• Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 1 month, 1 week ago

    Well done coming on here for support, it’s the best thing you can do to get strength in your resolve to handle this without booze. You’re playing it forward already which is exactly what you need to do, booze will make this situation much worse than it already is.
    I love the suggestion to get your son a gift, and then next time you see him you…[Read more]

    • Thank you for the encouragement. Yes, whatever happened, alcohol would make things worse in the long term. I may feel a very short escape (or the illusion of escape) but tomorrow morning I would feel like I’m back in a dark pit. And I would still be worried about what happened today! Then I would have to clear up the destruction I will have caused…[Read more]

      • Yes, drinking would make resolutions much harder to find. Well done for reaching out and making a plan for the day. Good luck with sorting the access – so very important. Are you in NZ? It is supported to the max for the good of the child.

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    I hear you @janus2 and I think you worded it right on the button, loss, yet love. Time doesn’t heal all things in my opinion thus far in life.
    But you are alway a mum and a grandparent, I so wish it could be that you could see them and hold them. How much it could soothe your endless ache in your heart.
    Maybe one day
    Xoxo

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 week ago

    Haha that’s cute you say that to your boys. When I’d say I love you to me eldest son when he was a toddler, he’d say yeeeea I know. Funny kids xo

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 week ago

    Oh @behind-the-sofa I can’t begin to explain how proud I feel of you. You wouldn’t have believed this day would be real 5 years ago would you.
    If anyone thinks they’re in too deep, well Tom proves it can be done! I read your story and I used to live close to G.i. and was picturing it all.
    You are one of the people I felt I couldn’t let down wh…[Read more]

    • thank you for this reply @seizetheday ….. yep, if I can do it!……. ooooh, you know GI….. so glad I don’t live in that lodge there anymore…… pleased that I helped you……. the feeling is mutual….. that’s one of the big things about LivingSober I think…. having people you feel accountable too…. have a lovely day : ) xoxo

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 week ago

    We are thinking of you through this, and yes the last thing you or your loved ones need now is a numb Lotta. Tread gently my dear and hold on tight! Xo

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    Oh yea that cracks me up a bit that whole positive outlook guff. Sure our brains can see what we’re supposed to feel happy and grateful about but that doesn’t mean it’s what we feel in our souls!
    But here we are, rocking on. I always tell myself there are kids and friends that need us and I can’t bear hurting them. So onwards we plod aye. Big hug…[Read more]

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    Hey you I discovered him a year or so ago I love his voice. My fav song of his is ‘Let It Be Me’ I’ve been going ok, usual ups n then black downs. How are you going? Xo

    • Oooooh it’s nice to see you @Seizetheday 😀 Another fan, I love that song as well.
      Yeah, awful ups and downs still going on here, really sick of it. Just watched a programme about age and how much a positive outlook is so important. On the low days I can’t muster up a positive outlook. If only it were so easy. Lots of love to you xx

      • Oh yea that cracks me up a bit that whole positive outlook guff. Sure our brains can see what we’re supposed to feel happy and grateful about but that doesn’t mean it’s what we feel in our souls!
        But here we are, rocking on. I always tell myself there are kids and friends that need us and I can’t bear hurting them. So onwards we plod aye. Big hug…[Read more]

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  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 3 months, 2 weeks ago

    Oh thanks @Jes I’ll give that a go and see how we go with that. Ta much

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 3 months, 2 weeks ago

    Hi @prudence yup always will be here! But yea got frustrated I have to admit when time and again it just wouldn’t play ball with me.
    Hope you are well and staying cool xo

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 3 months, 2 weeks ago

    Hey you thanks for the shout out. Love that song.
    Since the upgraded site I often can’t access stuff. The members feed doesn’t display etc and most times I end up giving up!
    How are you going?

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 4 months, 1 week ago

    Hey @janus2 I’m here lots still just lurking about. But since updated site I don’t get email notifications anymore.
    I’m doing alright thanks, currently lying here listening to a mozzie in the room that I can’t flippin see to kill!
    I’ll have to go into settings and see if I can suss out my email guff. You’re such a beautiful soul thanks for…[Read more]

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 5 months, 1 week ago

    Isn’t that so sad. Every time I hear an experience like this it just reminds me that it’s never a solution. He probably senses your connection with him.
    Such an undoable decision aye.
    Big hugs you xo

    • Hello lovely @seizetheday, so heart breaking,,, and yes, I’ve been so low that the thought has crossed my mind. I wonder what it is that make some of us hold on, just hold on and others just can’t. It’s an awful, awful place to be in. Not a happy subject, is it? Hope you are well xxx Let’s go and smell our roses 🙂

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 5 months, 1 week ago

    Thank you much. Love it as always xo

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 6 months, 3 weeks ago

    Big hugs to you. My garden is my sanity. Hope you sleep well tonight you special thing xo

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 6 months, 3 weeks ago

    Your head hitting the pillow sober is actually just success in itself, and another stepping stone along the way. So well done you xo

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 7 months, 1 week ago

    Hahaha!!!! xo

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 7 months, 2 weeks ago

    Well done you I’m so pleased for you – it’s a freedom you just never feel while you’re drinking is it. xo

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 8 months, 2 weeks ago

    Hey you thanks for the shout out. And yes I read all your post. Sorry to hear about your Mum, I am so glad those drinking days of yours are gone.
    I quit my job n have been doing my own work gardening and calf rearing etc for the last month. It’s been very busy n I haven’t had a day off for 6 weeks now.
    Still just hanging with the black dog, as…[Read more]

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 9 months ago

    Hard case that the date came and went and you missed it. Would’ve been unfathomable in the early days aye?
    We are so proud of you and so glad that the people you love have the real true you present in their life.
    Big hugs xoxo

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 9 months, 1 week ago

    Scary aye how fast things can change. Imagine if you still used booze to cope with this real life stuff. Hope things improve, whatever the situation is. Sending you big hugs xo

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