I'm a 47 years old wife and mother of two children. A son who's 24 and a daughter who's 15. I'm also a step mom to my 22 year old son since he was 3. I'm on my second marriage and we've been together for 18 years. My relationship with alcohol started when I was around 18. I've been a party girl always. I drank very heavily with all the guys that I hung out with. Shots and beer and whiskey and vodka. Not too much wine in my early days. I just always remember having tons of alcohol there. We partied all the time. Almost everything I did had alcohol involved. I have absolutely no stop button. I drink until I'm way drunk. I dated a bunch of different people but I always were in the drinking groups. That's because that's what I did. I have so many drunk days and nights under my belt. It's impossible for me to even try to remember them all. I'm also a sloppy drunk. And a fired up drunk. Also a drunk that will get in your face. To be honest, I've toned things down in the past years. I definitely don't drink every day. Some times not even for a couple of weeks. But then it comes back and I love it and I drink the whole bottle of wine because now I love wine for like the past 5 years. I end up acting stupid and really regretting everything I do when I'm plastered. My husband has had enough and to be honest I have too. Its been a long time coming to get to this point. I'm actually only 6 days in but soon that number will be huge. I have a ton of summer events that I always drink heavily at but I'm just going to have to suck it up and be happy that I've finally made this change for myself and my family. I need to stop feeling sorry for myself and be honest with this fact....... there has never been nor will there be a day where I can just have one! So if I just can't have one then I just won't have any.
Good morning! Having my a morning coffee relaxing to some Chet Baker and getting ready for this beautiful day ahead of me. Yesterday my teenage daughter who is 15 had a teen meltdown in the car in front of a store that was close to our home. Anyone who is raising a daughter this age can relate, I’m sure. Well once again we were disagreeing about something stupid but for some reason she took it to heart and got so angry, got out of the car and started walking home. Gota pat myself on the back for this new found calmness in my life. The old drinking me would have went bonkers over her behavior. Well the new me took a deep breath and then said to myself,… let her walk home. Whats the harm? It defused the situation.It was day light and therefore not as dangerous and to top it off we live up a huge hill so and it was hot out so she got a great lesson over this. When she got home I told her no way was she going to go scurrying into that room! I calmly tried to talk things out. WOW! I’ve never had these patient skills. I’m always losing my cool extremely fast! I love the new sober me. I had no idea how different I would become without that poison. I ended up texting her about an hour later telling her that I was sorry for blowing up and asking if she wanted to talk things out or just drop it. Of course her response was to drop it. So I then texted “I love you” and she responded back “I love you too”. This loving ending is so important because teen girls are very in need of love and not fighting all the time.They don’t look it, but they are very fragile. I honestly can’t believe the change in myself and I’m eagerly looking forward to learning more as the days go by. Man, do I deserve this!!!!!!! ALCOHOL SUCKS SO BAD.
Hi @tgrim I know about 15 year old girls, hormones all over the place. My step daughter has her boyfriend coming over later for dinner lol, she’s cleaned all the house without me even asking, so I’m happy. I find myself more calmer with both kids since I ditched the booze but they do upset me easily now where as before I’d flare up. But it’s all good.