I’ve been here since day one of the LS website, having ditched the booze on 20th July 2014. That was after 40 years of being a high functioning party girl, self employed in various businesses, marriage with children, end of marriage, a broken heart, single mother of teens, a new business, a new home in a new community, some new friendships as well as the old, and all the while an intimate and often self-destructive relationship with my little buddy Southern Comfort. So, I’ve now been four and half years sober and my life is amazing. I’ve achieved my lifetime dream of building a home on the land I grew up on, overlooking the sea near Akaroa. Even better, my son built it for me on the land my father left me many years ago……3 generations of love! And even better than that, my son saw how mellow and happy my life was after 18 months alcohol free, and gave it up himself, so 3 years for him now and he’s only 30, and doing really well in his building business. My daughter is a normie and still likes a wine but doesn’t seem to over indulge. I thank myself every day for giving it up, and I feel so grateful for the strong, staunch and loving relationships I have with my children. Everything is possible when we take the booze away. Happiness, contentment, self-confidence, self-respect, clarity, wisdom, growth. I am very grateful to Lotta Dann and to every member of this website. Thank you. It is the connection I have here that keeps me sober. That’s why I’m still here. I’d miss you all too much if I let go the apron strings.
Hi @Mari135 I often have thoughts of “a drink would be nice, a long cool southern comfort with plenty of ice and diet coke” especially when people are here like yesterday ploughing into it, my daughter and her friends…….but that thought is immediately countered with another reinforcing thought ” but I am a greedy little pisshead when I drink…[Read more]
Sounds like a great plan Tipsy. Maybe you could try out somewhere up near Big Sur or Sausalito (just to keep a bit North of Oregon coz the nutter will still be there) and I know it to be very beautiful up there. It has probably changed and become overpopulated now, it must be nigh on 35 years or so since I was there….sheesh….
Sounds like you…[Read more]
Devastated to know of the massive terrorist attacks in Sri Lanka. The Guardian say there are 207 dead and that is expected to rise. So painful to try and understand the world we are living in, and how it has come to this.
I am glad I am sober, and do not numb myself to the pain of such events of madness and cruelty.
But I am having trouble…[Read more]
I woke up to that news. It’s heart wrenching. I just heard they were all suicide bombers. I think you are right to acknowledge this tragedy, with so many members we never know who might need some kind empathy today.
It is truly ghastly. However, there is an interesting viewpoint, with factual information, put forward by Stephen Pinker who shows how much the human race has evolved and improved despite staggering over population. It doesn’t help with the immediate horror of these events, but it really puts things in perspective. ( you tube talks, Ted Talk,…[Read more]
When I gave up I continued the ritual but with an alcohol free drink. It sounds weird or stupid, but it worked for me. I would get a lovely glass with ice and lemon and a bit of mint and fresh lime and soda, and I’d get myself a few snacks cheese and olives and some crackers, and I’d take the time relax and enjoy before beginnig dinner. Often I’d…[Read more]
Good morning brave hearts. I have a houseful here this morning. Two lovely young and very beautiful Japanese ladies, my booking.com guests. Then Georgia and Dane arrived a couple of days early, without the Staffys which is helpful while I’ve got guests. The girls leave this morning then I need to quickly get ready for a new lot this afternoon.…[Read more]
Good evening Tribe. Hope all the Kiwi’s are watching Aroha Nui. For those of you overseas it is a massive concert in solidarity and tribute to the victims of the terrorist attack on our city. Aroha Nui means much love. Live coverage on channel 3, really good.
You just haven’t decided yet @Davidfs and once you do it will be much easier, the angst of will I or won’t I will disappear because your decision will be not negotiable. That fact will give you strength, and you will just do it, just like me, hehe x
I am looking forward to hearing all about this new job @Morgan,give me aring if you ever have time now you’re a full timer!! You will cope and you will thrive and your gifts will be appreciated. And soon you will also find the right house and another chapter will begin. You are doing fantastically well ever since you moved from the other house…[Read more]
The restoration of your beautuful village will be a sight to behold as it re-claims itself after the fires @Ellisou and it will restore the faith of many souls as the beauty returns. Lots of love back to, I often think of you, I will come and see you one day xoxo
That would be wonderful @prudence and bring @Ro and @Janus2 with you Janus needs to learn some afrikaans and xhosa swear words 😉
It truly is a very beautiful warm hearted country with such incredible diversity you need at least 4 weeks just to get a taste of it all.
How lovely it would be to meet 💜
@JS123 it is a song from the 70’s by and band called Max Merrit and the Meteors but I don’t know the name of the song. Tried to google it for you but haven’t found it. They had another lyric in another song I loved too. Something about “the dust of the legacy you left behind” it was beautiful, about the ending of a relationship. Just little…[Read more]
I hope you will surprise yourself @Liberty and I believe it is always worth taking a chance. Even if that chance does not bring the exact desired outcome, it does bring change and growth and stimulation and something new and real.
I guess moving here was an easy decision for me coz it’s an hour from Christchurch and I inherited the land and I had…[Read more]
I love that value of yours @prudence, it’s deeply respectful.
Just Mum; she lives near my sis on the Kapiti coast. Nothing to inherit and that’s ok, I didn’t expect it.
I thought I might like it round that area, lots of people do, but I don’t feel a connection there at all.
South is beautiful! Stunning. I think the thing to do is what you’ve…[Read more]
@AprilsFool I am known here at LS for calling it a decision, because I believe if you don’t make a decision you haven’t really decided to give it up and will end up with a series of day ones. I am like you in that once I decided to give up it became Not Negotiable so when big cravings or feelings of booze nostalgia or any sort of a tug at my…[Read more]
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