• beehappy posted a new activity comment 2 days, 3 hours ago

    @tewy might start listening to a podcast during night feeds!

  • JB.OB posted an update 1 week ago

    @Tewy thank you, yes it would be great to get your feedback on Nalrexone… did you get prescribed through your GP? Is it subsidised etc?

    • Hi @ Jb-OB. ….No I didn’t get from GP ….I got the script through CADS programme which I’m engaging with at the moment (are you in NZ.) Ive only been taking the Naltrexone since Monday so probably not long enough to really comment yet ……I’m not sleeping well but that could be for other reasons ….. the ‘Wine Witch’ conversations in my head seem to be a bit quieter ….could be a bit of placebo effect but who cares as long as she is kept quiet …..I will post an update again in a few more days :). Keep going well 😊👍

      • Yes, I am in NZ and I understand a programme or a specialist can only prescribe it… I hope you start sleeping better soon. Hit that ‘wine witch’ with her broom lol, good to know that its quieter 🙂 . And again, thank you.

        • I think you can get from GP but it’s not funded through them and quite expensive. If CADS prescribe then it is funded 🙂

  • Daisy posted a new activity comment 4 weeks ago

    @Tewy I love Recovery Elevator, Home, and Your Kick Ass Life!!!-Ill check your out too. They really help.

  • kitten posted a new activity comment 1 month, 4 weeks ago

    sometimes, @tewy it does suck. but – most of the time it does not. be well.

  • Jesss posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    Im glad u got that off your chest @tewy☺. I totally feel u! Sometimes it’s super overwhelming and just sucks. I’m impressed with your effort. Congrats on 34 days. That rules!👍✌

  • JM posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    Hi @Tewy! Yes, it definitely sucks sometimes. But so much better than the alternative. This helped me with the ‘fuck it’ impulse, comes from Belle from tiredofthinkingaboutdrinking.com – she said if she ever were to drink again, it’d be okay if she did if she thought it through for a week, and after that, if she still thought it a good idea, she could have one, but she couldn’t have one on a ‘fuck it’ impulse. 34 days is amazing. Hang in there. : )

  • jmtn posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    @DaveH @freedom1025 @gage @tewy @rise2015 @enzedgirl @Hammer123 @Mari135 I wanted to thank each of you again for your words the other day. You each helped me so much. I had a frustrating internal struggle a few times while out on that birthday date night that is typically filled with drinks pre, post and during dinner, but I had none. It really was healthy to exercise these sober muscles. Yesterday we met our group of drinking friends for Mother’s Day at a local brewery, and I didn’t have a problem ordering kombucha instead. Ultimately, I am so happy with how this first sober weekend went, that happened to be filled with two celebrations that usually would have been filled with mimosas, wine and beer. Now it’s Monday morning and I feel great physically and mentally. Thank you again and again. Have a great week everyone!

    • Yay! Now you know what a sociable AF weekend can feel like – and you know you can do it!

    • Well done!! This is where the change starts to happen … you prove to yourself that you CAN go out and have a nice time without drinking. Alcohol is such a liar. It tries to convince us we can’t do anything without booze in the mix. SO NOT TRUE! I’m so very happy for you. Keep going. 😊

  • jmtn posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 week ago

    @tewy I’m laughing about the bloody straw and feeling like a child. I like to ask for a fun glass, too. Thank you for your comments. I will remember them.

  • Hammer123 posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    @tewy, I felt similar at the beginning and I think many do, you don’t have the poison to numb your feelings. Ride it out for another week, the pink cloud should arrive and then you will feel great and be thankful! This is a journey not a destination. Try keeping a journal in a few months you will be able to look back and see you progress more clearly!

  • time2quit posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Well Done @tewy! A great ‘first’ to get out of the way!!! Go you!!! 🙂

  • Hammer123 posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    I know exactly how you feel @tewy, good description “ feeling like a stranger in my own body” I mostly feel a little awkward now when people really start to get drunk, that’s when I jet!

  • JM posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Fantastic @Tewy! That’s such a great feeling, waking up after a party not hungover. : )

  • kitten posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    @tewy, lots of good advice here, looking forward to hearing about what you did. I had to have a drink immediately in my hand, AF of course. I drank mineral water after mineral water when i was first sober. had a big wine glass, added some lime, or lemon. Or, i had this great crafty type cherry soda that i put in a wine glass with lots of ice and drank it as slow as i could. either way, there are going to be times when someone HAS TO KNOW, JUST HAS TO KNOW why you are not drinking. When i first started, I told the nosy rosies, that i wasn’t drinking tonight, sometimes I still say it, but some STILL HAVE TO KNOW, HAVE TO KNOW, so I tell them something, whatever comes to mind, but as you get stronger in social situations without an alcoholic beverage, and you will, you will realize there are many, many reasons you are not drinking, and not all of them are everyone’s business. Be well, get some sober muscles on OR stay home.

  • DaveH posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Hi @tewy We get this waaaay out of proportion. It is US that is obsessed which alcohol, and it comes as a bit of a shock to discover that everyone else isn’t the same. To us it is a huge deal that we’re not drinking, but most other people won’t care… it’s just not a big thing in their lives. They don’t care about your drinking, and they want to talk about themselves, not you. The really important thing for you is to be able to leave if you need to, so be certain you have an exit route. You’ll probably find that instead of being one of the last to leave you will now be among the first, but that’s an easy thing to do “I’ve got… xxx… to do in the morning.” You’ll feel a lot stronger after you’ve done this once.

  • kitten posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Keep on dancing in the streets, don’t just feel like it. lol no such thing as ONLY day 8. congrats on day 8, @tewy

  • Lee@ posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    It’s very common @paza. Sleep whenever you can for now. It will regulate in time. Any other symptoms of detoxing will also diminish as the days pass. Great job on day 3! You are doing this! You and @Tewy! Early days are typically a bitch (first 10) but once this part passes you’ll physically feel better than ever.

  • Izzy posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    One day at a time right! Thanks @Tewy xo

  • kissingmyrainbow posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Well done on 7 days, me too, we will fight this together @tewy, we will x

  • Lee@ posted a new activity comment 2 months, 4 weeks ago

    Looks like your doing all of the right things @tewy. Detoxing is tough but everyday gets a little better! Once your body begins to run without the poison you’ll be feeling fabulous!

  • freedom1025 posted a new activity comment 2 months, 4 weeks ago

    @tewy hang in there! The early days can be very tough – we look at others enjoying a drink wondering WHY WHY WHY we can’t have one too. The reality, plain and simple, is that we have no off switch. The day I finally accepted I could not moderate, was the day I was set free! I started to focus on everything I was gaining (my life and soul back) vs what I though I was missing out on (which is nothing). Treat yourself with gentle kindness. You’re doing something amazing for yourself and the wine witch is not happy about it. Tell her she’s no longer in charge.

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 2 months, 4 weeks ago

    @tewy hi there, it will pass! I can’t believe how much free brain time I have now. Hang in there…..it absolutely gets better and you will realize you are thinking about things you haven’t in years, it just takes a bit of time. xoxoxxoxo

  • DaveH posted a new activity comment 2 months, 4 weeks ago

    Hi @Tewy I see you are “googling withdrawal norms”. You will find that this is normal and how it should be. It won’t last much longer… keep going. You’ve got to here, now make it a full week!

  • Agirl posted a new activity comment 3 months ago

    You are so right @tewy. Hers is a gin witch.

  • JM posted a new activity comment 3 months ago

    Hi @Tewy! I found reading about sobriety – and still do – soo interesting. How other people stay on track, tools to stay sober, coping strategies, how life opens up and gets a lot better…Great that you’re on day 3, gets easier, the headache will clear soon I hope. : )

  • kat102542 posted a new activity comment 3 months ago

    Thanks @tewy things do get better the longer we go. Sometimes there are hard moments , but we need to reach out instead of internally thinking and thinking and isolating. Reach out anytime!

  • Annie posted a new activity comment 3 months ago

    Good for you @tewy. Youre on your way. Im day 8 again and I NEVER want to feel that shame,guilt,remorse again.

    • Those emotions visit me often too Annie …..far too often ……go you day 8 keep up the good work ….your inspiring 🙂

  • DaveH posted a new activity comment 3 months ago

    Hi @tewy “Terrified but determined” is a great place to be starting out from. Try using some of that determination to subdue the terrified. Learn everything you can about the beast you are trying to slay and how it fights; the more you know the less it will catch you unawares. Ask people what to expect and what they did about it… you are not going to encounter something that someone else hasn’t already been challenged by, so use their experience to help yourself. People here want you to become well again and will help if they can, but if you don’t ask they can’t say. Find things that work and keep doing them. Find what doesn’t work, drop it and find something else instead.
    You are on your way. Head up, breathe, and step forward. Advance towards the problem and give it a shellacking!

    • Thank you all for your support ….. nobody else knows what I’m embarking on at the moment ie friends or family …. so to know that you guys and this community are out there gives me strength – thank you 😊

  • kissingmyrainbow posted a new activity comment 3 months ago

    Good to hear @tewy. Keep posting and loads of positivity hun

  • freedom1025 posted a new activity comment 3 months ago

    @tewy you could be writing my story. I know you’re scared but here’s the beautiful thing … you’re not alone and when you get some distance on your drinking days, you’ll look back and see what a sham the drinking was. It promises so much and never delivers. Stay close here … lots of very dear supportive folks with lots of good advice.

  • Agirl posted a new activity comment 3 months ago

    Welcome here @tewy !

    • Hi Agirl and thank you for the welcome also ….. both your stories are very inspirational and make me feel there is hope .

  • enzedgirl posted a new activity comment 3 months ago

    Welcome @tewy 🙂

    • Thank you enzedgirl 😊…..just navigating my way and have only just stumbled across this site tonight …..I have a feeling it may just be what I need at just the right time 🙂