• sarahp posted an update 1 month ago

    Day 56 and first time posting!
    I have been doing relatively well and battling through the cravings every evening, some days worse than others. I made the decision to stop and I’m going to stick with it.
    But the last week I’ve been non-stop thinking about my situation, I just can’t get out of my head how the hell am I going to not drink for the rest of my life! I know it will get easier but I can’t get out of my own head. Sometimes I’m excited, sometimes I’m terrified. Not wanting to wish time away but god I wish it was just like a year from now already.

    • Oh yay sarahp – congrats on first post and 56 days.

      Yes unfortunately you have to pass through the space time continuum to get all the benefits of being alcohol free 😊👍🏼 But it’s all worth it. My life at three years AF is so much better. Jeez at 56 days I think I agreed to go to a MZ gathering of about 20 people – shitting bricks but it helped me stay AF 😊😊😊

    • jo14 replied 1 month ago

      Don’t think about the future…take it one day at a time. I know, it’s hard, but it really works. I set little goals for me when I started out. I was determined to do 3 months then once I achieved that, I told myself to go to 6 months. Then it was well, you made it to 6 months, how about going to 1-year? I achieved that and then I sat down and made a list of all the pros and cons of not drinking/drinking again. At that point, the pros of not drinking outweighed the thoughts of drinking again. So, here I am at almost the 5-year mark. And remember, as your days add up, it gets easier. You are still very early on your sobriety. Take a breath, list the benefits of not drinking, find ways to deal with your cravings. You got this! ❤️

    • JM replied 1 month ago

      Hi @sarahp! Congrats on day 56! I thought a lot about that too, I can’t drink ever.? But like jo14 says above, just keep going today, you could make a goal of 100 days, then 180, then 365, 500… you’ll see that life is a lot better and it’s just easier not to drink. And with more time, you don’t think about it. You can always give yourself a date far in the future, and say you can reassess then. You’re doing amazingly, : )

    • what helped me keep moving forward and still helps me keep moving forward is taking note of what is going on in my body, figuring out how the heck i could have spent so much time with just me and alcohol (even if w people, it was always me and alcohol), first watching the healing in my body, no more sweats at night, no more lots of things, i would think about how this is not happening, later, much later for me, i started putting my time to good use, then i felt my brain start to heal, or at least noticing things. I suggest look for the small signs, this is why you are AF. if you could drink without turning your body, mind and spirit into a train wreck, none of us would be having these conversations. Best and big congrats on day 56.

    • Lucy replied 1 month ago

      Hi 56 days is amazing.. me to about never drinking alcohol again, I need to say this to myself everyday because that’s the way it has to be from now on,, No messing about this time. I’m an alcoholic always will be… but I’m prepared to put the hard work in this time.. xx

    • Hey @sarahp, congratulations on 56 days! Good advice here by other members, for me that thought of forever kept me from even trying to go AF but I realized that I couldn’t keep drinking. When I was in early days that feeling of giving up drinking for ever made me very sad like I was missing out! So I made a deal with myself that it would only be until I retire and then I would reevaluate. Well two things happened, my thinking changed, I don’t feel like I gave something up or I am missing out, but made I wise choice for my overall health and like I was hoping my life took a turn for the better and I am much happier sober! Don’t give up that internal battle will not last forever. You are not giving something up you are gaining your life back!

    • Thanks for posting and congrats on 56 days! I thought constantly about not drinking up until maybe 8 months. I had to go through every activity without alcohol first before I stopped associating alcohol with life. You’ll do it! You are feeling exactly as you should right now. Keep trudging forward one day at a time and gradually you will think less and less about drinking.

  • sarahp posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    Thanks so much found it 🙂

  • sarahp posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    Awesome! May I ask where you found the documentary on this site? I watched it a few years ago in my first sober attempt but I can’t find it again now. I would love to show it to my family

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