• Shez posted a new activity comment 1 week ago

    I love the brutal honesty of this post…. in my case I usually want to stab them with a blunt knife 😂

  • Shez posted an update 1 week ago

    Day 30 – Well that is a nice round number to tick off, next short term goal aim towards 50 days…

  • Shez posted a new activity comment 1 week, 2 days ago

    We are twins @yellowlark!! Nice work on Day 29!

  • Shez posted an update 1 week, 2 days ago

    Day 29 – this is a day to be thankful for me….

    I’m thankful for a clear head so….
    I can work and do a good job
    I recognise all these feelings I have a real (albeit brutal)
    I can smile
    I am healthier (no weight loss, but the sugar belly is disappearing)
    I have a roof over my head
    I love my family
    Life is just a little easier

    Have a good day people!!

  • Shez posted a new activity comment 1 week, 2 days ago

    You are right it’s not just will power, it’s how much I want other things!! I do feel better than I did 28 days ago, that is for sure!!

  • Shez posted a new activity comment 1 week, 2 days ago

    I hope you are right, it’s sunday afternoon and I’ve had a great day but I’ll turn to my cup of tea instead of wine!! I’ll aim small for sure, and now at nearly a month I’m pretty happy to get through this far!!!

  • Shez posted a new activity comment 1 week, 2 days ago

    Well
    Done @andian!

  • Shez posted an update 1 week, 4 days ago

    Day 27 – it seems the longer you stop the pains do really ease!! Work has been mental this week, but thankfully I am af at the moment because I’ve been able to semi cope (although the frustration levels are up there)!! I went for a lovely jog last night instead of drinking, and it was beautiful, no one around just the moon and my inner self! Hoping to keep going, but I know relapses are inevitable but I can only hope my will power is stronger!!! Have a fab weekend!!

    • Lovely, just woken up to a clear head day. The 12 th day on this present journey. I am looking forward to rest and recuperation on this cold and wet day on the South Island.

    • I would like to challenge you on your statement relapses are inevitable. I don’t think that is a true statement, and I feel like a statement like that lets the brain say their okay. Not just will power, being prepared for all situations because sometimes after a long hard week will power stumbles. You have come to day 27 you can add a day at a time. Do small goals maybe aim for day 50 then 75 then 100. You can do this

      • I hope you are right, it’s sunday afternoon and I’ve had a great day but I’ll turn to my cup of tea instead of wine!! I’ll aim small for sure, and now at nearly a month I’m pretty happy to get through this far!!!

    • I’m with @k1w1, it doesn’t have to be inevitable. I also don’t think willpower is enough. We know we have incredibly strong wills. We’ve managed to keep jobs and power through days hungover. Asking for help before you drink is a great way to stay on track! xo

      • You are right it’s not just will power, it’s how much I want other things!! I do feel better than I did 28 days ago, that is for sure!!

  • Shez posted an update 2 weeks, 2 days ago

    21 days – the craving is still there but I’m thankful I haven’t caved in yet!! I’m enjoying the sober break tbh!!! Have a nice evening all!!

    • Good girl. You are doing well. I find day 25 switches from the mundane to the ‘oh my God I’m alive!’ moments.

      • Really? @MissBennet? I hope 25 is true! I slipped at 23 so working upwards again. Keep inspiring us please!,

        • Yeh I meant on my travels going past day 25 I always noticed it but I’m not inspiring, I keep slipping too. I’m back at day ten today. I can travel with you. 🙂

    • Good on you, strength of conviction is sometimes needed till it becomes our new normal

    • Well done! What helped me with the cravings was to keep a list of all the benefits of not drinking. It kept growing and growing and the cravings started to shrink. 😊

    • Well done on 21 days @Shez! I have a long list of reasons why I quit. I referred to it often in those tough early days. It gave me lots of motivation to fight on. Keep up the good work!

    • Oh do keep going! Great job on 21!

  • Shez posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 3 days ago

    One day at a time @agirl!! Do not do anything irrational, take a deep breath or 10 to ground yourself!! X

    • I certainly won’t do anything silly @shez. My (adult) children are my reason for being. I wouldn’t do anything to upset them. Thank you xx

  • Shez posted an update 2 weeks, 4 days ago

    Day 20 – in the supermarket yesterday afternoon, having that voice say to me you can moderate, go on buy a bottle!!! The other stubborn voice is like no you can’t buy it, you’ve promised me!!! Instead brought sweets instead, bad idea ate them all and was awake middle of the night too!!! But with a different feeling (and not the same guilt)!!! Here’s to another day, and woop woop 21 days tomorrow (supposedly I will have broken the habit, some how I think a habit is slightly different to an addiction)!!! Have a good day all!!!

    • wonderful on you for saying no to the supermarket beast. congrats on day 20.

    • Buying sweets is always better than buying wine :D. Great choice!

    • Oh that voice, it’s annoying eh 🤪. I now have gone from sweets to macadamia nuts, thought hell their expensive but in reality when I was drinking it was nothing to spend money on wine.

  • Shez posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 5 days ago

    @agirl, sounds to me you had every right to for being angry!!! But I must look into this Tara Brach, cause I’m feeling pretty frustrated with a lot of things (mainly work related), and seem to speak my mind a bit too much that I care for!!! Have a good day!!

  • Shez posted an update 2 weeks, 5 days ago

    Day 19 – wow just woke up from a crazy dream…. I went to a party at a house I just brought (the people that held the party were the current owners), and everyone got really drunk (and were on other stuff) but I stayed sober….. I have no idea why I dreamt it but glad I’m not drinking alcohol in my dreams either!!! Have a great day!!!

    • Some do have drinking dreams, maybe the brains way of working through it. I love that you weren’t drinking in the dream 🦋

    • Congrats on day 19 @Shez! Those drinking dreams are weird..good to wake up to feeling unhungover. : )

  • Shez posted an update 2 weeks, 6 days ago

    Day 17 – thank goodness for clarity at the moment otherwise I couldn’t do my job…. keep going everyone!!

  • Shez posted a new activity comment 3 weeks ago

    Nice one, here’s to day 31👍

  • Shez posted an update 3 weeks ago

    Day 16 – so much going on at work, and although I’m a little short with people I can process things a lot easier…. the fog is slowly but surely lifting….

    Oh and well done @mrs-d on the podcast, very good, I’m going to listen to more of Janey Lee Grace

  • Shez posted a new activity comment 3 weeks ago

    Exercise has always been part of my life for the past 10 years, many a training day was on a hangover though, so much easier without one!!

  • Shez posted a new activity comment 3 weeks ago

    Lots of navel gazing going on 🤦‍♀️

  • Shez posted a new activity comment 3 weeks ago

    Hope you enjoyed the class!

  • Shez posted an update 3 weeks, 2 days ago

    Day 15 – wow I made it through the long weekend here!! I’m feel pretty good tbh, well apart from my legs which were ripped off (in a good way) on my cycle this morning. What I have learnt is when you wake up (and it’s time to get up) do get up, otherwise you can lie there thinking too much, over analysing things!! Life could be worse, and I do recognise it will go down hill at points, but if I can manage these feelings/thoughts I can manage most things!!

    • Congrats @shez!!! That’s wonderful…. and great job on your cycling. I’m going to take a class.

    • You are so right- overanalysing is not helpful! (Note to self 😜) Well done smashing it on the bike this morning.

    • How right you are, we don’t have to follow our thoughts down the rabbit hole

    • Foreward-ho, @Shez. Rockin’ the Queenie’s bday wkend with that two plus weeks thing. Well, it’s one of her birthdays, etc. Working out has got to be one of the top elixirs to a smooth day. Even if your legs are munted, you sure got right idea 🙂

      • Shez replied 3 weeks ago

        Exercise has always been part of my life for the past 10 years, many a training day was on a hangover though, so much easier without one!!

  • Shez posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 2 days ago

    Very powerful, the world is definitely filled with fair weather friends, but be true to yourself and you’ll find the ones who count!!

  • Shez posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 2 days ago

    I think I’ll go for the chocolate 🍫😀

  • Shez posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 2 days ago

    Well done!!

  • Shez posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 2 days ago

    Well done!!!

  • Shez posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 2 days ago

    Be kind to yourself, and Annie Grace also says, it takes time to find your forever day 1!! Forgive yourself!!

  • Shez posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 2 days ago

    Congratulations @malibustacey, what a fantastic achievement!!

  • Shez posted an update 3 weeks, 2 days ago

    Day 14 – I have massive cravings today, think it’s cause it is cold and I turn to the red when I’m cold and a bit low!! Anyhow, I’ve made it to 5.30pm and haven’t gone to the supermarket to break my 14 days, so let’s hope it lasts tonight 🤞🏻

    • two whole weeks, well done you ! 🙂 🙂 🙂

      keep going, it only gets better and the cravings slowly ebb away 😀

    • Hey Shez. Totally get where you are coming from with the cravings when it turns cold and gets dark early. It seems to make the cravings come with full force. And if you are in NZ – its brass monkeys out there today! Maybe focus on your day tomorrow and how great it will be to start your day 15 with a clear head and another sober start to a healthy week? Hope your evening goes well and stay warm! 🙂

    • Distraction works a treat! ❤️❤️

    • Make sure your warm, and snuggled, comfory pants, cup of hot cocoa a good book, you will get through and them make plans to conquer winter

    • Red wine was my go-to Achilles heel as well. Hang in there!
      It gets sooo much easier the longer you’re sober. It won’t always be this hard.
      xoxoxo

  • Shez posted an update 3 weeks, 3 days ago

    Day 13- tempted for a nice red on this stormy night!! But I’ll stay away from the supermarket!! I am feeling calmer, and clear headed, so will enjoy these positives!! Have a great evening 👍

    • Yes! Focus on the positives and what you are grateful for now you are no longer drinking! 🙂

    • There are so many healthy alternatives, and, failing that, chocolate!
      Thanks for your comments yesterday. It turned out well. Far too much work and worry for a short course though. Grrrr. I hope they got a lot out of all we presented and information supplied. A few laughs, that always helps.

  • Shez posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 3 days ago

    Small blip on a bigger journey!!! If anything you saved me heading to the supermarket for bottle of red to enjoy on this stormy night, so please be kind to yourself, you will be back up to 27 days sooner than you know!!!

  • Shez posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 4 days ago

    I’m with you @morgan, I like being clear headed in such craziness!!!

  • Shez posted an update 3 weeks, 4 days ago

    Day 12 – work drinks put on, soooo wanted one, even one of the managers said there is wine around for you, which I replied thank you!! Took myself for a little jog instead!! Getting through the weekends are the hardest!!!

  • Shez posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 6 days ago

    @guitarer, so brutally honest, thank you!! I actually said to my sister the other month if I don’t stop drinking this would happen (I’ll lose my job etc) scared me, and I’m sorry to hear what’s happened to you, but hope you can heal!!! Thoughts are with you emo or not 👍

  • Shez posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 6 days ago

    One day at a time @melza79, I’m only on day 11 and it’s not easy, but it’s not meant to be!!! But what I’ve learnt so far is self care is first and foremost cause then you’ll be there for the ones you love the most!!!

    • Thank you, I’m Day 5 today and just taking one step at a time. It’s so or die for me as my teaching career is on the line if I don’t stay sober.

  • Shez posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 6 days ago

    @danthedev can you please help us?? Thanks!!

    • Hey @shez thanks for pinging me. This may have resulted from all the changes we made to the cache in the last 72 hours – I have reset it multiple times during this time. If this still persists in the next few days ill sort it out 🙂

  • Shez posted an update 3 weeks, 6 days ago

    Day 11 – well it’s early morning (but I’m sure I’ll get through today), but the last couple of nights I’ve woke up around 3am thinking omg I’ve been drinking, then I realise no I haven’t…. I’m really scared I’m going to fall off again but I don’t want to!!!! Hope my will is stronger than my desire for a wine!!!

    • It’s great you are keeping close to those who understand. Did you feel relieved you had not been drinking and then proud? Good feelings should be kept close too. 😃😃

    • I’m sure you’ll get through today too @shez. We’re here for you, post if you need to. Isn’t it awesome to wake up and realise YESSSSS I’m not hungover!!!! I love that feeling everyday, it never gets old.

    • Iv been waking up about 3am too… doing the whole .. omg how much did I drink ?? Then…. Holey shiiiit I didn’t!!!!! Then realizing my bed and pillow are way softer than I had ever remembered lol.. go figure ! 🙂 you can do this .. and so can I.. I’m now day 4 .. focus on that amazing relief of the 3am wakeup and not have alcohol swirling through your body.. slowly poisoning us to bloody death. Lol xxx

  • Shez posted an update 3 weeks, 6 days ago

    Day 10 – double digits….. feeling ok today, good run an will sleep well tonight I think!!

  • Shez posted a new activity comment 4 weeks ago

    Thanks @k1w1, film was great Rocketman, but something said in the film resonated with me so now got to process those thoughts/feelings!

  • Shez posted an update 4 weeks ago

    Day 9 – crazy day with work, and normally I’d head to the red but tonight it was the gym then the cinema (I’ll eat ice cream instead)….

    • k1W1 replied 4 weeks ago

      Hope your movie was good well done on being sober

      • Shez replied 4 weeks ago

        Thanks @k1w1, film was great Rocketman, but something said in the film resonated with me so now got to process those thoughts/feelings!

  • Shez posted a new activity comment 4 weeks, 1 day ago

    Thanks @Ro, I don’t think I’m iron deficient, just my body healing as everyone is implying….

  • Shez posted a new activity comment 4 weeks, 1 day ago

    @juliana, I don’t mind cat and dog paws either, but will look into post-acute withdrawal syndrome too 😄

  • Shez posted a new activity comment 4 weeks, 1 day ago

    Thank you!!

  • Shez posted a new activity comment 4 weeks, 1 day ago

    Thank you, I’ll do some research into PAWs.

  • Shez posted a new activity comment 4 weeks, 1 day ago

    Yay, look forward to I!!

  • Shez posted a new activity comment 4 weeks, 1 day ago

    Fab news!!

  • Shez posted an update 1 month ago

    Day 8 – I survived my first week, and I’m pretty darn happy!! But I have a question though, I slept well last night, but woke up still exhausted, how long does this go on for?!?!

    • Ro replied 1 month ago

      Awesome! My sleep improved dramatically and then fucked out again for several months, and now it’s better again. Although a friend on here suggested I have my iron levels checked and they were seriously low. I started supplements and voila! sleep improved and I didn’t feel exhausted all the time. Keep up the good work 🙂

      • Thanks @Ro, I don’t think I’m iron deficient, just my body healing as everyone is implying….

    • I was exhausted for about 3 months, even though I was sleeping a lot. My doctor checked my iron and B vitamin levels, but they were fine. I think it had to do with PAWS (read about that if you haven’t already.) It went away and hasn’t come back.

    • I was always tired, dead tired, for quit a bit of time, maybe three months, but if your body needs to sleep, it needs to sleep. The first few hours, days, weeks, months are all about healing and being excited about healing. i googled paws a lot.

    • Sleep weirdity lasted for about 4 months for me. Since then – yuuuuuummmmmm sleeps 😁😁😁😁😁. Keep going it gets better!

  • Shez posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    Come back kitty!!

  • Shez posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    Thank you for your support 👍

  • Shez posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    Sparkling water (thank goodness for soda stream makers)!

  • Shez posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    I didn’t end up baking, but still not drinking (and I have a clean house, and tidy garden 😄).

  • Shez posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    That sounds all very beautiful!!! I would t find that boring drinking or not!!! Hope you have enjoyed your evening!!

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