• robynb posted a new activity comment 2 hours, 18 minutes ago

    So much going on! In the end, the Narcissistic man will be but a minor footnote. You are to good, too busy, and too much for someone like that to take down.

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 2 hours, 23 minutes ago

    Please ignored the errors, auto spell Stroudsburg and I’m too tired to fix them!

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 2 hours, 31 minutes ago

    Morgan, this sup is a good person, but has a tendency to take herself far too seriously. The conversation came about because big something I wrote in an email. The same one in which I offered to resign.Her management , or at least her communication skills leaves a bit to be desired. At least her delivery, but then she might say the same about me. I’m still in the fence about resignation, Is do off of I had something else lined up. I am skilled at working with families in trouble. I am empathetic, understanding and I’m able to make a connection with them because of my own experiences. I see my role, more than anything, as a motivater. I think I’m very successful at that, and it where I derive most of my satisfaction. But she is right, I don’t like traveling to places I don’t know, with the idea I may have to sleep on the floor or in a bedbug ridden hotel. I also don’t enjoy having to answer to people that know little about me, and apparently don’t have much time or care, to want to know me. I have two more days in which to make my decision.

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 16 hours, 29 minutes ago

    Ugh. Great Principal, way to go. But good to hear from you regardless:).

  • robynb posted an update 1 day, 2 hours ago

    Had a scrappy day today. Last meeting with supervisor ( we got a new one) and began by her asking me to really examine whether the travel team is the right fit for me.Devolved into her telling me site supervisors agree that I am hard to give feedback to. My head was aching already, made me want to cry and half of what she said was really garbled, (over phone supervision as she lives in Minnesota). This is AFTER I had offered to resign as I need to take summer off due to my business, and my helper going missing and what all. Well, truth be told, the way the team is being run, it probably isn’t a good fit for me. But I wasn’t prepared today for this conversation. I’m giving myself three days to think it over, and if I decide that having that income is not worth th b.s. I will write a letter.of resignation. I can surely find another job of need be come fall. So I am curled up in my room, breaking my no eating after dinner rule by having popcorn and tart cherry juice with selter. Self indulgence for me these days!

    • Oh @robynb that is so difficult and good on you for giving yourself time to think. There’s no pleasing some people and at the end of the day sometimes they’re not worth the grief!!! Enjoy your treats, you deserve them. Hope tomorrow is a better day. ❤️

    • But you have so much to offer! I hear ya with not needing the bs though. Sounds like a great idea to sleep on it.

    • Oh just sent you a post. You and me both having crapola days! Farkn humans aye. Punts to work with when tthey think they have power.

    • It sounds as if a whole lot of uneducated, incompetent, uncaring wollies try to run your outfit, and they do not have the first ABC of managing people.

      Please, please do not take anything to heart – well, it is worth exploring the perception that someone – WHO? – thought you were not easy to give feedback to – need absolute specifics, and the question remains, why the hell didn’t they tell you face to face before bleating higher up. God, I hate that stuff sooooooo much.

      Did she/he go over all your strengths and service? Ask you what your strengths were? Lead up to a query – or not – about whether the job was for you and your in depth perceptions about why/why not??

      If not please, please do your own meeting and highlight all your strengths, abilities, every last good thing you were pleased with – I am serious, a thorough meeting with yourself – hey, maybe write it up and send it to her, and keep for the next supervisor/appraisal. They will see all they missed and how brutal their system is.

      Tell us 10 of your work strengths if you have a moment.
      Just to start you: I think my number one is a developing quick rapport … (wont fully explain like you could be doing!);
      Number 2 – passion for my work, which is noticed by the families, who often express much appreciation, even if I have had to say and do really hard stuff with them – report them πŸ™ πŸ™ πŸ™
      Can you do it hon?

      • Morgan, this sup is a good person, but has a tendency to take herself far too seriously. The conversation came about because big something I wrote in an email. The same one in which I offered to resign.Her management , or at least her communication skills leaves a bit to be desired. At least her delivery, but then she might say the same about me. I’m still in the fence about resignation, Is do off of I had something else lined up. I am skilled at working with families in trouble. I am empathetic, understanding and I’m able to make a connection with them because of my own experiences. I see my role, more than anything, as a motivater. I think I’m very successful at that, and it where I derive most of my satisfaction. But she is right, I don’t like traveling to places I don’t know, with the idea I may have to sleep on the floor or in a bedbug ridden hotel. I also don’t enjoy having to answer to people that know little about me, and apparently don’t have much time or care, to want to know me. I have two more days in which to make my decision.

    • @Robyn I have the idea that you work for Child Protective Services from something you’ve said in the past. I work at a school with lots of traumatized kids and I know they need every helping hand available. I’m sorry you have a difficult supervisor. Working in high poverty schools, I sometimes have had admin who just don’t really understand the complexity of working with young children and insist on some rigid ways of doing things that don’t make sense. Take care of yourself.

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 1 day, 11 hours ago

    You are not being unreasonable. Sounds like he is, but that doesn’t help you. Is there a way you can do this without changing the switch time? Cause it sounds like he is going to dig in his heels about this. I’m sure others will have some good insight that may be helpful.

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 1 day, 15 hours ago

    Ah, love to hear this. Yep, always so great to get on the other side of cravings! Never regret it.

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 2 days, 4 hours ago

    That’s awesome, and so exciting. Yay!

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 2 days, 9 hours ago

    Thanks for letting me know. I will think carefully before planting!

  • robynb posted an update 2 days, 13 hours ago

    Good morning and happy Fathers Day out there you you awesome sober Dads. I had a fabulous day yeasterday. I went hunting for a plant sale, never found it but found many other things! A huge trunk for twenty bucks, one lady duh up some mint and just have it to me because I told her I was looking for plants. When I offered to pay her, she just asked me to pray for her..which I have! I went to prep my house for my next guest, and then took myself to brunch at a favorite restaurant. While there, I saw and ad for an hour massage for $55. I called it and got in that afternoon. When I arrived, they didn’t have me down, but took me across the street and I was able to get a 45 minute allergy relief massage (who knew!) and then got a certificate for a free massage. I seem to be having lessons about calming the hell down. Because I tend to get angry when things don’t go my way or as expected. Several times lately, when this has happened, I have put myself in check..and guess what? Good things end up happening. Well, this is lengthy. Thinking of @janus2, miss you! Welcome back @lucy, nice to see you! Thinking of you,@ro, and your friend. Such a hard thing. Have a great day all.💜

    • I hope this means that the guests who didn’t come out finally came out and left! I’m glad good things are happening. You deserve it! Watch out for that mint because it spreads fast and takes over. As a lazy gardener I observe this happening and think I should do something about it – someday.

    • Funny how the world seems to send us these lessons every now and then isn’t it. Enjoy the rest of your weekend!

    • Ohhh I loved your update! So many adventures, many unexpected. So much compassion and care for yourself and others. It’s a privilege to know you through this forum!! oxoxox

    • I see @Juiliana mentioned what I will. Mint spreads fast! Best to sink a large container in the ground and put it in that to help keep it in check. But boy does it smell heavenly when you pull it up! Glad the world is sending gifts to your door. xo

    • Sounds very interesting and a special time. Mmmmm massage…so need, though my acupuncture yesterday actually left me feeling as good as a massage does, and soooo energised I was working until late. Slly really.
      Love lengthy πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 2 days, 13 hours ago

    Happy Fathers Day @tom4500! Such a.nice thing to think about sober you and those wonderful grand kids. No harm in us taking some.minutes to think how our sobriety is changing our world:). A small thing with great ripple effects. Well,no small thing for us, but you know what I mean.

    • I know what you mean, Robyn. And true that we do it primarily for ourselves, but it feels good knowing that it benefits those close to us.

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 4 days, 13 hours ago

    Knowing how busy these offices are,.my guess is if they are able to.easily see this is a frivolous claim by your ex, that should be the end of it. Btw, fellow who called you sounds like a few of I’ll suited social workers I’ve come across over the years. And they always seem to land in positions of authority!

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 4 days, 13 hours ago

    Good for you! I love to hear this. Let us.know how it progresses.

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 4 days, 14 hours ago

    Aww. 💜💚💛.

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 4 days, 22 hours ago

    Ha. I forgot to say what started out my happy feeling. I donated a two day stay at my airbnb to a friend who is starting up her own mom profit. Really proud of her, it’s an adoption program. She was working for Catholic Social Services, and the program is on the skids because CSS won’t allow gay couples.to adopt, so she is going on her own. And someone won the bid on my airbnb! It makes me feel so good to be able to do that.

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 4 days, 22 hours ago

    Haha. Working hard as can be, but on my own business so I’m happy.

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 4 days, 22 hours ago

    Jesus. Sorry @ro. That really really sucks. 💔

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 5 days, 1 hour ago

    Welcome @GeorgiaGeorgia! You’ve come to a good place💚

  • robynb posted an update 5 days, 4 hours ago

    Want to take a minute and express my gratitude publicly, but among trusted friends. All of a sudden (after lots of hard work and struggle haha) I am finally paying down my debt, I have a few extra dollars in the bank, I have a little bit of a social life, I don’t have to work at my state job this summer, I am able to spend most days doing exactly what I want to do, I haven’t had a hangover in darn near 3 years. I am finding all kinds of treasures for my home. My.most recent find is a beautiful fishscale tiffany standing lamp. Life is good my LS friends. Life is very good.

    • Excellent!!! Happy happy you! Congratulation. Wrap yourself in your sweet success. You made it all happen. Yes. Life is good!

    • Wonderful! Really enjoy being able to relax and breathe. Real Tiffany? I found a Tiffany floor lamp several years ago, like 5 1/2 feet high, for $2000. Not knowing what Tiffany was worth, I passed it up. I don’t feel so bad-i thought it was really ugly. I hope you have a really self-indulgent summer off. You deserve it! xoxo

    • You earned it and you deserve it (and probably more . . .)
      Enjoy every minute.
      And thank you, to you, for sharing your joy and spreading inspiration.

    • That is awesome. Thank you for sharing, that is so encouraging for me so early in my journey.

    • I love hearing that! Congrats to you on all these achievements! What a beautiful gift sobriety is. xoxo

    • Ha. I forgot to say what started out my happy feeling. I donated a two day stay at my airbnb to a friend who is starting up her own mom profit. Really proud of her, it’s an adoption program. She was working for Catholic Social Services, and the program is on the skids because CSS won’t allow gay couples.to adopt, so she is going on her own. And someone won the bid on my airbnb! It makes me feel so good to be able to do that.

    • Lovely Robynb πŸ™‚

    • Fabulous post/ posts XXXXX love to hear all these good things XXXX

    • This made my day! So happy for you!

    • More proof that happiness is achievable when sober, so happy for Robyn.

    • This is so lovely @robynb, so happy for you.

    • WOW! What an inspiring post! I love it!

    • Lovely, lovely post @robynb xoxo

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 5 days, 4 hours ago

    Vintage is considered anything prior to 2000. At least of you follow pinterest. 1986 is practically an antique, lol. Sounds lovely. Going to make that tomorrow, for my Friday night treat:).

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 6 days, 15 hours ago

    Thanks for posting, I am having exact issues with site. Just trying to wear you down, but too bad little man, she is bigger and smarter and stronger than you. You better run fast the other direction little man, or this lady gonna mow you right down. You got this.

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 1 week ago

    Hi @Mari135, yes, they have good reviews. And I saw them, and they don’t appear drink or drugged, so whew. Haha. They paid their $, I shouldn’t complain. They can stay in if they want.

  • robynb posted an update 1 week ago

    Is it odd that my Airbnb guests who traveled across the country to visit Alaska have barely left their little apartment in five days ti.e? It’s cute I admit, but..I’m a little worried they are down there drinkng and/or drugging. I thought the guy was a photographer and was here to take photos of the state. Along the same note, my clewaner failed to show up or return messages for a week. She just contacted me to tell me she lost her phone, and her car isn’t working so she can’t work for awhile. Hmm. Or ever? But, I truck along sober ever after.hope u are all doing good.

    • Mrs D replied 1 week ago

      Oh curious! I wonder. Other people’s lives are always so fascinating…. 😊

    • Oh boy…that is weird. Unless the weather is awful and there is nothing to do outside….although I doubt it. Did your guest have good reviews on Airbnb? oxoxox

      • Hi @Mari135, yes, they have good reviews. And I saw them, and they don’t appear drink or drugged, so whew. Haha. They paid their $, I shouldn’t complain. They can stay in if they want.

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 1 week, 1 day ago

    Hi @Deester. So sorry about the friend. I am in a similar situation, though I didn’t move in a haze, but still find myself.in a large city,, away from my home town and all.the people I love and nothing is as I thought. But picking up.and moving isn’t really an option, so I must find out out how to love my life where I am. You are on the right path.

  • robynb posted an update 1 week, 3 days ago

    Okay, had major trigger today. Was to have a friend from another town for dinner (newish friend, but feel.have known forever) but she cancelled.as her training got done early and she wants to get home..I understand, but it brought up all kinds of feelings of loneliness and rejection, poor me shit. My cravings aren’t for booze, but for weed. But instead I mowed the lawn. Took a jacuzzi. Clean clothes and meeting someone else for dinner..If I have in to my craving, I would hole up in the house, eat my entire rhubarb cake, smoke till it was gone and feel remorseful aftwrward. NOpe, don’t have time for that.

    • I was just thinking of loneliness and how I find it terribly difficult to get motivated to go places on my own, even for practical things. Once underway, I am pleased to just suit myself, but I feel a kind of dread and sadness.
      What a great response you had!
      I was about to ask @Prudence what it is like to be there without her man who she planned this with, and if she could give us a post on Just Do It type wisdom – how about it Prudence??? I need it. Feeling empty, sad and miserable DESPITE lovely flow of messages from my sweet girl, and others from my share-our-day friend group from abroad, bless them/
      Quick, vitamin time πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚
      PS I have to save my already frosted rhubarb – have you got a good recipe?

    • like the way you found someone else to go out and have dinner. enjoy.

    • Wow, you got yourself out of that temptation really well. Well done @Robyn.

    • Knocked that trigger right down!! Way to go1

    • Sorry that happened! So proud how you dealt with it though. Love your style Robyn. 😊

    • Good for you @robynb. I find it really difficult dealing with disappointment, makes me sulk for quite a while!!!! You did amazingly well by getting on with it and arranging something else. Hope you have a lovely dinner.❤️

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 1 week, 3 days ago

    I have been reading the Book Thief, and I love it, but it’s slow going as it brings up so many emotions pertaining to every day life in the U.S. these days. Unenlightened any stretches for your sciatica?.helps.me a bit.

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    Glad to see you, @barnmomma!

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 1 week, 5 days ago

    Oh, so cool! Thank you for filling us in..we are living vicariously through you, and happily so💛

  • robynb posted an update 1 week, 5 days ago

    I am home from my work rotation, thank God. The supervisor does seem more humble, but She is still not a person I feel comfortable nwith, and that’s okay. I did my job and told my own supervisor I cannot work rest of summer due to business. Offered to resign, as agreement is to work 2 weeks per month. But, no, she didn’t want my resignation, lol. Not sure how I feel about that! But going to offer to work closer to home over summer as it would be nice to earn some extra cash. That’s not for me..love being in my own comfy home.

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 1 week, 5 days ago

    I think we are.pretty close.too, @tom4500 so congrats us!

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 1 week, 5 days ago

    Cause without booze we are all no drama mamas:). Sounds wonderful and I’m so glad those folks have you💛

  • robynb posted an update 2 weeks ago

    Oh, what a nice treat to read posts from people.in all stages of healing from that nasty poison..I want to add to the theme of no drama (can I refer to myself as a no drama mama?!). I have been working with a woman who previously was been my supervisor, I disliked immensely, I quit because of (in part) who was recently demoted and is now supervising the office I have spent a lot of time covering since fall. Well, she has been.. different. In a good way. She has appeared nervous talking with me, but also coming across as rather numble, and not the prima Donna I previously experienced. So, I am also putting forth better effort with her. One of my weaknesses has been holding a grudge. Like man, I can really hOLD A GRUDGE. But you know what? Then things get heavy. I think I can let it go. Happy sober day good people. We will soon rule the world. But we are healthy, so we won’t really want to💚💚💚💚

    • What a great story to read! I”m happy that your co-worker has found some insight into making her life a better place to live. And I’m happy you are in range to benefit.
      Yeah, about grudges. I hear you.

    • That’s wonderful @robynb. Holding grudges is toxic. Sounds like things are going well! πŸ™‚

    • Haha, love it @robynb πŸ˜€ Yeah we don’t really want to rule the world; too tiring. And not enough dancing.
      Rather moving reading about this new phase with your colleague. xx
      No Drama Mama.

    • How nice to see her better side. I am hoping that one of my new colleagues will reveal her better side soon – at present, such a bloody B#@tch – unreal! Snaps at me every meeting, for the most ridiculous things. Knows absolutely EVERYTHING and has to point itout. Sadly, our young team leader defers to her GRRRRR She can’t stand me – I think true @Prudence, I just set some people off. Fortunately my other lovely, sweet, kind colleague is watching, and checking, so I will get good feedback on my own behaviour.
      Well done Robyn!!! Perhaps she has been humbled by demotion and stopped drinking

    • sounds like you are the very definition of no drama mama right now, @robynb. sounds good.

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 1 day ago

    Could u wear them? that’s what I do, West my heaviest/bullies ..if u wear them more then anything else, anyway. But otherwise, yep, too much.

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 2 days ago

    Agreed Morgan. I miss them😢

    • Incidentally I have implemented our first follow feature. So if you go to those members pages and follow them and then come back to this feed – you can click “following” at the top left of the feed (just under the comment box. This will filter the feed to posts by the members you follow. We are still ironing out the user experience of this – so haven’t done a big announcement of it. But there is nothing stopping you starting to use it and follow these members πŸ™‚

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 2 days ago

    As am I ignorant of your gorgeous country! Alaska is a state, but It is the largest, and is very diverse in its geography. I was in Wales, Which is a small village of under 200 people. This is the western most tip of the state, and very far north.The snow will melt during summer, but not for long! The temps get into the 50s (Fahrenheit) during summer, but not too much higher. Where I live, it is quite different, with temperatures in the 70s. During winter, alot of hunting takes place, but they are some dark and cold months. I am very urban, and travel to these villages is like stepping back in time. They are very reliant on subsistence activities, gathering berries, etc, hunting and fishing.

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 2 days ago

    Thank you @Juliana! It’s nice to be able share my adventures with all of my sober heros♥️

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 2 days ago

    Really sorry for your loss, @jesss, but happy you remained your sober self and did was right for you💜

  • robynb posted an update 2 weeks, 2 days ago

    Good morning living sober friends. I am still in Nome Alaska forbwork. This week I travelled to a remote village, next door to Russia (truly, about 30 miles). Still cold there, about 30 degrees farenheit. It is a whaling community, Such an honor to be able to travel where few ever go. But Hard in it’s way too, not going to lie. Sad to see the impact of alcohol on our indigenous people. As always, happy to share my own sober story. I think It may be the most valuable thing I bring them honestly. The difficulties faced by then people I serve make any little thing I have minor, impossible not to to feel grateful. The village does not have working plumbing, But his on a honey bucket system. Imagine that at forty degrees below zero. Date well Sober peeps. You are paving the way to a great new life with each sober step.

    • I love reading your posts about Alaska @robyn. Sometimes I read about the places you mention. Thanks for all your insights about sobriety and life in general.

    • You should be so proud of yourself!

    • What an environment, @robynb. Everything about it. Keep well. Thanks for sharing. xo

    • What you get to see @robynb, yes what a privilege. I can’t even imagine that kind of cold.

    • I can’t even begin to imagine … uggghhh
      How long do you stay up in the big freeze? What is the population? What do the do in the cold months … or is it always the cold months? Ignorance showing here

      • As am I ignorant of your gorgeous country! Alaska is a state, but It is the largest, and is very diverse in its geography. I was in Wales, Which is a small village of under 200 people. This is the western most tip of the state, and very far north.The snow will melt during summer, but not for long! The temps get into the 50s (Fahrenheit) during summer, but not too much higher. Where I live, it is quite different, with temperatures in the 70s. During winter, alot of hunting takes place, but they are some dark and cold months. I am very urban, and travel to these villages is like stepping back in time. They are very reliant on subsistence activities, gathering berries, etc, hunting and fishing.

    • thanks for sharing, to share your story like that, really love it, @robynb

    • It really does sound like a step back in time. What is a honey bucket? I love hearing about your travels to these remote spots.

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 3 days ago

    Yay! One full year no poison!!Happy days🎉

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 4 days ago

    Love it when I figure out something (such as this). You go girl, fabulous work!!

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 6 days ago

    I was certainly surprised! I thought they were in town for the birding tour. I’ve known people with their own planes, but no one going on such a huge trip!

  • robynb posted an update 2 weeks, 6 days ago

    Hello! I was walking to coffee this morning in Nome and was approached by a couple looking for a place for breakfast. They walked along with me and I learned they are from NZ and flying their own plane around the world! I of course thought of all my NZ friends and almost wanted to ask if they knew any of you, haha. But I didnt. They just flew across Russia and landed here last evening. On to Anchorage and I’m not sure where from there. Anyway, it’s a small world friends, and plenty of adventures to be had when free from that nasty poison..Go well everyone. You deserve the very best.

    • on their own plane??!! most kiwis don’t have those 😜

      • I was certainly surprised! I thought they were in town for the birding tour. I’ve known people with their own planes, but no one going on such a huge trip!

    • Wow! No one I know has a plane. Fancy cars and houses yes, planes no. Lol. Must be a rich lister

    • Good morning! That’s a great experience with which to begin your day. xo

    • Ohh so exciting!! Although I hate flying and that would be a nightmare trip for me, haha.
      oxoxoxox

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 6 days ago

    That’s awesome! Oh, your baby is graduating, such a hot but bittersweet time. 💜💜💜

  • robynb posted an update 3 weeks, 1 day ago

    Hi friends. I find myself back in Nome this Memorial Day. It was hard for me to leave home, with The summer season upon me, and business has been pretty good. I find myself content to work on my properies, fixing them up with thrift shop finds..also upcycling various items, dreaming about new projects, thinking of money making ideas to find my home improvement dreams..it goes on and on, and there is no room for drinking in any of it. Oh well, here I am, watching HGTV and earning money to find my dreams. Things could be worse.

    • Hi Robynb don’t know if I’ve just not been around so much but feel like I haven’t seen you for ages! Nice to see you xxx

    • Lovely to see you – does seem like ages XXX

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 1 day ago

    Oh, so envious! Love France and Italy is on my bucket list. You are gonna have so much fun!!

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 3 days ago

    Oh, congratulations, @ro! Hope your day was fabulous!

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 4 weeks ago

    Superb!

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 4 weeks, 1 day ago

    That sounds so lovely! Thanks for sharing this @Prudence.

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    Love Youtube! You are sounding so good. Had to chuckle about your description though, as I got out of bed with an atrocious headache and dying of thirst..But caused by pollen and dehydration, and not drink, thank you very much💚

  • robynb posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    And thats what this place is to us:). Nice one @mari135.

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