I read the news feeds and I admire your stories. One day I hope I can share an amazing story too. Right now I seem to have totally back tracked. Um dealing with 2 family members with cancer and a life that sent panning out as expected. Help! Please!
I felt hopeless when I joined here almost 2 years ago. If I can give up alcohol, you can too. It helped me to give up any obligations I didn’t have to meet to reduce stress. Hard to do with 2 serious illnesses to deal with in your family, I know, but do whatever you can to lighten your load.
Blew it again at the weekend. Had a day with friends and while I managed to politely refuse the numerous offers of a drink, even after I reminded them I’m not drinking, when faced with an open bottle and no one else around, it got too much. Just a taste became just a glass, became repeated excuses to go into the room with the bottle. Can’t…[Read more]
That alcohol thrives on dishonesty…glad you can now pinpoint the ‘open bottle’ caper. It won. Next time, call it out, right then and there. Alcohol recoils at being called the liar it is @startingagain. Something you may already know.
HI @startingagain You’ve hit upon one of the important features of drinking triggers that we need to know in order to help ourselves. i.e. the closer we are to alcohol, the greater the intensity of the craving.
Cravings are created by parts of the brain known as the reward system. Our brain remembers events it considers important for our s…[Read more]
Hey @sandyb, well done on the diary. I hope getting it all down on paper can help with those emotions. Have a great rest of day 4. I’m about to call it a night on 3. Got a tricky day coming up tomorrow with family but hey, I’m looking forward to checking in with you to hear about the start of your day 5 and the end of my day 4. We’ll both keep…[Read more]
What an amazing memory you will be creating for your son. A mummy who didn’t want to spend all night around alcohol bit chose a road trip and time with her son instead. Well done you. He will treasure these moments and so should you. A strong, loving, dedicated mummy. Because you are.
All good here @startingagain altho day 2 seemed very long. I have out to a coursevfor work this morning and visted A and D services after that. Not sure if that is for me or the group’s but will seek out support if that’s what it takes.
Good mantra, @SandyB! Here’s another one, free for the taking: When in doubt, go ahead and go to bed. Hmmm…. I don’t think mine will ever wind up on a bumper sticker, but I have found it to be good advice.
So, I’ve basically spent the last 2 days drinking. On the first day I had blackout by the time I went to bed. I woke up feeling so dreadful. Everything hurt. Although I realised how much damage I was quite obviously doing to myself, I went out and got more. Yesterday, I don’t think I had a single non alcoholic drink from 12.00 until bed at 11pm.…[Read more]
You’ve got this, @startingagain! I, and probably many folks on this site, have been where you are and completely understand. This is a wonderful, supportive place. Stay close and b kind to yourself. I’m so glad you’re here!
Give yourself some treats today: hot bath, ice cream, new magazine, book a massage. Treat yourself with something not alcohol related. Find some sober podcasts to listen to: The Bubble Hour is a favorite. Pick up the book, “Blackout” by Sarah Hepola. She gives such a well written account of her drinking story. Best of all, you reached out.…[Read more]
So glad you are here, @startingagain. You have had a rough couple of days, and, as @cleareyes said, we have all been there! Do what you need to do to protect your sobriety. That might mean you change your daily routes and habits, come in your house a different way, at a different time of day, go home a different route. Put something non-alcoholic…[Read more]
Ok. So day 2 not quite as good as it could have been. Kids bickering with each other(normal) and partner joining in (rediculous) led to the fateful “i need to pop out for a mo.” Mistake 1- took purse with me. Mistake 2 – went to wine shop. Mistake 3 – bought wine. Mistake 4 – drank wine. Mistake 5 – needed to find excuse to go out and get more…[Read more]
Hi @startingagain….s’pose a lot of us have to go through that grueling, torturous practice of start/stopping before we actually realize what we’re up against and pull-out the big guns. Good news is….you’re still here. Prayers for courage & cleansing as you go through the day.
Yep, lessons learned, just pick yourself up and move
on. Do you have a plan for fatigue from bickering?That was a big trigger for me when my kids were young. I knew someone once who kept a sheet cake in a kitchen drawer with a fork stuck in it so she could eat cake when the kids were arguing at about 5. That’s better than drinking when times are tough!
Yes, I’ve done that sort of thing quite a few times. At least in your case it was small bottles of wine, in my case it’s been a “small” bottle of vodka, and I do get pissed. We just have to pick ourselves up and keep trying. On day 10 today. Good luck with day 3.
Thanks everyone. How long does it take for normal sleep patterns to return? Found it hard to get to sleep and woke up a few times in the night. Although I don’t have hungover head this morning I do still have a headache.
Awesome! It can feel pretty raw, just remember you are healing. Lots of self care right now, hot bathes, yoga, stretching, drink bone broth, have some treats on hand, sleep as much as you need to as you are recovering and your body will thank you. Just know that anxiety and depression can be normal for most people and it gets better. It’s all part…[Read more]
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