On 5/02/15, I finally got sober after many years of thinking about it and hundreds of Day 1's. I can't believe how wonderful life is without alcohol. I feel like I'm truly learning, living and growing for the first time. I'm lucky to have a great family, husband, work, a cat and a dog who support me 100%.
Hey all, hope you’re all well. It can be hard to be in recovery sometimes. For a lot of us, who haven’t lost it all due to drinking, it can be hard remembering that it was bad enough that we had to stop. The notion that drinking might kill us seems a little dramatic. This thinking, in and of itself, is what will kill us. Make no bones about it, alcoholism wants us dead. It’ll settle for our soul death in getting us drunk, but ultimately it want’s us completely dead. I have a friend who has struggled to get sober for the last six years. Each year is harder than the one before, culminating in an attempt to take her own life last week. She’ll physically be alright, but who knows what the future holds. And even as I write this, I know that the threat of death isn’t enough when the disease and delusion takes hold. Sometimes, people get so sick that death seems like a welcome relief. There is hope though. How many here would vouch that life sober is so much better than life drinking? I’ve got my hand up. There are plenty of tools you can find, just on this website alone, that will help you stop drinking, and stay stopped. But most of all, what most of us have to share here, is hope. You can stop. You can stay stopped. It’s totally a thing. And it’s awesome.
Praying for your friend. I stopped for years many times in my youth and the idea I hadn’t lost everything is definitely what got me into trouble. You are right, this thing if progressed enough wants us dead. I hope she gets the help she needs and it is a time to pray for those less fortunate than ourselves who still struggle with this thing and be grateful for the sobriety we have. xoxoxxoxox
Enjoy the freedom of an alcohol free night. It’s truly a wonderful thing. And despite what your head may tell you tomorrow, you don’t have to drink then either. Until then, welcome. Have a browse around the tabs up the top. Look at the feed and you’ll start to realise this not drinking thing is actually possible and not only that, it’s absolutely awesome. Some of us might struggle from time to time to stay away from it, but NONE of us regret not drinking. EVER.
This sober muscle does indeed strengthen over time! But not on it’s own. You do it the way you are already doing it – with lots and lots of support and community. And early bedtimes. They are a true lifesaver. Have no shame in getting to bed well before the sun goes down if that’s what it takes. It won’t be forever.
Hey all, wishing everyone a lovely Mother’s Day. Just got back from visiting my mama which was nice as always. Even managed to drag my husband with me. He didn’t want to leave his new Kamado Joe because he wants to cook with it tonight, but he managed. We’re back and it’s all charcoal, temperature checking and food prep now.
It’s been a sad week because our oldest pug died sort of suddenly. We’d been expecting him to go for a couple of years really, but when the time came it was sudden, if you know what I mean. He began to struggle to breath at about 10pm at night and I knew we had to get him to the animal hospital to give him peace as soon as possible. Of course my husband and I were very upset, but even as I was putting Mitchell in my husbands arms so he could carry him while I drove, I was SO grateful that I didn’t even have to think twice about how much I’d had to drink. And when it was done and we were home again, I didn’t have to drown in vodka to cope. I’ve cried. A lot. And that’s okay. I’m not embarrassed to be deeply grieving our first baby dog. Incredibly, I don’t have to drink. And that’s a bloody miracle.
Welcome. I’m glad you found us too. 12 years is a long time to struggle with this. And I know that’s only the 12 years that you’ve been more consciously struggling with it. I’m sure there are years of unconscious struggle previous to that too. I’m glad you’re under no illusions around alcoholism. Have no illusions about recovery either. It is the single most wonderful, difficult, joyous, annoying, love-filled process you can imagine. You’ll need all the help, love and support you can find. Online here is fantastic and lots of people here attribute their sobriety to this place alone. Many, many more of us seek support in real life. What you do is up to you, but don’t do it alone. Make a plan, share it with us. Be open to the recovery love coming your way.
Thanks @temperance No delusions left here. It’s too late for that. You are right, of course. I struggled with alcohol from the very first time I drank as a sneaky 15 year old. I had very strict parents, so it wasn’t neglect at all, but from the very first time drinking Summer Wine…argh….I couldn’t stop. There is some great advice here. I know the drill very well but it all helps.
@Enzedgirl, I had to copy and paste and put it into google translate! And that was a fun exercise. One of the translations was “to live as heros”, another one was “to be female” and I’m pretty sure you weren’t say those things. So I’m going with something like “Hello there, beautiful woman” So hello beautiful woman back to you! I think google translate needs some help with Maori. It might be drunk.
Hi tribe. Just thought I’d procrastinate for a bit before diving back into study. This time it’s not a bad thing because I’ve been going at the books quite madly for a few weeks and taking a break is good for me at the moment. Welcome to all the new members. This place is so fast moving now. All I can say is that quitting drinking has given me such lovely freedom. So I highly recommend it.
Been trying to quit for at least four years, huh? Time to enlist some external support. Do it however it looks for you, but your GP, a counsellor, twelve step group, online meetings, SMART Recovery, rehab, and the list goes on, could be some ideas for you.