• Sheri61 posted a new activity comment 2 years, 1 month ago

    Good for you! I finally understand the “freedom” thinking. You are so right. I was a fast drinker too. I’d easily have three drinks during one of someone else’s. It is freeing, and look at how much money you saved. The last drink I purchased was around $7!

    • Yes. It is so expensive to drink at bars. I can’t believe the amount of money I have spent in my life putting poison in my bloodstream. Crazy. Thanks, @Sheri61!

  • Sheri61 posted a new activity comment 2 years, 1 month ago

    You have come so far! Safe travels.

    Traveling is so much more fun when meetings aren’t involved.

  • Sheri61 posted a new activity comment 2 years, 1 month ago

    Sounds like a great weekend! Amazing how we can really enjoy the moments when we are sober!

  • Sheri61 posted a new activity comment 2 years, 1 month ago

    I am feeling it with you! I have two occasions where that is going to be an issue with me as well. We have an out of town wedding where we all got a block of rooms and the booze will be flowing! Fortunately in my case, my daughter in law and my husband don’t drink. It would be most difficult to be the only one. We also have a party at my house for my husband’s retirement where I will be purchasing liquor for 60+ people!

  • Sheri61 posted a new activity comment 2 years, 1 month ago

    You just said it exactly! Watching the clock to see if it’s time, or if you can justify an early drink. No more of that.

    You are way ahead of me on the exercise. Since it’s cooler here too, I know that the hubster will take a walk with me because we do enjoy walking together.

    Thanks for the inspiration to do so!

  • Sheri61 posted a new activity comment 2 years, 1 month ago

    I’m so sorry you are going through this. It is definitely a struggle. Hang in there and you will somehow find the strength if you really want it. It is not easy.

  • Sheri61 posted an update 2 years, 1 month ago

    I just had an amazing AF weekend! My granddaughter was here and Mommy forgot to pack her life jacket (she’s only 3) and bathing suit but no problem, grandpa insisted on taking her shopping for new ones that we’ll keep here. Of course, he let her throw other things into the cart. So cute!

    Instead of putting her to bed at nine and sitting with her while I had a glass of wine, we snuggled with the tablet and she picked out a project she wants to make on her next overnight.

    Feeling so good! Back to work for me!

  • Sheri61 posted an update 2 years, 1 month ago

    An interesting conversation took place today at my son’s house when I went to drop off my granddaughter.

    We (my entire family) are going to a wedding in two weeks. It’s a four hour drive from us. We found out that the reception was going to end at 8:30. We were talking about canceling our hotel reservations and drive an hour to Indianapolis instead so we can go to the zoo in the morning. This would just be my son, his wife, my granddaughter, my husband and myself.

    My sister thought it would be more fun to all go back to the hotel (which doesn’t have a bar anyway) and drink. So, what sounds more fun? Going back to the hotel to drink when three of us don’t drink anyway, or driving an hour to a hotel, get a good night sleep, then head to the zoo with my three year old granddaughter in the morning? I know what my choice is!

  • Sheri61 posted a new activity comment 2 years, 1 month ago

    @Bondi I honestly can’t think of a better reward for sobriety! Not only is having precious time with the grandkids, special, but you also gained the trust of your children! If you ever get tempted, that’s all you have to think about. Congratulations and keep up the good work!

  • Sheri61 posted a new activity comment 2 years, 1 month ago

    I think about that same thing! Why was I doing things that are so very bad for my body on a daily basis? If you think about it, it’s crazy! Yet that is exactly what we did. Fortunately, from what I’ve read, we can reverse a lot of the damage we have caused if we just stick with it.

  • Sheri61 posted a new activity comment 2 years, 1 month ago

    And a happy sober day to you too! I’m only on day 10 but I’ve already come across times where I would have normally caved, and I got through them. You can do it too. I don’t think it gets easier, but when you concentrate on the big picture, and what you will gain in the long run, it seems to help. And you will be gaining so much by getting rid of the poison!

  • Sheri61 posted a new activity comment 2 years, 1 month ago

    What a great way to think of the future. You have to go after your dreams! You can’t just sit around feeling sorry for yourself, or just be passive, and expect great things. First you dream them, then you visualize them, everyday, then you do everything you can to help you get there.

    We need to focus!!!

  • Sheri61 posted an update 2 years, 1 month ago

    Day 10 and thanks to an amazing husband for putting up with me. Last night was the first night I actually really wanted a glass of wine. It was a long but productive day in the studio and it just sounded good. I share this with my husband who does his typical, “You don’t need it.” Then I said my typical, “But…..” which was interrupted by a more serious sounding, “You don’t need it.” I went into the kitchen and grabbed a bottled water, then went into the living room and watched some fun youtube videos before heading to bed. Of course, I woke up feeling wonderful!

    So, if I don’t make it here for an update in the next day or two, don’t worry, I haven’t caved. My three-year-old granddaughter will be staying here for the weekend and when she’s here I get nothing done! She’s three, very active, and likes to have Nana’s full attention!

    • Good for you! Sometimes we really do need for someone to sternly remind us! Congrats on day 10!

    • “You don’t need it!” Sums it up perfectly!!

    • Yay you @Sheri61 – waking up feeling wonderful is the best right?! ๐Ÿ™‚

    • Day 10, well done!!!
      And enjoy that precious time with your granddaughter!!
      oxoxox

    • Time spent with grandchildren is precious. Now I have my daughters trust, I am able to have her children for a couple of weeks in the holidays and with no parents around we have the best fun. That trust is probably the best thing to come from getting that poison out of my life. Plus I have more money which equals more fun things to do. xoxoxo

      • @Bondi I honestly can’t think of a better reward for sobriety! Not only is having precious time with the grandkids, special, but you also gained the trust of your children! If you ever get tempted, that’s all you have to think about. Congratulations and keep up the good work!

    • Congrats on Day 10 ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Sheri61 posted a new activity comment 2 years, 1 month ago

    @ylang-ylang I have both issues, falling asleep and staying asleep. I’ve fought it since I was a teenager. I just keep hoping that someday I’ll find something that works!

  • Sheri61 posted a new activity comment 2 years, 1 month ago

    @marmite I just put some melatonin in my little kitty dish by my toothbrush so I won’t forget tonight. I do have some on hand.

  • Sheri61 posted a new activity comment 2 years, 1 month ago

    @TryingSobriety Have not heard about that. If nothing else works, it will be well worth looking into! Thanks.

  • Sheri61 posted a new activity comment 2 years, 1 month ago

    @Wvlheel Thank you. Yes, I will do all of the above. I stop my caffeine at my 2nd morning cup of tea.

    I’m guilty of tv before bed, but even after an hour, I’m still awake, wide awake! It usually takes me about four hours to fall asleep.

    I’m going to try some bedtime yoga tonight and see how that works.

  • Sheri61 posted a new activity comment 2 years, 1 month ago

    Sounds like a great evening with smart (in many ways) people! You don’t need to down the alcohol to have a good time! Best part, you woke up with a clear head!

  • Sheri61 posted a new activity comment 2 years, 1 month ago

    Thank you for this post! There are many people who might be afraid (myself included) to admit to everyone that they “slipped.” It’s something we never plan to do, and may be determined not to do, but it happens.

    It’s nice to know that you can still come here and be helped or lifted back onto that wagon!

  • Sheri61 posted a new activity comment 2 years, 1 month ago

    Congratulations! That’s a great milestone!

  • Sheri61 posted a new activity comment 2 years, 1 month ago

    Teenage girls! I raised one myself. My friends and I always said that aliens would come and invade their bodies from about the age of 13. Then somehow they would return to us as 18 as if the teenage years never happened.

    Enjoy your time to yourself and try to do something FUN for you!

  • Sheri61 posted an update 2 years, 1 month ago

    My very real struggle doesn’t seem to be staying away from the “poison,” but trying to get some sleep! In the past, I would have told my husband, “That’s it! I’m stopping for wine tonight because it will help me sleep, and I need sleep!”

    I certainly don’t want to go that route, and even though I have a cabinet full of prescription and over counter sleeping pills, I don’t want to do that either.

    I’ve been dealing with insomnia for many, many years, even when I wasn’t drinking. The past eleven years were easy, I just drank myself to sleep.

    So, is there anything that works great for anyone else? I saved some bedtime yoga videos on youtube that I’m going to try, and I’m all stocked up on Sleepytime tea.

    Any suggestions?

    • I used to have trouble sleeping on Sunday night only. I began taking 3 mg of melatonin and it worked for me. Your body produces it naturally so it is not a “medicine”.

      From Wikipedia:
      When humans consume foods rich in melatonin such as banana, pineapple and orange, the blood levels of melatonin increase significantly.[

      Another thing that is becoming a problem for people is “screen time”. Try to avoid computer, phone, tv watching within an hour of bed- much easier said than done I know! Going to bed with the tv on is supposedly a big no-no (but we do that most nights). I’m lucky that sleep isn’t a big issue and my Sunday night troubles have completely gone away since I quit drinking alcohol.

      Obviously avoid caffeine, coffee, sodas, etc, after mid afternoon.

      All I’ve got- good luck, lack of sleep sucks.

      • @Wvlheel Thank you. Yes, I will do all of the above. I stop my caffeine at my 2nd morning cup of tea.

        I’m guilty of tv before bed, but even after an hour, I’m still awake, wide awake! It usually takes me about four hours to fall asleep.

        I’m going to try some bedtime yoga tonight and see how that works.

    • Have you ever heard of a Biomat? It uses infrared heat therapy. I’ve heard it’s really helpful for insomnia. There are places you can go to receive the therapy or you can buy your own mat. I have a friend that uses one on a timer so she uses it to fall asleep and after a while it shuts off on its own. She has been using it for 2 years now and said she has never slept so well. They’re a few hundred dollars, but maybe worth investing in.

    • Yep, melatonin is a good one (my best mate uses it for her autistic boy, managed by doc , and it is transforming his life, amazing what a good night’s sleep can do) or even one of the sleeping aids sold in pharmacies. I have one that I use very rarely, it’s essentially a large dose of antihistamine

    • Go to your local health shop and ask them what’s best for you. I take magnesium and 5-htp every night and that combination works really well for me. You might respond to something else better. My issue wasn’t about falling asleep, but staying asleep. Now I sleep through the night. Cutting out caffeine helps and turn off your screens an hour before bed time. You don’t need to take drugs or alcohol to get a good sleep.

      • @ylang-ylang I have both issues, falling asleep and staying asleep. I’ve fought it since I was a teenager. I just keep hoping that someday I’ll find something that works!

    • My friend loves the blackmores sleep sound supplement
      Worth a try xx

  • Sheri61 posted an update 2 years, 1 month ago

    Thank you all for your positive thoughts and kind words. Looks like I’m going to make it to day 9 after all! I went down that wine and water aisle, grabbed my case of water and hightailed it outa there! As I type this, I’m enjoying an ice-cold water, and I have some of my decaf tea brewing for tomorrow’s iced tea. Darn, I forgot to buy a lemon! Oh well.

    @Mari135 @QuietlyDone @Squizzi @Elsa1202 @Harvestlily @Lucy @ylang-ylang @seedynomore @Lizzy @IslandOne @Millie76

    • Of course you will make it to day 9! And then double figures! ๐Ÿ™‚

    • Day 10 –@sheri61! And you’ve already handled a tricky situation.

    • Well done!!!
      oxoxoxxo

      It is really not ok how grocery stores place alcohol strategically right where we all need to go. Where I live the stores also always seem to have a “special” exhibition of the poison. July 4th? here ya have it, cases of beer stacked upon each other RIGHT in the middle of the main aisle by the entrance/exit because we all know you HAVE to get wasted on a holiday.

      Memorial day? What a great opportunity to “honor” veterans for risking limbs and life, here, how about we make navigating your cart through the aisles harder by putting tons of vodka and other s@it poison right where you need to be.

      But you know what? We are smarter and stronger than this industry.
      How dare they try and fool us into putting poison into our bodies. It’s just like the sugar industry. I bet all of the CEO’s and higher-ups from those companies eat only organic and homegrown veggies and fruits.

      oxoxoxox

      Way to go for choosing self-care yesterday, and that iced tea sounds lovely!

  • Sheri61 posted a new activity comment 2 years, 1 month ago

    Compromise, change, dealing with past issues, wow! Sounds like you have a lot to deal with and you are a brave person. Looks like you are facing it all head on. I think it would be very hard to move away from everyone and everything I knew. Go forward, one step at a time. So far you are doing great!

    Do you by any chance journal? I’ve decided that I’m going to give that a try. I’ve always done it though not consistently. I’m going to try one of those courses that give you exercises to help you with struggles and personal growth. With so much that you have gone through with changes, past history, etc. it might be an enlightening experience. Also, sometimes just having a place like this to come to and write it all out is also a great type of therapy. I know that it’s helped me. I think without this group, I would have caved after day three like I did several times in the past.

    • Sheri61 thanks for your kind words!

      I used to journal, and I am writing emails with a few old friends I have had since I can remember, so I guess that is kind of like “interactive journaling” since we share whatever is going on in our lives that way. Sometimes we write daily, sometimes every other week or month, depending on what everyone’s needs and schedule are like.

      For now, it feels like “I’ve said it all”. Or pretty much all of it.
      Being sober was the next natural step on this journey as I don’t think I could have coped sober even three years ago. Now I do, and now I so very badly just want to move on and live my life.

      But it helps to keep in mind that living with an abusive childhood sadly does mean your brain needs to be re-trained, as it literally did not grow like normal peoples brains. We know so much about neuroscience now, which helps.

      And I agree with you, having this place where others are working so hard on their own recovery made me feel less lonely, which was what I needed to make it “for real” this time. Or so I hope it is for good this change.

      oxoxoxox

      Hope you are having a great day! And you too work so hard on being good to yourself. Way to go!!! Rock star style sobriety ๐Ÿ™‚

      • And thanks again Lizzy!!! <3
        For some reason I cannot reply directly to your comment, but I read it with a smile on my face. Thank you!!

  • Sheri61 posted a new activity comment 2 years, 1 month ago

    As you already know, you don’t have to be a drinking friend to be a fun friend. I remember the days that I would go out with my girlfriends (30+ years ago) and when it was my turn to be the designated driver, I actually enjoyed being sober at the bars and watching everyone else make fools of themselves!

    I don’t understand why someone can have just one drink either. My husband can do it. Whenever I would go visit my daughter, who happens to have a fully stocked bar, would have one drink every now and then, usually after dinner. And that’s it. If it were me, I would have had that fully stocked bar wiped on in no time. Who am I kidding? That bar would have never even gotten stocked!

    • I had that DD experience a couple of weeks before I went AF @sheri61. It was at dinner with eight other people. It was awful – one (married) friend was hammered and talking loudly about his sexual exploits before he met his wife, who was trying to ignore him. The was sitting between myself and a person who’s always been AF. He looked and sounded awful. It was embarrassing. The drinkers didn’t really notice. I’m pretty sure that it influenced my AF decision.

  • Sheri61 posted a new activity comment 2 years, 1 month ago

    I really like the way you described their sobriety as “personal growth.” I’m going to look at my sobriety as that! What a positive way to think about it.

    Congratulations on your progress. Keep up the good work!

  • Sheri61 posted an update 2 years, 1 month ago

    Today is going to be a test for sure, and it’s something only you here would understand. On my way home from a dental appointment (not looking forward to it) I have to stop by the store to pick up a few grocery items. That is where I usually cave. Why do they put the wine in the same aisle as the bottled water anyway?

    I am going to pass this test! As some of you know, I did this a few days back. I put the wine in my cart, then put it back on the shelf before checkout. This time, I intend not to put it in my cart in the first place.

    I’m on day eight and I’ve never (in the past 11 years) gone this far without alcohol with the exception of two years ago when I was in the hospital. I actually went six weeks, but I was being treated for hyponatremia. During recovery, I was on a limited amount of fluids. 16 ounces a day, and they didn’t mean wine! During that time, I was so sick and weak, I didn’t think about alcohol, I just wanted to get better.

    So, now I’m healthy and on day eight, and this is by choice. Yep, I’m not even going to look at that wine on the shelf!

    • Good plan @sheri61! We’re cheering for you!

    • Well done on day 8 @sheri61. You are in control. You can do this! ๐Ÿ™‚

    • Day 8, well done!!

      You plan ahead and know the triggers waiting at the store.
      It never ceases to amaze me how sneaky this drug industry is. Like putting wine etc. next to things everyone needs, like water or milk, eggs, coffee etc. They could easily make a separate little corner in the back of the store.

      You got this. Sober day 8 is amazing, and tomorrow is sober day 9!

    • Good for you. Yeah I used to hate having to go into the supermarkets in the early wรจeks. I would practically run past the wine aisle all the while feeling antsy and uncomfortable. Nowadays It doesn’t bother me and yesterday I actually stopped and just stared at a few wine labels lol. Bottles of poison with fancy labels. Thats all they are to me now. Well done on day 8 xxx

    • Buy a water filter and a soda stream. Avoid that isle all together and save thousands of dollars and plastic bottles over your sober future ๐Ÿ™‚

    • Pisses me off when they put wine next to the soft drinks, they do this where I work.. day 8 is good and not putting wine in your cart shows how strong you are… great stuff. xx

    • Hi Sheri!
      You and me are both on day 8 – WE CAN DO THIS! When I am in the supermarket, I avert my eyes from the wine aisle. Just something we gotta do! Nothing worth having is ever easy so let’s you and I push through this together…..

    • Good on you @sheri61. By planning ahead you’ve got this. Congrats on Day 8 too – you’re doing great!

    • Well done on day 8. Don’t think of it as the wine aisle think of it as the poison aisle lol

    • Yep totally with you there. You have to have the words in your head that you will say as you walk past the wine. I used to say “Nope, don’t need to go down that isle, I don’t drink anymore”. Followed by “I just saved myself $10-20!” and I would then promptly spend the $ on something special elsewhere like salmon or chocolates or flowers and that made me happy. Spending the money on something luxurious that you couldn’t normally justify, but you would happily pick up a couple of bottles of wine on a Friday night.

    • Get yourself a big bunch of flowers instead, you can do this!!

  • Sheri61 posted a new activity comment 2 years, 1 month ago

    Great post! A couple days ago I was thinking about all that too. Then I came to the realization that I drove to work (don’t work outside the home anymore) at 6:30 in the morning yet I had stopped drinking after midnight. I’m sure my reactions were slower and I was probably still under the influence! I didn’t think anything about it back then, but looking back, I wonder.

    Nice that you were able to have a real conversation with your friend. So good that she is leaving an abusive situation. Now that she’s moving back home, maybe you can spend time together.

    • Sheri61, thank you for your kind reply!
      I appreciate it.

      It is scary to think how much alcohol is still in your body the day after, isn’t it?! It’s not like just because I had a bad sleep for 4-5 hours that it’s all gone suddenly.

      And that tea-Skype session was such a rewarding experience. My friend and I didn’t need alcohol to have deep conversations and a lot of FUN too. That is a relief. Life can be fun and it can be deep without altering our body chemistry.

      xoxoxox

  • Sheri61 posted a new activity comment 2 years, 1 month ago

    You’ve come so far! And you are right, things will happen and we just need to find ways to cope. Sometimes it’s not easy, but giving up the alcohol is the best thing we could do for ourselves so we can remain focused on the important issues life has to offer. Congratulations on passing a year!

  • Sheri61 posted a new activity comment 2 years, 1 month ago

    Good for you! You are so right, you are hurting yourself way more than you are hurting him. Let go of the negative energy. You don’t have to think of him as wonderful, just shift your focus to something else.

    I was married to who the kids and I call Satan. When we were with him, it was impossible to lose the negative energy. Now that he’s no longer a part of my life, I prefer not to think about him, so I usually don’t. When I do, I’m just thankful that he is no longer a part of my life, and that makes me happy!

    • @sheri61 Thanks for your reply :)Yeh I’ve decided to just have stop communication unless it’s absolutely necessary. I’ll keep it verbal if I do when he’s here to collect the kids, saves any misunderstandings and his ability to annoy me quite so much should be reduce. I’ll count my blessings he’s someone else’s problem now. How has your day been?

  • Sheri61 posted an update 2 years, 1 month ago

    Day seven and still alcohol-free. The first person I told of my plan to quit drinking was my husband, who would not hesitate to call me out when he catches me. I’ve told him this before and he was never surprised when he would see me uncork a bottle. He was a drinker several years ago but is able to have a drink or two maybe once or twice a month. I don’t think I could do that.

    Last night I talked to my daughter on the phone. She lives in Texas so we only see each other a couple times a year. She was thrilled to hear the news! She said that when I said I only had two glasses of wine, that they were two HUGE glasses and who was I fooling? When I would go visit her our first outing was to Specks (a liquor warehouse) where I would get my ever so hard to find favorite, Blue Chair Bay Coconut Spiced Rum. It is yummy and I could drink the entire bottle in one sitting. It’s a good thing I can’t find it around here because it’s also expensive.

    As I’m writing this I’m looking at that little calendar that has the number 7 on it along with my savings of $35. As long as I keep up the good work, I will have enough for a round trip plane ticket in no time! This time, we won’t be going to Specks. That’s OK, they have World Market there where I find all kinds of fun little trinkets!

  • Sheri61 posted a new activity comment 2 years, 1 month ago

    You certainly do have your hands full! It is more important now than ever for you to have a clear head and get yourself healthy and AF so that you can help those that need your help. You went 13 days and you can do it again.

    Please forgive yourself and move on. You slipped up, but just move along and don’t dwell on it, but you can still learn from it.

  • Sheri61 posted an update 2 years, 1 month ago

    More good habits are following me while leaving my very bad habit behind. Since I’m not falling asleep most night in my chair watching TV while drinking wine, I’ve improved my evening dental routine, and I don’t forget about it anymore! My dentist will be happy on my next visit.

    I’m also back into the habit of taking the vitamins and supplements that my doctor has me on. When you wake up feeling good about yourself, and with a clear head, you tend to no forget those things, and they become important to you.

  • Sheri61 posted a new activity comment 2 years, 1 month ago

    Beautifully said!

  • Sheri61 posted a new activity comment 2 years, 1 month ago

    This can only be for the better. All the money you will be saving can help you with those bills. Good luck! You deserve a good life and you aren’t going to have it as long as you are having a problem with alcohol. This group has been so much help to me. It is also nice to be able to write out my feelings here, even if nobody were to read them. But hopefully, something I say will help someone else as well as myself. You can do this!

  • Sheri61 posted a new activity comment 2 years, 1 month ago

    Definitely off to a good start! Keep up the good work.

  • Sheri61 posted a new activity comment 2 years, 1 month ago

    You have come so far, send that booze witch on her way! You are stronger and better than her! You are doing awesome!!!
    I am trying to watch my caffeine but I have found a delicious tasting caffeine free tea and I honestly can’t tell the difference. I can drink it during the day, at night, whenever. When I put it in a pretty glass with a slice of lemon and some ice cubes, I seem to enjoy it better.
    Drink up, just make it something AF that you enjoy, and make it special by prettying it up!

  • Sheri61 posted a new activity comment 2 years, 1 month ago

    @mari135 I always promised myself that I would never do that when I’m drinking, but sometimes those fingers or my mouth just start moving!

  • Sheri61 posted a new activity comment 2 years, 1 month ago

    Hang in there! I’m on day five too. Day before yesterday I did put some wine in my cart only to put it back on the shelf before leaving the store. Stay strong!

  • Sheri61 posted an update 2 years, 1 month ago

    WASTED! This is the word that is on my mind today. I may only be on day 5, but I have come to an interesting realization. The word “wasted” plays a big part in alcohol abuse. Obviously, the first thing you think of is being “wasted.” It’s even more powerful that that! What I’m thinking of today is wasted time and wasted money. Money is money lost, but time is too precious to waste because you will NEVER get it back!

    Five days in and I’ve saved $25! Holy Cow!!! That’s $150 a month, and on something will eventually destroy you! Look a little further out and that is $1800 a year. We could take a nice trip on that! Better yet, that’s 4 or 5 (round trip) plane tickets to visit my daughter!!!

    Now I’m thinking of all the wasted time. Since my drinking usually started at 8 or 9, I would plop myself down in front of the TV until I fell asleep. Now, I seem to get so much more done personally and businesswise. I’m also not looking at the clock to see if it’s almost time for my drink(s).

    I’m really focussing on the positive this time around and for the first time ever, my heart is really into it. I want this so much! I never felt so “pumped” about this before.

  • Sheri61 posted a new activity comment 2 years, 1 month ago

    @craftygirl Small quilted projects, scrapbusters, sewing, machine embroidery, felt projects. Everything and anything fabric related.

  • Sheri61 posted a new activity comment 2 years, 1 month ago

    @Freyfreya Here it is, night #4. It’s 8:30 here and I just took a shower. Going to head into the kitchen to grab a bottled water, watch a little TV with the hubster, then go to bed. I’m staying strong!

    I’m with you on the wine. It’s so easy to go through two bottles, or one of those jumbo ones. If I could be one of those people who have a glass here and there, a day or two during the week, I’d be fine. But I’m not. My husband is that way. He’s had beer in the fridge and a bottle of Crown in the cabinet (I’m not a fan of either). I guarantee they will barely be touched in the next month. He doesn’t understand why I say it has to be all or nothing. But that’s the way it has to be.

  • Sheri61 posted a new activity comment 2 years, 1 month ago

    I haven’t tried one yet, but I think it sounds like a good idea. I’ve heard that they make a big difference in your life. Sounds like you had a nice AF weekend. Good for you! Keep up the good work.

  • Sheri61 posted a new activity comment 2 years, 1 month ago

    Sounds like a Father’s Day well spent! Happy Father’s Day to you as well.

  • Sheri61 posted a new activity comment 2 years, 2 months ago

    I’ll bet you are enjoying it so much more with a clear head! Paris sounds amazing, and I’m hoping someday I can visit myself. Have a great time and take lots of pictures.

    A fun project for when you get home might be to make one of those photo books about the trip. It will be like reliving it all over again. And while you are doing it, you’ll remember absolutely everything!

    Enjoy the rest of your trip!

  • @Mari135 @Agent99 @Mrs D @maebh @ChrisA @enzedgirl @phoenix0407 @Stopthatsnotme
    Wow! How nice to log on this morning and see such overwhelming support in reference to last night’s post!

    Funny, because when I was at the grocery store and I was walking around with that wine in my cart, the first thing I thought of was, this group. I thought, OK, am I going to have to post tomorrow that I caved? Or, am I going to hide from everyone until I get back on the wagon? That’s when I realized that I had to come here no matter what and make myself accountable for what I did, or didn’t do.

    Thank you to all of you. After trying so many times to quit drinking, I feel like this group is going to be a huge help. It’s actually the first time I’ve actually admitted that I definitely have a problem. Usually, I would say, I drink more than I should, but it’s not really a problem. I finally admit that it is a problem indeed.

    11 1/2 years of bad habits aren’t going to be easy to break. But, when I think of all the obstacles I’ve overcome in my life, I’ve gotten through all of them with flying colors. I can do this too!

    Another thing I think this group is helping me with is that missing “frazzled” feeling. Normally when I would quilt for a few days, by day 4 (where I’m at now) I’d be so frazzled and I’d be thinking of an excuse to go to the store. Today, I feel a great sense of accomplishment!

    • And you did accomplish a big thing right there!!
      It takes courage and strength and repetition to change a relationship with an addictive substance like alcohol.

      Well done.

      And I have been there- every time I am tempted, the thought of having to come here and post that I am back on day 1 is enough to scare me from having that first sip. I have had many many many day 1’s. It’s exhausting and I want to make it this time for good.

    • Well done @Sheri61! The Living Sober support is wonderful, isn’t it!

    • I’m on day 4 too. I’ve been on day 4 a lot only to feel really good and cave.
      Good Luck, hardest thing I have ever done!!

    • what a lovely post to read when I first log on here, so happy for you

    • Wow impressive. You are stronger than you realise. Stopping mid track towards that bottle, especially when it is in your trolley! is beyond difficult but you did it. Awesome.

    • 1. You did it. We may have helped somewhat but don’t sell yourself short. YOU did it.

      2. Yay!

    • Of course ‘you can do this too’ !!! And you will. Great work so far. Remember, every attempt in the past was getting you closer to success. They are not wasted, and show your determination to be free.
      Freedom is lovely ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Sheri61 posted a new activity comment 2 years, 2 months ago

    Stay strong! Sometimes it’s hard when the drinks are right there in your reach.

  • Sheri61 posted a new activity comment 2 years, 2 months ago

    I like the way you refer to it as Big Life. Alcohol does take away a lot of things in our lives.

  • Sheri61 posted a new activity comment 2 years, 2 months ago

    And you know how bad we both would have felt tomorrow morning knowing that we weakened. Now we can both wake up knowing we got another day under our belts!

    I wonder how many other people have done that.

    • @sheri61 that’s will power right there! I salute you!

    • Well done to both of you! So easy to just cave and buy the bottle. Huge respect for your strength. Building good habits to! I’m sure the check out staff at my local New World are wondering what I’m up to after no buying wine for 14 days! Especially considering the amount I was buying there everyday, but it’s starting to feel normal not to!

  • Sheri61 posted a new activity comment 2 years, 2 months ago

    @freyfreya, tomorrow is my 4th day. You can’t believe how much this group has helped me so far. I have no doubt I can do it. Also, it’s Sunday and Indiana doesn’t sell booze on Sunday!

    • You are so lucky @sheri61 we can buy booze every day in the supermarket up to 10pm. It’s often arranged around the cheese . Good luck with your day 4 evening xx

      • @Freyfreya Here it is, night #4. It’s 8:30 here and I just took a shower. Going to head into the kitchen to grab a bottled water, watch a little TV with the hubster, then go to bed. I’m staying strong!

        I’m with you on the wine. It’s so easy to go through two bottles, or one of those jumbo ones. If I could be one of those people who have a glass here and there, a day or two during the week, I’d be fine. But I’m not. My husband is that way. He’s had beer in the fridge and a bottle of Crown in the cabinet (I’m not a fan of either). I guarantee they will barely be touched in the next month. He doesn’t understand why I say it has to be all or nothing. But that’s the way it has to be.

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