It’s my husband’s birthday today. As a surprise, I got reservations to go bowling with two other couples we’re friends with. We haven’t been in years! I would have never done this if I were drinking. I’d be too hungover to make the necessary plans to get everyone together and couldn’t count on myself to be in good shape to drive even at 6 p.m.,…[Read more]
@safeandsound This was good for me! The hardest part was having to tell my story so we knew where are are working from…though each time you tell it it gets a bit easier. We did basic breathing exercises and a full body relaxation scan, then some movement work, I had to look at the scared abandoned child in me, I cried quite a bit but when all…[Read more]
I’ve felt that way, too. One thing that helped was when someone said, “You don’t have to drink.” Amazingly, I thought I did, like I was trapped. I’ve found out that it’s true, and I’m happier and healthier without the stuff. @freedom1025 love your words of wisdom. The “having a plan” is so important. Otherwise you’ll give in to the triggers. My…[Read more]
I haven’t been posting much but have been reading this site every day and commenting on others’ posts. I had a really rough go of it for three days, but it paled in comparison to the tragic events in NZ. It was so strange–for three straight days I could not stop thinking about drinking. The physical craving was back, which makes no sense because…[Read more]
Firstly – congratulations for hanging on and getting through.
I’m learning that a lot of problem drinking is to numb difficult emotions, so I’m not surprised to hear about the craving when things are hard – I think it’s been taught to our subconsciouses that a drink will make us feel better. Poor sc’s are wrong, but they think they’re trying to…[Read more]
Well done lovely on staying AF through all those intense urges, that’s awesome stretching of your sober muscles!!! Try and sit with your feelings and see where they take you, you may be on the verge of a realisation as mentioned above. Stay strong and look after yourself ❤❤❤
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