• reena posted a new activity comment 3 days, 19 hours ago

    So very sorry for you and your family, sending healing thoughts. xx

  • reena posted a new activity comment 3 days, 19 hours ago

    Peaky Blinders is the shit. OHHHH THOSE BLUE EYES>>>>>>>

  • reena posted a new activity comment 3 days, 19 hours ago

    So very sorry for your loss my friend @Prudence. I am sending loving thoughts your way. Peace to the family, in time. xx

  • reena posted a new activity comment 6 days, 17 hours ago

    @wakingowl, what an eloquent elegy to your mom. Love your way. I always read your posts, you are a beautiful writer, and I am always cheering you on as you keep moving forward. Take care .. hugs. xx

  • reena posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    love to you dear friend. xx I love your posts.

  • reena posted a new activity comment 1 week, 6 days ago

    You will always end on the up side @Prudence dear friend. If you don’t like it you can always go back or just take weeks for yourself there. After all you and Rory put into the place I imagine it was hard and I know you have wrestled with it but… don’t. It will always be there along with the amazing journey of you building it and making it real, nothing can change that. Oh you will be tripping the light fantastic again Lady, can’t wait to hear all the music, gatherings and fun times ahead with our girl @Prudence. xx

    • Oh lovely @Reena thanks so much for your support. Yes, another chapter coming up. Haha while I’ve been on retreat over here I’ve done 3 major renovations, bought one and sold one property…so all that has set me up to have choices. I’ve taken major risks. Haha just took another one too and invested a wee bit of house sale money in bitcoin!! Living on the edge mate. Hope you are well and happy xx

  • reena posted a new activity comment 4 weeks ago

    @r51, many changes in my life and challenges. Struggling along. Thank you for thinking of me. Challenges included health, job, financial. Can’t get into it online so just reading and sending thoughts. I read your posts all the time I am so happy for you!! xx

  • reena posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    aww would love to thanks @ro and @gojo!

  • reena posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    Long hot days here too @Frog, my last week before I try another job. I get what you are saying. Be well, stay cool!

    • Frog replied 1 month ago

      I wish you could win the lottery too!

      • Ro replied 1 month ago

        If I won the lottery I’d be flying you two over just saying 😉

  • reena posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    Take care dear friend! @JM.

    • JM replied 1 month ago

      @Reena! So good to see you here, you’ve been missed. : ) Thanks for your kind response. xo

  • reena posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    haa haaa have not gotten out to the garden… it’s like heat index 109 can’t imagine how hot it is down there. Might have to do some yoga in air conditioning. Don’t take the bait! lol. @Frog.

  • reena posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    Amazing! Congrats @seizetheday! You inspire me!

  • reena posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    Hi Frog, me too. It’s very hot but want to do some gardening, meditation and coffee outside. Enjoy buddy! xx

    • Frog replied 1 month ago

      Well, howdy there! Yeah, the garden thing went out the window at around 10 a.m. as I instead chose to debate with an incel online. Argh! Why do I take the bait?
      Enjoy your day too, my friend.

      • haa haaa have not gotten out to the garden… it’s like heat index 109 can’t imagine how hot it is down there. Might have to do some yoga in air conditioning. Don’t take the bait! lol. @Frog.

  • reena posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    So proud of you @Newstart100, you are amazing! Happy 4th weekend to you too!

  • reena posted a new activity comment 1 month, 2 weeks ago

    well done indeed @Frog. Hard to be alone when everyone drinking but worth it later. xx

  • reena posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    Happy Father’s Day Tome4500, your family is lucky to have you! Enjoy your day!

    • Thanks, lady. I’ve been thinking about you lately, looked you up a few times. It seems our presence here has evolved some. Wasn’t this the year of your family milestone birthdays, including yours? Don’t recall how that turned out. I expect your shoulder’s healed, you and your husband are growing accustomed to your retirement, and I still say forever while you still say just for today. Fond memories of you and our “early U.S. group”. Mostly still here, just not as much, it seems.

  • reena posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 week ago

    you rock girl @r51

  • reena posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 week ago

    We did a similar tour to where they make lemoncello and that is the least interesting thing about that beautiful part of the world. The Amalfi coast is absolutely breathtaking. I am so proud of you and admire you so much for doing this and being the cool honest lady you are @Prudence.

  • reena posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 week ago

    Loved walking Rome alone, sitting in the cafes and watching the people. They do know how to drink and will have one at lunch and leave the bottle on the table. Enjoy my friend! and yes @Janus2 the men in Rome are very handsome and absolutely know it! lol

  • reena posted a new activity comment 3 months ago

    You are amazing and always so gracious about yourself, it’s wonderful to read this update, I know it came at a price, this cautious removing of yourself from the situation. Love and hugs to you beautiful friend as you blossom over and over. xx@begoodtomyself.

  • reena posted a new activity comment 3 months, 3 weeks ago

    Beautifully expressed @Mari135. Thanks for this today. We are all struggling up that hill. Recognizing each other on the journey is the gold part.

  • reena posted a new activity comment 3 months, 3 weeks ago

    ugh…. the doctor actually performed in on me I didn’t realize you could do it yourself. So sorry hoping it’s a short run! Trying to sleep is almost the worst with the room spinning.

  • reena posted a new activity comment 3 months, 3 weeks ago

    @wakingowl, my cardinals and bluejays are full on right now, morning filled with birdsong. Just love a dewy spring morning. Glad to hear your happy voice today.

  • reena posted a new activity comment 3 months, 3 weeks ago

    We need you here mate, @janus2, to kick our asses sometimes and keep us laughing through our tears. Hoping healing comes soon buddy. xx

  • reena posted a new activity comment 3 months, 3 weeks ago

    so sorry @Mrs-d, I have had vertigo and it can be awful. The nauseous feelings are just the worse. I also found the meclizine to be like taking a huge amount of sedative. I am sure your doc mentioned the positional cure? They reposition the crystals in your inner ear by moving your head….. sometimes it works like magic … if that is the reason you have vertigo. If it’s a virus, it does not work unfortunately. Take carexx

    • Yeah @reena he told me about this exercise called the Epley manoeuvre which I did earlier.. might have helped. Also taking anti nausea pills. Am able to do a few things out of bed today but pretty quickly want to collapse back down feeling bleaurgh…

      • ugh…. the doctor actually performed in on me I didn’t realize you could do it yourself. So sorry hoping it’s a short run! Trying to sleep is almost the worst with the room spinning.

      • @mrs-d I came down with this over 2 years ago. Simply awful. I went to the doctor and she gave me meds and printed instructions on how to do the maneuvers. I tried it with my husband’s help and it did nothing. Several weeks later I happened to be talking to a friend who is a physical therapist specifically trained in treating BPPV. She said people can do worse damage when trying the exercise on their own depending on which ear canal the crystals have settled. You can actually shift more crystals into the wrong canal. In any event, she treated me and in one session I was better. Please please seek out a PT in your area who is specifically trained in dealing with this and knows how to do the maneuvers properly. It was like a miracle for me. This was over 2 years ago and it hasn’t come back.

  • reena posted a new activity comment 3 months, 4 weeks ago

    Me too, especially when I was a younger woman and made those habits, now still trying to come up with ways that really serve me instead of tear me down to carve out as “mine”. @WakingOwl.

  • reena posted a new activity comment 3 months, 4 weeks ago

    I feel the same about you R51 and our ole morning crew here at LS. Be well and lots of love on back!! xx

  • reena posted a new activity comment 3 months, 4 weeks ago

    I think she is over saturating her market and the blow back is real. @janus2, I feel that way about Oprah for years, and all my friends were buying into that whole Oprah adoration…. I think for many women (probably white middle class American women) she is speaking their language and she is not movie star beautiful or fancy like so many women my age, so thats appealing to see someone who looks “real”. Anyho, you are a bitch who you foolin girl??? LOL so am I and we can find our own salty pirate woman heros right here on LS. @janus2

    • I think that’s the problem for some New Zealanders @reena …. being treated like a market. It’s maybe hard to see the water you’re swimming in but everything in the States is so completely monetised … I can’t speak for Janus but that’s part of my avoidance of people like Brene. She probably has some great messages but I just can’t bear the big, over-blown commercialisation of it.

      I guess when you’re aiming at a big market (America and by extension the rest of the world) you’ve got to go large.

    • Wow that got the sparrows twittering lol. Nah @lee no offence taken what so ever
      In fact i enjoyed what everyone had to say and their interpretation of her. Im sure she has data, cheers @watergirl . I have watched Ted talks, and i must admit, ALOT, now commercialised and craks me up how they have to stand in a circle! I would purposely jump out of it lol, anywhoo. I may think what other topics i could broach, to get us looking outwardly and not inwardly. Mmm thats got me thinkn. Take care out there, gunna be a bit day in Blenheim. My day will be busy planning for term. Ive been so lazy. Peace out all enjoy ya Saturday xo

  • reena posted an update 3 months, 4 weeks ago

    I really related to this Annie Grace video about drinking or running away to drink alone to feel rebellious or just do something for ME. As a spouse, mom, hospital worker, daughter, I would sometimes feel like i just wanted to run away and that always involved drinking too much, alone or with fake booze friends. In the end, it left me alone, sick and feeling shitty and sometimes letting down people I love the most. Yet I still struggled with that urge…. this video breaks it down. I wish she gave more turn around suggestions but I think @mrs-d does a good job of that in today blog post and in the toolbox. Any way. I am here reading everyday, I comment but not posting due to some stuff I have to keep offline right now. I am not back to work and fully enjoying the spring now that I am almost recovered from my work injury. Thanks for the lovely shout outs @janus2 (up at sparrow’s fart today), @ro and @R51 and @mari135.xx to all.

    • Stay safe and well @reena. I come and go as my schedule permits and sometimes I miss things but I always come back and look for my groupies. Please know that you are very special to me and I think of you often sweet lady!!!

      • I feel the same about you R51 and our ole morning crew here at LS. Be well and lots of love on back!! xx

    • I so see myself in that video, wanting some little thing that is all my own even if I know it’s bad for me.

      • Me too, especially when I was a younger woman and made those habits, now still trying to come up with ways that really serve me instead of tear me down to carve out as “mine”. @WakingOwl.

    • Hey friend … been missing you. I can completely relate to your post … as a mom and wife working full time, I feel pulled in many different directions. Drinking was my “me” time, my reward, my “don’t anyone ask me for one more GD thing” while I slurp down this lovely Chardonnay. I hope you’re enjoying your time off from work and your shoulder is healing up nicely!

    • This really helped me, thanks for posting. Might head over to the Alcohol Experiment and read some more!

  • reena posted a new activity comment 3 months, 4 weeks ago

    I always drank around my period as a younger woman, I relate. Is there a way to give yourself a treat, an extra something something and name it as such for those days? I wish I had had the awareness then. Be well, you are doing great xx

  • reena posted a new activity comment 3 months, 4 weeks ago

    you rock @hammer123 congrats!

  • reena posted a new activity comment 3 months, 4 weeks ago

    Enjoy @Tom4500, what a gift you are to your family, I know you will shrug that one off but truly, would have loved to go one day to work with my Granddad! Hope the physical things resolve soon Buddy.

  • reena posted a new activity comment 3 months, 4 weeks ago

    Maybe “flip” this into a true full circle of coming back to your true authentic self, the one who makes art, who carries the beloved few things with her and as part of that, packs and unpacks them with care as they are part of her journey. Light some sage and smudge your room to free it of all trace of hard feelings, these are your days now, these are the valuables you have chosen and they bear no trace of anyone but you. Love and light dear friend, you are moving forward, the light is almost here. xx@tipsytoegal.

  • reena posted a new activity comment 4 months ago

    you rock! @Ro! congrats

    • Ro replied 4 months ago

      You rock you rocker you lol hope you’re well friend over the ocean 😊

  • reena posted a new activity comment 4 months ago

    you are doing so well @tipsytoegal, one step in front of the other. Admire your tenacity. xx

  • reena posted a new activity comment 4 months, 1 week ago

    Congrats @Mari135, I have enjoyed and learned from all of your morning posts. Your compassion and empathy shine through your shares, you cheerlead so many here, me included. Thank you and it’s been beautiful to watch you bloom. xx

  • reena posted a new activity comment 4 months, 1 week ago

    Happy 50 Dear Friend! Enjoy xx @JM

  • reena posted a new activity comment 4 months, 1 week ago

    Thanks for the shout out @Tom4500, I read just about everyday here and cheer peeps on but not much posting. Still out of work, going back in a couple months. Feeling better physically and very busy with family events. Glad this overwhelming time of year for you is almost over. Have a great holiday weekend with your family next week!

    • @tom4500 glad to hear you’re surviving tax season … not sure how you do it! @reena been thinking of you … hope you’re fully healed from surgery. Will you be going back to work at the same place or something new?

  • reena posted a new activity comment 4 months, 1 week ago

    I love your compassion, it always brings me to tears, @mari135

  • reena posted a new activity comment 4 months, 1 week ago

    I feel for you, and hear the gloom a bit in your post. I have many issues in my long term marriage but one that would bug me would be non working. I get it. You are wise to keep your council and plan a lovely afternoon for yourself. Sometimes soothing myself and ignoring or letting go of what the other one is doing really lifts my spirits. @wakingowl.

    • @reena thank you, the not working is making me somewhat crazy, I keep my inqueries as to what’s going on on the job front to a minimum as he always gets super defensive and unpleasant when I bring it up. I need to concentrate on my own healing right now so that’s what I’m doing.

  • reena posted a new activity comment 4 months, 2 weeks ago

    That’s amazing, so proud of you. @newstart100!xx

  • reena posted a new activity comment 4 months, 2 weeks ago

    hoping for the best, just one step at a time buddy, @Ralph.

  • reena posted a new activity comment 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    I read through your other post @tipsytoegal, someone told me something I will always remember and I was in an AA meeting of all places: when you want to run the most is when you need to stay>>>>>>> I hope you let yourself just settle for a bit. Changing where you live won’t change the fear and hurt inside. It’s called “doing a geographic” and can apply to anyone not just people who identify as alcoholics. Wherever you go, there you are. Maybe just sit with things for a bit. Spring will be here soon, love and hugs.

    • @reena That is very good advice and yes, that is what I am realizing now too. It was good for me to run from HIM and the area he lives in 6 states away, but now that I am back here in MN I’m gonna stay put in the home I am familiar with and with people around me who knew me before all this crap happened. They are helping to remind me of that person and little by little…. I’m seeing her again too. 🙂

  • reena posted a new activity comment 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    Its very windy with a little chill in the air but spring is on it’s way, the birds reassure me every morning with their excited chatter. @ChardaNO

  • reena posted a new activity comment 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    Hi old friend @ChardaNO, good to see you here and know things are moving forward for you and your husband. I still read almost everyday and cheer people on or just say hi. Be well. xxx

  • reena posted a new activity comment 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    Congrats you WINNER!!!! so proud of you @Iowadawn, she thought she could and SHE DID INDEED!!! xx

    • Ahhhhh…@reena how cool you tied that into this. My heart is swelling. I got that bracket “she believed she could so she did” at 6 months sober..a little but mighty self care gift. My Down syndrome son was enduring his second pacemaker surgery..he wasn’t moving air and yet he came out of it all!! And my face was still a fire put from chemo..skin cancer surgeries and chemo cream from Hell. My unofficial fiance was deployed in Afganistan and I was beginning the court stuff…and I wore that braclett with pride and resilience
      As you know the hard times continued…after New Years Eve I placed that braclett back in my drawer
      Well guess who’s now wearing it TODAT ?
      Xoxo dear friend

  • reena posted a new activity comment 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    Aww so nice to be thought of thank you @Prudence. what a lovely post. Sounds like so so much fun. Happy for all of you wonderful peeps!!

  • reena posted a new activity comment 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    So proud of you buddy!! @Tim big hugs!

  • reena posted a new activity comment 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    @tipsytoegal, you know, you have been through an immense amount over these last couple years. You found out about your husbands’ affair, you broke up your long term marriage, you sewed yourself together and got sober through all this. Your leap of faith to find love is very common after a marriage fails. You are among many many people who go on to do the same. It’s human to seek love and acceptance after what you went through. Don’t be ashamed, don’t anyone tell you that you should be. Keep opening your heart to yourself, that’s your most beautiful trait, your loving nature. I hate to see you bashing yourself. Please keep writing, stay here and be with the peeps that love you. xxx and shame on your mom for what she did. Shame shame. As nice moms to our kids we can see where we got the guilt shame complexs in the first place. xxx

  • reena posted a new activity comment 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    Have an amazing weekend @Prudence and all my LS Faves!!! lots of love to you allxx

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