So when does a nearly 50yr old single mum of three, a Nanna to one, a health professional of all things, a fun type some may say with a good sense of humour decide that enough is enough ??? I’ve know deep inside for a very long time that enough really is enough but have chosen to just ignore it and find a myriad of excuses to just keep on doing it “Nah -it’s OK”Well,actually it’s not OK and its about as far from OK as it gets ...... once upon a time it was fun but it stopped being fun a long time ago..... night after night it’s the same endless conversations in my head about maybe tonight I won’t have a drink - but of course I always do, and of course it never stops at a drink or two ...... I just lose track of how many eventually.So when a social evening with friends in a bar ends with me secretly vomiting in the toilet the sudden self realisation and acceptance that I’m not like anyone else has finally hit home .....I can’t just have a social drink and then STOP..... oh no I can’t help from keep tipping this alcohol stuff down my neck.... I have to keep going till I can barely stand ....keep going until a poor friend of mine yet again has to ‘rescue’ me....put me to bed to sleep it off ....Then I wake in the morning, or at 3am, with memory blanks of the night before and im left in a very dark and depressed embarrassed place having to endure hours of remorseful critical internal punishment. .So finally this Boozy Bird has accepted that Enough is Enough ...... I want to stop...The ride to sober starts this week ..... Let’s go x
Hi @ Jb-OB. ….No I didn’t get from GP ….I got the script through CADS programme which I’m engaging with at the moment (are you in NZ.) Ive only been taking the Naltrexone since Monday so probably not long enough to really comment yet ……I’m not sleeping well but that could be for other reasons ….. the ‘Wine Witch’ conversations in my head seem to be a bit quieter ….could be a bit of placebo effect but who cares as long as she is kept quiet …..I will post an update again in a few more days :). Keep going well 😊👍
Yes, I am in NZ and I understand a programme or a specialist can only prescribe it… I hope you start sleeping better soon. Hit that ‘wine witch’ with her broom lol, good to know that its quieter 🙂 . And again, thank you.
Hi @Tewy! Yes, it definitely sucks sometimes. But so much better than the alternative. This helped me with the ‘fuck it’ impulse, comes from Belle from tiredofthinkingaboutdrinking.com – she said if she ever were to drink again, it’d be okay if she did if she thought it through for a week, and after that, if she still thought it a good idea, she could have one, but she couldn’t have one on a ‘fuck it’ impulse. 34 days is amazing. Hang in there. : )
@DaveH@freedom1025@gage@tewy@rise2015@enzedgirl@Hammer123@Mari135 I wanted to thank each of you again for your words the other day. You each helped me so much. I had a frustrating internal struggle a few times while out on that birthday date night that is typically filled with drinks pre, post and during dinner, but I had none. It really was healthy to exercise these sober muscles. Yesterday we met our group of drinking friends for Mother’s Day at a local brewery, and I didn’t have a problem ordering kombucha instead. Ultimately, I am so happy with how this first sober weekend went, that happened to be filled with two celebrations that usually would have been filled with mimosas, wine and beer. Now it’s Monday morning and I feel great physically and mentally. Thank you again and again. Have a great week everyone!
Well done!! This is where the change starts to happen … you prove to yourself that you CAN go out and have a nice time without drinking. Alcohol is such a liar. It tries to convince us we can’t do anything without booze in the mix. SO NOT TRUE! I’m so very happy for you. Keep going. 😊
@tewy, I felt similar at the beginning and I think many do, you don’t have the poison to numb your feelings. Ride it out for another week, the pink cloud should arrive and then you will feel great and be thankful! This is a journey not a destination. Try keeping a journal in a few months you will be able to look back and see you progress more clearly!
@tewy, lots of good advice here, looking forward to hearing about what you did. I had to have a drink immediately in my hand, AF of course. I drank mineral water after mineral water when i was first sober. had a big wine glass, added some lime, or lemon. Or, i had this great crafty type cherry soda that i put in a wine glass with lots of ice and drank it as slow as i could. either way, there are going to be times when someone HAS TO KNOW, JUST HAS TO KNOW why you are not drinking. When i first started, I told the nosy rosies, that i wasn’t drinking tonight, sometimes I still say it, but some STILL HAVE TO KNOW, HAVE TO KNOW, so I tell them something, whatever comes to mind, but as you get stronger in social situations without an alcoholic beverage, and you will, you will realize there are many, many reasons you are not drinking, and not all of them are everyone’s business. Be well, get some sober muscles on OR stay home.
Hi @tewy We get this waaaay out of proportion. It is US that is obsessed which alcohol, and it comes as a bit of a shock to discover that everyone else isn’t the same. To us it is a huge deal that we’re not drinking, but most other people won’t care… it’s just not a big thing in their lives. They don’t care about your drinking, and they want to talk about themselves, not you. The really important thing for you is to be able to leave if you need to, so be certain you have an exit route. You’ll probably find that instead of being one of the last to leave you will now be among the first, but that’s an easy thing to do “I’ve got… xxx… to do in the morning.” You’ll feel a lot stronger after you’ve done this once.
It’s very common @paza. Sleep whenever you can for now. It will regulate in time. Any other symptoms of detoxing will also diminish as the days pass. Great job on day 3! You are doing this! You and @Tewy! Early days are typically a bitch (first 10) but once this part passes you’ll physically feel better than ever.
@tewy hang in there! The early days can be very tough – we look at others enjoying a drink wondering WHY WHY WHY we can’t have one too. The reality, plain and simple, is that we have no off switch. The day I finally accepted I could not moderate, was the day I was set free! I started to focus on everything I was gaining (my life and soul back) vs what I though I was missing out on (which is nothing). Treat yourself with gentle kindness. You’re doing something amazing for yourself and the wine witch is not happy about it. Tell her she’s no longer in charge.
@tewy hi there, it will pass! I can’t believe how much free brain time I have now. Hang in there…..it absolutely gets better and you will realize you are thinking about things you haven’t in years, it just takes a bit of time. xoxoxxoxo
Hi @Tewy! I found reading about sobriety – and still do – soo interesting. How other people stay on track, tools to stay sober, coping strategies, how life opens up and gets a lot better…Great that you’re on day 3, gets easier, the headache will clear soon I hope. : )
Hi @tewy “Terrified but determined” is a great place to be starting out from. Try using some of that determination to subdue the terrified. Learn everything you can about the beast you are trying to slay and how it fights; the more you know the less it will catch you unawares. Ask people what to expect and what they did about it… you are not going to encounter something that someone else hasn’t already been challenged by, so use their experience to help yourself. People here want you to become well again and will help if they can, but if you don’t ask they can’t say. Find things that work and keep doing them. Find what doesn’t work, drop it and find something else instead. You are on your way. Head up, breathe, and step forward. Advance towards the problem and give it a shellacking!
Thank you all for your support ….. nobody else knows what I’m embarking on at the moment ie friends or family …. so to know that you guys and this community are out there gives me strength – thank you 😊
@tewy you could be writing my story. I know you’re scared but here’s the beautiful thing … you’re not alone and when you get some distance on your drinking days, you’ll look back and see what a sham the drinking was. It promises so much and never delivers. Stay close here … lots of very dear supportive folks with lots of good advice.