• robynb posted a new activity comment 2 days, 18 hours ago

    Oh lady, huge hugs! If I was there I might have punched him in the snotbox. Ok, not really but I sure would have wanted to!

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 3 days, 3 hours ago

    Sorry @Ro. And thanks for making my mouth water, haha.

  • robynb posted an update 3 days, 8 hours ago

    Good morning Sober Living peeps. I had a craving for some smoke yesterday, when talking to my neighbor who appears to be a regular smoker. I could tell he was high, and recognized it ser y off a craving in me. But you know what? I am glad I was clear minded, and not just saying things because I was high, and not considering the words. (Not that I’m not capable of that sober, haha). Anyway, there you have it, a little struggle in an otherwise lovely day. Shout out to @janus2. Hope all is well. Miss you!

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 5 days, 7 hours ago

    Oh, so nice to hear from you @hetiheti and huge congratulations!

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 6 days, 9 hours ago

    Several of us from the state’s @Laurali, I’m in Alaska.

    • @robyn, my sister and I have discussed Alaska as our next possible trip together.

    • I’m in Florida. My BFF from childhood lives in AK, lovely place, was in the Eagle Rivera area, one of the most beautiful places I’ve visited @robynb. Never been to the UK, but lived in New England for many years, so many fond trips to Mass @wakingowl. Because of this, I’ve been reading a bit on NZ, just for fun, I do not known much at all about the country. What an absolutely breathtakingly beautiful place. So amazing!

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 6 days, 9 hours ago

    Sorry about you mum, @wakingowl, this is first I’d heard. Lovely tribute.💛💙💚.

  • robynb posted an update 6 days, 19 hours ago

    Been quite a week. I’ve been fretting a bit about finances since quitting my job, a few panicky minutes thinking I made a big mistake, largely when trying to navigate an area I am so unfamiliar with (trying to navigate outing a website together), and also my sweet nephew was medivaced from my hometown to the city where I am living due to being very ill . He is on the mend, and along the line over The crazy wek, I stopped myself from my panic, and decided to manage by slowing down and using meditation to make my way through. And I remember that I have a retirement fund that I can utilize if need be. I am also likely putting my other house on the market, and use the money to improve this one, which I badly want to do,(and need to do). i do not regret quiting. It was time. I’m in a good placebtoday. Would I be in this place today, if three years ago I had not decided to quit drinking? I don’t think so.

    • I’m so glad it’s coming together for you. Slowly slowly catch the Monkey. Nice that you can breathe through your panic attacks now too.

    • Wow, what a week for you.
      I’m glad you made so many great choices and can look ahead with increasing optimism. Keep hanging tough.

    • hello, @robynb, so glad your nephew is on the mend. likely if you were still drinking, you wold be spending all your money on booze and worrying. it must be real nice where you are right now. enjoy.

    • Things will sort themselves out – sounds to me like you know you made the right decision for you. Everything else will fall into place. Sending lots of love! πŸ™‚

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 1 week, 1 day ago

    Haha, I was referred to one, it gave me a headache and a meltdown! Thus my query! I am meeting with a guy Monday. Hopefully it won’t be too out of budget. I’ll !st you know how it goes.

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 1 week, 2 days ago

    I love this! And scared to of posting and saying the words out loud, so to speak. It was so hard, I was shaking!

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 1 week, 2 days ago

    @Prudence, this is not drinking related, but I am curious If you have a website for your business and if so, how did you get it. Hire someone, do it yourself? I need one to direct potential guests directly to my airbnb site but am getting conflicting advice. Sorry, unrelated to the sites mission, but as it is a supportive and mind place I am giving it a shot.

    • @Robynb It’s 1.08am so I’ll answer tomorrow and if I forget then remind me.
      http://www.rentacaravan.nz

    • Hi again. I paid someone a couple of grande to make my caravan website. But I too would like to get a website made for my house here and try to somehow direct it out to rich Arab Sheiks who will pay silly money to be somewhere very secluded. This I can offer. About to list with Bachcare as they will manage it all. But feel I am missing a better opportunity to market it as high end exclusive type thing. Haven’t really got time to figure out how to go about it. There are free website outfits you can make yourself if savvy enough. But knowledge and expertise is usually worth paying for. Best luck @Robynb xx

      • Haha, I was referred to one, it gave me a headache and a meltdown! Thus my query! I am meeting with a guy Monday. Hopefully it won’t be too out of budget. I’ll !st you know how it goes.

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 1 week, 5 days ago

    Oh, that’s so hard! What a great son you have for taking such care though.and husband to talk reason in a down time. 💙

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 1 week, 6 days ago

    Likely something I did, @morgan, re: lost post. Re: counselor, she is a woman In friends with, whom I have noticed has her own issues, not drinking but enabling. She is a child of an alcoholic and her husband also was alcoholic. She says things to me like, ‘ you aren’t an alcoholic’ which is true, I don’t identify as an alcoholic, but I also cannot drink! I have so few friends in this area, I dare not give anyone up, but I do wish to invite some healthier ones into my sphere! And it goes to show, There is more to health than simp!y not drinking to excess.

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 1 week, 6 days ago

    Congratulations to both you heros!💜💜💜

  • robynb posted an update 1 week, 6 days ago

    This is a first, I am logging in from my laptop. Thought it would go quicker as want to recreate my earlier post that was lost. I had a foray out into the world in the last two days and it made me appreciate @mrs-D and this site so much! First, a friend, who is also a licensed substance abuse counselor said to me “I hate to say it, but I think she needs to get drunk..I noticed and other people noticed that about every three months she would go on a bender, and then she’d be okay for awhile”. I was…speechless. All I could manage to say later on in the conversation was, “it sounds like she has some emotional problems that need addressing”. Then later, a very kind woman said to me about her Airbnb guest, (she had a bad experience with), she didn’t even check out, and she showed up after she was to check out at 3 a.m. and wanted in, she caused a big commotion and then she went to the bathroom in my yard. And she was a kindergarten teacher in the bush (rural Alaska). I felt bad for my fellow host, but man oh man, I felt compassion for that teacher. Wherever you are out there lady, I hope you find a group like this and start your sober journey. Wow, I might have to log on from my laptop more often, spell check happens and no predictive text! Love all of you. Keep on keeping on, you never know who is watching.

    • I have noticed that being sober has given me far more compassion for others. I can’t believe that in my alcoholic blur I didn’t have as much compassion, considering how much trouble I myself was in. Now, from the outside, I am slowly learning the damage being judgmental causes not just to others but to my own mental wellbeing. That is very sad that a kindergarten teacher behaved in that manner – what must she be struggling with and how shame filled did she probably feel the next day? πŸ™

    • With counsellors like that no wonder the population is drinking increasing amounts – lord. I bet she has a binge issue herself, for sure. She should be struck off.
      Damn the lost post thing continuing πŸ™

      • Likely something I did, @morgan, re: lost post. Re: counselor, she is a woman In friends with, whom I have noticed has her own issues, not drinking but enabling. She is a child of an alcoholic and her husband also was alcoholic. She says things to me like, ‘ you aren’t an alcoholic’ which is true, I don’t identify as an alcoholic, but I also cannot drink! I have so few friends in this area, I dare not give anyone up, but I do wish to invite some healthier ones into my sphere! And it goes to show, There is more to health than simp!y not drinking to excess.

  • robynb posted an update 2 weeks ago

    Oh, I just wrote a long post and it seems th have disappeared, dang it. Long story short, happy to have this place to return to! The world does not understand our struggles. Love you all🌹

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 2 weeks ago

    Oh, @Soberheart, I am so sorry. Can you use Your sorry to propel your sobriety? It’s the greatest thing you could do to honor you SIL. I lost my brother a year ago and it was horrid. He too had harmed his body with drinking and cigarettes, but was a beautiful and gentle soul. 💜💜💜

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 2 weeks ago

    Wow. Big cyber hug to you, and so am happy you at least a getting some beautiful shawls out of the deal. Might be worthwhile to list some of the items no one can use on Ebay if someone has the where with all to take that on.

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 2 weeks ago

    What are you doing, as far as tools?.Reading the Naked Mind, anything else? Have you written a list of reasons to be sober? Embarrassing/dangerous drunk things you regret?

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 1 day ago

    Working on starting a website for my business, I’m so intimidated but I will given it a go. The farmers market and delicious veggies, and maybe an ice cream. At least one bike ride, maybe two..and watching the Netflix series that @janus2 r ecommends. Oh yeH, turning my airbnb over on both week end days because..it is busy, and I am very happy. Keep it coming!

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 1 day ago

    That is so wonderful! Great news:). And you will smell like lemons, and not nasty booze💛

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 1 day ago

    So great! Yay you!!!

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 2 days ago

    Thank you! I’m meeting with an advisor about how to market my airbnbs. I f I can bring my bookings up during winter months, I will be fine. I know the potential is there and I intend on reaching it!

    • You might have to share a few tricks with me @Robynb as I will be losing $490 per week rent by moving plus will have 2 lots of power phone and gas and insurance. Eek! Just going to do it and trust it will all work out just fine. And it will for you too….and once you’ve got it pumping you could take advantage of the low interest rates and get another one happening. Xx

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 3 days ago

    Exactly!

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 4 days ago

    I wrote pains and auto spell put in diagnosis. Geez.

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 4 days ago

    Ah, sorry are having a struggle. Other people are diagnosis sometimes!

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 4 days ago

    It was a good job for the time I had it, but it’s time to pull out all the stops to create my life exactly how I want it. Times awasting!

  • robynb posted an update 2 weeks, 4 days ago

    Well Living Sober peeps, after two days of excruciating sitting through basic training for the job I have done for 17 years, I gave notice, effective immediately. I just could not bear to sit in cold rooms, during our brief sumer days, bored out of my mind. I don’t feel bad about this, I feel a wee bit nervous, but as my brother always said about me, I have a way of always landing on my feet. More than anything, I feel relief. What does this have to do with sobriety? Nothing and everything.

    • Congratulations on making such a big life changing decision Robyn! These are scary decisions but well thought out when sober! Better things are on the horizon for you, of that I am sure!

      • It was a good job for the time I had it, but it’s time to pull out all the stops to create my life exactly how I want it. Times awasting!

    • Wow @robyn! I know you were thinking about this and good for you for making the decision.

    • I trust the time is right for change @robynb. It’s been brewing a while aye? xxx
      Go you. So proud.

    • A big step. Good for you, congratulations!

    • Yay! That is so exciting and brave😀

    • Good shit @robynb create the life you want 💪

    • oxoxoxox And if it ever feels like you would like the job back, I am sure they’d be open for it given your immense experience. Well done on making an executive decision. Life is short. You thought this through and have given this job many years of your life. oxoxoxo

    • @robynb, i love it. what does it have to do with sobriety, you can trust your decision, your executive functioning, not booze fueled, but I WANT TO LIVE fueled decision making. perfect. keep on.

    • I can relate. We have to do 40 hours continuing education every year, and one morning I’m in a room staring at a wall while some speaker is droning on about how you do depreciation….scuse me? My software does that. It came to my mind, WTH am I doing here? If I have 7,000 days left in my life, I really don’t want to waste any of them listening to the likes of that.

    • Heck, wow, oh my gosh … keep us posted about your new life!

    • I absolutely fucking love it @RobynB and I heartily congratulate you for grabbling the rest of your life by the teeth and LIVING IT THE WAY YOU WANT IT!! Yeah baby!!! xo

      • Thank you! I’m meeting with an advisor about how to market my airbnbs. I f I can bring my bookings up during winter months, I will be fine. I know the potential is there and I intend on reaching it!

        • You might have to share a few tricks with me @Robynb as I will be losing $490 per week rent by moving plus will have 2 lots of power phone and gas and insurance. Eek! Just going to do it and trust it will all work out just fine. And it will for you too….and once you’ve got it pumping you could take advantage of the low interest rates and get another one happening. Xx

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 3 weeks ago

    Alcohol is poison, your body agrees with you subconscious. Thanks for sharing this powerful little story.

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 3 weeks ago

    I dont think, I witness. Oddly enough, it is an accepted fact and stated as such in the oil settlements and in the town’s and (mostly) villages. A gentleman working at an airfield in one of the villages was discussing the frequent flooding due together temps, and The changes to wildlife habitat recently. It global warming and it is having a huge impact, causing entire villages having to relocate. We are having fires, but that is par.for the course, I don’t know if they are any worse than normal. It has certainly been a dry.year with drought all over the state.

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 3 days ago

    I never drank for the vtaste, but the effect. Can’t see any reason to drink it intervals no alcohol. That’s crazy people! Haha. To me anyway.

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 5 days ago

    Sounds like you are doing exactly the right thing💚

  • robynb posted an update 3 weeks, 5 days ago

    It’s 1 a.m. and can’t sleep because I took a bike ride after 7 p.m. I just cannot exercise after 7 or it keeps me up. It sure was nice though! This week finds me plowing into some landscaping projects with the great help of a neighbor kid. He is a godsend, hard worker and smart. He took the grass away from my Apple trees and we spread compost and soul , covered that with cardboard and tomorrow will mulching with rocks. So much faster with good help! Seriously thinking of putting my other house on the market, the neighbor has expressed an interest, and though not had more business as a vacation rental, I find I am really spreading myself thin..Something to contemplate anyway. Good to see all the new folks doing what they need to do to join this sober train. Not always easy, but always worth it. Take care all.💜

    • I hope you get some sleep soon!! Thanks for popping in to post though – I love hearing how everyone’s day went, it is encouraging since mine are kind of all over the road these days! πŸ™‚

    • Ooh a summer evening bike ride in the soft balmy air, so sweet.
      Hope you slept since that post @robynb. xx

    • I keep meaning to get a bike fixed – my boarders left a few. But not in the winter – a Spring activity methinks. I have walked two evenings in a row !!! in the dark, but yes, felt pretty awake so need to go earlier, then drink camomile.
      I love love love strong helpers in the garden. THe best πŸ˜‰

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 5 days ago

    Lemon meringue beats out booze any day of the week! Good one:).

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 5 days ago

    I know so about waffling. Have had more trouble with weed.since quit alcohol over 1000 days ago now. Easy for me to say good bye to booze as the effects were more dramatic. But I spent 59 years waffling before that! Ok, I started drinking at 13, so 59 minus 14. Uggh.

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 6 days ago

    Yay!

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 6 days ago

    Oh, what is going on for you? I am so sorry you are having such a hard time. 💙💚💜

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 6 days ago

    As it turned out, I did not go for a massage or a bike ride on day 1000. I started in on my sons hpuse, cleaning and organizing..eventually I will do a bit of decorating as payment and thank you because that nice man loaned me eight hundred dollars.to fix my car and wouldn’t accept repayment. Anyhow, meant to only do a few things, but before I knew it, the day had flown by. I hope you win the lottery @ro. You are past due!

  • robynb posted an update 4 weeks, 1 day ago

    999 days to day. Wow! Tomorrow I’m gonna great myself to a massage and a bike ride. Other then thst, don’t have much to say. Watching Into the Dark on Netflix and about ready to turn in, cause this sober lady is tired. Might all. The sober life is the best life.

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    That conjures up a picture. Got a good laugh from your description. I hope hounding glittering something. Me too!I

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    That’s weird and not very supportive:(.

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    I love this. I had two times where I just paused and felt how beautiful.everythingnis. Once, looking at my melting ice water, with condensation on the outside of the glass, and the other time when I sat myself down to pick raspberries out of my garden. Sober life is a good life.

  • robynb posted an update 1 month ago

    Just got off phone with airbnb case manager. I feel much better as I think I was able to finally make my point understood. Didn’t change anything, but I was able to tell her I am doing airbnb a favor by alerting them to a person who is not who she represents herself to be. I think that poor caseworkers head is spinning, haha. But I was able to get a laugh out of her so the conversation was a sucess. Right now I have the folks staying in my downstairs suite who won a bid at a fundraiser..It is such a nice feeling to be able to contribute to such a great cause ( my friend opened her own adoption service non profit due to Catholic Social Services not allowing gay couples to adopt). The couple staying have about seven adpted.and foster children, do not is a well deserved getaway. Tomorrow I meet a handyman to get my camera installed and a new lock for my other house. So, feel like I’m taking good steps to protect myself from future problems. A bit dtressed, but never occurred to me to smoke or drink. WHy? Cause I don’t deal that way anymore, and for that I’m happy!

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    Agree with @normaleelucid, not at all shallow. You had a vision for that house, you built it, the life doesn’t suit you, so do what makes you happiest. 💛

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    Yes, because I got a good shut eye! Sleep makes everything better. And you were right about the airbnb guest, just a low grade loser, not likely to come arround.

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    I’m with you on this one. Drinking is just not an option for me, it’s poison to my body (and mind and spirit) and I just cannot do it.

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    The intermittent fasting also helps with joint pain, I am much better now that I mainly eat between 9 and five. Even better when my eating is healthy!

    • Interestingly simple !!! Trouble is I often eat around 8pm after getting home from various things, and then I am meant to wait until 12 or 1pm for food which can be a bit long when working with young people. I do have the keto idea – 1/2 milk/cream with tea in the morning and some cream in my coffee, so it is really not a proper fast period at all πŸ™ πŸ™ πŸ™

      I must try and eat earlier, and get back to the time when I suddenly realised/felt dinner wasn’t the be all and end all. I think the Summer helped that though. In winter it is the comfort of hot food that helps.

    • Lars replied 1 month ago

      That’s good to know about the fasting, @robynb! Thanks!

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    Yup, I like being on the freedom train! Shut sleep is the worst. Hope tonight is better.

    • Ro replied 1 month ago

      Thanks @robynb you all good mate?

      • Yes, because I got a good shut eye! Sleep makes everything better. And you were right about the airbnb guest, just a low grade loser, not likely to come arround.

      • Ro replied 1 month ago

        Glad you had a good rest-I’m hoping on one tonight πŸ™‚

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    Turns out this woman who I thought was on here on vacation was here working, I presume at a strip club. Has 19 charges on her r ecord, not sure what. I had to pay her because shower broke and without water for a night. Of course she gave me a lousy review, accusing me of all kinds of shot but main issue I don’t know if they made copy of key, etc. So need to change out locks, etc.But having hard time finding somene to do it. Yeah, I been in a festery rage myself.

    • Ro replied 1 month ago

      How did you find all that out? Why would they have bothered to copy your key? Low class losers can’t think that far ahead

    • A horrible experience all up @robynb.
      It might be alright….? Do you have neighbours who can keep an eye on it when you’re not there?
      I hooe you can sleep tonight. X

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    Just be kind and let it go. You got this.

  • robynb posted an update 1 month ago

    Really emotional today, and a bit depressed. The incident with my airbnb guest from hell has taken it out of me In afraid. Tired because haven’t been sleeping well during all of it. Purchased a security camera today but having difficulty finding someone to install it pronto. I’m afraid it is more then I can cope with myself, but guess I will if I have to. Also, political issues in my state have thrown our economy into upheaval with many state worker jobs in jeopardy, education gutted, etc. Sorry to be a wet rag today, but I am feeling down. I’m down, but I’m sober with no threat of drinking. A long bike ride and dinner man in order, and hopefully a good sleep tonight.

    • Ro replied 1 month ago

      Oh matey that’s no good. Don’t let those fuckers bring you down. You’ll have to trust your instincts more next time. Too bad what Air bnb suggest. Maybe you’ll get a reputation for being a safe, place for normal people to stay- I can’t really see what is so wrong with that….. I hope after some good kai and a bike you’ll feel relaxed enough to be able to get a better kip πŸ™‚

    • Sharing is good @robynb. Sleeplessness really throws me for a loop; I spent all yesterday in a festering ragey state from being a bit short on sleep. It’s awful feeling overwhelmed. Not sure what your main cencern is-your safety or the property’s? Totally understandable you’re distressed. Take it slowly, lots of love. xxx

      • Turns out this woman who I thought was on here on vacation was here working, I presume at a strip club. Has 19 charges on her r ecord, not sure what. I had to pay her because shower broke and without water for a night. Of course she gave me a lousy review, accusing me of all kinds of shot but main issue I don’t know if they made copy of key, etc. So need to change out locks, etc.But having hard time finding somene to do it. Yeah, I been in a festery rage myself.

        • Ro replied 1 month ago

          How did you find all that out? Why would they have bothered to copy your key? Low class losers can’t think that far ahead

        • A horrible experience all up @robynb.
          It might be alright….? Do you have neighbours who can keep an eye on it when you’re not there?
          I hooe you can sleep tonight. X

    • Feel better @robynb I’m sorry about the experience you had…and I hate it when I need assistance and it’s not timely. I know you like myself try to do everything yourself but once in a while we need help. Hang in there! xoxoxo

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