• SandyB posted an update 2 weeks, 1 day ago

    Hi Peeps, I am back starting yet again. Feeling like such a failure and still not sure I have what it takes but this site has been my inspiration in the past.

  • SandyB posted a new activity comment 1 month, 3 weeks ago

    Well done you! Wish I had your amazingly strong resolve.

  • SandyB posted an update 1 month, 3 weeks ago

    Day one again, don’t know why I do this to myself. I’ve lasted for days, weeks and up to 6 months in the past and then I just seem to push the self destruct button. Still here I go again, back to finding my way out of this hole. Hope all is going well for you all, I’ll be back later in the day xxx.

  • SandyB posted an update 2 months ago

    Babysitting my granddaughter in Wellington and feel so good I am able to be present to do this! Today is day 15 which I am happy with but feel far from safe from the evils of my drinking issues, still very much one day at a time. I see my counselor again in a weeks time and know I will need to look at lots of issues that have resulted in many outcomes in my journey through this maize we call life! I think I need to understand grief and it’s effects before I can honestly move on. Still I am here and appreciating everyone’s kind words and care. Love to all you wonderful Peeps xxx

  • SandyB posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    Sorry about your injury @Narley but wow Day 150 Yahoo for you.

  • SandyB posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    Thanks @R51

  • SandyB posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    Thanks @Winner

  • SandyB posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    Staglands was a great outing, thanks @SoberDaisy really appreciate people out there thinking of me xxx

  • SandyB posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    Thanks @Sober4real it was a lovely outing. Because I don’t live here I really appreciate every chance to spend time together.

  • SandyB posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    Thanks @Mari135 I feel good so far but know it would be very easy to falter. Just plodding along 😁

  • SandyB posted an update 2 months ago

    YAY day 14, just heading off for a family outing to Staglands, an animal farm type place. Cold, crisp morning, but sunny! Will touch base later xxxx

  • SandyB posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    Thanks @Daveh very wise words indeed. I know I have found it hard to connect socially, thank goodness I work in a busy environment with heaps of people around me. Your words ring very true for me.

  • SandyB posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    Loving every minute.

  • SandyB posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    Take care of you @timidwarrior, big hugs.

  • SandyB posted an update 2 months ago

    Day 12 and all is well. Having a lovely time with family in Wellington and enjoying the company. I have been living alone since January and although there are times that I am feeling quite independent and empowered, there are also some very lonely and quiet times that I am yet to adjust to! Don’t mean to sound so ‘oh woe is me ‘ but I guess reality is still setting in. Still no hiding in a bottle for me and I get so much inspiration from so many of you. Thanks wonderful Peeps xxx.

    • HI @sandyb I had to learn to notice the difference between solitude and loneliness. I live alone and enjoy my own space and the freedom of it, but sometimes I can get down and I have to look closely at myself. Within myself the difference between solitude and loneliness lies in the emotions I’m experiencing. Solitude brings calm contentment, loneliness is feeling sorry for myself. Once I’ve “diagnosed” loneliness then I know what I need to do about it… I need to connect to people. A huge red flag for me is if I find myself avoiding people… it means I’m heading into isolating myself, and that’s really not good for me. I have to deliberately talk to people. There’s a trite line in recovery circles “loneliness is a choice” and it’s unfortunately true. I say unfortunately because it’s uncomfortable forcing myself to be sociable… but once I get started the challenge falls away pretty much immediately. it is only fear of the unknown. I find being connected is the effective counter to loneliness and these days there are many ways to achieve that online as well as face-to-face.

      • Thanks @Daveh very wise words indeed. I know I have found it hard to connect socially, thank goodness I work in a busy environment with heaps of people around me. Your words ring very true for me.

  • SandyB posted an update 2 months ago

    Morning lovely Peeps, soon to head off to Wellington for a few days which will be nice. Can’t wait to have a big cuddle with my granddaughter. Hope all is well out there in AF land, I am taking things day by day and trying not to stress about the things I need to work on. Take care, will keep in contact xxxx

    • Enjoy your beautiful time with your Granddaughter! Let us know how you’re doing AF. 💛

    • Arnt Grandies so precious @SandyB? I am currently with mine in Australia(I live in NZ). Leave them next week which Im not looking foward to! Enjoy your time in Wellington.

  • SandyB posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    Thankyou so much for this @KikiD always helps to have someone on your side 😁

  • SandyB posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    Welcome @mybestlife

  • SandyB posted an update 2 months ago

    Nearly off to bed lovely Peeps. Feeling quite anxious this evening but no alcohol for me, luckily there’s none here so that makes it much easier 😥😥😥 see you all tomorrow xxxx

    • Goodnight – an early night cures so much. Well done on not alleviating your anxiety with alcohol. Excellent!!

    • Sleep well. Time for me to get some sleep too – just as I would like to spend a few hours reading… if only 🙁

    • Nite sober @kikid.

    • oxoxoxox You so have my compassion for the anxiety…it was almost unbearable for me all day Saturday and Sunday. Today…feels ok again…That’s usually how the waves go…..

      May today also be lighter for you and may that sleep have brought you rest and renewal.
      It will be ok.
      All of it.

      oxoxoxox

    • Sleep well❤️

  • SandyB posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    I pledge with you @Buckeyeone 😎

  • SandyB posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    Thanks @Eschia yes I do feel like I can get my head into this journey again, especially with the support of this site and it’s wonderful Peeps.

  • SandyB posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    Thanks, @Sober4real still aiming day to day cos forever seems to huge in my head!

  • SandyB posted an update 2 months ago

    Day 10, double digits! Pottering around today, still mainly resting leg but have got packed for next few days in Wellington, always cool to have something planned. Think my TV may blow up very soon through over use, still need to keep busy somehow. Drinking coffee, water and tea but no booze!

  • SandyB posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    Sounds like you’ve got this @Lars xx

  • SandyB posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    Yes i do, amnd i agree that it can take a while to find the right counselor. I worried that it’s quite expensive but then realised it is far less than what i used to spend on booze!!!

  • SandyB posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    Thanks @Agirl I’m doing nothing but watching tv and eating! No wine tho so that’s all good 😉

  • SandyB posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    Hi @Annie I am having private more general counselling that I believe is good for me. We are exploring underlying issues rather than purely focusing on alcohol dependancy. Good luck.

    • @sandyb–Thanks for your shareing. I have had counselling in previous years but mostly didnt resonate with the person. Its underlying issues for me too so will try to suss out a good one. Do you live in NZ?

      • Yes i do, amnd i agree that it can take a while to find the right counselor. I worried that it’s quite expensive but then realised it is far less than what i used to spend on booze!!!

  • SandyB posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    Welcome @never2late love your name, so very true!

  • SandyB posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    Welcome @mrsf

  • SandyB posted an update 2 months ago

    Greetings Peeps, lovely day here, sunny, warm and my brother in law came around and mowed the lawns, so kind of him as I didn’t have a chance of doing them myself til leg has healed. Have been binge watching Grey’s Anatomy and now Cold Feet. Hugs to all, still coping with day by day and only focusing on today not forever!

  • SandyB posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 week ago

    Had skin cancers removed yesterday so a bit sore and all bandaged up. Will be fine in a few days, so all ok.

  • SandyB posted an update 2 months, 1 week ago

    Greetings all. Day 8, quiet day watching Grey’s Anatomy, as have to keep leg elevated. Hugs out to everyone xxxx

  • SandyB posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 week ago

    Thanks @Buckeyeone so nice to have cool feedback xx

  • SandyB posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 week ago

    Thanks @Jaxisdry getting my head in the right place and space is absolutely essential xx

  • SandyB posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 week ago

    Thanks @Prudence I know it’s time to move on with heaps of positivity in my life.

  • SandyB posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 week ago

    Hi @Mari135 I love the self care, well done you! Last night when I went to a Spa for massage etc I bought some of their natural spring water, came home and added bubbles (the soda stream kind) and it tastes like French Perrier Water! Yum 😙

    • Ohh spa sounds soothing, SandyB! Loving your soda stream. Perrier high five! oxoxxox (Funny how now in sobriety I actually care about water intake….couldn’t have been bothered prior to that my entire life, lol)

  • SandyB posted an update 2 months, 1 week ago

    Day 7 and I am grateful for the wonderful Peeps who unselfishly support me, for this amazing site, for my loving family and at this moment for my lovely cat who is demanding a cuddle!!
    Am spending weekend with leg elevated, post another round of surgery for skin cancers then have 5 days in Wellington planned. Yay. Take care everyone xxx.

  • SandyB posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 week ago

    Hey @Lar, yay for you!

  • SandyB posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 week ago

    Day 4 is on its way!!! You can do this xxx

  • SandyB posted an update 2 months, 1 week ago

    Hi lovely Peeps, day 6 and all ok. Had my amazing hand and foot massage tonight, pure luxury, something I should do more often, spoil myself. I know I’m not really good at doing nice things for me, it’s easier to support others than it is to stay strong for myself, but I’m working on that. Thanks to everyone for your continual encouragement, this is such an amazing place to be and I truly value every time someone reaches out to me providing non judgemental love and support. Stay strong wonderful Peeps xxx.

  • SandyB posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 week ago

    We can journey along together @Lars

  • SandyB posted an update 2 months, 1 week ago

    Drinks after work for end of Term! I had a delicious mocktail with mango, coconut cream and blended with ice, it was icy, yummy and completely af! Came home and after a good long chat to my daughter in oz, spent 2 hours doing housework. Tomorrow I have a massage booked so that will be great. Day 5 and feel ok, I think this time I need to take things day by day, not focus on never drinking again just not drinking today 😎. Big hugs to all of my wonderful Peeps.

  • SandyB posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 week ago

    Yeah @enzedgirl a bit crazy. A friend said that if it was Botox I should be asking for my money back!

  • SandyB posted an update 2 months, 1 week ago

    Day 4 and all going well. Visit to a counselor went well yesterday, she is not a specialist in alcohol which suits me fine, cos I know I have reasons for my drinking that go way deep. Have to admit I did a lot of crying but that’s not totally surprising. Feeling calm and looking forward to the end of term on Friday, yeah for a chance to get away to visit my granddaughter. Having last lot of skin cancer surgery on Friday afternoon, which is no picnic but at least that will be it for now. Fat lip is getting better, a couple of people asked if I’d had Botox!!! Take care lovely Peeps xxx

  • SandyB posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 week ago

    Well done on your 17 days and step by step move on xx

  • SandyB posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 week ago

    Thanks @SoberDaisy. Yes I know we can do this xx

  • SandyB posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 week ago

    You can cope with these trials better without poison than with it. Kia kaha, stay strong xxx

  • SandyB posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 week ago

    I know gorgeous lady! Just need to get all my ducks lined up again.

  • SandyB posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 week ago

    Thanks @Ro, Dr said I was ok for work tomorrow so will have to think of a good story for children!

  • SandyB posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 week ago

    Hugs out to you @MrsD xxx and yes let those tears flow freely.

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