• pattyw posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    Good one…:)

  • pattyw posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    Awesome Squizzi! Another day 2 for me but you have to start somewhere right? Just proud that I made a better choice for myself last night. Watched a couple of Interventions and the phrase “You are WORTH it” hit me hard. We are all worth it. Love to all….:)

  • pattyw posted an update 2 weeks, 5 days ago

    Good morning everyone! I had 22 beautiful, sober days….felt so strong, so proud. And then I was confronted with a trigger that I thought I could handle and couldn’t. Just gave in…just like that. Surprising how quickly I made the decision to drink again. It’s like I’ve been trapped in a washing machine for the last 6 days….just round and…[Read more]

    • Congrats on getting back on here and seeing Day 2. That’s huge!

    • Hey @pattyw shit happens, that’s human ! I guess nobody succeeded by the first try (or the second, the third…) What went wrong for so many years is graven in your brain as a very bad habit and it takes time and some attempts to make a change. Someone in this community talked about “sober-muscles” that have to be trained. We train them with every…[Read more]

    • I am so glad you had the 22 days AF to compare to what its like to be back drinking. And that you are right back on the path again-yay!

    • glad to see you back again so quick. sobriety has to be your top priority.

    • Good on you coming back. That takes real guts. I agree with what @Seni has written. Not much more to add. My relapses lasted years with last one a whole year. I think it does get easier.

  • pattyw posted a new activity comment 4 weeks ago

    Hammer…you are SO right!! Drinking and all that goes along with it (the planning, conspiring, the thinking about it) takes up a HUGE amount of time and space in your head. It is exhausting!! I am 19 days sober today and have also had a 4 day weekend. I can’t believe how much we’ve done, how relaxed I’ve felt, and just how long the days are.…[Read more]

  • pattyw posted a new activity comment 4 weeks ago

    Congrats on your 1 year! Truly something to celebrate…:)

  • pattyw posted a new activity comment 4 weeks, 1 day ago

    Wonderful on 75 days!!!! πŸ™‚

  • pattyw posted a new activity comment 4 weeks, 1 day ago

    Awesome Lee!! 18 days for me today. Feeling very grateful. (plus I’m down about 10 lbs!!!!) πŸ™‚

  • pattyw posted a new activity comment 4 weeks, 1 day ago

    Oh wow! Congrats on 1 year!!!! πŸ™‚

  • pattyw posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    Hi kjpeche….congrats to you on 20 days!!! That’s truly awesome. I’m truly sorry about your husband….and I only have 17 days so I’m hardly one to give an opinion on these things but…..I know that in my last many months of drinking, my husband suddenly became a teetotaler. Where we were once drinking buddies, now I was drinking alone. And I…[Read more]

    • @pattyw Yes I am sure that is what his problem is. We have been “drinking buddies” for 15 years and now I am committed to sobriety and really finding myself again.

  • pattyw posted an update 1 month ago

    Good morning all. Had a really rough end of my day yesterday and struggled so with the idea of buying some booze. It was painful. But in the end I didn’t. Of course I was all pissy and mad at my husband (what did he do??) but got over it. And this morning I am so grateful I didn’t give in. Reading the posts this morning have given me strength and…[Read more]

    • Great reflex . You are doing this , Dealing with uncomfortable feelings RAW . Bravo . xx These feelings always passes .

    • Good for you! For me, the satisfaction I feel later for winning out over the urge to drink only makes the bliss of waking up sober even sweeter. Kiss your hubby. Sometime he’s just in the line of fire. Believe me, he loves you more sober than drunk – even if you get pissy at him sometimes. (Mine does anyway. πŸ™‚

  • pattyw posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    Love this Dave! What I know now though is that when I was drinking daily (and a lot) I wasn’t sleeping. I was passing out. I would literally be gone in about 3 seconds. My husband was always amused at how quickly I could “fall asleep”…but then awaken suddenly 3-4 hours later and be wide awake for the next several hours. I’m finally sleeping at…[Read more]

  • pattyw posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    Congrats on 150 days! Simply wonderful!!!

  • pattyw posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    Hi Daisy…62 years old here and on day 17 after 32 years of daily drinking. Just so grateful each morning that I didn’t drink the night before. I’m still working so it’s so wonderful to go to work each day now as my best self. Congrats to you!!! πŸ™‚

  • pattyw posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    Hi Lee…not really sure if you meant your post to be motivating AND funny…but it was. “90 proof Captain whoever staring at me from the labels”. And the other labels and names? Thank you for a much needed belly laugh. Congrats on 40 days!!!!! πŸ™‚

    • Lee@ replied 1 month ago

      @pattyw it’s all true. I went cheap and big on the booze market at times and would end up with a toxic array of anything that would rid me of the horrible shakes in the morning. Had to have the shit. But hey, spiced rum and coffee is kinda civilized right but the coffee maker seldom got used. My last trick was “Fire Ball”,a sweet and cinnamon…[Read more]

  • pattyw posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    And eat when you have the drinking thoughts. Helps me out a lot. πŸ™‚

  • pattyw posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    Mindless television is HUGE! Good movies help too. Congrats! πŸ™‚

  • pattyw posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    Hi Mistchance….congrats on 6 months!!!! 15 days here and enjoying my new found freedom. πŸ™‚

    • Thank you. Yes freedom is a good word. Hope you enjoy the road ahead and that you turn to the good folks here if you ever feel unsure of yourself. There is always a friendly face here to talk to.

  • pattyw posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    Good morning Jaxisdry….I’m with you. Day 15 and working through that completely empty stomach late in the day. I get home and eat. Something. Anything. And once I eat, the cravings are gone. I’m trying hard to balance what I eat but for now, the most important thing is not drinking. If it means another marshmallow Easter egg, so be it.…[Read more]

  • pattyw posted an update 1 month ago

    Good morning all!! 15 days today! WooHoo!!! A co-worker, who just happens to make the best sangria in the world (she’s from Spain…:) brought me a thermos full the other day. It was left over from a get together she had over the weekend. I took it from her, not feeling quite ready to tell her that I had quit drinking. I am so grateful to say that…[Read more]

    • Awesome, telling folks about your not drinking can be such a personal thing. I just took my time about who I told and when I told them. Everyone has been really respectful.

    • DaveH replied 1 month ago

      Well done, and I really mean it, well done! There are a hundred ways that could have ended badly but you did the only thing that prevented them, which was getting rid of it. I had a similar occasion where we were give some wine and there was a 1/2 open bottle in the fridge. I had to ask my wife to pour it out before it got the better of me, I…[Read more]

    • Seni replied 1 month ago

      I love white lies, they can be real little helpers (instead of drinking, which is definitely the false little helper)! Why not drink a wonderful sparkling water in an elegant wine glass, when you’ve got the feeling, that you can’t stand all that inquisitorial questions? It’s everyone’s own choice, every new day that comes along! Some days we’re…[Read more]

    • Agirl replied 1 month ago

      Hee hee- whatever it takes to protect your sobriety πŸ˜‰

  • pattyw posted a new activity comment 1 month ago

    Yes JS123….feeling SO much better. The most exciting thing to me is I have an appetite. I’m genuinely hungry for food….which I haven’t been in 30 years. Well…I’ve had drunk cravings, late at night, eating all kinds of crappy food and feeling miserable the next day. Eating real food, at the right time. Just imagine! So many good things about…[Read more]

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