Thanks, lady. I’ve been thinking about you lately, looked you up a few times. It seems our presence here has evolved some. Wasn’t this the year of your family milestone birthdays, including yours? Don’t recall how that turned out. I expect your shoulder’s healed, you and your husband are growing accustomed to your retirement, and I still say forever while you still say just for today. Fond memories of you and our “early U.S. group”. Mostly still here, just not as much, it seems.
We did a similar tour to where they make lemoncello and that is the least interesting thing about that beautiful part of the world. The Amalfi coast is absolutely breathtaking. I am so proud of you and admire you so much for doing this and being the cool honest lady you are @Prudence.
Loved walking Rome alone, sitting in the cafes and watching the people. They do know how to drink and will have one at lunch and leave the bottle on the table. Enjoy my friend! and yes @Janus2 the men in Rome are very handsome and absolutely know it! lol
You are amazing and always so gracious about yourself, it’s wonderful to read this update, I know it came at a price, this cautious removing of yourself from the situation. Love and hugs to you beautiful friend as you blossom over and over. xx@begoodtomyself.
so sorry @Mrs-d, I have had vertigo and it can be awful. The nauseous feelings are just the worse. I also found the meclizine to be like taking a huge amount of sedative. I am sure your doc mentioned the positional cure? They reposition the crystals in your inner ear by moving your head….. sometimes it works like magic … if that is the reason you have vertigo. If it’s a virus, it does not work unfortunately. Take carexx
Yeah @reena he told me about this exercise called the Epley manoeuvre which I did earlier.. might have helped. Also taking anti nausea pills. Am able to do a few things out of bed today but pretty quickly want to collapse back down feeling bleaurgh…
@mrs-d I came down with this over 2 years ago. Simply awful. I went to the doctor and she gave me meds and printed instructions on how to do the maneuvers. I tried it with my husband’s help and it did nothing. Several weeks later I happened to be talking to a friend who is a physical therapist specifically trained in treating BPPV. She said people can do worse damage when trying the exercise on their own depending on which ear canal the crystals have settled. You can actually shift more crystals into the wrong canal. In any event, she treated me and in one session I was better. Please please seek out a PT in your area who is specifically trained in dealing with this and knows how to do the maneuvers properly. It was like a miracle for me. This was over 2 years ago and it hasn’t come back.
I think she is over saturating her market and the blow back is real. @janus2, I feel that way about Oprah for years, and all my friends were buying into that whole Oprah adoration…. I think for many women (probably white middle class American women) she is speaking their language and she is not movie star beautiful or fancy like so many women my age, so thats appealing to see someone who looks “real”. Anyho, you are a bitch who you foolin girl??? LOL so am I and we can find our own salty pirate woman heros right here on LS. @janus2
I think that’s the problem for some New Zealanders @reena …. being treated like a market. It’s maybe hard to see the water you’re swimming in but everything in the States is so completely monetised … I can’t speak for Janus but that’s part of my avoidance of people like Brene. She probably has some great messages but I just can’t bear the big, over-blown commercialisation of it.
I guess when you’re aiming at a big market (America and by extension the rest of the world) you’ve got to go large.
Wow that got the sparrows twittering lol. Nah @lee no offence taken what so ever In fact i enjoyed what everyone had to say and their interpretation of her. Im sure she has data, cheers @watergirl . I have watched Ted talks, and i must admit, ALOT, now commercialised and craks me up how they have to stand in a circle! I would purposely jump out of it lol, anywhoo. I may think what other topics i could broach, to get us looking outwardly and not inwardly. Mmm thats got me thinkn. Take care out there, gunna be a bit day in Blenheim. My day will be busy planning for term. Ive been so lazy. Peace out all enjoy ya Saturday xo
I really related to this Annie Grace video about drinking or running away to drink alone to feel rebellious or just do something for ME. As a spouse, mom, hospital worker, daughter, I would sometimes feel like i just wanted to run away and that always involved drinking too much, alone or with fake booze friends. In the end, it left me alone, sick and feeling shitty and sometimes letting down people I love the most. Yet I still struggled with that urge…. this video breaks it down. I wish she gave more turn around suggestions but I think @mrs-d does a good job of that in today blog post and in the toolbox. Any way. I am here reading everyday, I comment but not posting due to some stuff I have to keep offline right now. I am not back to work and fully enjoying the spring now that I am almost recovered from my work injury. Thanks for the lovely shout outs @janus2 (up at sparrow’s fart today), @ro and @R51 and @mari135.xx to all.
Stay safe and well @reena. I come and go as my schedule permits and sometimes I miss things but I always come back and look for my groupies. Please know that you are very special to me and I think of you often sweet lady!!!
Hey friend … been missing you. I can completely relate to your post … as a mom and wife working full time, I feel pulled in many different directions. Drinking was my “me” time, my reward, my “don’t anyone ask me for one more GD thing” while I slurp down this lovely Chardonnay. I hope you’re enjoying your time off from work and your shoulder is healing up nicely!
I always drank around my period as a younger woman, I relate. Is there a way to give yourself a treat, an extra something something and name it as such for those days? I wish I had had the awareness then. Be well, you are doing great xx
Maybe “flip” this into a true full circle of coming back to your true authentic self, the one who makes art, who carries the beloved few things with her and as part of that, packs and unpacks them with care as they are part of her journey. Light some sage and smudge your room to free it of all trace of hard feelings, these are your days now, these are the valuables you have chosen and they bear no trace of anyone but you. Love and light dear friend, you are moving forward, the light is almost here. xx@tipsytoegal.
Congrats @Mari135, I have enjoyed and learned from all of your morning posts. Your compassion and empathy shine through your shares, you cheerlead so many here, me included. Thank you and it’s been beautiful to watch you bloom. xx
Thanks for the shout out @Tom4500, I read just about everyday here and cheer peeps on but not much posting. Still out of work, going back in a couple months. Feeling better physically and very busy with family events. Glad this overwhelming time of year for you is almost over. Have a great holiday weekend with your family next week!
@tom4500 glad to hear you’re surviving tax season … not sure how you do it! @reena been thinking of you … hope you’re fully healed from surgery. Will you be going back to work at the same place or something new?
I feel for you, and hear the gloom a bit in your post. I have many issues in my long term marriage but one that would bug me would be non working. I get it. You are wise to keep your council and plan a lovely afternoon for yourself. Sometimes soothing myself and ignoring or letting go of what the other one is doing really lifts my spirits. @wakingowl.
@reena thank you, the not working is making me somewhat crazy, I keep my inqueries as to what’s going on on the job front to a minimum as he always gets super defensive and unpleasant when I bring it up. I need to concentrate on my own healing right now so that’s what I’m doing.
I read through your other post @tipsytoegal, someone told me something I will always remember and I was in an AA meeting of all places: when you want to run the most is when you need to stay>>>>>>> I hope you let yourself just settle for a bit. Changing where you live won’t change the fear and hurt inside. It’s called “doing a geographic” and can apply to anyone not just people who identify as alcoholics. Wherever you go, there you are. Maybe just sit with things for a bit. Spring will be here soon, love and hugs.
@reena That is very good advice and yes, that is what I am realizing now too. It was good for me to run from HIM and the area he lives in 6 states away, but now that I am back here in MN I’m gonna stay put in the home I am familiar with and with people around me who knew me before all this crap happened. They are helping to remind me of that person and little by little…. I’m seeing her again too. 🙂
Ahhhhh…@reena how cool you tied that into this. My heart is swelling. I got that bracket “she believed she could so she did” at 6 months sober..a little but mighty self care gift. My Down syndrome son was enduring his second pacemaker surgery..he wasn’t moving air and yet he came out of it all!! And my face was still a fire put from chemo..skin cancer surgeries and chemo cream from Hell. My unofficial fiance was deployed in Afganistan and I was beginning the court stuff…and I wore that braclett with pride and resilience As you know the hard times continued…after New Years Eve I placed that braclett back in my drawer Well guess who’s now wearing it TODAT ? Xoxo dear friend
@tipsytoegal, you know, you have been through an immense amount over these last couple years. You found out about your husbands’ affair, you broke up your long term marriage, you sewed yourself together and got sober through all this. Your leap of faith to find love is very common after a marriage fails. You are among many many people who go on to do the same. It’s human to seek love and acceptance after what you went through. Don’t be ashamed, don’t anyone tell you that you should be. Keep opening your heart to yourself, that’s your most beautiful trait, your loving nature. I hate to see you bashing yourself. Please keep writing, stay here and be with the peeps that love you. xxx and shame on your mom for what she did. Shame shame. As nice moms to our kids we can see where we got the guilt shame complexs in the first place. xxx
Sorry @Prudence to hear of all the stress. Enjoy the LS meet up and hug everyone for me. xx ps I think @Ro is right about guys and moving on…. “i live in the present….” OMG now that is holier than thou right there… lol.
@begoodtomyself, you are such a hero, in your own life. That sounds odd but I know how hard this must be for you. Wherever this road is going you are walking it with grace and dignity and a lot of insight. Know we are here with you. xx
Im so sorry @Liberty. You are so intuitive and empathetic, no wonder you are feeling this deeply and so glad you wrote so eloquently to us about. Know you are thought of and sent the love you give here right on back to you…. xxx
Amazing, we are wrapping you in our arms, @kerryjean, I have been reading and following and please accept my condolences and love. You will be so proud of yourself and look back on this horrible time with the knowledge you were dignified and grounded, present for your husband and your family. xx
I think you realize it will never work. You will never be comfortable with them in their car in your drive. How will you go about your day. Saying that and sticking to it will be really hard. I think you will end up having to be truthful or sacrifice your peace of mind. Take care @Robynb.
I like getting up in the morning and going into my own space in the house and writing a little in my journal, and trying to meditate for a bit, I also use EFT tapping which I find helpful. Trying to incorporate these things into my day when I can. Nice list. @newstart100/
i’m sorry @Tim, I am also an “empath” or sensitive person, I pick up vibes or waves of emotions from others or just sometimes places themselves. Treat yourself gentle, is there something you can indulge in to feel better? Swim in the surf? probably cool there now tho. Whatever, sending good vibes (which you could possibly pick up too) out across the world buddy. Shut the news down. You have seen and heard enough. You are doing really well. Take care.