• sweetmummy3 posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Thanks 😀 I think it’s just getting my head around the fact that just because it’s seen as normal that it’s not and like cigarettes in the future we will all start to see it for what it is, a dangerous and addictive substance x

  • sweetmummy3 posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Thanks 😀 my head was always buzzing with thoughts about drinking, do I don’t I and I really don’t miss that x

  • sweetmummy3 posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Spoke to 3 different doctors over the last 4yrs and only got told to make sure I wasn’t going over the recommended units , got my liver function test done but only to put my mind at rest .

  • sweetmummy3 posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Thanks 🙂 I’m on day 40 AF the longest I have went without being pregnant or the first year after having my kids 😀

  • sweetmummy3 posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Thanks 🙂 , my worry was that when my kids are older I would just keep on drinking as I only make sure I don’t drink much with them being young .

    • The best (and only) method against this and other worries is simple: to kick alcohol out of your life!

  • sweetmummy3 posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Yeah ,I did those 3 things daily, guess it was seeing people having a few during the day when we finally had some lovely Scottish weather that got my mind going 😢

  • sweetmummy3 posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    So true ,thanks 🙂

  • Hi all , never really sure where I fit on the scale of things with my drinking, I have only ever got really drunk a few times and never done anything when I’m drunk , my thing is I like a few beers ever few nights and it’s been that way for about 20yrs , more so when I stopped smoking , my thing is no one around me see’s my drinking as a problem not even the 3 different doctors I spoke to about it , I sometimes wonder if I’m over reacting or it’s just that people don’t want to admit that drinking is dangerous, I do feel more up beat and energetic since I stopped a month ago but then the thoughts start to creep in that I wasn’t that bad , just had to get this out my head and not got anyone to say it too lol 😂

    • You are Then only one that can determine it Was a problem; if it Was not a problem though, why would you need to do it daily? Glad you are here💚

    • Agree with @robynb that you know within yourself if it’s a problem or not. By most standards, my drinking probably wasn’t that bad but for me, it was an issue so I knew I had to stop. Veronica Valli on the Soberful podcast once said there are 3 things all problem drinkers do: they drink, they think about drinking, and they think about not drinking. Yep that was me. So if you’re feeling better without the booze, then stay true to that. It’s your gut (literally and figuratively) telling you it’s the right thing to do. 😊

    • I was the same kind of drinker as you, I think. To me also everyone would say, it’s all quite normal, you’re not sick, no problem at all. But I recognized that there was a problem! I thought about drinking again and again, I drank although I didn’t really want to, I tried to make rules for my drinking behavior and so on… It’s great to see the problem before it becomes bigger and bigger! And like you, I also feel much better in every way since I don’t drink no more. So never mind the scale, you don’t have to justify your decision. You saw a problem and you stopped it from increasing. Well done! 🙂

      • Thanks 🙂 , my worry was that when my kids are older I would just keep on drinking as I only make sure I don’t drink much with them being young .

        • The best (and only) method against this and other worries is simple: to kick alcohol out of your life!

    • It’s confusing isn’t it @sweetmummy3 as drinking is normalised everywhere and we occupy this kind of double-think, where experts talk about the limits people should stick to for a week, and hundreds, thousands of us ignore those and regularly drink much more, and that’s what’s seen as normal drinking. So unfortunately if others think our drinking is normal that doesn’t tell us much.
      I had these questions too. If it bothers you, if it feels like a pattern that traps you, then you can choose to change it. Read lots of posts here and see if you see yourself in them. Will it be worth it, going against the grain like this? Try 30, 60, 90 days and see how differently you feel.

    • Are the Scottish Drs lacking in up to date training??!!! They need to check the World Health Org recommendations – cancer, dementia, a host of other life screwing health impacts – and all from MODERATE drinking 🙁 🙁 🙁 Read up on breast cancer and you will stop any unhelpful drinking-encouragers in their tracks.
      Your thoughts/intuition/unease is so on the mark sweetmummy, go for it!!!
      (I was much the same, although would love a wine or 3 every night if I could – well, always 2 or 3, never 1 🙁 ) The progression toward addiction and subtle health effects – defects – can be very slow and sneaky; dangerous.
      Clever you for spotting the danger 🙂 Keep us posted how you get on.

      • Spoke to 3 different doctors over the last 4yrs and only got told to make sure I wasn’t going over the recommended units , got my liver function test done but only to put my mind at rest .

    • I was the same, nobody else thought I had a problem but it was a problem for me… it was the headspace it took up, the internal moderation debate, it’s not always about the volume we drink but also how we feel about our drinking. Life is so much better sober, it’s great that you are feeling more upbeat and energetic, hold on to that, enjoy sobriety, this is an amazing site where you can post all those thoughts that you sometimes those around you may not understand. Take care xx

    • I think only you know in your heart of heart .
      At the end i could drink one drink and not finish it , sometimes 2 and be satisfied with that .
      then on another day go to a party drink 6 drinks over a long period and just be tipsy and very tired the next day . I found i was not the usual alkie who just cannot have just one cause i could .But……. i always ended up , be it 3 months , 6 months down the line , that i would drink myself silly until i forgot how the evening ended , waking up like part of your soul is gone is no fun . I only see advantages about being af . And remember alcohol addiction is progressive , i think you are very bright to have broken free at this time before it could become a real problem for you . xx

      • Thanks 😀 I think it’s just getting my head around the fact that just because it’s seen as normal that it’s not and like cigarettes in the future we will all start to see it for what it is, a dangerous and addictive substance x

  • sweetmummy3 posted a new activity comment 3 months ago

    Thanks 😀

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