• Nugget posted a new activity comment 2 years, 6 months ago

    How so true. Just had a couple of stressful customers and that voice is saying stop off and have just a bottle of wine. Need to stay strong. Good on you

  • Nugget posted a new activity comment 2 years, 6 months ago

    Cheers for that. Feel like my tail is between my legs a little

  • Nugget posted a new activity comment 2 years, 6 months ago

    Thanks Lizzy, much appreciated

  • Nugget posted a new activity comment 2 years, 6 months ago

    Thanks for the offer. I need to get my head right as I have failed myself once, and not sure I am ready to join a group in fear of failing again. Give me some time first. Appreciate the offer. Thank you

  • Nugget posted a new activity comment 2 years, 6 months ago

    Hey there hope ya well xo

  • Nugget posted an update 2 years, 6 months ago

    2nd time round, day 1 is nearly over.

  • Nugget posted a new activity comment 3 years, 4 months ago

    hey there @prudence, good to hear from you, snuck in for a quick see, new job is keeping me busy. Have had a couple of slip ups, but working hard to turn that around. Hows things with you??

  • Nugget posted a new activity comment 3 years, 4 months ago

    hey there @Quietlydone, hope you are doing ok, great to hear from you

  • Nugget posted a new activity comment 3 years, 4 months ago

    Hey There @behindthesofa I think you summed it up perfectly… I could come up with reasons, but in the end my will power was not strong enough. Being mentally tired does not seem to help either.
    Thank you for your message, it’s always nice to have a friendly shoulder so to speak.

  • Nugget posted a new activity comment 3 years, 4 months ago

    mate that is brilliant…… had a very physical day yesterday at work, everyone had beers at the end and I could almost taste it… I wanted that beer, but in the end my 2ltr water bottle was brilliant and I didn’t notice it….just wish I could do that all the time. enjoy Collingwood, lovely spot

  • Nugget posted a new activity comment 3 years, 4 months ago

    awesome.. that is fantastic. keep that up

  • Nugget posted a new activity comment 3 years, 4 months ago

    mate, pleased to hear y aback on the wagon, its not an easy ride at times. Have started a new job and the pressure of work etc has made me want a drink again. I was so strong mentally for so long but have succumbed again. 5 days sober now, and I feel a lot happier but do not know if I am strong enough to carry it on… although I know deep down I need to.
    great to hear from ya mate

  • Nugget posted a new activity comment 3 years, 4 months ago

    Hey there Behind the Sofa….. good to see ya still being strong and beating the demons. Unfortunately the Demons in my head have taken over and I am struggling to kill them… I feel so much better sober but recently have succumbed to the wrong word in my ear, and I feel stupid for it.. but the battle continues… 5 days sober again.. its a start

  • Nugget posted a new activity comment 4 years, 1 month ago

    Hey there @colourful1 yes you are damn right I was there that night.. full of nerves and the unknown.. but what a great meeting it turned out to be.
    Thanks for your kind words too and hope you are doīng well too

  • Nugget posted a new activity comment 4 years, 1 month ago

    Hey there my sober wagon buddy, great that we are both still on this ride, and it does seem a little smoother now, but not enough to let our guard down eh. Great that I have inspired you to take your camera with you again, it can add time onto the journey but its well worth it. Pleased ya enjoying my photography too.. its a great pass time.. and now my obsession is Kingfishers the bird rather the beer – or wine. xxoo big hugs to ya my friend.

  • Nugget posted a new activity comment 4 years, 1 month ago

    Thanks @ShelleyT you will be, you can do it.. just don’t look further than each day you are in and it will quietly creep on you..

  • Nugget posted a new activity comment 4 years, 1 month ago

    Cheers @Mac007 you are too kind. Hope you are doing well my friend, and love being in this space with everyone here. Keep smiling 😉

  • Nugget posted a new activity comment 4 years, 1 month ago

    thank you very much @davenajean

  • Nugget posted a new activity comment 4 years, 1 month ago

    Thanks Penny, much appreciated. Hope you are doing ok too

  • Nugget posted a new activity comment 4 years, 1 month ago

    Thanks Very much…. my celebratory Tonic & Lime is very refreshing

  • Nugget posted a new activity comment 4 years, 1 month ago

    Thank you so very much @Jasminasper – I feel honored that I have helped someone like you along their journey. Its not an easy one to begin with, and at times carry on with, but the rewards for me have outweighed the alternative. Good luck with September then, stay strong, and be proud of your achievements everyday. I try not to think to far ahead. But I wish you well in your quest & Success. Very happy for you to

  • Nugget posted a new activity comment 4 years, 1 month ago

    thanks @RSW appreciate that. It was amazing how much better I did feel once I became more upfront

  • Nugget posted a new activity comment 4 years, 1 month ago

    Hey there, thank you for that. hope you are doing well too

  • Nugget posted a new activity comment 4 years, 1 month ago

    Thanks @mrsd my inspiration – thanks for not letting me derail myself along the way – thank you again, big hugs too ya… and ya better have been crying tears of happiness 😉

  • Nugget posted a new activity comment 4 years, 1 month ago

    Thanks @Prudence – pleased I could help in uplifting you today. Hope your journey is going along well too xxoo – big hugs

  • Nugget posted a new activity comment 4 years, 1 month ago

    Thank you and hope you are doing ok too. Keep up the good work, and the Sax is slowly coming together.. I hit a note more often than not now.. 😉

  • Nugget posted a new activity comment 4 years, 1 month ago

    thank you for your kind words

  • Nugget posted an update 4 years, 1 month ago

    9th June 2015

    A year ago today, I bit the bullet and I started a journey of sobriety. I finally admitted I had a problem, I couldn’t control my drinking, and alcohol was ruling my life. It was a scary time, full of unknowns. How would I react, how would I cope. I mean wine was my daily fix, but my work life, my social life and my evenings were all being affected by booze.
    I signed up for help from the Alcohol & Drug addiction center, and went through a detox programme, which gave me a great kick start, and all of a sudden I had been sober for a whole week.. the first time in god knows how long. Then a friend of mine mentioned Mrs D to me, and the work she was doing to help people kick the Booze into touch. It was a master stroke, this wonderful group of People and the community that Mrs D brought together helped me know end. And I am sure a lot of people will never realise what help they did give me, whether it was just a word of support, a comment or a post they made. It gave me the strength and courage to carry on, push through those hard time, and realise the little things, and the big things in my life that were better because I was no long drinking. The group also helped me to realise I wasn’t alone in this struggle.
    The road has not been easy, and there have been a couple of little road bumps along the way, but I know I am a lot happier 12 months down the track than what I was a year ago. I cringe at the radio ads offering cheap case buys on beautiful wine, and how vulnerable I was to them, justifying it in my head. But now I can sit happily at home at night with my Tonic & Lime or a cuppa tea, go to bed sober and wake up feeling a lot more refreshed and less guilty, and not planning my day around where & when I would have my first bottle of wine, and whether or not I would have a few beers beforehand.
    I made it through the summer, a period that I was dreading, but found other things to quench my thirst and take my mind off the alcohol that oth…[Read more]

    • Fantastic achievement and such an inspiring post

    • Congrats from afar!! Very happy for you and your family on your First (of many) Soberversary!!
      Hope you are tooting your own horn,(Saxophone)and thoroughly enjoying your day!

      • Thank you and hope you are doing ok too. Keep up the good work, and the Sax is slowly coming together.. I hit a note more often than not now.. 😉

    • Good on ya @Nugget and thanks for such an inspiring and uplifting post. BIG FAT CONGRATULATIONS for reaaching the one year mark, and it’s so good to know you are happy and comfortable and thriving in your life. HERO xoxoxo

    • dude you just made me cry. big congratulations on 1 year.. you are a sober superstar, a brave and amazing sober warrior, a great man and I am so happy for you xxx

      • Thanks @mrsd my inspiration – thanks for not letting me derail myself along the way – thank you again, big hugs too ya… and ya better have been crying tears of happiness 😉

    • @nugget you have done so well, come so far in a year. Thanks for the update.

    • @Nugget 🙂 you were one of the first people here on SL that I was inspired by . I know how totally remarkable this achievement is . 1 whole year sober . I am so proud of you . Every additional day hereafter is proof that you value yourself . Every day hereafter is extra special as you are living your best life . Treasure your sobriety and protect it .
      I will reach 1 year in early September . I strive for that and then want to think beyond it and how it will be this personal success that I need to protect .
      I am so very happy for you .

      • Thank you so very much @Jasminasper – I feel honored that I have helped someone like you along their journey. Its not an easy one to begin with, and at times carry on with, but the rewards for me have outweighed the alternative. Good luck with September then, stay strong, and be proud of your achievements everyday. I try not to think to far ahead. But I wish you well in your quest & Success. Very happy for you to

    • Happy Soberversary! So happy for you!

    • @nugget hi!
      So pleased for you buddy-awesome 🙂
      xPenny

    • awesome at @nugget, what a great post and I am so pleased for you. I like that your family aren’t making a fuss about it, mine are the same mostly which is good. You are an inspiration and it just goes to show how life can improve without the dreaded booze in our system. By the way your photography is fantastic and as you say all those early morning and evening shots says it all my friend. You have inspired me to get back into carrying my camera in my car like I used to, it was idle for a while there. Be proud of yourself Buddy this is a huge achievement. xox 🙂

      • Hey there my sober wagon buddy, great that we are both still on this ride, and it does seem a little smoother now, but not enough to let our guard down eh. Great that I have inspired you to take your camera with you again, it can add time onto the journey but its well worth it. Pleased ya enjoying my photography too.. its a great pass time.. and now my obsession is Kingfishers the bird rather the beer – or wine. xxoo big hugs to ya my friend.

    • What an amazing accomishment and an inspiring post!

    • Congratulations Mr Martin Tonks ! You are a fabulous shining Gold Nugget!!! 😉
      An inspiration to many my friend. Love it you are here with us. xx

      • Cheers @Mac007 you are too kind. Hope you are doing well my friend, and love being in this space with everyone here. Keep smiling 😉

    • Inspiring. Can’t wait to be where you are

    • thanks @RSW appreciate that. It was amazing how much better I did feel once I became more upfront

    • A huge achievement @Nugget 🙂

    • Hey @Nugget, I am pretty sure we were both at the Karori bookshop that night about a year ago, listening to Mrs D. I was shaking in my boots back then too! Congratulations for getting through this year, and thank you for sharing your story with us. x

      • Hey there @colourful1 yes you are damn right I was there that night.. full of nerves and the unknown.. but what a great meeting it turned out to be.
        Thanks for your kind words too and hope you are doīng well too

  • Nugget posted a new activity comment 4 years, 3 months ago

    Thanks @Prudence, great to hear from you too, and a reunion would be cool. hope my sax playing is up to it by then. Hope you are doing good to. And you are right, I am a lot happier.. thanks for your kind words.

  • Nugget posted a new activity comment 4 years, 3 months ago

    Awesome lyrics mate. Think I will have to practice the sax for many hours to get some good tunes to match..

  • Nugget posted a new activity comment 4 years, 3 months ago

    Hey there wagon buddy. Thoughts with ya. And hold on tight up here… thinking of ya my friend

  • Nugget posted an update 4 years, 3 months ago

    Hey there everyone. I know its been a while since my last post, but this sober life is keeping me so much busier. Last night I was taking night photos around Wgtn until midnight, not something i would have been able to previously. My sax lessons are going well and I can nearly play jingle bells to a level that you could work out what I am playing. Day 187 today, and this morning as I opened my mail, there was a letter from the Drug & Addiction services saying that I have been discharged from their care as I have shown able to stand on my own feet. Quite a momentous occasion…. i do feel in control but also weary I could slip back to my old ways if not careful. But most of all I am quite proud of myself, looking back to how I was. Wishing everyone a happy Sunday at what ever stage you are. The struggle is worth it.

    • Hi @Nugget it’s great to hear from you, I was just thinking about you this morning and wondering if you were still on the straight and narrow (well, actually wide and abundant) and I know I won’t be the only one to be very pleased to know all is good in your world. You’ve come a long way and it sounds like life is so much happier for you. Keep going with the sax………you might have to play when we get a big Living Sober Conference together on day xo

      • Thanks @Prudence, great to hear from you too, and a reunion would be cool. hope my sax playing is up to it by then. Hope you are doing good to. And you are right, I am a lot happier.. thanks for your kind words.

    • Hey @Nugget good to hear from you 🙂 glad that all is well.

    • That is great news @nugget – go you!! Lovely to hear you are well. 🙂

  • Nugget posted a new activity comment 4 years, 5 months ago

    Thanks @ ylang-ylang you hit the nail on the head there, not concerning myself with the next drink.. instead enjoying the moment

  • Nugget posted a new activity comment 4 years, 5 months ago

    Thanks @QuietlyDone it was yummy

  • Nugget posted a new activity comment 4 years, 5 months ago

    How very true @sobamama it was great to just relax

  • Nugget posted a new activity comment 4 years, 5 months ago

    Hee hee you had me double checking then… 160 days is just round the corner though eh.. proud of you too buddy

  • Nugget posted a new activity comment 4 years, 5 months ago

    My word @watergirl… that is so wonderful. What an amazing daughter you have raised, and I bet its put a spring in ya step and helped reinforce why we are on this sober wagon. So very very pleased for you my friend xo

  • Nugget posted a new activity comment 4 years, 5 months ago

    I could well imagine @colourful1 it was a very moving movie. some talk about the good old days, but there are many instances of how society worked in the past that I wouldn’t want to go back to.

  • Nugget posted a new activity comment 4 years, 5 months ago

    that sounds fantastic, and a great attitude.. hope the new year is a fantastic one for you and you partner

  • Nugget posted a new activity comment 4 years, 5 months ago

    it is sometime the simplicity of our children that make the most sense and give us our gretest joys.. that is so wonderful of them @qwerty – my partner didn’t really say a lot either, and I got a lot of support from elsewhere, maybe it was too close to her, maybe she didn’t think I would last. remember that you can only control what you can control, and people will drink around you. and if ya ever feel lonely this group has always helped me out. be very proud of yourself too..

  • Nugget posted an update 4 years, 5 months ago

    Good Morning my sober gang friends… 130 days sober today, and feeling great about it… went to our local lighthouse cinema last night, first time since I have been sober, usually a few glasses of wine had, and an excuse of the bathroom halfway through to refill my glass. but not this time, a walnut icecream and a relaxing evening was had. not even a ping of resentment or urge to have a glass of wine.
    The movie itself – The Imitation Game was a very good film, well worth seeing and thought provoking, also showing how far society has moved on sine the second world war
    hope everyone has a fantastic & sober weekend

    • Loved that movie. And, being lucky enough to live freely in this era that is better for gay people, my partner and I cried and cried at the end, for all those who have gone before us. Congrats on 130 days xx

      • Sounds ace!

      • I could well imagine @colourful1 it was a very moving movie. some talk about the good old days, but there are many instances of how society worked in the past that I wouldn’t want to go back to.

      • Me too @Nugget & @Colourful1 ! Having a beloved sister, & friend who are gay makes the history of persecution cut so deep. Want to read the book, & am going again with my teens as we do a ‘deep & meaningful’ movie each holiday.

        Lovely to hear you are rethinking your lives, I am, big time. A call to someone who may be a huge part of my future tonight. Trying not to get to hopeful or excited. Will listen to Tara & calm down – just kidding Nugget – wont rave about her any more, promise – well, no, can’t promise as she is speaking directly into my heart, mind & soul at present, & of course that is only for a time, & just my special moment.
        Gathering fans, what do you think of her Colourful? She has meditations as well as as teachings. I’m too ADHD for the meditation – walk & listen.

    • Brilliant @nugget on 160 days. You are indeed a lamplighter. Yes being able to appreciate the small things in life is quite humbling, a different perspective rather that being in the fog of booze. You are doing so well my friend , proud of you. Have a great happy day. xox

    • Isn’t it so much more relaxing when you’re focused on what you’re actually doing instead of what you’re drinking and where your next one is coming from? Yay us, we totally bloody rock! Huge congrats on 130 days. That is fantastic 🙂

      • Thanks @ ylang-ylang you hit the nail on the head there, not concerning myself with the next drink.. instead enjoying the moment

    • 130!!!! Yippee, ice cream and the movies, lovely!

    • Congratulations! And isn’t it wonderful remembering how the movie ends! So many movies I need to go back and see because the end is a black hole! 😀

  • Nugget posted a new activity comment 4 years, 5 months ago

    yea thanks @ylang-ylang – looking forward to my lessons and lots of practice now.. 🙂

  • Nugget posted a new activity comment 4 years, 5 months ago

    Thanks @kerris & @hetiheti – gotta love the sound of a good sax player… am quite excited to be learning

  • Nugget posted a new activity comment 4 years, 5 months ago

    @watergirl thanks buddy, now that I have my new life, i have some time in teh evenings to learn things, and I love the Sax. Good luck with your guitar and have a great weekend over the hill. The airshow last weekend was fantastic, but very hot… take care and enjoy our wagon ride my friend xxoo

  • Nugget posted a new activity comment 4 years, 5 months ago

    Good to have ya back then @Ducky – and good to be back around.. hope ya doing well 🙂

  • Nugget posted a new activity comment 4 years, 5 months ago

    awesome.. great smiles

  • Nugget posted a new activity comment 4 years, 5 months ago

    Its funny @morgan i think i am enjoying my music more now. My head is less muddled. Fantastic that ya son plays too, even if its for the girl factor.
    Bring out your flute.. we could all have a wee jam. I find the flute very relaxing…
    I love all types of jazz and blues, esp with a fast beat, two step or swing jazz. There are a few Dire Straits songs too that have wonderful sax pieces.

  • Nugget posted a new activity comment 4 years, 5 months ago

    Fantastic post, well said and great to hear a wee corner is being turned with you in total control

  • Nugget posted a new activity comment 4 years, 5 months ago

    The mind plays tricks on us, i found drinking just tonic tricked my brain…. keep being strong, you can do this and in the morning you will feel amazing for pulling through the troubled time, and that helps build your inner defense

  • Nugget posted a new activity comment 4 years, 5 months ago

    Happy birthday raising my tonic and lime to ya

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