• Peony posted a new activity comment 1 month, 4 weeks ago

    Thanks so much @DaveH. I really appreciate the explanation of this next phase. So relieved actually, I thought I was verging on some sort of manic episode!! I think this info will help put things in perspective when the shine wears off a little. Thanks again!!

  • Peony posted a new activity comment 1 month, 4 weeks ago

    Sounds like good advice @agirl. Thanks 😊

  • Peony posted a new activity comment 1 month, 4 weeks ago

    Thanks @Finallyhere. True, I’ll embrace it. 😊

  • Peony posted a new activity comment 1 month, 4 weeks ago

    Thanks for your response @jocord. I agree, and it will be interesting to see what happens with my mood over the coming months. I’m my own science experiment! 😊😊

  • Peony posted an update 1 month, 4 weeks ago

    Day 30! I have a question I wanted to put out there…I’ve had a few days to myself and haven’t done much which it great but what I’m noticing is that I feel really happy, like glowing happy.. Now this is a new feeling and I’ve found myself even thinking, hey maybe I could reduce my antidepressants, which is never something I’d recommend when things are actually going well. Anyway, I googled “elevated mood sober” and came across this notion of “the pink cloud” as a time in early recovery where someone might feel elated but get overconfident and be at risk of relapse. Anyway, I know I have a lot to work through but felt a bit concerned about my sudden joyousness!!! I wondered if there were any thoughts from you folk out there about this and if this is a common experience? Thanks x

    • Congrats on day 30! The pink cloud is a very common experience, enjoy it. Lucky you! I wouldn’t recommend adjusting your antidepressants now but in time you might because alcohol messes with our dopamine, serotonin, and GABA levels.

      • Thanks for your response @jocord. I agree, and it will be interesting to see what happens with my mood over the coming months. I’m my own science experiment! 😊😊

    • Sounds wonderful, so nice to feel great after a long time of not…I suggest whatever you are doing right now, keep doing it. Enjoy being happy.

    • Very common Peony :). Enjoy! I remember some wise person on this site advising me not to make any big changes/ decisions in the first year of being sober. Seems like a very sensible approach to me. There’s a lot to process and work to be done, just go with it for now 🙂

    • Hi @peony You say “came across this notion of “the pink cloud” as a time in early recovery where someone might feel elated but get overconfident and be at risk of relapse.”

      We aren’t particularly at risk while we are on the “Pink Cloud”… it is the phase that follows that catches us out more. When we drank heavily and regularly then one of the changes that happened in our brain is that the base amount of dopamine being released got lowered. Dopamine is one of the chemicals that determines how happy we are and alcohol causes our brains to release it more. But this lowering of dopamine as we bacame tolerant to alcohol caused us to feel unhappy. We then drank to lift ourselves back to normal… we weren’t directly aware this is why we did it. Once we have become alcohol tolerant then we are miserable when we are sober. Drinking fixes this and our brains recognise this. We develop drinking triggers for when we feel unhappy, and we are unhappy when we are sober, so being sober is actually a drinking trigger for us!

      When we stop drinking our brain re-raises the dopamine level, but at first it overshoots the mark and this is what causes the “pink could” of happiness and general well-being. While we are like this then none of the unhappy/poor me!/miserable triggers fire… we have an easier ride for a while. But the brain recognises that it overshot the mark with dopamine and pulls it back again and this time there is a slight undershoot. THIS is where the bigger danger lies. The pink cloud fades very slowly and there’s no way of knowing how long it lasts as it varies hugely between individuals, but typically a couple of months or so after stopping drinking the pink cloud will be replaced by overcast skies… and in come the doubts and the questions.

      After the pink cloud we enter a time when things are not so happy. We still have to work fairly hard every day at pushing back cravings (though nothing like what the first couple of weeks was like) but we no lon…[Read more]

      • Thanks so much @DaveH. I really appreciate the explanation of this next phase. So relieved actually, I thought I was verging on some sort of manic episode!! I think this info will help put things in perspective when the shine wears off a little. Thanks again!!

  • Peony posted a new activity comment 1 month, 4 weeks ago

    Welcome @ kimmylou! 😊

  • Peony posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    Welcome @Cleany 😊

  • Peony posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    Opps, it’s actually day 26!

  • Peony posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    Thanks. Love your photo!

  • Peony posted an update 2 months ago

    Day 25. My son is at his dad’s for a week, I’m off for Easter after a busy time at work and also getting used to a complete change of life and headspace now that I’m living sober. I’m exhausted and grateful to have some time to rest and space. I’m finding that I don’t want to see anyone or do anything planned, just want to potter around and that’s ok with me. 😊 Happy Easter all x

  • Peony posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    Love your humor! Congratulations on 40 days!!

  • Peony posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    🐰🐰🐰😊

  • Peony posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    No such thing as too early for bed in my humble opinion – lots of sleep and chocolate has it’s benefits! Day 6 is awesome @fridaymay92014

  • Peony posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    That’s awesome @lars – great achievement! Using a phrase I’ve picked up from this site…you’ve got this! xx

  • Peony posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    Sounds yuck, take care hope you feel better soon x

  • Peony posted a new activity comment 2 months ago

    Thank you xx

  • Peony posted an update 2 months ago

    Day 24. Continuing to clear the clutter (in every way) and manage my anxiety but feeling and looking healthier.

    • oxoxoxxoox You so have my compassion for the anxiety. It is exhausting.
      Day 24 is an amazing accomplishment, Peony! Well done. One next step at a time…one next task at a time….that’s how we climb a mountain. You got this.

      I am glad you’re here!

    • Well done on day 24 @peony 🙂

  • Peony posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 week ago

    This post has got me writing a grocery list for tomorrow – yum!!

  • Peony posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 week ago

    Totally awesome! 😊

  • Peony posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 week ago

    Yep, have done that a few times!!! 😊

  • Peony posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 week ago

    Peace to you @sober4real 😊😊

  • Peony posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 week ago

    Welcome @kiah 😊

  • Peony posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 week ago

    Congratulations on Day 45. What a special day with your mum to remember your grandmother xx

  • Peony posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 week ago

    So glad for you that you have another 6 months under your belt. Your post was indeed a reminder and reality check to keep me on track at this early stage – it’s not going to be worth it, too tricky and I can’t moderate so no point pretending. Thanks heaps for sharing. x

  • Peony posted a new activity comment 2 months, 1 week ago

    Congratulations on getting through your weekend 😊😊 Lots to reflect on! x

  • Peony posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    Sorry to hear your sad news xx

  • Peony posted an update 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    Day 16. Giving the house a clean and gathering up all the empty wine bottles hidden away all over the place. Not sure if I should pretend I’ve hosted an international event when I go to the recycling place! I’d be disgusted but am more surprised – holy shit! Will feel good to be rid of them! Feels good to clean and clear. Have a great Sunday all x

  • Peony posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    Glad you are taking it easy today and giving yourself the chance to rest – take good care xx

  • Peony posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    Congratulations on day 63! Interesting post – I’m a few weeks behind you but am really struck by how the use if alcohol is ?promoted and normalised. Am reading The Naked Mind recommended by @timidwarrior and it speaks to some of this. Strength to you @cpoore 😊x

  • Peony posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    Congratulations on day 42 and precious Nana/grandson time 😊

  • Peony posted an update 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    Day 13 for me. Nearly two weeks. I know it’s early days but life is changing a little and can see some possibilities for a better life that I had shut down with the drinking. I’m not saying it’s easy to feel all the feelings and face some crap but there’s light coming through the cracks and I like it. 😊

    • Totally agree @peony those little moments of sunshine fill you with the drive to keep moving forward.

    • Well done you 😁

    • Hold on to that light and don’t let it go

    • Glad you’re seeing there’s a way forward. Feeling all the feelings is tough. Congrats on day 13.

    • Its still early for me too but at about 3 weeks it began getting so much better-the “light” started almost pouring through the cracks-love your analogy. I remember at 2 weeks I really was struggling-didnt want to continue- and a member said you are almost through the hardest part-do you really want to go through it again? So true!

  • Peony posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    That sounds so lovely @annfromcanada, the bike ride sounds like a really active way to celebrate your second sober weekend – awesome!

  • Peony posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    I’ve noticed in these past 2 weeks that I’ve been on this site how supportive and encouraging you are to so many people here and it makes sense that you would also offload and connect here for support too when things are rough. My anxious self recommends slowing things right down with some deep mindful breathing. No doubt you know what’s best for you. Hang in there and be kind to yourself x

  • Peony posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    Hey @Chaves. Congratulations on your Day 4. I’m Day 13 and similar to you, this is the first time I’ve tried to get sober with community and professional help – it’s making such a difference. I’m just coming out if feeling really exhausted and fragile so I’d just encourage you to be kind to yourself 😊

  • Peony posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    Welcome @Chaves

    • Thanks Peony and JS123 & everyone else!
      I’ve been trying to deal with alcoholism on my own for about 15yrs. Well, at least it was in 2003/4 that I began thinking something was wrong with my drinking. I have continuously failed to manage it for any length of time and even when I was on-top of it (so to speak)….felt utterly miserable or completely deranged. I was very touched by an interview I heard of Mrs D on this matter – saying that her use of alcohol over the years had, in a way, prevented her from becoming a whole person. I feel that was the nail on the head for me to turn to this forum/group/community. All these years I have been using this drug as a way to not feel the impact of my emotions and thoughts. Not only does alcoholism strip a person of health, wellbeing and self respect but it actually impedes the very development of a person into being an authentic whole. Amazing! Anyway, I’ve found my tribe so to speak – at least a supportive space where I can hopefully heal and come to terms with myself, as well as with others. I’m day 4. Feeling pretty overwhelmed and have given myself just to the weekend to survive until I have another drink. I’ll be back tomorrow and monday no doubt 🙂 Kind, kind regards to all x

      • Hey @Chaves. Congratulations on your Day 4. I’m Day 13 and similar to you, this is the first time I’ve tried to get sober with community and professional help – it’s making such a difference. I’m just coming out if feeling really exhausted and fragile so I’d just encourage you to be kind to yourself 😊

  • Peony posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    Congratulations on 311 days! Awesome and inspiring post 😊

  • Peony posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

  • Peony posted an update 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    Howdy! Day 11 today. Things are ticking along ok. I feel clearer in my thinking and like I can hold myself up a bit straighter – not so weary perhaps. I’ve been a little short tempered, I have to admit. I’ve also been eating A LOT of cheese and chocolate…but I don’t mind so much about that for now. Adjusting to no more drinking is the primary focus 😊😊 Have a good evening all.

    • Hi @Peony, good news! It’s all about that clarity, man…..and the further from alcohol you get, the more ‘real’ it becomes. Hold on tight, no matter what, one day at a time. Wow! Legs eleven, you!

    • Congrats on 11 days. And yeh, whatever it takes, cheese and chocolate way better than booze anyway!

  • Peony posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    Welcome @Starfire! You’ll find great support here.

  • Peony posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    Thanks, I’ll take a look at the vids. I get the tonic…I’m 90% sparking water!! 😊

  • Peony posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    Hey @Ro. Have been doing a little research and it seems like quite a cut-to-the-chase approach. I can see a fit with some of my thinking. Thanks for the recommendation. Have a good night! 😊

  • Peony posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Thanks Ro – will follow up 😊 You too.

    • Hey @Ro. Have been doing a little research and it seems like quite a cut-to-the-chase approach. I can see a fit with some of my thinking. Thanks for the recommendation. Have a good night! 😊

  • Peony posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Xena vibes are definitely next level! And awesome!😁😁

  • Peony posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    How awesome to come into a space of belonging and connection – soak it up! 😊

  • Peony posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Sounds lovely! 😊

  • Peony posted an update 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Day 9. Am sitting out by the sea with a coffee after 12 hours in bed!!! 😂 Bed has turned into my current go-to to manage any tiredness and uncertainty! I’m really pleased to get to this point, and a huge shout out for the support of this community. There’s also an arsehole part of my brain telling me that I could probably ease up, that one glass wouldn’t hurt BUT given that I actually salivate walking past the wine aisle, I don’t think that’s the best way forward. Also I don’t fancy the reaction to the meds! So shut up in the back seats arsehole part of my brain! I’m gearing up for a slow Sunday…I have some work and housework to do, my son is post-vomit but will get out for a easy walk at some point. Happy Sunday 😊

    • Gidday there. Have you heard of Rational Recovery? I found it really helpful and only really read what I could online a couple of times….certainly wasn’t hard going. I would recommend it 🙂
      Have a good day 🙂

      • Thanks Ro – will follow up 😊 You too.

        • Hey @Ro. Have been doing a little research and it seems like quite a cut-to-the-chase approach. I can see a fit with some of my thinking. Thanks for the recommendation. Have a good night! 😊

      • I use rational recovery and like Kevin ohara’s vids. I slept heaps in my first month and went through a lot of tonic.

    • Hi @peony! That sounds marvelous and sleep away..😉 your body needs it!!

    • The journey does get easier… well done you for recognizing that arse-hole voice and shutting it up… life is so much better sober! Take care you are doing great 🙂

      • Our insidious disease will whisper all kinds of lies to get us to doubt our determination. It used to tell me that “one won’t hurt” all the time. Whenever I really thought about it, though, I’d rarely, if ever, had only one drink. That’s the lie. Good for you for telling it to shut up. Huge Congrats on D9!!

  • Peony posted an update 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Day 8. Feeling pretty good. Another early night and happy to have it. Goodnight awesome people x

  • Peony posted an update 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Day 7. I had to check because I thought there was no way it was right but it is! Anyway, now the wine is gone, there’s quite a bit of physical and emotional sludge to clear. I had the night to myself after a busy week but haven’t been able to maintain any concentration with reading, or watching a movie…I did excel at sitting on the couch and blinking however! So, its off to bed for me. 😊

    • I’m about to slope off to bed as well 😴. Congrats on a week – you should feel really good about that! Sleep well

      • @Peony well done on that first week! Feels good, right, a first milestone, and an important one. When I stopped, it seemed quitting was about all I could think about for that first month. So my best to you with that “emotional sludge”, as it clears out. Had to jump in here to say hi to Ro, it’s been a while! Hope you’re sleeping peacefully as I type this, Ro.

    • The first 10 days are the hardest, physically and emotionally. Then you start feeling so good!

    • Awesome stuff 👍
      You own sitting on a couch and blinking, some days it’s all we can manage ❤️❤️❤️

    • Hang in there. You are doing great. one day at a time adds up. You are building sober muscle.

  • Peony posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    Hey @timetobesober. Ugh, thats tough. Be kind to yourself – hope you got some sleep in the end! xx

  • Peony posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    On the cusp of 4 months is fantastic! I agree that meditation or mindfulness practice would be good, a next step perhaps 😊😊😊

    • I’m just doing ‘notice what’s going on around me when I think of it’ sort of mindfulness at the moment, and even that is helping.

  • Load More