I'm now 3 years sober but I'm going to leave the below in, hoping it helps encourage someone to see what it was like getting to here.
Today is my 17th day sober. I feel liberated from something that was a negative force in my life for a great many years. I am feeling very grateful for this cool online community, which has given me heaps of support and a very safe way to express myself. I am Proud to be part of the New Revolution where to be a non drinker is the NEW NORMAL! I hope to be better in all ways and to become all I am capable of being. Communicating here gives me the Strength and Reinforcement I need to achieve the goals I have set myself. Bring it on!
Well, it is now day 83 and I am very happy to say there have been no slip ups, and my life is so amazingly much happier than I expected. I think this is to do with doing it for good. Knowing I've stopped and that's it! "No thank you, I don't drink"!
I've been writing a blog since a few weeks before the launch of LivingSober. It is called https://southerndiscomfort2014.blogspot.co.nz
Just came back to add in that today I've made it to 120 days!! Feeling fantastic. Yuss!! And now it's just before New Year and today I'm at 162 days and I am loving it. Life is good. I am happy.
Here I go again, just adding in the big milestone yesterday making it to 200 days. Today is Waitangi day Feb 06. A living sober friend Ylang-ylang asked me this morning how I was feeling now, seeing as my profile was written at 17 days. Here is my response. "I am feeling like a Winner! I am feeling proud and happy and quietly amazed. I am feeling spiritually sound, elated, not in any way broken, or sad, and I am feeling confident and capable of achieving some massive goals I have set for myself, in order to live the life I want, looking at the sea, in my 60′s and beyond.
Apart from a few little glitches like a tubby tummy and not being an exercise guru like most on here, and still smoking (shame) I am feeling on top of the world, happy and free, with so much to be grateful for, wonderful happy grown up children to love, all of you beautiful friends here, and a life full of hope and promise" xo
Now June 11th 2015 and 327 days clocked up!! Looking down the barrel at one year sober...... Well it's now the 19th Feb 2016 and I'm past 18 months now plus I've given up smoking for 5 months. That was a bit rough after 40 years of it but free of it now and feeling good. I've started building my house by the sea, my son is building it, and he has given up drinking and smoking weed, so proud of him (and me, because it's all a result of me giving up drinking). So this is a big year with big challenges and I'm up for all of it. Here I go again on 1st September 2016 adding in that I passed the 2 year mark on 20th July and will pass the one year mark for the ciggies on 15th September. Looking forward to gathering up in Rotorua next week with some of the LS crew, be sure to be some good laughing done up there. My new house is coming along just fine, many challenges along the way, not for the faint hearted but going to be such a fabulous life change to go live by the sea again in the country. My son is still sober and off the whacky tobaccy. Life is mighty fine indeed.
August 2017 and I've been living in my new home for about 6 weeks. It is tranquil and amazing and everything I have dreamed of for such a very long time. Anything is possible when we take the booze away. I am very grateful to Lotta Dann and to every member on this website. Thank you.
Heck! Words fail me, for once! Can you Strike? Rebel? Take some downtime at Christmas and re-assess if you really should be doing the daycare next year? Maybe you could stop. Maybe get a normal job and get out of the home. That might go some way to making you feel more in touch with yourself again. Could you very quietly and undramatically tell…[Read more]
Hello @Camelia01 (I wonder who you were before and if I know you) but anyway, I’ve just read a little article that @Mrs-D has written for Sanford House, it will be very helpful for you. It is all about exactly what you are saying, so please scroll down a little to Mrs-D’s post below (not very far down) and press READ MORE and you will be able to…[Read more]
Thankyou @Prudence I think the article is uncomfortably true. I cant deny that there is a stubborn strong part of me that for whatever reason wants to cling on to the belief that drinking is OK, despite the evidence. I dont know what else to do but accept that its there for now and connect to my desire for freedom from all the negative…[Read more]
Oh @Jessi I sure hope this turns out to be nothing. I have the greatest admiration for your bravery with the other cancer, what a shit time you had, and how positive and beautiful you were all the way through it. A winner through and through. It will take more than a touch of Jack the Dancer to knock you off your perch!! Must be awful waiting…[Read more]
And you know the funny thing @Prudence is that in between the horrible pieces I live a charmed life! I run, lift weights, support my church, lovely family – I seem so normal to everyone. Then these small (but huge) things interrupt life. I’m sure all will be well – I am blessed but it is always fab to have the extra prayers and lovely thoughts…[Read more]
Good afternoon team. I’ve been having a busy time this morning making the house all spotless ready for guests. Got some from Germany for 3 days then some others for two days, so that’ll keep me on my toes. Went to the farmers market in Akaroa and got a few treats, then met Rory for a coffee (pot of spicy minty tea for me) at Rona’s, a cool wee…[Read more]
Oh @TipsyToeGal this is sadistic sick behaviour. The guy is a nutter. Do not let him have this power over you. Ignore him. See it for what it is. Tell him you are strong enough in your own faith not to be affected by his rambling nonsense. Tell him he is a bully. Tell him you have no wish to be assessed by him in a year or EVER, and you also have…[Read more]
Hello @Jo14 nice to see you back here. I’d love one of those huge Idaho potatoes stuffed with all sorts of delicious things. It was one of my favourite meals when in America in the 80’s haha. Have a wonderful Christmas in New York.
Tell the neighbour ladies Clarity is the new Black xx
Oi! Our @Ro. You have decided to go. Out of kindness. It’s Christmas. You are going. So get over it already and make the best of it. There are worse fates. Who knows, there may even be an opportunity to spit out a little bit of truth to her to set you up better for the coming days and the New Year. Something along the lines of…..”To co-exist…[Read more]
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