YEE HAA!! Not meaning to brag at all or make any of you who are just starting out to feel diminished in any way, as I was once right there where you are, and at that time I could not possibly have imagined reaching such a ridiculous number as I have reached today. S I X T E E N H U N D R E D D A YS!! Yeah…stretching out a bit here….wringing as much as I can out of it!! haha. I am playing Pogues and all sorts of old gorgeous Christmas songs while I take time away from my desk to decorate my little tree and celebrate being a sober hero for such a lot of days. It hasn’t all been easy, lots of big life changes, but each one I’ve made is for positive change, and has felt good and real and right and even wholesome (apart from taking up chocolate and binge cake and dessert eating . Everything about my life is enhanced, happier, better, calmer, more contented, more true to who I am. The best thing of all in all this is my son has still given up drinking, nearly 3 years for him. He saw how happy and together I was and wanted some for himself. My relationships with my two kids were always good but now they are amazing, and I feel great to be a Mum they can be proud of and want to spend time with. I don’t believe I ever would have done this without the amazing connection and support I get right here. I’ve been here since day one, and I’m still hanging on to the apron strings of this site because I love it, need the connection, and I love all of you and all the bravery and honesty and kindness I find here. What’s not to love?
So thank you all very much for helping me to get this far along and thank you @Mrs-D for being you, a powerful force with a gift so unique and so enormous that you have uplifted lives and souls all over the world. Shout out to my good friend and day buddy @Normaleelucid who is also 1600 days today. Power to ya girlfriend xoxo and Happy Days to everyone else xoxo
Wow wee @prudence and @normaleelucid – that is rock and roll right there! Love that your son was inspired by your example too. There is hope for my kids yet. 😉 Thanks for being big lamp lighters around here – you two, absolutely amazing. xx
Yay to you my sober life coach and friend!!! @Prudence. You are such a godsend here, you always express just what’s needed, and it’s so appreciated. You also hold out a big flare to anyone who is questioning whether you can still have fun and be a non drinker. Carry on Ms. Thing, swagger today!
That is an amazing achievement @Prudence. I would have once found that number unreachable but now I know that as each day goes by, it is, most wonderfully possible!!!! You’re absolutely inspiring, you are 😉
No, it hasn’t all been smooth sailing for you, that is for sure, however you have never ceased to be a massive support to people here, generously sharing your successes and struggles.
Huge congratulations!!!!! XXXXXXX
@prudence thanks for making long-term sobriety seem not only possible but joyful and fulfilling. Thanks for the generosity and wisdom of your posts and thanks for the satay sauce recipe – made it and it is delicious. X
I am so glad today is the day I dedcided to take a moment and come back on here and now I get to congratulate you on an absolutely amazing achievement – you are so inspirational to me and so many of the words you have shared with me has penetrated very deeply. It’s an absolute Yee- haaa day for you and sending lots of love your way 💜
Thank you very much @Ellislou that mean a lot to me. How are you? I am often thinking of you and hoping that somehow you are trucking along okay. Such a huge load to have to carry. I hope some help has miraculously appeared? Love and hugs to you. xoxo
Hey @Prudence yes we’re trucking along things have a new rhythm and I have reached new places of acceptance which all make it feel a bit easier. I haven’t had any help but also came to terms with that – I work very very hard managing it all but I am tough and can do it luckily and we should get a payout soon which will make the future feel a bit clearer and maybe enable me to get a bit of a break. The payout won’t be huge but hopefully enough to soften the blow a bit. I am loving the pottery work which is great and as you know hardship enables us to grow and even soften its sure as hell not easy but maybe one day in years to come we get to look back and appreciate how we have grown. John will never be the same person again and neither will I and I am slowly coming to terms with that. Thank you for your wishes and I think of you and @Ro so often
Thank you @prudence for being …… ooh, for being…..hmmm……for being just an amazing backbone to this site, a constant source of wisdom and inspiration and kindness and yep the odd much needed firm word too. I’m not surprised you have a wonderful relationship with your children – lucky them – and from where I sit, I think your life – with its ups and downs, its lulls and excitements – looks rich and fulfilling and utterly intentional. It is wonderful knowing you, and I thank you for your presence here ❤️
Oh @Trace you’ve made me tear up. Thank you so much for your lovely words. My next intentional thing is to get skinny paddling in the second hand double kayak that gets delivered today, and Francis arrives too, we’ve gone halves in it. It is a hope as well as an intention. I’m so sorry that you are struggling a bit, I wish I was more useful with stuff like depression or feeling not good enough. I think you are amazing and gorgeous and highly intelligent and interesting and funny and very caring of others. Perhaps you need a wee firm word or two!! haha What is there not to love about you? Snap out of it and from now on live with the intention to love yourself first, and from there you can love each day and everyone in it…..well maybe not everyone…..but anyway with a really high value placed on yourself things get easier, lighter, bouncier. It’s kind of subtle, like I don’t wake up every day and think “Yeah man, I’m king pin around here, highly valued and loved by me” it is more just an inner thing of knowing I’m being the best I can be and that is enough. Even when I scoff chocolate or something else a bit evil, I am kind to myself for my weakness and just glad is isn’t booze or cigarettes. Have a gorgeous day Trace xo
Wow, @Prudence, just W O W ! !
You were one of the first people to welcome me here. I’ve always enjoyed reading your straightforward, practical and encouraging posts. You’re a huge inspiration to everyone and I love it that your family has followed in your footsteps. And @Normaleelucid – congratulations to you too!
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