• SueK posted an update 1 month, 3 weeks ago

    Hey sober warriors and soon-to-be-sobers, just checked my stats and I’ve been booze free for 2314 days, and saved $38,015 in the process. WOW. Looking back, this past 6-and-a-bit years has been really intense and I’ve faced up to a lot of stuff about my past and my childhood and my fears and humanness… it’s all coming at us all the time, but…[Read more]

  • SueK posted a new activity comment 1 month, 3 weeks ago

    I think one of the best things about being sober is that you can start to feel and listen to your heart again. For me it went very dark and silent while I can constantly numbing. But not any more. Inspiring post, thanks.

  • SueK posted a new activity comment 1 month, 3 weeks ago

    Hope you all have an amazing get together.

  • SueK posted a new activity comment 1 month, 3 weeks ago

    Can you imagine getting all that done if you were drinking? Nope, I didn’t think so! Have a great day, and don’t forget to breathe and have a nice sit down every now and then!

  • SueK posted a new activity comment 1 month, 3 weeks ago

    That sounds exactly like my old story. Good to be aware of it and to write it out loud… those are all pieces of the puzzle. Now lean in to your support. Cheering you along. You SO CAN do this.

  • SueK posted a new activity comment 1 month, 3 weeks ago

    @kerryjean47 , I know how disappointing it is when you reach a really important and significant milestone like that and you don’t get the encouragement you want from your spouse. It really hurts. One of my milestones was really similar. I mentioned to my spouse that I was feeling really good about not touching any booze for whatever many days it…[Read more]

    • Thank you @ Suek and all of you.
      I awoke this morning and read these posts. I felt supported and understood.
      You all are very right and very wise.
      I can’t make husband get it, but I get it and you guys get it.
      That is going to be good enough for me:)

  • SueK posted a new activity comment 1 month, 3 weeks ago

    @cog2019 I think it can happen to any fermented product that is unpasturised and left long enough. To put it in perspective, alcohol forms in very ripe fruit — it’s a natural process. But you don’t want to be drinking what you think is an alcohol free drink, when in fact there is a chance it does have an alcohol content. I guess you just need to…[Read more]

  • SueK posted a new activity comment 1 month, 3 weeks ago

    I’m from Invercargill!!! You’re right, not a great cultural scene, but you can’t beat a drive out to Oreti Beach! Hope you have a lovely visit with your sister.

  • SueK posted a new activity comment 1 month, 3 weeks ago

    xxx

  • SueK posted a new activity comment 1 month, 3 weeks ago

    @sober4real — I know, that was the first thing that crossed my mind when I recognised the “symptoms”… am I going to like this? Fortunately I Did Not. I am very grateful.

  • SueK posted a new activity comment 1 month, 3 weeks ago

    Well done! Authentic is far superior to pretty!

  • SueK posted a new activity comment 1 month, 3 weeks ago

    Welcome. You’re in good company here. Hope you find the help and support you need.

  • SueK posted a new activity comment 1 month, 3 weeks ago

    Peace to you too @Sober4real. And congratulations on 120 days. Really sorry you’re feeling emotional and uncomfortable — it can be horrible and sometimes wouldn’t it be nice if life gave us a proper break from having to take responsibility for our shit… Thinking of you and wishing you a quick resolution for whatever is ailing you. You are brave…[Read more]

    • @suek thanks dearie….I really appreciate you so much. I don’t feel amazing because I should have stayed quit when I had five years but nooooo, had to go out and experiment for several more. Oh well, the past is the past. I’m just internally sad but it’s a very strange sad feeling. Like it is there….barely under the surface but I’m not crying…[Read more]

  • SueK posted an update 1 month, 3 weeks ago

    Well that was interesting. I was given a bottle of kombucha by a friend who is thinking of selling it at her booth at the Farmers’ Market. I make it myself, so I’m used to drinking it. I know it can overferment and become alcoholic. I also know how to make it so that doesn’t happen. I poured myself a glass, had a good sniff, very strong ginger and…[Read more]

    • @suek wow! Thanks for the post, that would not be good for me as I might end up having instant “BOING” and want more. You handled it perfectly. What a weird thing to have happen!

      • @sober4real — I know, that was the first thing that crossed my mind when I recognised the “symptoms”… am I going to like this? Fortunately I Did Not. I am very grateful.

    • How unpleasant @suek sounds like you handled it like a champ.

      I remember when I did a bit of “research” a couple of years ago I drank red wine and it made me feel sick straight away. A kind of funny heavy feeling in my stomach and chest. Like a fool I persisted, drinking more so that the psychoactive effect would help me ignore the symptoms of…[Read more]

    • That’s actually really scary @suek. That instant feeling is exactly the feeling I and other’s never want to experience again!!! Ever xx

    • Hi @SueK! Isn’t it a relief that you hated it? Ha, that crap has no power over you! I felt that way when I was at the dentist and had gas. I hated that slightly woozy out of control feeling. Have a cozy, good Sat night! x

    • Oh, sounds scary to me! Before this go around, I had a drink after a stint of sobriety and had the same feeling. I hated it and had to drink through it to get over it. Silly drinkers! Just got to keep drinking, don’t we?

    • Wow, I didn’t know that. Do you think the ones you buy in the store are safe (as opposed to homemade ones)?

      • @cog2019 I think it can happen to any fermented product that is unpasturised and left long enough. To put it in perspective, alcohol forms in very ripe fruit — it’s a natural process. But you don’t want to be drinking what you think is an alcohol free drink, when in fact there is a chance it does have an alcohol content. I guess you just need to…[Read more]

  • SueK posted a new activity comment 1 month, 4 weeks ago

    That is very smart… I think I’m going to give that a try.

  • SueK posted a new activity comment 1 month, 4 weeks ago

    Great to hear. XX

  • SueK posted a new activity comment 1 month, 4 weeks ago

    Wow, you sound empowered and unstoppable. Great to read this post.

  • SueK posted a new activity comment 1 month, 4 weeks ago

    I lived with low-level constant anxiety for much of my life and it’s really only recently seemed to go away. And I’ve had a couple of panic attacks, which were horrendous. I think learning to meditate was the most important thing I’ve done for my mental health. It has taught me to be able to watch what’s going on in my body and mind (emotions,…[Read more]

    • Hi @suek me too. I agree with you. I have been to weekend retreats on meditation and practiced for a few years…best time ever, clear in my thinking, diligent about letting certain thoughts go…..you are so right that it works. It is messy in my head too…I don’t advocate anyone going in there…hahaha!

  • SueK posted a new activity comment 1 month, 4 weeks ago

    Well done. Those are courageous conversations to have. Great that you’ll be enjoying a couple of nights off cooking.

  • SueK posted a new activity comment 1 month, 4 weeks ago

    Good stuff Mrs D… you never know when you’re going to write a best-seller eh? XX.

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