOOps, I never checked that.

  • therealme posted an update 5 years ago

    Good wonderful sunny morning to all of you. Just started the book “Kick the drink easily” So far it makes all the sense in the world, especially when he explains that actually there is a cure for us who are hooked on alcohol and that the terminology widely used is scary and suggest we are all long term diseased. and in recovery for ever- well this is not so. We make a choice to stop drinking and that makes us a non drinker! I like that.
    I am really good, better than I could have ever imagined I feel a bit blown away by it really. I am working on mindfulness and awareness of my thoughts and emotions. Try hot yoga everyone. It’s amazing, you have a much clearer mind and detox your body at the same time. You don’t have to be flexible or be good at yoga…it is really an amazing experience! Enjoy your weekend. I am not skiing this weekend, trying to avoid big booze up parties, instead I go to some friends and have a quite dinner. I take a bottle of hmmm…. something special…don’t know yet what, but definitely without alcohol in it. πŸ™‚

  • therealme posted a new activity comment 5 years ago

    Hi, I actually don’t get this add. I watched it about 29000 times and still don’t get the yeah, nah thing, but then I am German, probably lost in translation. πŸ™‚
    Just read your earlier post, I ski as well and so many people drink very heavily in the club. I decided to give it a break for this season, dropped out of race team and club and just avoid these situations for now. Enjoy the snow. Should be a good one this weekend.

  • therealme posted a new activity comment 5 years ago

    Cool, so proud of you.. You tried to hide the alcohol fro others, but you still knew that this was not right. So we really can’t hide from ourselves, can we. Realisation that there is an alcohol problem is the very first step. The most important one. Now you need strength. I am on day 14, so not long, but I feel so well, and proud and strong and healthy. No way will that demon alcohol grip me again. I will not let it. Don’t let it. Strengthen your mind. It is very powerful. You can do. Just want it enough and get that alcohol monster which will pop up, under control. All the best for you.

    • well done. in these early days it’s just one step at a time. keep going!

    • good on you! first hard step is to admit you have a problem. Even harder to make that decision to stop! I am 18 months sober and I do only one day at a time. 35 years of drinking has definitely affected my memory. You can do this, just one day at a time. πŸ™‚

  • therealme posted a new activity comment 5 years ago

    And good luck to you. I try again to put a photo on in a minute or ask my son next week. Stay strong.

  • therealme posted a new activity comment 5 years ago

    Yes, good idea, I still have 2 teenagers living with me, I might ask them, although this will reveal my challenge. May be I tell the boy rather than the girl. My daughter will have this spread all over Australasia in a millisecond. How long ago have you stopped drinking and do you still find it difficult?

    • zulu replied 5 years ago

      7 weeks-ish. Most of the time I find it fine. When I have come home after work I don’t find the witching hour a problem – it’s kind of like that going to bed sober feeling – I feel it at home all the time now. My hard time is the couple of times a week I visit my mum and she wants to have a wine with me. She is out of town at the moment so i have been gathering my self and have decided it’s time for a new ritual with her – where we can still chat and have those moments. I haven’t socialised much yet. One party with people who aren’t big drinkers. I have another party on Saturday and I’m looking forward to letting my hair down and getting my groove thing on booze free πŸ™‚

  • therealme posted a new activity comment 5 years ago

    So all you here have managed to get a photo uploaded. How did you do this? I think I will find blogging harder than giving up the wine πŸ™‚

  • therealme posted an update 5 years ago

    Sitting at home having a bit of a giggle. We are such a huge community. I feel so comfortable among all of you I am still not sure how to use this bloggy thingything. Computers are not my strength. How do I load up a photo. Can’t find the button which lets me do this. Can someone help please?

    • zulu replied 5 years ago

      I find it’s always good to grab yourself a teenager for such tasks. as soon as I can prize one of mine away from their own gadgets I might get them to help me download a photo. Stepping right out of my comfort zones there! Oh well, i was becoming very uncomfortable with my previous (boozy) comfort zones anyway, so why not πŸ™‚

    • Yes, good idea, I still have 2 teenagers living with me, I might ask them, although this will reveal my challenge. May be I tell the boy rather than the girl. My daughter will have this spread all over Australasia in a millisecond. How long ago have you stopped drinking and do you still find it difficult?

      • zulu replied 5 years ago

        7 weeks-ish. Most of the time I find it fine. When I have come home after work I don’t find the witching hour a problem – it’s kind of like that going to bed sober feeling – I feel it at home all the time now. My hard time is the couple of times a week I visit my mum and she wants to have a wine with me. She is out of town at the moment so i have been gathering my self and have decided it’s time for a new ritual with her – where we can still chat and have those moments. I haven’t socialised much yet. One party with people who aren’t big drinkers. I have another party on Saturday and I’m looking forward to letting my hair down and getting my groove thing on booze free πŸ™‚

    • Yep teenagers are great for that. One of mine showed me something on my tablet tonight that apparently everyone just knows how to do it.. ha ha. You should be able to upload a photo through your profile settings. Have been wary of people seeing me, and infact one friend has, but I have just been upfront and telling people I have a problem with the booze and am getting help. Good luck in you fight

      • And good luck to you. I try again to put a photo on in a minute or ask my son next week. Stay strong.

  • therealme posted an update 5 years ago

    Oh fat, fast fingers, pushed the send button by accident. Anyway, I bought the book and started reading. I cried and cried, because Lotta’s drinking was reflecting mine. I knew I had to stop. The alcohol has been a crutch, so I thought , to deal with managing staff, kids and an unsuccessful relationship for too long. I have become a person who drowned her emotions with the poisonous liquor. I was pretty numb for the past years, just making it from one hour to the next without really being here.
    I stopped drinking on 25 July 2014, so still pretty early days. I KNOW i will not drink alcohol ever again. I can’t because I will slide down the same slide, can’t stop at 1-2 glasses, have to drink until my brain is away with the alcohol fairies
    And I am really good. Yes there are about 2-4 hours a day which are still twitchy but this craving goes and then it feels so good. It gives me strength. I feel proud, healthy and can’t wait to get to know me. Thank you all you lovely people out there. You are exactly what I need to get through this Thank you Lotta for sharing your story, being vulnerable…we all are. Great to be here. Go strong and kia kaha. ME

    • hello therealme……..stay strong!!!!! You are through the hardest bit, well i thought the first 2 weeks was so hard so go you!!! we all here for each other πŸ™‚

    • Lucy replied 5 years ago

      Hi we both stopped drinking on the same day.. I’d had enough of feeling crap, guilty and ashamed. I hid behind the alcohol for nearly 11 years and like you am doing fine but some days are so hard. I’m writing a journal everyday to keep me going and strong. Some days the kids drive me so mad and I have to remember it isn’t there fault and try not to snap at them too much. My new husband is fab and so supportive but I know that I do get on his nerves when I;m having a bad day. When I found mrs d’s blog I thought my god she’s living my life and I’m so pleased now we can all support each other on here. We can’t get her book here in the UK until October. So good luck to you and we will stay strong. x

    • Kia Kaha YOU!! What a lovely update.. thanks.. and go you good thing… so great you’re getting sober. It is such a fucking-fantastic way to live (sorry for swearing!).. worth the tough times, overall just so much more whole. xxx

  • therealme posted an update 5 years ago

    Ok, here is my story,
    I started drinking heavily and unhealthy about 6 years ago. That’s when I started not being able to control my intake. Just drink until my emotions are drowned. Oh I needed help, I knew this, but I did not want to go out and tell my doctor or go to AA. I wanted to stay anonymous. Just in the past month I came across Mrs D’s documentary, just watched the ad for it, several article in the Herald, Listener etc. Then at Wellington airport I was looking for a funny entertaining book and I picked up MRS etc.

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