• suzkep posted a new activity comment 33 minutes ago

    @dennyd, @wakingowl, @aprilsfool, @timetobesober and @newstart100 – thanks for posting – so nice to know some sane people out there 😀

  • suzkep posted a new activity comment 11 hours, 17 minutes ago

    Welcome – there is a myriad of information here in all forms. Dive in – find what resonates with you and share when ready 😀

  • suzkep posted a new activity comment 11 hours, 18 minutes ago

    Sounds to me like you are thinking it through, understanding what upset the apple cart and working it out. You’re on your way – good work.

  • suzkep posted a new activity comment 12 hours, 20 minutes ago

    Welcome – hope this evening finds you well – great idea jumping on here 😀

  • Four weeks today – removed myself from the room of idiot drunken people. My girlfriend drank two bottles of wine – not being quite enough drank Nice Guys last beer. Don’t feel sorry for Nice Guy – he’s had a whole box lol. They are both talking bollix, I’m getting touched, and whacked, and rubbed – feeling like I’m their personal amulet or something lol. My friend not having the concentration to follow the rugby jumped on Facebook and told us final result pissing Nice Guy off, who is pissing me off cause he hasn’t a nice thing to say about any All Black on the pitch! And there we have it people! Up and down the country – over the ditch and across the globe people are annoying other people in the name of social fun. Tomorrow will involve a quick check in on collateral damage, sighs of relief and back we go again.

    So glad I’m out. So so glad. I love these two, I don’t need them to change – I know only full well what my contribution would have been to the scene. I’ve contributed enough there – time for something better 😀

  • suzkep posted a new activity comment 1 day, 1 hour ago

    Good I havnt read it – about half way through – I can already see how timeless it is 😀

  • suzkep posted a new activity comment 1 day, 5 hours ago

    Thanks girlie whirlies 😀

  • suzkep posted an update 1 day, 11 hours ago

    Well well – got through the evening – stayed up late enough, grabbed my book, left the drinkers to their drink and come to bed. My friend (I can hear her voice now) keeps hitting me every time she talks to me and Nice Guy (who has moved from his beers to red wine) has announced how pretty I am! I didn’t tell my friend that I’ve given up for good – don’t need to really – she’s been with me enough times on and then off – it really doesn’t matter. She said I’ve lost weight and also looking good – face and skin etc. Well I certainly haven’t lost weight cause I’ve been replacing alcohol sugars with food sugars – but she’s right about one thing – I look happy cause I feel happy 😃 – and gee happy to leave the drinkers to it and open up latest book – Ray Bradbury – Fahrenheit 451 – here’s to us Xx

  • suzkep posted a new activity comment 1 day, 18 hours ago

    That’s all we can do – keep trying – take the good with bad – hope for more good Xx

  • suzkep posted a new activity comment 1 day, 19 hours ago

    Well done Xx

  • suzkep posted a new activity comment 2 days, 14 hours ago

    Oh @wakingowl I’m so sorry Xx

  • suzkep posted a new activity comment 2 days, 14 hours ago

    What lovely friends you have Xx

  • suzkep posted a new activity comment 2 days, 14 hours ago

    Yes that is a bit weird – I didn’t even know such a thing existed – but I know typeface is critical to enthusing me to a book 😀

  • suzkep posted a new activity comment 2 days, 21 hours ago

    Oh Yeah! 🐡

  • suzkep posted a new activity comment 2 days, 21 hours ago

    Yep it’s definitely isolating – which I enjoy but I’m not sure it’s 100% good for me – oh well – it makes it tricky having issues with work colleagues cause I am my work colleague lol 😂

  • suzkep posted a new activity comment 2 days, 22 hours ago

    Wow Japan sounds amazing. I can and do work remotely too – sometimes it’s easier to get out of the house, sometimes it’s easier to stay in – sometimes the choice gets in the way of the work. But I’m guessing it looks like a treat for those that don’t have the choice 😀

    • You are SO right – there are definitely people at my work that are envious about my ability to work remotely. It is NOT the best thing ever. Do I get to wear pajamas? Sure. Listen to music without worrying about co workers, yes. But I work in IT which on the up side means I can troubleshoot my own computer issues and that makes working remotely easier. But it also means when I need to actually sit in front of another piece of equipment in order to fix it… I’m screwed. I also get very lonely for my work relationships, and seeing/working with people in person. I miss out on a lot of collaboration and meetings/information and the general pulse of work, which I believe is important to be the most effective. My situation is temporary, luckily – I’ll be back in my office by May. For now I’m grateful to still be employed at all!!!

      • Yep it’s definitely isolating – which I enjoy but I’m not sure it’s 100% good for me – oh well – it makes it tricky having issues with work colleagues cause I am my work colleague lol 😂

  • suzkep posted a new activity comment 2 days, 22 hours ago

    Thanks Sansa appreciate the thumbs up 😀

  • suzkep posted a new activity comment 2 days, 22 hours ago

    It’s an unexpected treat for me – and it’s great cause can get book recommendations from my dad 😀

  • suzkep posted an update 3 days, 1 hour ago

    Thursday – had a wee change of plan – told my mum we were coming over for her birthday – thought it better than a surprise – she can plan / look forward to it – and somehow removes some of the stress. Feels like I have been going on about it for ages – that’s because I have as it was foremost in my mind when jumped on here and signed up. So sorry but thanks 😀 Started my 4th book yesterday in as many weeks – that’s unheard of. It’s becoming a lovely addition to my life – reading – never would have had the concentration before, wasn’t easy to start with but it’s getting easier. Strange eh? Putting a substance in ya that stops you being able to read – pretty odd 🌈

    • Sansa replied 3 days ago

      So great to be truly present! That’s great suzkep! So wonderful to enjoy all these new adventures. Keep it going your doing great!

    • I have read SO MUCH MORE since getting sober!!! I used to try to read in bed and the book would be flat on my face in a matter of sentences. Or the words would be spinning. Or if I did read I couldn’t remember what I read the next day. Now I am devouring books. It is weirdly one of the huge motivators for me!

      • It’s an unexpected treat for me – and it’s great cause can get book recommendations from my dad 😀

    • Here, too, rediscovering books – even trying some “hard” ones now that I can concentrate and retain the information. I found that the amount of drinking, by women specifically, on TV, and the portrayal of it being classy/glamorous, was a trigger in the beginning, so reading has become a sober treat. Double bonus, right?

    • I’m a huge reader, three or four books a week on average. When I’m working at the library I have to compulsively read the synopsis of everything that grabs my eye. And I don’t know if I’m a bit weird but when I see it I always have to read that little blurb about the typeface design.

      • Yes that is a bit weird – I didn’t even know such a thing existed – but I know typeface is critical to enthusing me to a book 😀

  • suzkep posted a new activity comment 3 days, 1 hour ago

    @ro – 💪

  • suzkep posted a new activity comment 3 days, 1 hour ago

    Haha @peterw – the exclusive club that’s inclusive – I like it 😀 @nedimm you’ve found a good place to hang with same same people will same same problems 😀

  • suzkep posted a new activity comment 3 days, 1 hour ago

    Perhaps you were just agitated anyway @whynot – nothing to do with alcohol or the nice evening – I was grumpy as yesterday and I don’t think alcohol had anything to do with it – you enjoyed your evening – you would know if you didn’t.

  • suzkep posted a new activity comment 3 days, 18 hours ago

    That makes good sense and you will be joining in with the rest of us 😀

    • Sometimes mine was morning….then afternoon…..then evening…originally I broke it into chunks……days were tooooooo long😂

    • Today is day 4!!! Today is better than yesterday! Last night I went “postal” on my husband after reliving something that happened over a year ago. I feel so much better today. I am trying to be in the present moment. I might go to the gym this evening for a light workout.

  • suzkep posted a new activity comment 3 days, 18 hours ago

    Good for you! 😀

  • suzkep posted a new activity comment 3 days, 21 hours ago

    Eyes on the prize @laurali – it’s all within reach – thanks 😀

  • suzkep posted an update 3 days, 21 hours ago

    Day Whatever 😀 early days I spose, somewhere in first month – closer to the end than the beginning. At hairdressers – nice – look good for trip next week to Oz for mums 75th. Still nervous but I’m going to try and make it about her not me. Infact let’s make that my trip mantra – it’s all about you mum, you are 75, you deserve some love, to be surrounded by happy people that appreciate you, here we are! 🎈I think I’m feeling less anxious about it. Have a big drinking girlfriend coming to stay this weekend, we have travelled together, in campervans, before with me not drinking and her drinking – it was fine for me. It made her self conscious though – but I can’t help that. I will buy her wine and I think I’ll make my carafe of cranberry special. We have this gorgeous carafe bottle – never before carafed my wine – but it’s great to have my special drink beautifully presented. It makes me feel very lucky pouring it and drinking it – yay! 😀

  • suzkep posted a new activity comment 4 days, 13 hours ago

    Welcome and congrats for joining in. You will find lots of support here, similar stories and new approaches, or old ones with new buddies 🙂

  • suzkep posted a new activity comment 4 days, 13 hours ago

    140 pretty cool – did 2 yin yogas today and had a big sleep inbetween! Oh well – whateve it takes eh? 🙂

  • suzkep posted a new activity comment 4 days, 13 hours ago

    Hang in there @JJR X

  • suzkep posted a new activity comment 5 days, 2 hours ago

    Same – I wanted to stop at fifty – guess I’m stopping at 52 – that’s not bad going 😀

  • suzkep posted a new activity comment 5 days, 2 hours ago

    You have found a really good place to go for encouragement – great start 😀

  • suzkep posted a new activity comment 5 days, 2 hours ago

    Here’s to day 3 ! 😀@peterw

  • suzkep posted a new activity comment 5 days, 2 hours ago

    Same I reckon except I’m not getting on scales to prove it! 😀

  • suzkep posted a new activity comment 5 days, 2 hours ago

    @missbennet yep I’m moving back to no sugar, cut back on processed stuff and carbs. Well sugar intake coming from fruit. Looking forward to getting ontop of it all cause I know how it’s going to feel and I want a piece of that 😀

  • suzkep posted a new activity comment 5 days, 2 hours ago

    Thanks @gojo 😀

  • suzkep posted a new activity comment 5 days, 2 hours ago

    Ok @lucy we can do this 😀

  • suzkep posted a new activity comment 5 days, 17 hours ago

    The most in 14 years – that’s fantatsic – amazing how we stopped in pregnancy without so much as a bye or leave eh? XX

  • suzkep posted an update 5 days, 17 hours ago

    Onto WK 4 – Something has lifted today. I’m starting to feel myself again – my good self that is. My head isnt doing weird stuff – its being sensible. I’m going to put it down to the alcohol being out of my system, and thanking me for it. I’m haulin’ my carb and sugar eating back to where it usually is. My rings are falling off my fingers but I darent try on my jeans lol. Funny – alcohol goes to my fingers – carbs to my waist. Happy and grateful to @mrs-d and evryone else on here for listening and supporting me since 21st July – lets hope the week continues in this positive vain. Good luck with your own endeavours this week 🙂

  • suzkep posted a new activity comment 5 days, 18 hours ago

    Thanks @JM I do believe I have 🙂 Chocolate in he freezer is a good idea – feeling better today already for removing the ridiculous carbs and sugar intake programme I have been on 🙂

  • suzkep posted an update 6 days, 13 hours ago

    Week 4 – now this week has got to be about exercise, water and my usual eating – end of 😀

    • Congrats on week 4 @suzkep!! Lots of water is an excellent plan. I remain a bit obsessed with dark chocolate, keep some in the freezer as a go to. You’ve got this. : )

      • Thanks @JM I do believe I have 🙂 Chocolate in he freezer is a good idea – feeling better today already for removing the ridiculous carbs and sugar intake programme I have been on 🙂

  • suzkep posted a new activity comment 1 week ago

    That’s a great plan @peterw and one I decided to do three weeks ago – it’s working and like you I felt (and sometimes still do) like I was posting too much. Bit bonkers really – that’s exactly what it is here for – to vent, share, support and be supported. All of those things are important on there own but wrap them up together and it’s quite a powerful mix. Congrats!

    • MaryB replied 1 week ago

      It changed for me as well when I started posting, the support was amazing all from people who did not know me but who cared enough to encourage me and validate me! I also live in England and I love reading the new posts in the morning, all that has been going on whilst I’ve been asleep it makes you realise what a wonderful great big world we live in. Keep safe and remember @PeterW all you have to do is NOT DRINK TODAY👍

      • Thanks MaryB, one day at a time and I haved managed to bag the first. Thanks for your kind thoughts and, as they say,keep calm and carry on soberly.

        Best wishes, Peter

  • suzkep posted a new activity comment 1 week ago

    Gee @scared that’s a lot of sober time you have under your belt – I could not handle a puppy – kudos to you X

    • @suzkep it’s my “menopause pup”! Being only 43 and babies no longer an option threw me in to a wee spin 😬

  • suzkep posted a new activity comment 1 week ago

    Hey @lucy – just checking in and saying hi 👋 I should really be asleep – we watched rugby after our guests left until 1.45am – could not have managed that if wine was on the menu – sending you happy thoughts Xx

  • suzkep posted a new activity comment 1 week ago

    Yes thanks @kitten – just left now – there will be a rematch – no hassle with the booze – I had my concoction – just said it makes me depressed so prefer not to – that I had been building up to this for a while now – and finally stopped three weeks ago – said they could relax I didnt feel like grabbing their drinks out of their hands and throwing it down my neck lol and I didnt ….. yay! 🙂

  • suzkep posted a new activity comment 1 week ago

    @scared – good day – now just getting ready for the evening – thanks for checking in 🙂

  • suzkep posted a new activity comment 1 week ago

    @Ro – at mine and yes have my soda water and cranberry juice, might throw some fresh lemon and mint in it and carafe it with ice – that will do the trick. Got myself to yoga – god I love it – so weird why I do this cant be arsed thing. Sold a large picture and delivered it so that’s definitely work ticked off my list. And that wasnt even on the horizon when I posted this morning! Ive picked up a book re craft classes local to me – might look at that when my massive August is over. I’m feeling confident about the alcohol thing – lets hope its not false bonhomie. Quietly confident, no need to yell anything from any rooftop – that could hurt my throat and upset my balance. Thanks Ro. Loved your line about needing oxygen not piss to live – funny and true – the best combo 🙂

  • suzkep posted an update 1 week, 1 day ago

    Three weeks today! Been a pain in the proverbial. Wallowy, self obsessed, eating shit that I would never normally eat, time to stop being stupid. Not doing my exercise which I know is the secret to my success. Bored people are boring people. Nice Guy doesn’t deserve this shit. Alcohol not the issue, I am. So today we get up, wash my hair, go to yoga, do some work and prepare for the dinner party tonight with some sense of purpose. Hold me to this people please 😀

    • Ro replied 1 week ago

      Way to go on three weeks- that is amazing!! Good on you for getting amongst it – washing hair and yoga all good stuff 🙂 where is the dinner party? Are you going to it or hosting it? Do you have a plan in mind to be able to feel confident remaining alcohol free throughout the night?

      • @Ro – at mine and yes have my soda water and cranberry juice, might throw some fresh lemon and mint in it and carafe it with ice – that will do the trick. Got myself to yoga – god I love it – so weird why I do this cant be arsed thing. Sold a large picture and delivered it so that’s definitely work ticked off my list. And that wasnt even on the horizon when I posted this morning! Ive picked up a book re craft classes local to me – might look at that when my massive August is over. I’m feeling confident about the alcohol thing – lets hope its not false bonhomie. Quietly confident, no need to yell anything from any rooftop – that could hurt my throat and upset my balance. Thanks Ro. Loved your line about needing oxygen not piss to live – funny and true – the best combo 🙂

    • Ok, so it’s 7 hours since you posted…how did it all go? Xx

      • @scared – good day – now just getting ready for the evening – thanks for checking in 🙂

    • hope all went well, @sukzep, at the dinner party. congrats on day 3 weeks AF.

      • Yes thanks @kitten – just left now – there will be a rematch – no hassle with the booze – I had my concoction – just said it makes me depressed so prefer not to – that I had been building up to this for a while now – and finally stopped three weeks ago – said they could relax I didnt feel like grabbing their drinks out of their hands and throwing it down my neck lol and I didnt ….. yay! 🙂

  • suzkep posted a new activity comment 1 week, 2 days ago

    Thanks @leslielily wish you could have helped me out too – I had forgotten about that take it back to a point of time thing – never done it but can recall it so will bank that for another time 😀

  • suzkep posted a new activity comment 1 week, 2 days ago

    @Lucy – that sounds like a long story we would like to hear sometime when you have the time 💫

  • suzkep posted a new activity comment 1 week, 2 days ago

    I’m with you @tom4500 – quitting cigs means I can quit alcohol as well. Never played around with cigs like I have alcohol when wanting to stop. And that would be the difference!

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