• Prudence posted a new activity comment 1 day, 23 hours ago

    Sad indeed, I am very sorry to hear this JM xx

  • Prudence posted a new activity comment 2 days ago

    I might be a bit late but HUGE congratulations to you my friend @emjaycee. I am so glad I met you and became your friend and so very pleased for you how much better your life is without the booze destroying your cruise. Lots of love xoxo

  • Prudence posted an update 2 days ago

    Hello team. I’ve been a bit awol while tearing around southern Italy at a fast pace, not much downtime between activities. What an amazing time I’ve been having. My heart is full. I walked the Path of the Gods from just above Amalfi to Positano. It is a long walk, about 3 or 4 hours, quite a rugged and rocky track, and of the utmost beauty, high in the hills looking over the Mediterranian and beautiful rocky cliffs and as you get towards the end you see Positano looking so amazing and beautiful, and then to reach it you walk down 1700 ancient stone steps. My legs are sore but I’m so happy to have that memory. There were shepherds with goats who stayed in the hills in old stone huts. Had to stop and let the goats go past. It’s been the most beautiful time learning about the ancient history of many of the places I’ve visited. I arrived in France yesterday and I’m sitting up in bed in my most gorgeously French apartment my firends have got ready for me above their house. It is so cool, and pink and absolutley charming and overlooking the beautiful countryside, and it has a lovely big sunny and light bathroom that even has a bath. Unfortunately my friend Steves’s partner Michelle has had to fly back to Australia as her Dad is dying. We had hoped to do Paris together and she didn’t know it but I’d planned to drag her off to the Riveria for a few days, so now things are a bit different and I will adapt. I will chill out here and catch up on business and correspendence and have a good rest, then figure it all out as I go. Soon I’ll have a bath then I’m going to try to pump up the tires on a ricketly old pushbike and bike into the quaint little ancient village. In Italy I was around tables every night being the only one not drinking, the last night they really cut loose (lightweights!!!) jeez! I could have showed them a thing or two about how to drink!! Hahaha but No booze is good news for me. Fresh as little daisy in the mornings, and looking forward to my virgin…[Read more]

    • That coastline-wow 😍 and the history huh. We got a tsunami warning but then that was cancelled. Ooh food from France now! Cheese mmmmm and pate mmmmm and pastries aaarrrgghh yummm. Enjoy it all @prudence 🇨🇵🇨🇵🇨🇵

    • oh get you gal trippin around Europe all sober and fabulous, love it! x

    • Sounds amazing! I’m so proud of you making this happen. Creating clear and truly present memories. Big hugs xo

    • Oh it all sounds like a gorgeous book, views, quaint little places to stay and the fabulous heroine lapping it all up!!!! Go you girl, enjoy every moment. Much love❤️

    • What a great read. Sounds absolutely perfect. So very happy for you.

    • I can just imagine you biking around the village 😁 Have you brought yourself any cowboy boots? So glad your having an amazing time

    • you sound absolutely full of life, @prudence, keep on. best.

    • Sounds like going to heaven – hey, maybe it is how it will be, but no sore legs

  • Prudence posted a new activity comment 5 days, 9 hours ago

    Oh yes @Juliana I remember you saying you had some roots here. It’s such a gorgeous town, I really love it. I love the way people promenade around the streets at nights, tons of them, just walking around looking beautiful. I am now addicted to dark chocolate gelato too….oops!

  • Prudence posted a new activity comment 5 days, 14 hours ago

    Thank you @Reena xox

  • Prudence posted an update 6 days, 9 hours ago

    Hello sober heroes. Still in the land of living over here, been a bit preoccupied in Naples, then Pompeii, and this morning climbing up to the crater of Mt Vesuvius,then on down here to Sorrento. I’ve absolutely loved everywhere I’ve been. Pompeii was astounding, the ruins of the old city that got wiped out by the eruption of Mt Vesuvius volcano in 79AD and then re-discovered and unearthed in 1743. Mind bogling stuff, amazingan beautiful and powerful. Sorento is a gorgeous wee place, the shops are divine, the place is very picturesque, tomorrow we arre going out by boat to the Isle of Capri, and we can jump off the boat intot he mediteranean. Going to be fun trying to squash into my togs after all the gelato and crunchy bread and pasta and amazing seafood I’ve been eating. I will need help when I get home to lose the kilos I’m gaining haha but not coming all this way to deprive my self of anything (except booze and that’s no deprivation). Everyone drinks on the tour and tonight the conversation was all about wines and lemoncello for at least an hour. I just sipped my sparkling mineral water and felt proud that I don’t drink, and when asked, I say why. “Because I’d rather be my real self at all times with nothing to dull my brain and make me less of myself. I have learned to manage every situation without booze, and I like my life better without it”. They can think whatever they like but mostly I think they are a little intrigued. Tomorrow we have a tour of a lemoncello makers farm and lunch somewhere with free lemoncello and wine, and I shall happily give mine away and ask for mineral water. Hang in there those of you doing it hard. One of these days you are going to absolutely love th elife you are creating for yourselves and for those who love you. Lots of love to you all xoxo

    • hero!! x

    • Well done. I’ve been to Italy and agree Pompeii is unbelievable. My visit was before my sober days. I hope to go back there so I can take in its beauty without the fog of alcohol.

    • I’m glad you are seeing so much in your Italian travels. It is beautiful around Sorrento. Once my Mom rented a house for a.month there and all of us went to visit, spending time with our Italian cousins too. I think I told you my grandfather came to NY when he was a teenager and some of his brothers and sisters stayed in Italy. He was from Castellemare di Stabia. He was always grateful for the life he was able to build in the US, starting selling fruit from a push cart in New Haven. Recently my son was remembering when he was in Pompeii as a little boy, lamenting that he didn’t appreciate the experience, because he just kept thinking “I am sooooo hot!”. Keep the travel reports coming, please!

      • Oh yes @Juliana I remember you saying you had some roots here. It’s such a gorgeous town, I really love it. I love the way people promenade around the streets at nights, tons of them, just walking around looking beautiful. I am now addicted to dark chocolate gelato too….oops!

    • Buongiorno @Prudence! It all sounds amazing, including that answer you gave to your group of why you don’t drink. I love your updates. Swimming in the Mediterranean tomorrow, nice! xo

    • @prudence You are Amazing and Inspiring!!!!

    • We did a similar tour to where they make lemoncello and that is the least interesting thing about that beautiful part of the world. The Amalfi coast is absolutely breathtaking. I am so proud of you and admire you so much for doing this and being the cool honest lady you are @Prudence.

    • Oh wow what an amazing holiday you are having!!! Pompeii must have been amazing to see!

  • Prudence posted a new activity comment 1 week, 2 days ago

    Promise it happens xx

  • Prudence posted a new activity comment 1 week, 2 days ago

    It will, I promise, and after 10 days you’ll kind of turn a wee corner and get right in the groove. Hard to believe right now, but true xx

  • Prudence posted an update 1 week, 2 days ago

    @Morgan you asked me the other day to write about what it’s like to be here without my man who I planned this Italian tour with. I’m on my ph so will keep it brief. Firstly he is not my man. He is simply someone I kind of loved for a short time, or at least tried to. Being here without him is way better than if he was here. He can’t irritate me!! Being here alone is interesting, challenging and empowering. I am a little nervous going out to restaurants in the evenings, table for one, and because I am nervous and also embarrassed at my ignorance of the language, I rush through ordering by picking something I know is vegetarian like spinach ricotta ravioli or margherita pizza (yep carb overload going on!), then regret not trying roman artichoke or something else. As for getting around, that is the biggest challenge and that is why I’ve walked most places. To ring a taxi is hard. I got 3 taxis yesterday, had to get people to help me. To say where I am for pickup. I asked some guys in a carpet shop in Trastevere, they were very helpful. I am with the tour group now for a week, then to France. Today to Naples and then Pompeii. I think if someone is over 60 and hasn’t been to Europe and doesn’t have someone suitable to travel with it is almost their duty to get the heck on with it, take the bull by the horns, put one foot in front of the other, and just do it. It is adding a richness to my very soul to be in this wonderful ancient fabulous city. I will return. There is so much more to see. Thanks for asking xx

    • Wow you are brave but I get you when you say empowering. You are seeing a new culture and land through your eyes only, not coloured by anyone else, you can think your own thoughts, love what you love and create your own schedule. It is a great adventure that you can be so proud of and I know you will learn lots and love lots for it. ❤️

    • what a bloody adventure – go on, eat something crazy tomorrow!.

    • Fantastically brave of you Prudence! I’m impressed. I love it there too, so also really jealous. Venice is my favourite for some reason. Then Florence then Rome. Pompeii is bizarre and I found very eerie. Actually love it all. Enjoy and soak it up for lots of fantastic memories!

    • Love this!

    • Eww who wants to be irritated on their big OE – not you haha. You’re a trooper, soak it all in. One day you’ll look back and think wow did I really do that. Yep you did! Xo

    • So awesome @prudence! Thanks for sharing your journey with us!

    • @Prudence you inspiration, you! What a rock star! Living vicariously ….

    • Oh my goodness! I forgot about your big trip you were going to take! So glad I saw this! Wow, you’re brave and inspiring and heck yea, go for it! Do it all! I shall live it vicariously through your words. 🙂 🙂

    • Ohh I love this so much!! xooxox
      You go and grab the bull of this trip by its horns. I find travelling alone both lonely and amazing at the same time. I probably traveled more alone than with a partner my entire life. Ordering garlic shrimp by myself in Cadiz, Southern Spain. (also getting wasted alone…so I’d like to repeat all those trips but do them sober this time around!!!)
      Have so much fun!!!!!

    • Very brave and powerful post @Prudence! I agree. I just turned 60 and think “the hell with it, just get on with whatever time I have yet to live”. Be safe while being daring and enjoy your wonderful trip!

    • Go girl, traveling by yourself can be so so invigorating and scary, but very rewarding, .Your a star our @prudence XXX XXX

    • You are truly inspirational. I really wanted to hear your thoughts about this, as I am so weirdly wimpy about doing new things, or even going to the beach, on my own. I love it once I am there, but the barriers are HUGE.
      I think I might have mini panic attacks in a crowed city with no language … It is so nice there are helpful people around. They probably think you are stylish and brave and love to help.
      Is the food expensive? I remember, 1000s of yrs ago, we were shocked by the prices and resorted to bread and cheese a bit. My ex ex did like to stay in far too expensive places though, so maybe that swallowed up the hard earned waitressing savings.
      Please keep all the details possible flowing – LOVE IT, drinking it in as I drown in paperwork and mundane meetings.XXXXXX

    • @prudence, YOU ROCK 🙂

  • Prudence posted a new activity comment 1 week, 2 days ago

    Thanks for thinking of me mate. Off to Naples and Pompeii today. Yay! Xxx

  • Prudence posted a new activity comment 1 week, 3 days ago

    I decided I was an idiot when I drink. I decided I was dependant on alcohol. I was not my best self when drinking. I could run business and home and family but there was a deep part in me that knew I could be so much more than I was being. I decided that I would give the piss a miss and find my bliss. I drank for heaps for 40 years, from 18 to 58. I saw @Mrs-D on the TV and in that moment I knew I would stop, I knew then that I could and that I would, and so I did.
    Deciding is actually the key to success. It takes all the angst out of it. There’s no will I or won’t I. It is not negotiable. “No thank you, I don’t drink”. Go well. Be wise. Be brave. You will never look back.

  • Prudence posted a new activity comment 1 week, 3 days ago

    Great to read this @Teazy, and honestly, one day you will like parties again, you just won’t be the last to leave any more. I love parties, for all the reasons they were meant to be for (before we turned them into big fat excuses to get messy). Catching up with friends, dressing up, looking good, listening to good music, eating nice food, having good conversations, remembering everything, being our best selves. Parties are fun once we have learned to be ourselves without booze. I love mostly all the reasons you are loving your life now though, doesn’t matter if you don’t like parties any more. xxx

  • Prudence posted an update 1 week, 3 days ago

    Hello Heroes. I’ve just got back from the most massive walk. I walked all the way into Central Rome with the help of google maps, with plenty of wrong turns and a very higgledy-piggledy way of getting there, but it was absolutely fascinating. Tons of little piazzas everywhere with vespas and little cars screaming around them and up the wee laneways, and oh it was all so gorgeous. Took heaps of photos (again!) can’t help myself. Saw the Trevi fountain and the Pantheon, glad I wasn’t on a guided tour, they were everywhere, following each other like sheep with the headphones on. Once was enough and frankly I was rather pleased when I lost the group yesterday. I’ve walked for such a long way (for a change!) and hardly even noticed coz it was all such a big eye opener for me. I’m just in love with all those little cobbled laneways with creepers and vines growing up the buildings and flower pots in the windows. The ancient statues and fountains are all amazing and abundant but it’s those little lanes I love the most. I haven’t thought much about drinking or not drinking. Coz I don’t drink, so why would I waste any energy on it. Other people drink. Any I’ve seen here at restaurants all seem to be very civilized about it. I think they know how to do it in Europe, they are taught young. It is bad form to be drunk. We in New Zealand have no such education, we mainly drink to get drunk, at least I did, I better be careful and speak only for myself. I never saw the point in having one or two, why bother starting at all? Haha oh well those days are over rover! I am enjoying a nice sparkling water and sitting out on my tiny balcony watching the pulsating beat of life going on in the street below. Happy days and nights to you all xoxo

    • Loving hearing your updates about your travels @prudence!!! Keep ‘em coming! you are inspiring me to go on a sober soul growing trip of my own. What a Rockstar you are xoxo

    • Hi @Prudence, I love your updates! Rome is such a great walking city, so much to see, so beautiful. Have a wonderful time, Bellissima! xo

    • Ooh sounds so fab and relaxing! ❤️❤️

    • @prudence — this sounds absolutely wonderful. thank you for sharing.

    • I will enjoy these visual wonders as I head into my not-so-picturesque garage 🙁 🙁 🙁

    • Ohhh you have a way with words when it comes to describing landscapes and impressions. Felt like I was taking a walk through Rome for a minute there myself. oxoxox Thanks for the update!!! By the way, to answer your question I am from Germany and have dual citizenship of Germany/Belgium due to two nationality-upbringing. 🙂 oxox Keep them travel adventures coming, but only if it feels right of course. It’s ok to be offline, too.

    • if that were true, Prudence, no one in Europe would have an alcohol problem … and i’m pretty sure that’s not true.

    • Lol i hate those guided walks as well…. i end up mimicing peoples accents lol, i am so evil. So pleased your having a good time, imagine me on the balcony having a few laughs xo any hot look men?

    • Loved walking Rome alone, sitting in the cafes and watching the people. They do know how to drink and will have one at lunch and leave the bottle on the table. Enjoy my friend! and yes @Janus2 the men in Rome are very handsome and absolutely know it! lol

  • Prudence posted a new activity comment 1 week, 3 days ago

    Haha hey @Mari who you be talking about gurl? How long have you been home for? Hope you are having a good time with your friends. I’ve never really been quite sure where exactly you come from, and I’m not sure if that is because you haven’t said? Or if I’ve forgotten? Anyway, enjoy the closeness of friends and family while you are there. xox

  • Prudence posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    This is all music to my ears @Tipsytoegal xx

  • Prudence posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    You’re welcome @Juliana and I’m glad if it makes you feel that way xo

  • Prudence posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    Doing a wee tour @Brummiebird, down to Naples, Pompie, Piza, Mt Vesuvio, some old ruins, Sorrento, Ilse of Capri, Amalfi Coast. Then after that I am meeting friends in Paris, well they are meeting me actually,off my flight, and driving me South to where they are living in a wee village called St Pierre Le Moutier and going to hang out with them for a few weeks and make it all up as I go. Should be pretty relaxing with them I think xo

  • Prudence posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    Yes that is St Peters Basilica and I went there @MissBennet, unfortunately my phone battery had gone flat by then. But I am still in absolute awe of that church. Magnificent. No words really can describe the incredible intracacy and detail, and all in marble and OMG it really did have a power all it’s own. Shame I didn’t get a chance to have a chat with Pope Francis, I reather admire him xx

  • Prudence posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    My pleasure Mari xx

  • Prudence posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    Yeah Baby, rock n roll xoxo

  • Prudence posted an update 1 week, 4 days ago

    For the vicarious travellers among us, and in particular @Ro @Mari135 and @Morgan ……I’ve just got home from today’s adventure. This was a tour of the Vatican which I booked online ages ago to make sure I could get a “skip the line” ticket, and I got the whole works with tour guide.. Left here just after 7.30 to meet guide on a certain street where Mario showed me I was to meet. No one showed up so walked up the road a bit where others were meeting tours, they told me my meeting place was up around the corner and walk down to traffic lights, cross road, round corner and go to office. They were right, instructions on ticket very vague and misleading. Off we went and what can I say? I am in absolute awe at what I have seen today. It’s blown me right out of my moccasins!!!! I knew it would be good, beautiful, amazing, ancient, historic, intricate and powerful. I was not prepared for the enormity of the beauty. The sheer power of it. After the magnificent vatican museum, massively huge, full of larger than life size statues of all sorts of saints and what not, tappestries bigger than a class room, marble baths, Helen of Troy’s coffin, ceilings of utter magnificence, a whole huge room of massive maps, hundreds of incredible urns, statues, giant candlesticks, all sorts. Then the Sistine Chapel itself. We were given 15 minutes in there to take it all in and were then to meet the guide out the back of the chapel. I was spellbound by the power of it. Looking at Michaelangelos work, I am still overwhelmed I think. I was very naughty and flicked off one photo in there with the risk of getting into all sorts of trouble (saw someone else do it). Just the one though. I was out the back at the right time but out the back is down complex stairways and eventually you see daylight and there’s hundreds of other people looking for their tour groups. Waited a bit and moved around looking for them, gave up, went into St Peters Basillica by myself, and again I am so…[Read more]

    • Amazing @prudence!😀😀😀

    • Wow Prudence. Thank you for posting. I love how you are going to keep the images in your heart.

    • Breathe it all in, at Prudence! That place will never leave you ~ you sound wonderful!

    • Your description is very powerful, thank you!

    • Ohhh loving this update of yours….thanks so much for sharing this adventure!!! xooxox Travel bug activated waaaaaa
      oxxoxox

    • It sounds wonderful! Thanks for helping us feel like we’re travelling too.

    • Isn’t it awesome! You’ve reimaged it for me. Like you, I couldn’t get enough. We went up into the dome. That’s an awesome experience. You can do that for free I think. The whole Vatican church where the Pope preaches now was mind-blowing. I sat there for ages soaking it in. I hope you got/get there. Sorry, I can’t remember what bits were on tour.

      • Yes that is St Peters Basilica and I went there @MissBennet, unfortunately my phone battery had gone flat by then. But I am still in absolute awe of that church. Magnificent. No words really can describe the incredible intracacy and detail, and all in marble and OMG it really did have a power all it’s own. Shame I didn’t get a chance to have a chat with Pope Francis, I reather admire him xx

    • Oooh! I’d obviously missed shed loads recently!
      Glad to hear you are having a gorgeous time in Rome.
      Where else are you headed on your travels?

      • Doing a wee tour @Brummiebird, down to Naples, Pompie, Piza, Mt Vesuvio, some old ruins, Sorrento, Ilse of Capri, Amalfi Coast. Then after that I am meeting friends in Paris, well they are meeting me actually,off my flight, and driving me South to where they are living in a wee village called St Pierre Le Moutier and going to hang out with them for a few weeks and make it all up as I go. Should be pretty relaxing with them I think xo

    • ahhhh. thank you, @prudence, keep writing.

    • Wow. Thank you for describing♡♡♡♡♡

  • Prudence posted a new activity comment 1 week, 5 days ago

    Oh, the tour is of the Vatican of course, it will include the Sistine Chapel where I long to see the ceiling frescoes by Michelangelo, St Peters Basillica, and the Vatican museums and some gardens I think

    • ^^^^^^ A M A Z I N G @prudence I can only dream about going to Rome wow the Sistine Chapel how fucking cool is that
      Flights sounded horrific – whaddya expect calling a baby girl Noah??? I mean c’mon lol and you should’ve taken some V.I.P poo stuff or whatever that terrible ad is for, to spray over stink pits-awful situation.
      Mmmm go to the cake shops omg get Gelato and ask for pasta that comes served in a wheel of parmesan- it looks amazing, and pizza omg I’m dying of jealousy get heaps of pics. My Mum got pickpocketed in The Vatican city by a guy dressed like a clergy man ( no shit!) so watch out for dodgy geezers! Have fun!!! Throw a coin in the Trevi for me 🙂

    • Oh, so cool! Thank you for filling us in..we are living vicariously through you, and happily so💛

  • Prudence posted an update 1 week, 5 days ago

    Good morning brave hearts. Well I’ve finally made it to beautiful Roma and I’m sitting up in my comfy bed watching the little flowerpots on the windowsills of the balcony which looks over busy vibrant streets. I’m enjoying the sounds of a big pulsating pumping city alive with all the frenetic energy it takes to make it pump!
    The plane ride was 31 hours all up with stops. Beautiful coming into Sydney at night, I must have done that flight at least 30 or 40 times and never flown in at night before. Highly recommend it, spectacular. Then the long 15 hour flight to Abu Dharbi I was seated next to and 18 month baby girl, Noah, and her young Mum. Noah screeched, screamed, howled, lashed out, kicked and occasionally just cried almost the whole way. It was an excellent lesson in tolerance and patience for me. I had made sure I would be very tired in order to sleep on that journey. Nah! wasn’t going to happen!. Too scared to sleep during stopover in case I missed the next flight, so got onto that one and had the sorry little misfortune of being seated next to a woman with a most unfortunate case of B.O. Extreme! I am in the window seat both times, totally hemmed in, plus both flights full. So I survived all that and got whisked away from Rome’s lovely Fiumicino airport by a handsome Italian in a flash new black car doing 140 k’s nearly all the way in. A very skilful driver, I could tell this and wasn’t even scared. As I got closer to the city I could see the sense of ordered chaos with the traffic here. The host of the building I’m staying in (a cute pink one), the building, not Mario, who is so kind he has written down all the good restaurants where I won’t get ripped off and who do the best food and he took me for a tour of the neighbourhood and showed me a thing or two including where to meet my tour guide this morning. What service. Lovely young man with plenty of humour and speaks excellent English. He has provide me with a phone that tells me all the good…[Read more]

    • Oh, the tour is of the Vatican of course, it will include the Sistine Chapel where I long to see the ceiling frescoes by Michelangelo, St Peters Basillica, and the Vatican museums and some gardens I think

      • ^^^^^^ A M A Z I N G @prudence I can only dream about going to Rome wow the Sistine Chapel how fucking cool is that
        Flights sounded horrific – whaddya expect calling a baby girl Noah??? I mean c’mon lol and you should’ve taken some V.I.P poo stuff or whatever that terrible ad is for, to spray over stink pits-awful situation.
        Mmmm go to the cake shops omg get Gelato and ask for pasta that comes served in a wheel of parmesan- it looks amazing, and pizza omg I’m dying of jealousy get heaps of pics. My Mum got pickpocketed in The Vatican city by a guy dressed like a clergy man ( no shit!) so watch out for dodgy geezers! Have fun!!! Throw a coin in the Trevi for me 🙂

      • Oh, so cool! Thank you for filling us in..we are living vicariously through you, and happily so💛

    • such bad luck with those flights!! Love Rome.. so grand x

    • Right on @prudence! I’m so glad you made it there in one piece – I admit to giggling about your flight stories I can relate. I bet is so beautiful there….I can’t wait to hear more about your adventure. Have fun exploring and eating lots of food!

    • Cool have an amazing time Prudence! How long are you away for?

    • OMG I love Rome I will definitely be going back there again ❤️ the food, the views, the people, the history OMG heaven on Earth!

      • Love Rome 😍 – the Ara Pacis Augustae and Monte Testaccio (pottery mountain) worth checking out – have fun!

    • Lol you shouda given Noah a nose job!!! 😂 AND then you shuda sprayed perfume under your nose with the stinky lady or on her. Yeah i never got jet lag either, lol thats for amateurs lol lol. Wish i there xoxo

    • Wow, the trip itself sounds crazy but Rome sounds amazing!

    • Lovely to hear from you, enjoy exploring❤️

    • Wow @prudence your journey sounds epic in the less desirable sense! Go you for bouncing back so quickly and getting on with the real journey!

    • Loving this! Well, Not the flights UGGGHH😳😳😳🙄🙄😁
      Can’t wait to hear the next installment.
      Hold tight to bags xxxxx

  • Prudence posted a new activity comment 1 week, 6 days ago

    Oh good you’ve been working far too hard for too long anyway@Janus2. Tell man to hurry up and buy nice new house coz you’ve got some fun decorating ideas you’d like to try out. Tell him you’ll buy him a new 4-pack of supermarket undies if he does what he’s told, you’ll even walk with him!! Give those bad kids the strap mate! Hahahaaa. I am in transit in Sydney waiting tp board next flight to Abu Dhabi. On my way to the big wide world haha xxx

  • Prudence posted a new activity comment 1 week, 6 days ago

    Proud of ya @MissBennet
    You are in for some surprises. Good surprises. Shrug that booze shit right off and embrace the real you. Honestly, if you are open and accepting, it is not boring at all, it becomes quite exciting, and so fucking convenient to be so on point and together all the time. You get to do all sorts of stuff you wouldnt usually get around to. Being normal can really be pretty cool. Roll with it, and watch yourself shine xxx

  • Prudence posted a new activity comment 2 weeks ago

    I will post updates for sure @mari135 xx

  • Prudence posted a new activity comment 2 weeks ago

    Ya never know do ya @Watergirl!!

  • Prudence posted a new activity comment 2 weeks ago

    Then I’d have to wear them every day @Kitten coz the still wont fit in the bag when I get there. Xx

  • Prudence posted a new activity comment 2 weeks ago

    Yeah planning on it @Janus2 xx

  • Prudence posted a new activity comment 2 weeks ago

    Nah coz then won’t fit in pack when not wearing @Robynb. It’s ok, I’ll get over it xx

  • Prudence posted an update 2 weeks, 1 day ago

    Hi team. Been challenged today by trying to fit stuff in my pack, haha, much as been discarded. Georgia came over on the weekend and helped me immensely, she was ruthless!
    I have had to graciously accept to myself today that I am actually going to have to travel for 5 weeks with NOT ONE pair of cowboy boots!! Oh woe is me, winter or summer autumn or spring my cowboy boots is what I like to bring! Anyway, just one more sleep and I’m up, up and away. I shall send you all a post from the Eternal City in a few days. And on a parting note I would like to quote our @Ange “Booze is shit. Thank fuck I quit” hahaa seeyas, be good xoxoxo

  • Prudence posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 1 day ago

    Hahaha @Danthedev Yeah I realised that straight after I’d written it….duh! but then the phone rang and I’ve been unable to get back here till now. Following is a word people can relate to I guess because of instagram. Short List is too, so I don’t have a preference.

  • Prudence posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 1 day ago

    Thanks to both of you for all you do. This sounds like a great idea. I reckon you should call it Favourites.

    • haha oh no anything but favourites – favourites already exists in the system. Its the star just under a persons image (I need to move it and make it bigger). Unfortunately it will be to much work to repurpose the word through the codebase. Soz!

  • Prudence posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 3 days ago

    Do you know what @MissBennet? Making the Decision to give it up for good is what made it easier for me. It’s hard to explain but there is a freedom in it. A certainty. It is done. Decision made. I don’t drink. So what? Better get on with living then, see what life’s all about without booze. I was honestly in for the most pleasant surprise. The biggest surprise was that you really can have a beautiful more happy, contented, productive fun and calm life without it. I am at nearly 5 years now, I would never have believed I was capable of this. I choose it. It’s bloody marvellous xox

  • Prudence posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 3 days ago

    I think what I’m going to have to do is send a few little parcels home @Liberty

  • Prudence posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 3 days ago

    Yep got a sarong @Mrs-D wouldn’t travel without one xox

  • Prudence posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 4 days ago

    @tipsytoegal off to Italy and France. Will post updates xx

  • Prudence posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 4 days ago

    Didn’t know about that feature @Danthedev, will check it out, thanks

  • Prudence posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 4 days ago

    Who you going with @K1W1? Sounds amazing

  • Prudence posted an update 2 weeks, 4 days ago

    Hello brave heroes. A nasty cold and very windy and rainy day here at Takamatua. Worried about my Georgia as she is driving over on her own in her wee Mazda and I’m scared she’ll get blown off the road. She will be scared too, the poor wee thing. She wanted to come and see me and stay a night as we will both be too busy next week before I flap out on Wednesday. The sea is really rough and muddy looking and angry and choppy. How good that the glassy days are so much more frequent than this. Not a lot to report. Took a few more clothes out of my pack this morning in the hope that I can fit just one pair of cowboy boots in. I have decided I simply cannot travel for 5 weeks without boots, summer or not! Not taking anything warm, just a denim shirt, can’t fit warm clothes in they take up too much room. Ok enough of that! Hope you are all having a fun weekend, and staying off the piss and feeling the bliss. Heroes! xoxo

  • Prudence posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 4 days ago

    NOt better for me @Danthedev. Slow as all hell. Still takes me to the page whwhere you see posts but no opportunity to comment so then you have to sign in and can comment. Seems a wasted step and didn’t used to be there. Just to move the curser if I want to fix a mistake takes about 7 seconds, and everything I type is delayed by a few seconds. I realise part of the problem is the new website from day one didn’t like my tablet, but although this is the device I use for all my non work stuff, I have tried it on my surface pro and desktop and phone. They are better but still much slower than it used to be. When the new site came out, and ever since, it is only this website that is slow, everything else I do on here works noramlly. Only saying any of this in case it is helpful. Appreciate the work being done to try to fix it. Thank you

    • @morgan Yes and no – I have done a bunch of things to improve the various cache and content delivery network settings. I have also just added a REST cache which I am hoping will speed up loading the members feed page.

      @prudence Oh that really sucks that your tablet still isn’t working. Unfortunately its an isolated case. However Once I have made some general improvements I’ll come back to it and look into it again. Do you have a ticket in the support section? or was it something you reported before we had that? It would be good to have it there so we don’t loose this kind of info in the members feed over time.

    • Lord Prudence, I didn’t realise that was happening on your tablet. So annoying. Is it different on your normal computer? I have never had anything like that, only the slow loading very recently. (site support is under your icon, top right)

  • Prudence posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 4 days ago

    Like your humour @Truthangel. A friend of mine used to say about an up tight mutual friend “she needs a bottle of vodka and good fuck!” haha. Could it be possible that you are a wee bit angry at letting the booze go? It is quite an enormous change in lifestyle and everything is pretty hard for a while, trying to find out who we are without our usual props. It’s just a random thought, but if you are preoccupied with feeling like shit and kind of miserable and lost, then there won’t be room to allow the good stuff in. The good stuff is subtle and easily missed. Small things like brighter eyes, better skin, shinier hair, better sleep (though that took years for me), tasting food better, having more energy, beng more organised, getting shit done. Thesethings in themselves can make us feel happy and quite pleased and proud of ourselves. How about you give yourself this weekend to just try and let some of the light in, and see if you can feel a deep down pride in yourself for sticking with this sober gig for 138 days. YOu are awesome. You won’t always feel this way. So I would be trying to fix these low feelings myself, then only if that doesn’t work, try another avenue. I always find a good comedy shifts my mood. I might be a bit shallow but it seems to work for me, then I build on that. HOpe you feel better soon xoxo

    • I’m glad I don’t put poison into my system. I’m more disappointed that I’m not happy and chirpy like what appears to be others. I haven’t had much time between study and full time work to do anything other than sleep. After managing personal cares and preparing and eating meals, housework and shopping I have little else left. I’ve reached out to a friend and I was blown away with how she received it and her support. When I was low in the past and didn’t want to live anymore I reached out to a friend and she yelled down the phone to get myself off to ED and a few days later she sent me an email telling me that telling her about how it was for me plus using the s word was very inconsiderate of me and don’t ever do that again. I never replied. I felt so ashamed and a complete dick. Just thought I should go outside and eat worms. I took the advice of my counsellor to reach out to this friend today. However I wouldn’t mind some weed at the moment. But drink, no. As little as 3 drinks a week make you a prime candidate for colorectal cancer. Because it’s poisonous. Am exploring going to some yoga classes and doing some Cbt. But meds no fucking way. I know enough working in mental health and addictions what that shit does to people. You can never get better on them. They just mask symptoms. I would be swapping one poison for another. And I don’t think weed is a poison in the same way so I’m not open to a lecture on that. It’s one thing I’ve been very moderate with. My sister is going to have a biopsy to check for breast cancer as she found a lump and her Mamo came back showing something. I need to be in a safe place to let my anger out. There aren’t any therapists that use psychodrama in their practice in this town.

  • Prudence posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 4 days ago

    Wise move @psychicmama , you’ll have no regrets joining this crowd. Best thing I ever did x

  • Prudence posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 4 days ago

    The stuff of Heroes! Women can do anything! Happy Birthday xo

  • Prudence posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 4 days ago

    I reckon all you’ve got to do is to truly decide. It is then not negotiable and therefore takes all the angst out of it no matter what the situation. My mantra from day one, to myself or anybody else “No thank you, I don’t drink”. Keeps everything simple. I do realise the reality of giving up booze is not simple, but if you give yourself the option to drink, you probably will. Just forget about last night, forgive yourself now and move on. Go well xoxo

    • Yes I do need to truly decide. I can’t keep flopping over. I know I gave a problem but haven’t accepted that yet either. Therein lies the issue. It’s a tough ask – forever.

      • It seems it to our brainwashed, twisted minds, shaped by a booze culture. But really, forever is wonderful. It is health, growing up, a vast opening to new experiences, a huge relief, FREEDOM!!!

      • Do you know what @MissBennet? Making the Decision to give it up for good is what made it easier for me. It’s hard to explain but there is a freedom in it. A certainty. It is done. Decision made. I don’t drink. So what? Better get on with living then, see what life’s all about without booze. I was honestly in for the most pleasant surprise. The biggest surprise was that you really can have a beautiful more happy, contented, productive fun and calm life without it. I am at nearly 5 years now, I would never have believed I was capable of this. I choose it. It’s bloody marvellous xox

  • Prudence posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 5 days ago

    I think maybe you might just think people dislike you @Morgan. How could they?
    Sorry about the tedious bores though xox

  • Prudence posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 5 days ago

    Far out, fancy that eh! Bugger about the nuts and food, really feeling ya on that one! Sorry you’ve got all this going on @timidwarrior xox

  • Prudence posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 5 days ago

    Have a gorgeous day with your daughters when you wake up @Seni xx

  • Prudence posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 5 days ago

    Exactly @sober4real its a whole new world of delight and a new kind of decadence xx

  • Prudence posted a new activity comment 2 weeks, 5 days ago

    Oh @K1W1 I am a fiend for clothes. I have to have at least a dozen choices. My biggest worry is if I do any shopping I wouldnt fit more than a hanky in my pack haha. The only sensible thing I did was get quite a small pack…..to keep myself in line. Where are you going? Xx

    • Going to a wedding in Ireland then doing Scotland london through Europe then on way home New York and LA

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