• Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 1 day, 5 hours ago

    Welcome aboard to the best place ever for help and support xo

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 1 day, 13 hours ago

    Yep keep on keeping on. It is worth it. And so are you. That’s sad to hear about your marriage – I got divorced after 25 years and it still seems like such a needless waste to me.
    But some things we can’t control, so we just control our own choices. Big hugs xo

    • Thanks @Seizetheday your words are really valued. I am feeling quite empowered by making my own decisions in my life but it is still very daughting at times.

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 1 day, 13 hours ago

    Thanks you. Day 113 is really on your way. Yes you have to stay on guard and treat yourself like you really do matter. But you’re on your way and that brain of yours will be learning how to live real and true. So keep it up!

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 1 day, 14 hours ago

    Yet another perk of kicking the booze. Love how you always appreciate these sober gifts. We all should do that.

  • Sheesh a friend just text and congratulated me on 5 years sober. It’s today and I forgot haha. What a beautiful friend she is always remembering. She saw me at my worst and stuck by me. I honestly could not even fathom 5 weeks let alone 5 years when I sat down on day 1.
    So thanks @mrs-d and everyone of you souls on here that kept me going and showed me it was possible. Bunch of hero’s you all are!

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 1 day, 14 hours ago

    If you protect your sobriety, then you also protect your relationship long term. Hope the sleep helps.

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 1 day, 14 hours ago

    Thanks for letting us know, it’s always nice to see ones like you still troopering on, even through the sad hard stuff. It’s understandable you wanted some relief! Well done strong girl, and I’m so sorry to hear about your mum. Big hugs to you, keep on going xo

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 1 day, 14 hours ago

    Really tough decisions to make aye. I’m glad you haven’t got booze in the mix to cloudy it all up. Big hugs to you. One thing is for sure – your dad has a child that loves him dearly and that in itself is huge. Xo

  • @mrs-d are you please able to give my email to @liberty or get the powers that be to do that? I tried to email ‘support’ but an error message came up. Ta muchly xo

    • @mrs-d I emailed support twice yesterday and it also bounced back saying address doesn’t exist. I was having problems with my login but it turned out to be user error😳

    • Hi @seizetheday and @liberty I will hook the two of you up via email now. @seizetheday and @noodle71 can you please both tell me what email addresses you tried to use yesterday? And also where you found those addresses? We have two emails that should work for assistance, mine is admin@livingsober.org.nz and @nathanb at the Drug Foundation should be on the end of site.support@livingsober.org.nz If there’s a problem with one of those addresses we’re not aware of it right now, but also if there’s an incorrect email address listed somewhere we should get that changed! Thanks x

      • Hi @MrsD I clicked on the site support address that is at the bottom of the first page alongside get help etc. , as I thought that would be for technical issues. I tried twice and both times it bounced back saying address doesn’t not exist. Thanks😊

        • @noodle71thanks for this. I checked the link, and you are quite right. The email address (site.support@livingsober.org.nz) was not stated correctly. I have fixed this. Thank you for raising it, and apologies for the annoyance factor there. @seizetheday @mrs-d.

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 2 days, 13 hours ago

    Hey you I didn’t see your post. Until just now scrolling through. Dunno what happened there! Man that’s all mind messing stuff init. And stuff you don’t need!! Hope you got on your bike – weather was crap as up here, that’s my excuse anyway haha. And I hope you get some sleep tonight and stay with us all please? There’s a heap of people here that care about you very very much! Sorry to yell haha. Have happy sleeps my dear xo

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 2 days, 13 hours ago

    Yep you’ve got lots of stress going on alright. One book that really helped change my feelings of “white knuckling” it was by Jason Vale, Kick The Drink Easily. At first the title alone irritated me, then it took maybe quarter way in to the book and then it all started clicking a lot more in my mind.
    It’s easy to read and written simply and logically. Hope it helps. I remember those 2 hourly night times that seemed to go on forever! You’re doing great not throwing booze on top of it all xo

    • Well done @beehappy on being AF ….I totally get that white knuckle riding it’s exhausting eh. ‘Alcoholism in a Nutshell’a free download written by a member on here I think 🤔
      On my list is also The Naked Mind by Annie Grace and Alcohol Explained by William Porter. I find podcasts really positive eg Love Sober, Janey Lee Grace and This Naked Mind 😊😊

    • @tewy might start listening to a podcast during night feeds!

    • @seizetheday the night feeds are exhausting aren’t they? Feel like a zombie half the day!

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 2 days, 13 hours ago

    That’s the way. One day at a time. You are doing really well. Keep it up xo

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 2 days, 13 hours ago

    Good wake calls (so to speak) those dreams are aye. I used to dream about stashing booze in my bag then making up an excuse to leave early so I could guzzle it all. Then wake up feeling so ashamed!
    And you’re right – the cost is way too high. Just not worth it. Well done you

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 3 days, 4 hours ago

    Well done for reaching out for support. I found that the cravings lasted for the first few weeks then they became further and further apart. Sometimes I wondered, “am I just white knuckling this until I cave?” But I learnt that time needs time. So I armed myself with reading suggested books, and always carried snacks, chocolate and AF drinks with me in a little cooler bag in my car wherever I went. I listened to podcasts and I was on here everyday. And over time it became easier and easier. I didn’t drive past booze shops or walk down the booze aisle at the supermarket. Anyway, that was 5 years ago haha. I don’t have to do any of that stuff now, life is normal and true without booze. But we have to be patient and it takes time to learn how to live without it.
    You can do this you really can! Xo

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 3 days, 4 hours ago

    Day 1 is where we all start. And yep I think all of us here have attempted moderating. It’s more complicated and more mind messing than abstinence I find. But we try it don’t we.
    Lots of yum food and plenty of hydration for day 1, and lots of support from us too xo

    • Thanks for that.. Yep I know this and have given up for months before….. so here we go…. long term, but day at a time

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 3 days, 4 hours ago

    Sorry to hear about your sister in law. Great you can be there for support, take gentle care of yourself too. Big hugs xo

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 3 days, 4 hours ago

    Well done you a whole week of being free of the guilt inducing booze! Going to bed early is just something we have to do sometimes, but that’s ok it won’t stay this way if you keep at it. Remember lots of healthy snacks too to help feed your brain and body, don’t worry about gaining weight in the early days. That settles back down too after a bit. You’re going great guns!

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 3 days, 16 hours ago

    Sheesh you might have to send this dummie a link 🙂

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 4 days, 1 hour ago

    Charge ahead @janus2 – we’ve all learnt to rock on even when we have no idea how the hell we’re going to do it. The important thing is keeping momentum. And yes hang on to those things inside of you that your mum and dad have instilled. No one can steal that from you. It’s nice to hear from you, I went into fuckafucka the other day to have lunch with my daughter. Don’t miss it a bit.
    Happy cycling and big hugs xo

  • @janus2 just wanted you to know I’m thinking of you lots and worrying about you and and and yea. I don’t know what I can say, except that I care much for you, I hate that you’re hurting so much. And we won’t give up on you. Ever! Xoxo

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 4 days, 14 hours ago

    Hey you, fellow “old timer” isn’t it amazing? There’s no way we could have even comprehended 5 years sober when we started out, but here we are. I seem to be taking stock and looking back a lot too just recently. Change takes time doesn’t it.
    Hey the calculator thingy is on the home page. Tap on ‘living sober’ up the top and then scroll down. It took me ages to find it on this new format. The Living Sober heading doesn’t even look like a link but it is.
    You can check out all the 1,000’s you’ve saved then wonder where the hell it is haha xo

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 4 days, 14 hours ago

    3 weeks of being your own true self – go you! My sober calculator thingy tells me I’ve saved just under $20,000 – dam I wish I knew where that was right now haha

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 5 days, 13 hours ago

    Nice to hear from you. Good on you for appreciating the things you do have, not always easy when all the tough stuff happens. Xo

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 5 days, 13 hours ago

    Well done you. I am certain that if you continue the way you are now, that more opportunities will come your way. Big hugs xo

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 6 days, 3 hours ago

    So glad we know!! Big pats on the back for you and a good star! But seriously that’s very cool, we are so proud of you xo

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 6 days, 13 hours ago

    Well done you. Always have a yum AF drink handy and yum snacks in the early days. They can be all the difference in feeding your brain and stopping that ‘fuck it’ thought growing into actions.
    Very proud of you!

  • Seizetheday posted an update 1 week ago

    @janus2 I’m hoping like anything you were able to get some sleep last night, hoping like anything that the horse tranquillisers did something! Still thinking of you, don’t beat yourself up – were all dicks sometimes n say n do stupid things.
    Sending you big hugs for the morning. I don’t know if you know how cherished you are around here xo

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 1 week ago

    Hope you sleep well tonight. If your kids can see you sober then they can see you are trying so hard to be fully present – not perfect. And all you can do is your best from here. 777 days is pretty amazing you know.
    I hope there’s chocolate in your day tomorrow! Xo

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 1 week ago

    Yup lots of us here would say we couldn’t have removed booze from our lives without this cool site.
    Well done on day 1. It’s where we all start and if you can get through 1 day of not drinking then slowly you learn to wake up each day and repeat the process until it’s a no brainer!
    Post as often as you want to xo

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 1 week ago

    Welcome aboard. This is an awesome place of help and support xo

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 1 week ago

    Hey you precious thing. I’m so sorry it’s all awful. I wish I could wrap you up and just put you in my pocket for a wee bit.
    I’m trying to piece things together as to what’s happening. Please please please just sit tight right now my dear. I understand why you’d want the relief of booze to block it all out. But don’t add more mess please my dear. You are hugely precious to us. There’s people that need you, and things still to be done in your life that you need a sober brain for. Hope you can reply soon xo

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 1 week, 2 days ago

    Well done on day 3. Tread very gently. Lots of healthy food, and some yummy treats, and lots of hydration. It’s important to replace that poison you’ve been putting down your throat with healthy stuff that your body is screaming out for.
    Hang in there. It doesn’t stay this bad I promise xo

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 1 week, 3 days ago

    Cool to know so many benefit from this safe place of grit and honesty. Hope you have happy sleeps xo

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 1 week, 3 days ago

    You’re in the thick of it on day 4. Your body and brain needs lots of healthy yum food and plenty of hydration. And hopefully sleep, although that doesn’t always settle down in the very early days.
    Better to be cranky than be boozed up. The crankiness will pass but the drinking goes on and on and on. Take care of you today xo

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 1 week, 3 days ago

    Booze is a lying thief!!

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 1 week, 3 days ago

    Keep going @Michael6 he’s only 13 and he will grow and change. Right now he might be angry, but over time he can learn that you will always be there for him. And from time to time send him a new school bag or hoodie (make sure they’re cool haha). Things that you would do if he was under your roof. Underneath it all he needs you, there is no replacement for you in his life xo

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 1 week, 3 days ago

    Stick with it is all I can say. No matter how ugly and depressing the mountain in front of you looks, it will be uglier and messier if you throw booze into the mix for some temporary relief.
    Sit tight my friend and you will find that doors will open for you. For now it sounds like you need to take extra care of you – yummy food and snacks, maybe a present from you to you. Imagine if you were parent to yourself and treat yourself accordingly. With love, care and patience.
    Hang in there! And whinge away – better to whinge than go quiet and drink. Big hugs xo

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 1 week, 3 days ago

    I’m sorry to hear it’s all so awful. Please, as the mum of a son who told his dad to go away and leave him alone at age 14, can I encourage you to keep fighting for him. My sons dad took it personally and just what the kid said. That son is now 19 and feels utterly rejected. And a text on a birthday means very little.
    Please please please remember you are the parent, and that boy is waiting to see what you are going to do.
    Choose him, choose to fight for him and prove to him how much you love him.
    It’s all there inside of you, and with help and support you can do this one day at a time.
    We are all with you xo

    • Wise words @seizetheday

    • Thank you so much. I needed to hear that. My son will be 13 next Month. I write to him and send him cards and he doesn’t reply. But I will continue to do so. What he needs is a sober Dad who always turns up when he expects me. That I will work on.

      • Keep going @Michael6 he’s only 13 and he will grow and change. Right now he might be angry, but over time he can learn that you will always be there for him. And from time to time send him a new school bag or hoodie (make sure they’re cool haha). Things that you would do if he was under your roof. Underneath it all he needs you, there is no replacement for you in his life xo

      • Yes, never stop giving and giving, demanding nothing, and you will win him back. He needs to see you really mean it and put your all into getting free and well.
        You can do it, just read the stories here!!!

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 1 week, 3 days ago

    Great to have you here, you’ll find plenty of help and support on here xo

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 1 week, 3 days ago

    Welcome aboard to the best place ever xo

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 1 week, 3 days ago

    Welcome home you sober glove trotter xo

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 1 week, 3 days ago

    Great wee post – I agree, cravings last way less time than hangovers and guilt do!

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 1 week, 3 days ago

    One things for sure – remove the booze and self pride has room to enter. The 2 never seem to go together.
    50 days is epic!

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 1 week, 3 days ago

    Yup you are better than that. You are worth more than that liquid that’s been poured down your throat, that changes who you truly are. Even a lifetime of drinking can be turned around.
    There’s so much help on here, baby steps and you can really do this xo

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 1 week, 3 days ago

    Wow look at you go. I agree @morgan I’m thinking my life is humdrum too! But I love hearing what people do once they remove the booze it’s just so cool

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 1 week, 3 days ago

    Welcome aboard it’s great to have you here

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    For me I will always regret the past. Some people say “no regrets” but I disagree. I will forever regret the dum things I said and did. It still makes me cry to this day. But it’s a healthy fear of not ever wanting to be that person again. I was imperfect and I made mistakes. Now all I can do is say sorry and show by my life that I truly am sorry for what alcohol made me become. Regret can be ok. It can help you move forward. Xo

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    Welcome aboard. You’ll find loads of help and support here xo

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    Day 35 is fantastic. And you’re right to be optimistic. Yes the hard stuff in life still comes our way but to deal with it with a fully sober brain and body is hugely rewarding and certainly doesn’t carry an ounce of regret with it. Onwards and upwards xo

    • Sober brain and body, let’s celebrate. How do you not regret the past?

      • For me I will always regret the past. Some people say “no regrets” but I disagree. I will forever regret the dum things I said and did. It still makes me cry to this day. But it’s a healthy fear of not ever wanting to be that person again. I was imperfect and I made mistakes. Now all I can do is say sorry and show by my life that I truly am sorry for what alcohol made me become. Regret can be ok. It can help you move forward. Xo

  • Seizetheday posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    Welcome aboard it’s lovely to have you join. Xo

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