• Sober4real posted a new activity comment 5 hours, 40 minutes ago

    Great job!

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 6 hours, 12 minutes ago

    Good for you!

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 2 days, 2 hours ago

    @lee@ hooray! Congratulations for hitting triple digits. πŸ™‚

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 2 days, 2 hours ago

    @jesss I am glad you are staying true to myself!!!! It is such a challenge ….you are so strong.

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 2 days, 2 hours ago

    It gets better for sure!

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 2 days, 2 hours ago

    I’m so sorry @jm how sad. It does destroy lives indeed.

    • Lucy replied 2 days ago

      @JM such sad news… sending you love today.. this is another reason why we should keep fighting this awful addiction xx

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 3 days, 4 hours ago

    I’m so sorry @song-bird…being sober is a good thing because we just hurt ourselves with it. I’m so sorry about your Mom…I know that it will kill me so I’m sending you love, light and positive vibes. Sometimes, we just have to cry! xoxox

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 3 days, 10 hours ago

    You are welcome. Yes, that seems to be the case and thank you for reminding me of that fact because I can easily forget. I have a good forgetter – especially when it comes to booze after being AF for 8 months. Hang in there and just remember it takes time – it gets better one day at a time.

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 3 days, 23 hours ago

    Love it!

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 3 days, 23 hours ago

    That’s so great Lee- almost 100! Congratulations…it’s all new territory. Super cool!

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 3 days, 23 hours ago

    So happy you have this opportunity to take good care of yourself. I’m still dealing with fallout over my drinking for five years straight – lots of dental work and a few new wrinkles. I am really focused on gratitude as I was afraid I may have done permanent damage so it is miraculous how resilient we can be. I am looking forward to hearing about your healing journey as it will definitely continue to improve. Congratulations on almost hitting the 2 month mark!

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 4 days ago

    I’m so happy for you @timidwarrior! You’ve worked so hard and deserve all the good fortune sobriety brings.

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 5 days, 1 hour ago

    Wonderful! I knew it!! So exciting…again, wish I could have listened in… πŸ™‚

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 5 days, 8 hours ago

    Yes, the difference for me was that I was doing it for myself and my health. I did not keep an idea in my head that if this didn’t work I could drink……I had to make the decision that I was never going to drink alcohol again one day at a time.

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 5 days, 8 hours ago

    You can do it @missfreedom – they will love hearing your story. Wish I could be there!

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 6 days, 13 hours ago

    I have had issues since the server was moved. Most of the time if I type a post it takes 20 seconds to actually post….or it doesn’t post at all.

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 1 week ago

    Make a firm commitment that it is no longer an option to drink. It’s not easy but it’s up to you….you can do it! πŸ™‚ Empower yourself by saying that you CHOOSE not to drink any longer. You deserve the best life has to offer. Every day you wake up and make a commitment that you won’t drink just for today. For me, I had to want it more than anything else in my life to get it to stick. You can too. πŸ™‚ xoxoxooxx

    • And because I really choose not to like my life depends on it . Thank you so much

    • I agree with @sober4real and @DaveH. I had some success staying sober in the past but it was limited until I made a firm commitment to my self. Doesn’t mean that I am never tempted to drink anymore, I just don’t give in to the temptations or cravings and they have become less frequent. It takes practice and effort to retrain the brain but that’s basically what I’ve had to do as mine was hard wired to drink. You can do this!

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 1 week, 2 days ago

    Always helped me to empower myself. It’s not that you cannot it is that you choose not to. πŸ™‚ Hang in there….the detox is almost done. πŸ™‚

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 1 week, 2 days ago

    Welcome!!

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 1 week, 2 days ago

    Yes the secret part is such a prevalent part of many of our stories. Good job for hanging in there to day 7! πŸ™‚ So funny, one would never do the trick – I need infinite amounts of booze. LOL.

    • Its so nice to have real empathy! I have eaten dinner and think I’ve made it tonight! It’s amazing what a good dinner does for the cravings. Most of my recent drinking has been in secret. It makes it easier to maintain the addiction, yet so much harder because there’s some shame in it. Thank you all for the replies. Take care.

    • SECRET—-has been so true for me in the past. Noone will know!! Hey stupid Annie–you will know.

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 1 week, 2 days ago

    Yes, we have chatted about that on multiple occasions. I don’t know if everyone will quit but someday like smoking I hope it becomes more popular in the future. Would be so cool – it’s definitely starting!!!

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 1 week, 2 days ago

    @agirl I needed to hear these strategies today. Having a really rough time at the moment and even realized I was thinking about relapse which would of course never solve any of my problems. xoxoxo

    • Oh that sucks @sober4real, I’m sad you’re feeling sad. Are you doing your madly busy burning the candle at both ends thing super person? Jeepers we are so hard on ourselves aren’t we. Kia kaha buddy. Arohanui my sober friend.

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 1 week, 2 days ago

    Being tired is normal, you are still detoxing. Epsom salt bathes helped me a lot in the beginning. It took me hitting 90 days before my sleep patterns normalized but I was also getting off valium at the same time as alcohol so you probably won’t experience that intensely. Keep on doing what you are doing!

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 1 week, 3 days ago

    Love it when that happens! Great point for sure.

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 1 week, 3 days ago

    Morning! On Saturdays I have time to read your posts. You are so right about us wanting everything we manifest in our minds yesterday! I’m not patient in so many ways ….still a work in progress. It’s funny that you reminded me now that I too do better in a routine. When I was young I could not stand the same thing day after day. Now I come to rely upon it for security and order.

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 1 week, 3 days ago

    Sounds so lovely! We are all here cheering you on!

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 1 week, 3 days ago

    Yes, HALT is one I use all the time to assess how I’m doing. It’s amazing how we can not even be thinking about it and like you said WHAM! So great you are just getting back on the horse. That’s truly the way to be successful no matter what.

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 1 week, 3 days ago

    Most excellent achievement @kitten! I love your animals. I have a cat who could not care less. I have to drive about 3 minutes to my Mom’s to hang out with her dogs who love me. hahahaha. Congrats on coming up to one year. That is truly wonderful. πŸ™‚ And nowadays when plans fall through we handle it just fine!!! Rain or shine…. πŸ™‚

    • i am glad that you are able to hang out with dogs that love you sometimes, @sober4real. there is nothing like the dependabilty of a dog’s love. it is nice to know that when plans fall through, we have ourselves, our home and always plenty to do. hope you are feeling better.

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 1 week, 3 days ago

    Great job @judyb it just keeps on getting better!

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 1 week, 3 days ago

    Hi @grettam I agree with @newstart100 on remembering the bottom. I had a low one unfortunately because I had periods of long term sobriety and forfeited it to go back to drinking only to cause further wreckage. The benefits far outweigh the cost for me and I think it’s a good point to remember that you will experience long term costs -the issue is you won’t realize it until it’s too late if you drink like I used to. Making a firm decision is when you NO LONGER allow the option of going back to drinking to remain on a shelf in your mind. The option to drink is removed from your life. πŸ™‚

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 1 week, 5 days ago

    Thinking of you @lee….

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 1 week, 5 days ago

    Happy 300 today @winner! You rock!!!

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 1 week, 5 days ago

    Good for you @teenybronco….sci fi and pizza are perfect. I love being sober and strong in it and just showing others through my choices because it’s not really anybody else’s deal…..I would hold on to it and when you are ready to share with “certain” people you will know when it’s time. πŸ™‚ Great job on day 3 …..you are detoxing now so it’s all coming out. You might feel a bit stressed/tense/irritable but it’s all that stuff coming out of your system so keep up the good job!

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 1 week, 5 days ago

    It’s nice they still want you! It’s good to be wanted and have the option to work if you feel like making some moola! Super cool.

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 1 week, 5 days ago

    Right on @prudence! I’m so glad you made it there in one piece – I admit to giggling about your flight stories I can relate. I bet is so beautiful there….I can’t wait to hear more about your adventure. Have fun exploring and eating lots of food!

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 1 week, 5 days ago

    Did you have a good experience? Some meetings are better than others.

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 1 week, 5 days ago

    It can be intimidating the first time but also so invigorating to feel you are truly amongst those that understand!

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 1 week, 5 days ago

    @missfreedom hang in there. No one could do that to me like a significant other. Glad you got your Bette Davis eyes in bed girl!

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 1 week, 6 days ago

    Good night….can’t wait to come back to England again someday!

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 1 week, 6 days ago

    I was in this sort of situation towards the end of my marriage and well, I tried everything even for 3 years afterwards and it just wouldn’t change or work for us unfortunately.

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 1 week, 6 days ago

    Too cool! Love it that you are having a great time adventuring!

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 1 week, 6 days ago

    @kitten I am not lonely enough to relapse. I have my family around me but I am definitely having gratitude with the little things that’s for sure. I have friends that drink but most of them are married so we don’t get together often. I know about as much as you can about my health stuff but it’s not a cut and dry condition unfortunately and everyone is different in regards to how they react when dealing with it. Thanks for the sweet note! πŸ™‚

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 1 week, 6 days ago

    @liberty yes I know what you mean. I get out but I need to be more engaged with something!

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 2 weeks ago

    That’s wonderful @robynb. Holding grudges is toxic. Sounds like things are going well! πŸ™‚

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 2 weeks ago

    HAHAHAHA! πŸ™‚

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 2 weeks ago

    Glad you have the ability to push through. I seem to be lacking that lately! LOL. πŸ™‚

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 2 weeks ago

    Thanks @jocord– it’s actually always present but I ignore it a lot of the time. I can no longer do that…going to have to get back on the autoimmune protocol diet! Darn it! Big hugs back atcha! xoxo

    • Hiya @Sober4real….(I think you’ve got a ‘hypo-” thyroidism?) ‘condition’ brought on my Hashimoto’s/Graves disease?? Not sure we ever talked about ‘it’ that much, but last we did, your new doc prescribed t3 Cytomel to speed you up??) Uh oh…what’s going on now?? Too much dairy (butter/fats/eggs)…something like that? Don’t suppose you got around to checkin out Anthony William’s book Thyroid Healing, yet? M’heart goes out to ya. And, of course certain food/fake food will set off viral triggers…..grumble. Not fair. Above all what just sounded like a scolding ~ you are actually a greater picture of health without alcohol in the equation. Heal easy, sista.

  • Sober4real posted an update 2 weeks ago

    Hello sober tribe! Day 220 here….I’m on the couch once again due to an autoimmune disease I have. I remember that when I drank when I felt this way it gave me false energy. Of course I paid for it twice as much the next day. I am tired of spending my sobriety couped up though I admit…lately it has gotten me down. I am alone most of the time just because my kids are grown and I’m an empty nester. Lots of positives to that – no fighting teens hahaha, a bit more money but I guess I really did focus on my kids pretty much. This time in sobriety I’m lonely. I went to an AA meeting a few weeks ago and it just further solidified the fact that they aren’t right for me at this juncture in time. I love the principles and the tools but not the fellowship any longer. I am even eating a special autoimmune diet so I cannot go have an ice cream cone or get a diet coke. I’m super constricted! EEEK! Has anyone else dealt with additional health issues in recovery as well? Hope you are having a great day!!

    • Yup. I hear ya! Also an empty nester, also autoimmune disease. I’m super tired after my morning at work teaching. Aiming for a quick nap then outside in the sun. I think my autoimmune issues have really Buggered up my energy levels. Zero to zilch. But I force myself, and it is easier now not drinking. Feel a lot more positive. Hope you’re doing ok xxx autoimmune sucks.

      • Glad you have the ability to push through. I seem to be lacking that lately! LOL. πŸ™‚

    • I’m sorry, my friend. I know you worked so hard to get your life back and then, bam!, this hits you. Sending hugs to you tonight! xoxo

      • Thanks @jocord– it’s actually always present but I ignore it a lot of the time. I can no longer do that…going to have to get back on the autoimmune protocol diet! Darn it! Big hugs back atcha! xoxo

        • Hiya @Sober4real….(I think you’ve got a ‘hypo-” thyroidism?) ‘condition’ brought on my Hashimoto’s/Graves disease?? Not sure we ever talked about ‘it’ that much, but last we did, your new doc prescribed t3 Cytomel to speed you up??) Uh oh…what’s going on now?? Too much dairy (butter/fats/eggs)…something like that? Don’t suppose you got around to checkin out Anthony William’s book Thyroid Healing, yet? M’heart goes out to ya. And, of course certain food/fake food will set off viral triggers…..grumble. Not fair. Above all what just sounded like a scolding ~ you are actually a greater picture of health without alcohol in the equation. Heal easy, sista.

    • Yup, also hear ya. It’s lonely and isolating. Join things they say, get out and meet people, take up a new hobby….etc. Umm. I manage to hold down my job and that’s about it now. The rest of the time I rotate btwn bed and couch. On a good day I can go out to meet a friend and I’ll probably look relatively normal. They won’t see that I pay for that small jaunt for the rest of the weekend. Oh well. Still think I’m lucky seeing how other people do. Thank goodness for the internet, I don’t know how I’d manage the isolation otherwise.

    • hey, @sober4real – i felt lonely for a long time in my new sobriety, but it really wasn’t working, so i said to myself, if you are going to be down and not moving much, doing much and then what is the use of being sober? Had a long talk with myself and on the other side, or at least crossing over at a slow crawl, it seems that we have to hold up our head and find satisfaction in all of the little things. i am still lonely because everyone in my crowd drinks. i have absolutely no friend that doesn’t want to get together for “drinks” , me fake drinks, but anyway. we will just keep on going. learning and journeying. being sober is best. i hope you learn more about your health issues so that you feel better about that. be well.

      • @kitten I am not lonely enough to relapse. I have my family around me but I am definitely having gratitude with the little things that’s for sure. I have friends that drink but most of them are married so we don’t get together often. I know about as much as you can about my health stuff but it’s not a cut and dry condition unfortunately and everyone is different in regards to how they react when dealing with it. Thanks for the sweet note! πŸ™‚

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 2 weeks ago

    Hi @freedom1025 – I used to have the same thing with work. I remember once I did drink and I regretted it for a multitude of reasons. I did not become the cool, suave and collect professional discussing exciting breakthrough ideas that night I’ll tell ya! πŸ™‚ Hang in there…..

  • Sober4real posted a new activity comment 2 weeks ago

    It’s good not being alone in this journey!

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