Jan 23, 2018. I have been a closet drinker for the last 15 years. In the last year the drinking has increased, and I have started to lose interest in things that I really enjoy doing. Almost all of my time was focused on sneaking and how to hide what I was doing. Some of you probably know the drill. Sneaking booze into the house, sneaking the evidence out, etc. I have decided to quit. I am now on day 16 of being sober. I want my life back.
Feb 12, 2019. It’s now been 401 days since I started on this journey. I have had four 1 day slips in the past 13 months but it’s been 206 days since the last one. The cravings are GONE! Occasionally I experience a mild trigger but they pass quickly. I don’t engage them and they pass. So, for those of you that are just getting started, please believe that it really does get easier, but you have to do the work. Read everything you can, and stay close to this amazing community of loving, caring, supportive people who have all been where you are. Thanks to everyone here for supporting me, and God bless you @Mrs D for creating this amazing place called Living Sober.
Thank you @Mrs D. You are such an inspiration for all of us. Teaching us and showing us by your actions how to live the sober life. Couldn’t do it without you. And yes it is good to hear a “bravo” now and then.
Thanks, SteveF! I got through Day 1 OK! Day 2 today, and off to a scheduled ladies’ lunch with two friends – we had promised ourselves bubbles to celebrate a shared achievement. It’ll be sober bubbles! Usually i’d get my husband to drop me off at a lunch like this. Today – I’m driving, because I won’t be drinking.
I have tried moderating many times and it just doesn’t work for me @ladycaz. I always wind up in the same drinking out of control place. I think you know better than to try to moderate. You just hit a speed bump. Shake it off and get back on the road of sobriety. You’ll be much happier.
You have become a real inspiration for me @lee-2. I am a good bit older than you and have been alcohol free longer but you are teaching me so much about how to kick alcohol to the curb and never turn back. I can tell you have really turned your life around and the best is ahead. Thank you for your posts and being here. You go girl!
Hey neighbor!! @SteveF I have been working on and chipping away at sobriety ever since it began to get to be a
debilitating problem which was 17 years ago and I was born in 66 so I doubt there is that much difference in our age. A lot of what I’ve learned in recovery had stuck except I’d end up drinking again at some point. I am very involved in…[Read more]
Congratulations @kitten on 299 days! We are all works in progress aren’t we? Living life raw as Mrs D calls it. No, it’s not easy, and yes, sometimes it sucks, but it sure beats being stuck on that boozy merry go round that is going nowhere. Keep doing the work. You will get through it. I will continue working as you are to live my best alc…[Read more]
Yes, @stevef, that says it all “sure beats being stuck on that boozy merry go round that is going nowhere.” yes!!!! Yes, 299, i did not know we were close to day partners depending on how you count your days.
Hello everyone. 493 days since I began this journey and 298 days since my last and final slip. Because I am now sober, I can now deal with the underlying anxiety issues that I was numbing out with alcohol for years. I have read Mrs D’s book, “Mrs D is going Within”, which was great, and Tara Brach’s book entitled “True Refuge”. For those o…[Read more]
Congratulations on getting through your first night @trophy! Yep, sleep is rough at first but it definitely will get better. We’re all different but I would say within 7 days you should see a big improvement. Hang tough, and check in often. You’re doing great!
Welcome @trophy! You have joined a community of people that are in different stages of recovery. We are winning the battle and you can too. You will find lots of support and understanding here because we have all been where you are. Congratulations for making the decision to join. You’ve taken that very important first step. I will not drink…[Read more]
Glad you’re back with us @Buggles. Awesome work there! You may have seen this article before but I’ll post a link anyway. It’s written by Mrs D and talks about “Urge Surfing” among other things to help in the early going.
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