• Tewy posted a new activity comment 3 days, 9 hours ago

    Yes the struggle is real …..I hear ya …. but you are doing great keep going …..we are all in this together 🙂

  • Tewy posted a new activity comment 3 days, 9 hours ago

    Fab celebration and Happy AF 40🎈

  • Tewy posted a new activity comment 3 days, 10 hours ago

    Top Job … Day 40 ….. woohoo well done 👍

  • Tewy posted a new activity comment 3 days, 10 hours ago

    I think you can get from GP but it’s not funded through them and quite expensive. If CADS prescribe then it is funded 🙂

  • Tewy posted a new activity comment 4 days ago

    Hi @ Jb-OB. ….No I didn’t get from GP ….I got the script through CADS programme which I’m engaging with at the moment (are you in NZ.) Ive only been taking the Naltrexone since Monday so probably not long enough to really comment yet ……I’m not sleeping well but that could be for other reasons ….. the ‘Wine Witch’ conversations in my head seem to be a bit quieter ….could be a bit of placebo effect but who cares as long as she is kept quiet …..I will post an update again in a few more days :). Keep going well 😊👍

    • Yes, I am in NZ and I understand a programme or a specialist can only prescribe it… I hope you start sleeping better soon. Hit that ‘wine witch’ with her broom lol, good to know that its quieter 🙂 . And again, thank you.

      • I think you can get from GP but it’s not funded through them and quite expensive. If CADS prescribe then it is funded 🙂

  • Tewy posted a new activity comment 5 days, 9 hours ago

    I’ve started with Naltrexone just 4 days ago so not much feedback to give just yet I’m afraid but happy to keep you posted as to how I feel it’s working (or not working ) !!.

  • Tewy posted an update 2 weeks, 5 days ago

    Feeling a sense of achievement at Day 72 today 😊😊…….the wine thoughts at times though are still strong, and I had thought it would be getting easier by now ….I definitely had a lovely pink cloud time and thought I was invincible hahah but crikey that bloody wine witch has started screaming at me at times and I’m exhausted with carrying these thoughts of “can’t, don’t, won’t drink” around like a dead weight . Has been suggested to try Naltrexone ?? Has anyone got experience of this ??

    • No experience with Naltrexone, but I found the first 6 months difficult, always thinking about drinking and what I was missing out on. Overtime I realized I was not missing out but was getting back. Getting my life, my time, my energy and myself back from the brink. You are on the right path and it will become easier!

    • Yes, I tried naltrexone and keep a bottle in a drawer for emergencies. It does keep your brain from getting a buzz but not your body. It helped illuminate my attitude toward drinking. I would take a pill, it works fast, then have a drink. I’d not finish the drink. I was so happy it worked! But without the tools to learn how to be sober, I found myself trying to get around the naltrexone. That was my wake-up. I wanted to get high, not just have part of a drink. So yes, it works, but its only one tool in the box.

  • Tewy posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 5 days ago

    Fab positive post ….I’m Day 65 today and seem obsessed with devouring all the info that’s out there regarding quitting …..I’m loving the podcasts too ….Janey Lee Grace and also Love Sober have been great ….which ones do you recommend? ……

  • Tewy posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    I think ‘following’ makes sense …..to me anyway !! Great idea

  • Tewy posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    All good – accessed it via Spotify 🙂

  • Tewy posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    Oooo looks interesting but I’ve clicked on the link from Facebook and also the link above but it keeps saying tempoararily unavailable……@sheaney5 somehow you listened to it …..so I’m guessing it’s me?? Anyone else having problems with the link ?

  • Tewy posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    Yay go you ….. very inspirational @sober4real …….to be able to no longer have to keep fighting or being consumed by thinking about alcohol must be such a release ……I need to keep it at …..a good reminder …..thank you 😊

  • Tewy posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    Hi @happyguy – I’ve been offered this and I’m keen to know what side effects you’ve experienced if any ? Does it take a while to kick in? I’ve googled Naltrexone but get mixed write ups on it …..?? I’ve listened to the TED talk you mention and it seems quite effective …..hhmmm 🤔

  • Tewy posted a new activity comment 1 month, 3 weeks ago

    Great choices @buckeyeone ….. I pledge and stand with you too ….well done x

  • Tewy posted an update 1 month, 3 weeks ago

    Loving this quote today by Victor E Frankl

    “Between stimulus and response there is a space …..
    In that space is our power to choose our response .
    In our response, lies our growth and our freedom”

    For me the stimulus is the trigger giving me the thought to have a drink, and the space immediately after that thought is where I need to focus and be aware that I have the ability to choose ……its where I have the power….the power to resist that urge and ultimately the power to stay true to my sober wish and goal .

  • Tewy posted a new activity comment 1 month, 3 weeks ago

    Good and wise choice @rosepetal098 ……..a reminder to us all that we never can be sure when that evil wine witch will strike so we must be vigilant ! Well done on your actions x

  • Tewy posted a new activity comment 1 month, 3 weeks ago

    I’m liking that idea 😊

  • Tewy posted a new activity comment 1 month, 3 weeks ago

    So much lovely support here so stay close …..we are on this journey together:)

  • Tewy posted a new activity comment 1 month, 3 weeks ago

    Thank you guys … it has just been a constant nagging feeling all day that I seem to have carried around like a dead weight and it’s just exhausting ….if I could I would just go to bed now at 7pm but I’m working a night shift tonight so simply can’t ….. I will just suck it up …..tomorrow is another day 😊

    • Great to overcome despite the dead weight. What a pity you can’t simply go to bed. It sure helps! Keep sucking it up, and soon a gorgeous pink cloud will drift your way.

  • Tewy posted an update 1 month, 3 weeks ago

    DAY 34 AF …… and while I feel totally proud I’ve achieved 34 days suddenly there’s a desire to get trashed and “fuck it” and I just want it and I’m sick of drinking tonic water, and I’m sick of the constant battling and flip flopping of wanting a drink/resisting it and not wanting a drink, and I’m tired of the obsessive thinking about it, noticing it around me, seeing other people comfortably drinking, reading about alcohol and I’m just tired of feeling sorry for myself at being on this path and while I totally accept it was 100% me that put myself on this path …..it just feels soooo hard and I feel it like a physical pain ….. and anyway now it’s off my chest and it’s out there. Feeling grateful for a place to vent …. ggrrrrrr sometimes this just sucks.

    • Hi @Tewy! Yes, it definitely sucks sometimes. But so much better than the alternative. This helped me with the ‘fuck it’ impulse, comes from Belle from tiredofthinkingaboutdrinking.com – she said if she ever were to drink again, it’d be okay if she did if she thought it through for a week, and after that, if she still thought it a good idea, she could have one, but she couldn’t have one on a ‘fuck it’ impulse. 34 days is amazing. Hang in there. : )

    • Im glad u got that off your chest @tewy☺. I totally feel u! Sometimes it’s super overwhelming and just sucks. I’m impressed with your effort. Congrats on 34 days. That rules!👍✌

    • It just sucks, then slowly – or sometimes suddenly, it gets way, way better and it seems unthinkable that we longed for a toxic carcinogen.

      • Thank you guys … it has just been a constant nagging feeling all day that I seem to have carried around like a dead weight and it’s just exhausting ….if I could I would just go to bed now at 7pm but I’m working a night shift tonight so simply can’t ….. I will just suck it up …..tomorrow is another day 😊

        • Great to overcome despite the dead weight. What a pity you can’t simply go to bed. It sure helps! Keep sucking it up, and soon a gorgeous pink cloud will drift your way.

    • Yep but truly it gets better. Remember the drinking you see around you is your romantic perception . You aren’t seeing the health relationship issues and eventual carnage for those drinkers. Normies are not huge in population more than half are problem drinkers in a self perpetuating denial . ❤️

    • sometimes, @tewy it does suck. but – most of the time it does not. be well.

  • Tewy posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    Yay @Bobby …..I love seeing your posts that your still AF …..huge respect and well done you …..keep at it girl 😊😊

  • Tewy posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    Hey Donnamaree26 …..we are here and we hear you …….you are not at all sad ….. ………..There are the numbers at the top of the page for the alcohol helpline 0800 787 797 .
    Plenty of support here for you too …..you are not alone xxxx

  • Tewy posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    Yep I definitely play it forward ….. I struggle when I’m out in social situations and think just one BUT I know that what will follow later that evening or in the morning will be regret, frustration and disappointment in myself…… this then spoils the potentially good memories of a nice evening out . Make sure you order yourself a special non alcoholic cocktail or something …..or even if it’s tonic water/lemon lime bitters I always ask them to put it in a wine glass !! Otherwise they give you a tall glass and a bloody straw and I feel like a child 😂

  • Tewy posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 week ago

    Healing wishes winging their way to you 🙂
    For vertigo …..search up the Epley Manoeuvre on You Tube ….. can really help 🙂

  • Tewy posted an update 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    Going well at Day 14 today but is this normal for my anxiety to have suddenly increased and feelings of paranoia to have crept in …or am I really finally losing the plot after all !?!?

    • @tewy, I felt similar at the beginning and I think many do, you don’t have the poison to numb your feelings. Ride it out for another week, the pink cloud should arrive and then you will feel great and be thankful! This is a journey not a destination. Try keeping a journal in a few months you will be able to look back and see you progress more clearly!

    • I agree 100% with Hammer123. It takes some time to get the poison out and the real you starts to kicks in. The cloud is divine. I started to have a lot of weird physical things happening during weeks 3 and 4. Then just like that they were gone. Like a cloud lifting. Hang in there. It only gets better and you’ll be SO glad you did. Good luck!

    • The first few weeks are all over the place and everyone’s experience is a bit different. Keep going … it will settle down. What helped me in the early days was to read and listen as much as I could about the process … sober blogs, memoirs, podcasts, YouTube videos. Have you read Mrs D is going Without. I nodded my head the whole through saying yep, that was me. So helpful to know we’re not alone.

  • Tewy posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    Hiwdy and Welcome …..yay on Day 3…I’m starting out to just reached 14 days …..i couldn’t have done it without this site xxx

  • Tewy posted an update 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    So yay I did it …..my first social party AF …… didn’t want to go – anxiety central before I went, nearly just stayed in my safe cave but I didn’t ….I put my big girl knickers on and showed up …… had my chilly bag of tonic water and lemon lime bitters cordial ….. nobody even really noticed what I was drinking to be honest !! Got offered an alcoholic punch (which I know from previous experience of this one is delicious and lethal ) but I casually declined and said ……like it was a walk in the park and water off a ducks back ……“oh I’m just having a break from the drink for a while” 🤪🤪…… i didn’t particularly enjoy the evening I felt like a stranger in my own body and extremely awkward and self conscious ….eveybody else seemed to ooze so much confidence ……..but I’m proud I did it :).

    • Great job! You just built up some huge sober muscles. Mrs D has a great post on socializing without alcohol, and it actually allows you to focus more on connecting with others, enjoying the food etc. There was a time when it was inconceivable to me to go to a party and not drink. I mean what was the point?!! And now I love being free from that endless cycle of when I could grab my next drink. You’re doing great.

    • Fantastic @Tewy! That’s such a great feeling, waking up after a party not hungover. : )

    • Very well done! Like you despite being sober for nine months nearly I felt also very out of sorts at a social gathering recently. Didn’t know some of the people that well but the guy opposite me with some alcohol on board was a bit shouty and full on. Guess something to get used to. Like you left early, no real appeal to stay longer. ❤️

    • Good for you! You may have felt a stranger in your own body then, but I bet the world you were loving how you felt when you woke up the next morning hangover free and ready to face the day! Congrats to you. Well done!

    • I know exactly how you feel @tewy, good description “ feeling like a stranger in my own body” I mostly feel a little awkward now when people really start to get drunk, that’s when I jet!

    • Well Done @tewy! A great ‘first’ to get out of the way!!! Go you!!! 🙂

    • Hurray! That’s a huge sober muscle you built there! Now you know what to do for next time. Really, so proud of you!

    • congrats to you for going. it will get easier and easier to hang with those that drink. most of my friends drink, but suprisingly not as much as i thought they did when i first quit. be well.

  • Tewy posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    Thank you all for you lovely encouragement and advice ….I’ve taken it on board amd right now I’m feeling stronger about this bloody party tonight !! I do have a choice you are right and it is the easier option for me to just not go and make some lame excuse ….but there will be a next time and a next time so I wil put my big girl undies on harden up, show up, be a sober party guest, smile and pretend I’m having the time of my life ….then leave early and run home to my safe place !! Haha I will update on my big night out x

  • Tewy posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    There is a 10 minute mindful meditation I find useful on You Tube …..

    Search for …….Urge Surfing Meditation for Addiction with Brainwave Entrainment
    Xx

    • Thanks Tewy, I listened to 2 different length Urge Surfers and put them in my toolbox. I love the help I’m finding in so many different ways here. I’m thankful.

  • Tewy posted an update 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    Day 11 Af and feeling 😊. Tomorrow though I feel is my first social test ….a good friends 50th birthday party …..and I’m stressing about it.
    What to drink, how to drink it, what to say if I’m asked why aren’t you drinking – every reply I rehearse in my mind sounds naff, how am I actually gonna pull this off and not cave in and want a drink. It’s gonna be mostly couples and I’m single and I can already feel the awkwardness of that let alone the awkwardness of not having the ‘comfort’ of the alcohol….. I’m flip flopping between I’ll go and then thinking it’s just easier to avoid going …..yikes

    • Ok, apparently I can’t share instagram links to individual photos without a huge picture appearing so I will stop trying haha…sorry for all the replies. I will leave my text message only…the picture was from Brene Brown’s instagram.

      🙂
      oxoxoxox

      Ok trying again to post…I didn’t mean to plaster a big fat instagram picture on here…it disrupts the flow of posts too much….. Let’s see if this works:

      Day 11! I love those first double digits ones. Big accomplishment right there, Tewy!
      As far as that 50th birthday goes….someone wise on here once told me when I first signed up that “I had to give myself permission to do whatever necessary to defend and protect my precious early sobriety.”

      If that means eating an entire cheesecake instead of driving to Meijers and buying two bottles of Pinot…so be it…If it means pulling the old “I have the flu/cold/migraine” white lie excuse out of a hat and staying home instead of going to the party, so be it.

      YOU matter and your safety and healing comes first at all times.

    • Tough one so early in sobriety! Don’t have to explain being af! Grab an af drink as soon as you arrive and mingle. ❤️

    • You can do it 🙂

    • Hi Tewy! Congrats on day 11! This day was the first that I ventured out of my house. I was feeling really scared. I had to relearn how to do EVERYTHING sober. I set my brain to “no drinking” mode, filled my belly with food, and carried a very large AF drink. I was almost in tears I felt so fragile in the strange new world. I felt like I had a big sign blinking over my head “SOBER”. I knew I had to experience everything without the goal of drinking. I just went out for a few hours and ran home to safety. Then it became easier. I became so protective of my sobriety that I was almost combative about it. This really helped in social situations when I didn’t want to tell people I gave up drinking. Screw them if I chose to not drink on one night! Why should I drink to please them? I breezed in confidently with my LaCroix and put extras in the fridge or cooler. I poured my drink into a cocktail glass and after that no one knew I didn’t have an alcoholic drink. When people started getting tipsy and pushing drinks, it was time to leave. I showed up, protected myself, and woke up feeling great with big new sober muscles. You get to choose here. If you feel strong enough to not drink go, if not, I feel a cold coming on for you. You and your sobriety are THE most important thing right now. You’ve gone through withdrawal. Why put youself through that again? xx

    • Good for you on day 11, two weeks is right around the corner! If anyone asks me why I’m not drinking I tell them I’m doing a 100 day challenge with ” some folks I know”. It says I’m not drinking and conveys no judgment on the folks that are.

      • Thank you all for you lovely encouragement and advice ….I’ve taken it on board amd right now I’m feeling stronger about this bloody party tonight !! I do have a choice you are right and it is the easier option for me to just not go and make some lame excuse ….but there will be a next time and a next time so I wil put my big girl undies on harden up, show up, be a sober party guest, smile and pretend I’m having the time of my life ….then leave early and run home to my safe place !! Haha I will update on my big night out x

    • Hi @tewy We get this waaaay out of proportion. It is US that is obsessed which alcohol, and it comes as a bit of a shock to discover that everyone else isn’t the same. To us it is a huge deal that we’re not drinking, but most other people won’t care… it’s just not a big thing in their lives. They don’t care about your drinking, and they want to talk about themselves, not you. The really important thing for you is to be able to leave if you need to, so be certain you have an exit route. You’ll probably find that instead of being one of the last to leave you will now be among the first, but that’s an easy thing to do “I’ve got… xxx… to do in the morning.” You’ll feel a lot stronger after you’ve done this once.

    • I think it’s best to go for a short time, Tewy, with the firm commitment that you won’t drink alcohol. Sober socializing, for many or most of us, is learned by experience. Mrs. D says is best when she says “it’s not about what’s in the glass”; meaning focus on your friend’s birthday, the reason for the celebration. Get a glass of ginger ale with a cherry in it, if you want a good disguise drink. After a half hour or so you may settle in to nice conversation, but have an escape route planned, and get out if and when you feel the urge. If somebody asks, you can just say you aren’t drinking tonight, but my bet is nobody will ask. None of their beeswax anyway.

    • @tewy, lots of good advice here, looking forward to hearing about what you did. I had to have a drink immediately in my hand, AF of course. I drank mineral water after mineral water when i was first sober. had a big wine glass, added some lime, or lemon. Or, i had this great crafty type cherry soda that i put in a wine glass with lots of ice and drank it as slow as i could. either way, there are going to be times when someone HAS TO KNOW, JUST HAS TO KNOW why you are not drinking. When i first started, I told the nosy rosies, that i wasn’t drinking tonight, sometimes I still say it, but some STILL HAVE TO KNOW, HAVE TO KNOW, so I tell them something, whatever comes to mind, but as you get stronger in social situations without an alcoholic beverage, and you will, you will realize there are many, many reasons you are not drinking, and not all of them are everyone’s business. Be well, get some sober muscles on OR stay home.

  • Tewy posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Great news Bobby keep going 🙂

  • Tewy posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Hey Bobby ……something that’s helped me which you may find possibly puts things into perspective ……Brene Brown “The power of Vulnerability “. Google it if you get chance – it’s on you tube 😜
    Worth a 20 minutes listen too I reckon …..x

  • Tewy posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Lol here I am 0432….. and already been awake since 0300…..listened to a meditation hoping to fall asleep but nope, thoughts churning and already obsessing about not drinking…..Day 9 today …… alarm goes off at 6am I bet that’s when I fall asleep!!

  • Tewy posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Yep I think it’s very normal ….I’m Day 8 and my sleeping has been dreadful…..waking in the early hours and waking early …….it’s certainly not restful is it ….hang in there and wait for it too pass …..that’s exactly what i keep telling myself 🙂

  • Tewy posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Love the analogy of sobriety being like an egg …… @ behind-the-sofa I love the sentence in your original post saying how your egg “ regulates everything from your brain waves to your heartbeat and in return asks for only one thing ……..that you never drink alcohol again “ LOVE THAT concept x

  • Tewy posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    I’m only Day 8 lol and wow oh my goodness that seems like an eternity away ….massive achievement …..I can only imagine how that must feel 😊

  • Tewy posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Hi Izzy ….. day one is a great start ….. the wheel of change means we sit in the contemplative stage until something triggers us to the next stage which is Action …….and here you are now doing it well done …..be kind to yourself xx

  • Tewy posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Hi Rose44 welcome 😊

  • Tewy posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Top job Bobby well done you x

  • Tewy posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Day 2 already well done @Bobby …… we are right here with you every step 🙂

  • Tewy posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Yay …Happy 7 Day Birthday today – such a fabulous achievement …… well done you x
    We can soooooooo do this ……..stay close in touch 🙂

  • Tewy posted an update 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    And so the turmoil last night passed and yay here I am Day 7 ….. awake early of course and so begins the racing mind again but it’s OK I recognise it and accept it for what it is …..simply that racing thoughts which I know is normal and expected,and in time will settle. The racing heart isn’t pleasant but it’s ok, that too will calm in time …..
    So things I learnt that helped last night …… a soak in a hot bubbly bath, my Spotify playlist, visualising how much better and healthier I will feel in time when I finally accept ‘me’ instead of numbing myself with poison, enjoying my aromatherapy candle, a little bit of chocolate, starting a new box set on Netflix and just watching one hour rather than trying to focus on a whole film, cuddling my dog and an early night!! Looking at my journal that I started …..well it’s resembling more of a kids scrapbook really 😂 and I write down thoughts, feelings, why I can’t drink, I stick in inspirational quotes I come across on the internet, I doodle in it, I have a picture of the wine witch that tries to sabotage me which I printed off and stuck in ….. visualising a revolting image of her helps fight her off!! I jot down books to read, websites and blogs to check out hee hee it’s truly like doing a massive school project !!
    AND finally the other thing that helped massively was YOU GUYS, thank you for your support, thank you for you comments …..they truly lifted me x

    • Omg what a great set of strategies you have there! Sounds like a lovely evening of self care. Beautiful.

    • Congratulations on day 7. So glad the lot of us have been helpful. Keep up the good work!

    • Well done on 7 days, me too, we will fight this together @tewy, we will x

    • I visualise that nasty wine witch as well. Sometimes when she’s nagging in my ear I think about kicking the shit out of her (not usually a violent person lol)

    • Tewy you rock! 7 days=1 WHOLE WEEK! That means tomorrow will start week 2!!! Yes ! The racing mind and pound heart will soon be gone (hated that!). Things will only get better with each day. Congrats to you!

  • Tewy posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Hi @Bobby ……we are with you and we hear you …..I’m only just starting out having hit rock bottom and getting to a point where I have to and want to get out of this dark hole…… so I guess I’m not experienced enough on this journey yet to offer any pearls of advice …… but this community on here will surround you and support you and walk with you without judging ….. stick with us and keep reaching out 😜. Sending much love your way x

  • Tewy posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Yep thank you ….a full week will be good …..otherwise this week is then all wasted ….I tipped all my alcohol away on day one ( after ‘hiding’ it in the garage initially ….lol who was I hiding it from – myself ?! Like I would forget where it was ‘hidden’ how ridiculous …..)
    I can’t even have a drink anyway ……and I know in the morning all will seem better again ….maybe I’ll just go to bed soon and hibernate !!

  • Tewy posted an update 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Day 6 and feel like my head is being crushed in a vice – I’m exhausted with the obsessive thinking about not drinking, stopping drinking, wanting a drink, fighting the urges, reading about alcohol, reading blogs, reading Mrs Ds book (which I love ), searching mindful meditations, watching Brene. Brown, googling withdrawal norms, ….. I can’t focus on anything else and I’m jumping around Netflix watching bits of things here and there cos I can’t concentrate …..my soda water and lime cordial over ice with lemon slice is just NOT cutting it ….. I’m wallowing in the bath just feeling incredibly sorry for myself tonight ……even the dog looks sad 😞. #thisreallysucks

    • Hi @Tewy I see you are “googling withdrawal norms”. You will find that this is normal and how it should be. It won’t last much longer… keep going. You’ve got to here, now make it a full week!

    • Yep thank you ….a full week will be good …..otherwise this week is then all wasted ….I tipped all my alcohol away on day one ( after ‘hiding’ it in the garage initially ….lol who was I hiding it from – myself ?! Like I would forget where it was ‘hidden’ how ridiculous …..)
      I can’t even have a drink anyway ……and I know in the morning all will seem better again ….maybe I’ll just go to bed soon and hibernate !!

    • @tewy hi there, it will pass! I can’t believe how much free brain time I have now. Hang in there…..it absolutely gets better and you will realize you are thinking about things you haven’t in years, it just takes a bit of time. xoxoxxoxo

    • Early bed times are an absolute necessity in early days!

    • @tewy hang in there! The early days can be very tough – we look at others enjoying a drink wondering WHY WHY WHY we can’t have one too. The reality, plain and simple, is that we have no off switch. The day I finally accepted I could not moderate, was the day I was set free! I started to focus on everything I was gaining (my life and soul back) vs what I though I was missing out on (which is nothing). Treat yourself with gentle kindness. You’re doing something amazing for yourself and the wine witch is not happy about it. Tell her she’s no longer in charge.

    • Looks like your doing all of the right things @tewy. Detoxing is tough but everyday gets a little better! Once your body begins to run without the poison you’ll be feeling fabulous!

  • Tewy posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Hi @clouisec ….. come and join us ……I’m just starting out and totally hear you as I walk the same path of hating myself for my terrible drinking choices and inability to know when to stop …… a big warm welcome aboard x

  • Tewy posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Whooo hooooo go you , well done – a week already ⭐️ Great achievement x

  • Tewy posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Oh my goodness DaveH your timing on posting this is spot on – you made me cry (from relief that someone gets how I’m feeling) ….I’m only day 4 today and I feel all of of the above …..I’ve had a crap nights sleep, my head feels like it’s in a vice and very foggy…… and emotional 😭. And I have to carry on today (family all coming round for an Easter dinner celebration) pretending to everyone around me life is good and hide this raging internal war that is going on inside . I think I will re read your post a hundred times today, thank you thank you 🙏

  • Tewy posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Hi there ….big warm welcome ….come join us newbies 🙂

  • Tewy posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Hi DanielleS ……I just joined this group too…… a big welcome from another newbie x

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