• Sober4real posted a new activity comment 59 minutes ago

    @timidwarrior I got your response in email but don’t see it on this thread. I agree loneliness and depression go together for me for sure. I don’t have any friends – I’ve cut them all off over the years. In fact tonight was that party I chose not to attend but just a bunch of friends who still drink therefore I don’t hang out with them. I have a…[Read more]

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 1 hour, 5 minutes ago

    @Annie oh that is so wonderful for you but I understand the not wanting to come home. If it makes you feel any better I have a cat and she is a worthless piece of fur! hahaha typical female who isn’t all that affectionate….it’s more like just to have something to look at and take care of. I’m very happy you have the family time to look forward to!

    • @timidwarrior I got your response in email but don’t see it on this thread. I agree loneliness and depression go together for me for sure. I don’t have any friends – I’ve cut them all off over the years. In fact tonight was that party I chose not to attend but just a bunch of friends who still drink therefore I don’t hang out with them. I have a…[Read more]

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 1 hour, 7 minutes ago

    @malibustacey yes I’m sure you are right. I had five years AF and did start getting better so I just have to have faith! I drank so much beer until I passed out nightly for 7 years. No way to live!

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 1 hour, 58 minutes ago

    @iowadawn I’m so very very happy for you!

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 1 hour, 58 minutes ago

    @authentic it is nobody else’s business…….unless you want to make it their business. I find I only share with those really close to me but it varies. I know that many knew I drank too much any way so…….again, I keep the details to myself.

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 2 hours ago

    Wonderful @smartee!

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 2 hours, 1 minute ago

    @malibustacey absolutely can relate! I’m glad they found something to help with your illness. Mine is just taking over right now instead of me healing. I’ve just been sleeping and sleeping. It’s not conducive to feeling productive. Yes, my diseases plural have affected my work greatly. I made a bad decision last year to switch jobs and I should…[Read more]

    • I hear ya on that one, @Sober4real. I was a 2 bottle/day wine drinker for a good couple yrs. After a while…my conscience was screamin’ at me ~ we haven’t quite yet come up with a cure for Crohns, but there is one disease I can do something about. Crunch, alrighty. Buh bye alcohol. And, maybe as your sober time goes by, you may find your…[Read more]

    • @malibustacey yes I’m sure you are right. I had five years AF and did start getting better so I just have to have faith! I drank so much beer until I passed out nightly for 7 years. No way to live!

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 2 hours, 4 minutes ago

    @authentic thank you…will do.

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 2 hours, 16 minutes ago

    @01oceanbreeze YAY! Get the celebration going!

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 3 hours ago

    @Prudence I’m coming to your Airbnb! 🙂 That thought takes away my depression immediately. I’m always the single one now but you know I was in a relationship for 23 years so it’s overrated. I am relieved to come home alone sometimes. Hang in there……

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 3 hours, 2 minutes ago

    @lightness you know what this reminds me of? (As it’s happening to me now and has happened to me several times in my times of sobriety…) I think it has to do with our expectations…..like we build up what it is going to be and when it’s not what we think it should be we get bummed out. They say expectations are premeditated resentments. I do…[Read more]

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 3 hours, 11 minutes ago

    @Prudence you are an inspiration and made me laugh. I love you gals! I have some hope thank you!! xoxoxoxoxox I forgot about the emotional roller coaster somehow thinking since I’ve been through it before I didn’t think it would phase me this time. DUH! hahahaha!

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 3 hours, 13 minutes ago

    Hi @Iowadawn as I mentioned I have no interest in drinking luckily so that’s not the issue as per my post. Just extreme exhaustion. So no issue with the thought of drinking. 🙂

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 3 hours, 14 minutes ago

    Oh @malibustacey THANK YOU so much! All of you mean the world to me! I am excited to listen to him now and yes integrative is essential. I’ve been trying how to implement on zero budget. I would like to go to a Dr. of natural meds but can’t afford right now. I will listen….thank you so much!

    • (I think I understand @Sober4real. ~ for me, it’s high-flyin’, active business owner gets dx with a debilitating illness = slow death of business = start drinking heavily (alcohol did help in so many ways, but my mind went soggy) then finally allowed to receive a ‘super drug’ to help control m’disease and helloooo….something had to give. I…[Read more]

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 3 hours, 16 minutes ago

    @prudence thank you…..I’ve been through this before during other periods of recovery but never this exhausted. I think because I’m 50 now I have more fear on board that I’m old and my life is over. 🙁

    • haha you are but a spring chicken @Sober4real it is I who am old. I am 62. That is OLD!! But my life is nowhere near over in any way!! I’ve even met a new man!! Get your doctor to sort out that thyroid stuff, that is what is making you exhausted, plus it’is still a bit of an emotional rollercoaster at 50 days, but 50 days is Awesome, the stuff of heroes xo

    • @Prudence you are an inspiration and made me laugh. I love you gals! I have some hope thank you!! xoxoxoxoxox I forgot about the emotional roller coaster somehow thinking since I’ve been through it before I didn’t think it would phase me this time. DUH! hahahaha!

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 3 hours, 18 minutes ago

    @limetwiste thank you for making me feel somewhat normal. How long until it passed? I’m hitting 2 months. The exhaustion stinks and Netflix and LS site are my besties!

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 3 hours, 31 minutes ago

    Hi @01oceanbreeze it’s dead of winter here where I live. I have been doing yoga every day. I made a mistake and moved too far out in the country but not having a job I can’t change that right now. I’ve done my grocery shopping and such…..this whole time so I’m good that way. You are right location change helps. My daughter is coming tomorrow…[Read more]

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 3 hours, 34 minutes ago

    @enzedgirl thanks love. My Mom knows everything. Not any groups or anything I’m interested in. I have had literally no energy. My daughter is coming to get me tomorrow but I thought I’d feel good and I do not. That’s the thing I’m upset and sad about. My energy is not coming back. Now I’m getting all theatrical in the brain thinking maybe I’m…[Read more]

    • I completely understand that lack of energy. When I was going through some pretty serious depression I did not have the energy to do anything. Getting out of bed to look after my kids when it was my week with them was almost impossible. Loneliness is a huge trigger for depression for me and looks like it affects you in a similar way. Do you have…[Read more]

  • Day 50 friends. I’m concerned and a bit depressed. I don’t want to drink…I’m just completely alone. I have only seen my Mom once and my son once in the past 50 days. It would make no difference if I was drinking I probably wouldn’t have seen anyone. But now I don’t have a job and am alone I’m starting to get scared. In addition, I have a thyroid…[Read more]

    • oh that’s no good @sober4real !

      it’s great that you recognise how you’re feeling and that it might be putting you in a risky situation – whether that’s drinking or whatever

      i know it sounds a bit cliche but are there any groups you can join, or help lines you can call, or a friend you could reconnect with?

      would it be possible to talk to your…[Read more]

    • That’s not good, can you go for some long gentle walks or people watch at a mall or something non strenuous to break up your day? Often there’s opportunities to chat with others sharing Park benches of shopping mall seats. Might be a bit hard to find motivation to do these things but they could be helpful. I forced myself out of the house on Day…[Read more]

      • @enzedgirl thanks love. My Mom knows everything. Not any groups or anything I’m interested in. I have had literally no energy. My daughter is coming to get me tomorrow but I thought I’d feel good and I do not. That’s the thing I’m upset and sad about. My energy is not coming back. Now I’m getting all theatrical in the brain thinking maybe I’m…[Read more]

        • I completely understand that lack of energy. When I was going through some pretty serious depression I did not have the energy to do anything. Getting out of bed to look after my kids when it was my week with them was almost impossible. Loneliness is a huge trigger for depression for me and looks like it affects you in a similar way. Do you have…[Read more]

      • Hi @01oceanbreeze it’s dead of winter here where I live. I have been doing yoga every day. I made a mistake and moved too far out in the country but not having a job I can’t change that right now. I’ve done my grocery shopping and such…..this whole time so I’m good that way. You are right location change helps. My daughter is coming tomorrow…[Read more]

      • @soberforreal..my friend, you are not alone ☺ Stay on here..you are half way to 100 days already and that’s fantastic!! Booze will only amplify and worsen your medical condition and your body. Stay sober and I bet ..after seeing medical docs…they can find answered and help you! Imagine how proud and I’m guilty you will feel when you check off…[Read more]

        • Hi @Iowadawn as I mentioned I have no interest in drinking luckily so that’s not the issue as per my post. Just extreme exhaustion. So no issue with the thought of drinking. 🙂

    • @sober4real you are not alone.
      I agree with @01oceanbreeze about forcing yourself out of the house. A simple interaction with a shopkeeper can give you a lift. A smile goes a long way. When I was feeling like that I would try and make myself go out once a day. Even if it was to drive to the beach and look at the ocean (if you live near the sea).…[Read more]

    • I spent a heap of time alone when I first got sober, it was quite confronting really. I just didn’t quite know what to do with myself. One thing I did that I loved was go to the movies, yep 11 am or 1pm movie by myself, excellent movies. It really helped. And hey, it won’t always be this way, it is a period of adjustment, made worse by your…[Read more]

      • @prudence thank you…..I’ve been through this before during other periods of recovery but never this exhausted. I think because I’m 50 now I have more fear on board that I’m old and my life is over. 🙁

        • haha you are but a spring chicken @Sober4real it is I who am old. I am 62. That is OLD!! But my life is nowhere near over in any way!! I’ve even met a new man!! Get your doctor to sort out that thyroid stuff, that is what is making you exhausted, plus it’is still a bit of an emotional rollercoaster at 50 days, but 50 days is Awesome, the stuff of heroes xo

        • @Prudence you are an inspiration and made me laugh. I love you gals! I have some hope thank you!! xoxoxoxoxox I forgot about the emotional roller coaster somehow thinking since I’ve been through it before I didn’t think it would phase me this time. DUH! hahahaha!

    • Hiya @Sober4real. A big congratulations on hitting 50days without a drop. That’s huge. I’m sending a link to a broadcast from Anthony William. He airs on Hay House radio and is (my) medical guru, anyway. I put a little of the ‘integrative’ along with the ‘conventional’ approach to living with Crohns disease. This sound-cloud is about lifting your…[Read more]

      • Oh @malibustacey THANK YOU so much! All of you mean the world to me! I am excited to listen to him now and yes integrative is essential. I’ve been trying how to implement on zero budget. I would like to go to a Dr. of natural meds but can’t afford right now. I will listen….thank you so much!

        • (I think I understand @Sober4real. ~ for me, it’s high-flyin’, active business owner gets dx with a debilitating illness = slow death of business = start drinking heavily (alcohol did help in so many ways, but my mind went soggy) then finally allowed to receive a ‘super drug’ to help control m’disease and helloooo….something had to give. I…[Read more]

      • @malibustacey absolutely can relate! I’m glad they found something to help with your illness. Mine is just taking over right now instead of me healing. I’ve just been sleeping and sleeping. It’s not conducive to feeling productive. Yes, my diseases plural have affected my work greatly. I made a bad decision last year to switch jobs and I should…[Read more]

        • I hear ya on that one, @Sober4real. I was a 2 bottle/day wine drinker for a good couple yrs. After a while…my conscience was screamin’ at me ~ we haven’t quite yet come up with a cure for Crohns, but there is one disease I can do something about. Crunch, alrighty. Buh bye alcohol. And, maybe as your sober time goes by, you may find your…[Read more]

        • @malibustacey yes I’m sure you are right. I had five years AF and did start getting better so I just have to have faith! I drank so much beer until I passed out nightly for 7 years. No way to live!

    • Hang in there, 50 days is amazing!

    • Feeling alone is so awful @sober4real. but you are doing the sober thing beautifully. Keep going. im going to see my kids and grandies for 2.5 weeks over xmas,and Im already dreading coming home!! where Ill be all by myself. Not even a cat to smooch. (We cant have animals in the subdivision where I live)

      • @Annie oh that is so wonderful for you but I understand the not wanting to come home. If it makes you feel any better I have a cat and she is a worthless piece of fur! hahaha typical female who isn’t all that affectionate….it’s more like just to have something to look at and take care of. I’m very happy you have the family time to look forward to!

        • @timidwarrior I got your response in email but don’t see it on this thread. I agree loneliness and depression go together for me for sure. I don’t have any friends – I’ve cut them all off over the years. In fact tonight was that party I chose not to attend but just a bunch of friends who still drink therefore I don’t hang out with them. I have a…[Read more]

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 4 hours, 59 minutes ago

    Awwww so cute!

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