• Oceania posted a new activity comment 3 weeks, 6 days ago

    I love your posts @ro hehe you have the best way with words ! Hope you enjoyed yoga ooommm….

  • Oceania posted a new activity comment 4 weeks, 1 day ago

    Hey @deedee thanks For your reply 🙂 baths baths and more baths haha and also reading all the sober material there is out there and ofcourse the podcasts , it for sure gets easier alright xx

  • Oceania posted an update 1 month ago

    Morena everyone ! Thought it was about time I jumped on and said hi ! All going well here for me I looked on my sober days and it’s up to something like 1189 days ! I remember when I was on double digits and looking everyday but now months goes by and I’m in a stage of recovery where I hardly think of my sobriety but at the same time it’s one of the most important factors of My life , but coming on here reminds me of the journey we are all on and not to get complacent … overall though life is treating me well , I’m still adjusting to working but it’s been a really positive thing , anyway sending love to all you precious people , stay strong XX

    • wow amazing, well done! it is always encouraging to hear from people with alot of sober time. What sober tools do you use to help nurture your sobriety?

      • Hey @deedee thanks For your reply 🙂 baths baths and more baths haha and also reading all the sober material there is out there and ofcourse the podcasts , it for sure gets easier alright xx

    • Ro replied 1 month ago

      Morena @oceania 🙂

    • Gday Oceania hon nice to see you xxx sober legend xxx

  • Oceania posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    Great number ! And even greater savings ! Awesome stuff XX

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  • Morena whanau ! Well today I was going to try and fast and it lasted til about 9.30 am and I needed breakfast it was either eat or be miserable , I think I need to better mentally prepare… thanks everyone for lovely responses to my sober story , I really enjoyed sharing it, last day before back to school and work I really need
    To get my head in the game … i haven’t been sleeping the best … and sometimes it can lead me into a bit of a downward spiral , will try keep my spirits up today , Arohanui all xxx stay sober !

  • Oceania posted a new activity comment 2 months, 2 weeks ago

    Amazing ! Lots of love to you xx

  • Oceania posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    No room for booze life is already beautifully hectic enough xx

  • Oceania posted a new activity comment 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    🙁

  • Oceania posted a new activity comment 2 months, 4 weeks ago

    All the best for that … some people are tricky but just do you xxx

  • Oceania posted a new activity comment 2 months, 4 weeks ago

    Aw hope you feel better soon lovely xxx

  • Oceania posted a new activity comment 3 months ago

    @Mari135 I scored myself a wee reception role at a Physio clinic , part time so I just work the mornings and job share , it’s a really good fit for me , I used to be a PA before Having kids xxx hope you’re well xxx

  • Oceania posted an update 3 months ago

    Hey everyone ! Ahh bliss it’s 3pm and I’ve got my comfy pants and slippers on already 🙂 worked until 1 today and one boy is off to nanas and little one and me are watching Wallace and grommet , feeling really blessed to have my job and I’m loving it , I hope everyone has a
    Lovely Easter break xxx Arohanui !!!

    • I loved watching Wallace and Grommit with my son! Such wonderful times (and so funny!)….enjoy your special time.

    • Glad to hear you’re enjoying the new job Oceania

      Hope the school hols are good x

    • Bliss day!! You so deserve this feeling. oxoxxo May I ask in what profession you work? My apologies if you mentioned it before and forgot. I thought for the longest time one other member was a nurse when she works in IT. I was far off haha. I also understand if you’re not comfortable sharing that. It’s a personal question.

      oxoxox

      Have a lovely Easter break!!

      • @Mari135 I scored myself a wee reception role at a Physio clinic , part time so I just work the mornings and job share , it’s a really good fit for me , I used to be a PA before Having kids xxx hope you’re well xxx

  • Oceania posted a new activity comment 3 months ago

    Aw sounds so nice ! And endearingly humorous is a nice way to put it , i remember always trying to fit that description in my drinking days but also had nights when I did NOT hehe xxx much love to you lady !!

    • Yeah I think we can all stick our hands up for that one @Oceania, we might have been cute when a wee bit pissed at 17!!! hahaha

  • Oceania posted a new activity comment 3 months, 1 week ago

    Aw thinking of you @mrs-d 🙁 lots of love to you all xxx

  • Oceania posted a new activity comment 3 months, 1 week ago

    Haha a quiet chat .. I love it ! Beautiful post btw xxx

  • Oceania posted a new activity comment 3 months, 1 week ago

    Well done you !!! Wee legend xx

  • Oceania posted a new activity comment 3 months, 1 week ago

    Aw your boys are so blessed to have you , massive hugs xxxx

  • Oceania posted a new activity comment 3 months, 2 weeks ago

    Lots of love to you and whanau XX

  • Oceania posted a new activity comment 3 months, 2 weeks ago

    Bahaha no offence taken @rise2015 I’m even questioning my taste too ! So great meeting you lovely lady !!

  • Oceania posted a new activity comment 3 months, 2 weeks ago

    Amazing post @trace , so well put , so stoked to meet you xx

  • Oceania posted a new activity comment 3 months, 2 weeks ago

    Such an honour hanging with you as always @prudence and all you other amazing beings ! Feeling blessed too xx

  • Oceania posted a new activity comment 3 months, 2 weeks ago

    This made me smile ! Hope you’re not too sore though xx

  • Oceania posted a new activity comment 3 months, 3 weeks ago

    Woohoo 30 days ! Enjoy that new bed 😊

  • Oceania posted a new activity comment 3 months, 3 weeks ago

    Thanks @morgan , I’m going to just take it easy this week , so looking forward to catching up this week XX

  • Oceania posted a new activity comment 3 months, 3 weeks ago

    Thanks @liberty yes I think you’re onto something there , it does feel like that and especially because I don’t really know my colleagues well yet and they don’t really know me xx

  • Oceania posted a new activity comment 3 months, 3 weeks ago

    Thanks so much @newstart100 xx

  • Oceania posted a new activity comment 3 months, 3 weeks ago

    AMAZING post ! Congrats on 3 precious years xx

  • Oceania posted a new activity comment 3 months, 3 weeks ago

    Xxx

  • Morena whanau , I’ve gone back to bed this morn , boys are off at swimming lessons , I need a break , my brain has been working overtime, I went to see the mosque yesterday in Hagley Park , it was after 5pm and no crowds and it was an eerie vibe there but peaceful , my innocent 3 year old waved at all the police with guns, I laid some flowers that my 86 year old nana pulled out of her garden for me to take , seeing her out there picking them out and then making a boquet was beyond heart wrenching and beautiful , just like nearly the whole country and it seems the world I’m wrestling with the emotions , fear, anger, depression , trivialness, questions and more questions , grief , sadness, emptiness , denial , numbness just to name a few , laying here feeling pretty shit but i just have a small comfort that I am also not drinking through this , not like chch earthquakes I drank every moment I could , this is different, and I will NOT , if I’m honest I’m struggling with the transition of working too but is it only since last Friday I feel this way ?? I’m not sure ?! Just hard navigating being in a workforce and not feeling very supported and I think I am just waay to sensitive like for instance an email goes around that is a bit snarky and I automatically think it’s aimed at me … and I just feel worse and worse , anyway just rambling now , lots of love to all of you beautiful life group !! Xxx

    • In bed with tea, and the tribe, and Kim Hill speaking with a Pakistani novelist, although that all seems like overthinking in my tired brain.
      Working when you are raising young children – and older – is pretty major, especially if not very supported. Strategies to manage it are vital for survival, an happiness!

      So many of us are HSPs here! (Highly sensitive person) – do you have a good boss to check these things out with? have a mini supervision?
      I know it so well, and having had a sociopath, vicious boss for several years, I will not ever recover from that, ‘can you see me in my office’ = instant terror. Happened this week – what seemed like a big pile of papers handed to me with an audit of my work – fix these. As the terror struck, I saw the first sentence, praising my work. The fear eased, but until I had dealt to all the (tiny) points, things inside me were not good 🙁 And I still wonder about being the only one – like surely everyone else gets it all 100% perfect?
      Have a lovely day if possible. How are you going to look after yourself all weekend?

    • Mm, got up late and a planning a day at home being low key and resting @oceania. It’s been a hugely difficult and emotional week and I know it’s important to really go slow now. I’ve noticed this week that it’s been very difficult to be around work colleagues at times. I mean work is people we don’t necessarily trust with our intimate stuff and there we are in a contained space all together all day long. I’ve felt too raw to know how to manage contact alongside what’s been happening in the country, which shows up as all my old sensitivities and defence mechanisms in action. I wonder if something like that is happening for you? Be gentle with yourself this weekend. xxx

      • Thanks @liberty yes I think you’re onto something there , it does feel like that and especially because I don’t really know my colleagues well yet and they don’t really know me xx

    • Oh, you have so much going on right now lovely. Lots of hugs and sending strength your way xoxo I know what you mean about being sensitive about emails in the workplace. I feel that way often too. I just try to remember that most people aren’t thinking about me, they are trying to navigate their own fears and worries and as long as I can stand by my work with pride, they can think/type whatever they want. If you can defend your position with pride, then you are all set. One of my favorite quotes – ‘What other people think of you is none of your business’ 🙂 Lots of love xoxo

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  • Oceania posted a new activity comment 3 months, 3 weeks ago

    Yes I bet alcohol sales would of increased this past week, you’re so right it’s so messy and emotional ,
    I’m glad for a sober head too xx Arohanui xx

  • Oceania posted a new activity comment 3 months, 3 weeks ago

    P.s totally makes sense about the comfort in the discomfort so well put , I feel a bit like this today I’m feeling pretty low but just the fact I’m sober gives me a little lift , I know things would feel so much worse if I was sitting here hungover .. you take care lovely lady !!

  • Oceania posted a new activity comment 3 months, 3 weeks ago

    Massive love to you and your precious whanau @mrs-d xxx

    • P.s totally makes sense about the comfort in the discomfort so well put , I feel a bit like this today I’m feeling pretty low but just the fact I’m sober gives me a little lift , I know things would feel so much worse if I was sitting here hungover .. you take care lovely lady !!

  • Oceania posted a new activity comment 3 months, 3 weeks ago

    Massive hugs @prudence can’t wait to see our tribe next week it will be so timely I think we all need a good dose
    Of connection and humanity , I’m also grieving the days before last Friday , it just hasn’t felt the same since 🙁 Arohanui friend xx

  • Oceania posted a new activity comment 3 months, 3 weeks ago

    Beautiful post @song-bird xx

  • Oceania posted a new activity comment 3 months, 3 weeks ago

    Hugs to you , I know that feeling being so alone in a crowd but must of been hard since it was a vigil ,good on you for going , take care lovely xx

  • Oceania posted a new activity comment 3 months, 3 weeks ago

    Good on you !! Yep her reply says more about her than you , and none of what she said is or will be the truth , only you hold your truth , keep it close , you’re doing amazing ! Xx

  • Oceania posted a new activity comment 3 months, 4 weeks ago

    Amazing post for the morning ! Congrats on three years beautiful wahine ! Xxx

  • Oceania posted a new activity comment 3 months, 4 weeks ago

    479 beautiful days ! You are a stunning human being and amazing mama xxx I feel that rawness too I haven’t been coping the best either ❤️ Can’t wait to hang in a couple of weeks!

  • Oceania posted a new activity comment 3 months, 4 weeks ago

    Arohanui @mrs-d xxx

  • Oceania posted a new activity comment 3 months, 4 weeks ago

    I’m so very sorry to hear this 🙁 xxxxx

  • Oceania posted a new activity comment 4 months ago

    Lots of Aroha to you and your whanau @mrs-d , life can sure be tough xxx

  • Oceania posted a new activity comment 4 months ago

    I feel that trivial feeling too @mullycatnz

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  • Oceania posted a new activity comment 4 months ago

    Congrats @ro ! And yep i hear you, xx

  • Oceania posted a new activity comment 4 months ago

    Aw those poor families , it is that helplessness feeling aye , I feel so compelled to reach out , I’m sure our church will set a game plan tomorrow to help in some way , hard to go on as “normal” what even is that anymore .

  • Oceania posted a new activity comment 4 months ago

    Aw @mrs-d I feel for your family having a health crisis on top of such dispair and shock in this city, thanks for the advice re talking to kids my six year old is full of questions and saw and heard some footage 🙁 this feels bigger than us but at the same time it’s us that has the power to respond in love and unity, God bless every innocent soul here and everywhere xxx prayers for your whanau too ❤️

  • Oceania posted a new activity comment 4 months ago

    Aw it’s just so unbelievably shocking 🙁

  • Oceania posted a new activity comment 4 months ago

    Congrats to you amazing lady !! Love your profile pic too xxx see ya very soon !

  • Oceania posted a new activity comment 4 months ago

    Amazing post lovely lady ! Congrats on your precious three years too xxx

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