• Noodle71 posted a new activity comment 2 hours, 56 minutes ago

    Work mates, can’t beat em, unfortunately. Arseholes exist everywhere, drives me mental to a particular someone I have to endure everyday, certainly puts a dampner on life. Well done for dealing with a crappy day by not succumbing to crappy booze. It’s like retraining our instincts eh? I guess when we’ve dealt with crap in a positive way many times it will become the norm, and booze will again become even weaker. Hugs to you and enjoy your pamper! You deserve it Hun! Xxx

  • Noodle71 posted a new activity comment 3 hours, 13 minutes ago

    Wow big ups to you for actually recognising those creeping voices for what they are!! Brilliant you’ve held on and sounds like your using those past mistakes as weapons and beating those witches down!! Amazing how they’re always lurking around. Have a fabulous sober 71!! Xx

  • Noodle71 posted a new activity comment 3 hours, 17 minutes ago

    Oh that is amazing!!! Yes I’m holding on!! Congratulations on 5 years that is incredible, thanks for sprinkling so magic around and your holiday sounds like heavenly bliss, hope you all have a beyond wonderful time xxx

  • Noodle71 posted a new activity comment 1 day, 2 hours ago

    Hi @Leslielily good on you! I’ve been following your posts and loving your determination x I too loved a drunk argument, I think just for dramatic effect, even the dog used to get a few verbals if I was that way out 😡 so good that drama and guilt is out of our lives. You sound like your storming this, and recognising and live g the benefits that sobriety brings, that is getting me through too, good on ya!!

  • Noodle71 posted a new activity comment 1 day, 2 hours ago

    Oh @timetobesober not much to say really, your current situation sounds dire and hard going. I suppose the main benefit is you’re doing this sober, drinking would definately make this a whole lot worse. Time to be you for you and protect yourself like you’re the most precious thing in the world x sending warm strong vibes your way x stay strong and life can only get better for you xx

  • Noodle71 posted a new activity comment 1 day, 2 hours ago

    I hear ya it’s torture. Knowing its gonna happen, alcohol free wine -Edenvale is nice-and to a degree white knuckling it, being shitty (you’re allowed) going for a grumpy walk, eating, anything, and visualising tomorrow morning waking up having got through it all worked for me. Visualising what’s so great about having a wine also helped, it’s not gonna be one face it it’s gonna be at least one bottle, then you’re tired irrational, pain in the arse, boring once again for all around. Realising I was actually the least cool person in the room and people were actually laughing at me, people who in reality were not nice people and worthy of kissing my arse at any time gave me the strength to stick two fingers up to them and alcohol. So if that works-use it!! Hang on!!

  • Noodle71 posted a new activity comment 1 day, 2 hours ago

    @saoiirse that is fantastic!! Go you! You are becoming stronger and more determined all the time xx I love how you have turned this knock back into a positive. Their ability to use your past problems against you are weakening by the day, so good on ya and have a blast this weekend. You may not of won this battle but the war isn’t over, and your weaponary is building everyday, whilst theirs diminishes. Sorry if that all sounds a bit GOT but you go girl!! Xx

  • Noodle71 posted a new activity comment 1 day, 13 hours ago

    Hi @newstart100, actually that makes blindingly obvious sense! Thanks! Exactly, when drinking I battled through anything just so I could stay up and drink, the last year I’ve averaged 4-5 hours max a night sleep, so by rights I should be like Sleeping Beauty and be out for 100 days! Yes I think I need to start listening to my body more for sure, it’s got a lot of tlc due to it. Anyway, I AM going to bed now, can’t stop reading this site lols. Xx

  • Noodle71 posted a new activity comment 1 day, 13 hours ago

    @Dylan– John it’s really weird eh? We don’t think about experiences for what they are, until we take the booze away. It’s astonishing how much it is (was) Ingrained into everything we do. New activities sound great. I’m an artist and creating whilst sober has been a new but fabulous experience, I can’t believe how much more creative I can be, where I thought Al was unlocking all that passion and talent, I can see now how much it’s smothered it. As a good friend of mine said, who’s over 7 years sober, it’s all about making sober experiences the norm, and the only way to do that is to get stuck in and do it. I’ve felt anxious and it’s still early days for me but trusting and enjoying new experiences and also the daily mundane sober, is just incredible. Enjoy your new hobbies!! Brilliant xx

  • Noodle71 posted a new activity comment 1 day, 14 hours ago

    It’s the simple things😍 I love everything at the moment cos I’m doing it sober, that in itself is an achievement. Happy and sober is the best💕

  • Noodle71 posted a new activity comment 1 day, 14 hours ago

    Oh fantastic!! I love these awesome achievements!! Well done xx

  • Noodle71 posted an update 1 day, 14 hours ago

    Gosh day 19 (I keep loosing track of my days been spouting off I’m on 20 days all day 😂) but I am back to feeling sooooooo tired again!! Honestly all I’ve done is a supermarket shop and I’m like a zombie! Slept through most of my TV programmes tonight, even my boy asked me if I’d been drinking, must of looked like old times! I’d been feeling pretty perky last few days but Jeeze, I feel out of it. Are waves of tiredness normal? Or maybe I’m just an old fart?! Anyways, heading to bed for more sleep, cos obviously I need it! Have a beautiful sober sleep everyone😘

    • Hi @noodle71, well done on day 19 (and 20)!! Yes, even a year and a half in I find that some days I am just really tired. I think it is the body’s natural rhythm. When I was drinking I didn’t listen to my body, even if I was tired from my activities for the day, I found myself still having my evening cocktails. These days, when I’m tired there is nothing to do but just let my body rest like it wants to. Once every couple of weeks I need to just veg out and rest on the couch for the evening – no cooking, no cleaning, no extra productivity. Then I get a good nights sleep and I feel much better in the morning having listened to my body. We don’t have the alcohol to mask the true feelings from our bodies anymore so we can just listen to what it is telling us. xo

      • Hi @newstart100, actually that makes blindingly obvious sense! Thanks! Exactly, when drinking I battled through anything just so I could stay up and drink, the last year I’ve averaged 4-5 hours max a night sleep, so by rights I should be like Sleeping Beauty and be out for 100 days! Yes I think I need to start listening to my body more for sure, it’s got a lot of tlc due to it. Anyway, I AM going to bed now, can’t stop reading this site lols. Xx

    • Congrats on 19 days! The fatigue is part of it I think. Your energy levels will be back up soon. : )

  • Noodle71 posted a new activity comment 1 day, 14 hours ago

    5 years, fantastic ❤

  • Noodle71 posted a new activity comment 2 days, 1 hour ago

    That’s fantastic xx

  • Noodle71 posted a new activity comment 2 days, 2 hours ago

    Yeah me too. After battling for years with trying to mod, God so exhausting, it became impossible for me to write a list about why I should drink. What was so great about drink it had to be my no 1 priority? It was then I realised like a smack in the face what a mug I’ve been for almost 3 decades. Upside down thinking is definately the way to go😊

  • Noodle71 posted a new activity comment 2 days, 3 hours ago

    That sounds so hard and big admiration for still hanging on in there and being strong, it may not seem like it but the fact you are digging in will be noted by everyonen’t let this first round be the end of it. I don’t know the ins and outs obviously but it sounds like their lawyer has put forward what they would like to happen, basically for you to roll over and leave them alone. But surely you do have rights so keep pushing, eventually you will get somewhere, maybe not as far and as fast as you’d like, but you will. Maybe offer to involve a mediator, or social services support? anything to gain some access to your son. If nothing else when your boy grows up, which he will (and a fact many seem to forget in situations like this) he will see how hard you fought for him, how you put right the wrongs of being human, against all the odds. You’ve come so far and I reckon gone through the worst, you’re amazing. Xx

  • Noodle71 posted a new activity comment 2 days, 3 hours ago

    Hi @MrsD I clicked on the site support address that is at the bottom of the first page alongside get help etc. , as I thought that would be for technical issues. I tried twice and both times it bounced back saying address doesn’t not exist. Thanks😊

    • @noodle71thanks for this. I checked the link, and you are quite right. The email address (site.support@livingsober.org.nz) was not stated correctly. I have fixed this. Thank you for raising it, and apologies for the annoyance factor there. @seizetheday @mrs-d.

  • Noodle71 posted a new activity comment 2 days, 12 hours ago

    @mrs-d I emailed support twice yesterday and it also bounced back saying address doesn’t exist. I was having problems with my login but it turned out to be user error😳

  • Noodle71 posted a new activity comment 2 days, 12 hours ago

    @wornackm welcome😊 I’m pretty new here too, this site is full of lovely people and great tips and support x

  • Noodle71 posted a new activity comment 3 days, 3 hours ago

    @morgan, have just written that in my diary, thanks for sharing 💞

  • Noodle71 posted a new activity comment 3 days, 3 hours ago

    @inkpink to be honest I felt really rough for the first week, couldn’t sleep, really shaky and so bloody emotional I was a hot mess. Still better than a raging hangover though. Day 18 today for me and my liver still feels sore, but is better, abdomen swelling is going down and puffiness and red eyes are also going, either way it is STILL better than the alternative. I believe everyone’s promises it will get better, and that it is so worth it. Hang on in there, xxx

  • Noodle71 posted a new activity comment 3 days, 4 hours ago

    @Daveh what a brilliant quote, perfect. I also like “Every journeys end has a beginning” which struck me I’ve started this journey millions of times, but always without the end in mind, just blindly trying to survive. We need a plan like any successful act needs a plan, and a goal. Your quote helps so much with that x

  • Noodle71 posted a new activity comment 3 days, 4 hours ago

    @kitten thanks so much for that encouragement, can’t wait to be where you are now, your amazing well done x

  • Noodle71 posted a new activity comment 3 days, 4 hours ago

    @frog After Life is amazing eh? I loved it too, the irony of life, so bitter sweet. It really hit my guts that show. I think Ricky Gervais is actually a genius.

  • Noodle71 posted a new activity comment 3 days, 4 hours ago

    @seizetheday thanks for that idea of carrying a survival pack, what a life saver x

  • Noodle71 posted a new activity comment 3 days, 4 hours ago

    Love those “sober muscles” that’s true, flex those babies😁

  • Noodle71 posted a new activity comment 3 days, 4 hours ago

    @ginny, me neither. Quite an exhausting existence, glad I finally stopped trying x

  • Noodle71 posted a new activity comment 3 days, 4 hours ago

    @lynnelowe, after many many years I finally accepted I can’t mod either, I’m either on or bloody off, like an electric switch. And Yup I don’t know if it’s age that make the killer hangovers or in reality are we just snowballing with the booze and not acknowledging that? Maybe both 😕 great your back in the saddle and positive, you got this xx

  • Noodle71 posted a new activity comment 3 days, 4 hours ago

    @walkingowl, hugs to you what a terrible shock. So young to pass like that, take care x

  • Noodle71 posted a new activity comment 3 days, 4 hours ago

    @tipsytoegal sounds awesome! Enjoy your passion and your art room 😊 love your stregth too, have fun😻

  • Noodle71 posted a new activity comment 3 days, 12 hours ago

    Hi @kjpeche I have lost a little but not a lot and I also was on 2+ bottles a night, but my food intake especially sweet stuff that I never touched has gone through the roof. I picked up my old weight watchers books today and am thinking too about eating a bit healthier now my I’ve began to address the booze. It’s funny cuz the last time I did ww’s I eat practically zero point food all day to allow for my wine intake every night, and didn’t record half of that either, so needless to say after 4 attempts and God knows how many $$$ I actually gained weight, and tortured myself in the bargain, what a prat😂😂😂😂 I thought today though how easy it would be with booze out the way to actually follow a healthier regime if I plan it. Not going back to group but gonna give it another go from home. There’s heaps of info and recipes online for free if you fancy a look at that, it’s a very flexible programme now 😊

  • Noodle71 posted a new activity comment 3 days, 13 hours ago

    @mari135 I love this post x you’re mind bounces about like mine does, I feel I know so much about you from just one post! Congrats on your commitment, you’re doing amazingly, we had the same quota for daily wine consumption, you’re an inspiration to me, I can’t wait to get to where you are now 😄. I’m sure you’re more than good enough for all you want in life, if nothing else you should write a book, your writing style rocks x

  • Noodle71 posted a new activity comment 3 days, 14 hours ago

    Hi @Gola01, I’m no expert as only on day 17 but that’s the longest I’ve gone for years. This time I’m in a totally different head space. Long may it last. Like you previous times I’ve felt like I’m almost seeing how long I can hold my breath, resisting some massive pull towards something (Al), until eventually it’s just not humanly possible to hold off any longer. The main difference has this time from the off I have committed to a life long abstinence, not a few days or weeks. I suppose after almost 30 years of alcoholism I knew that was the only way to go. Being over it is a massive understatement. Al has taken so much of my life and the lives of my so called loved ones. It has to go. It’s Shit or bust. Talking face to face with someone you know and trust who has been there and conquered Al has been my rock through this storm. If you don’t have someone like that, maybe AA would help? I couldn’t face it, but knowing how much my friend has made such a huge difference I would recommend that face to face somewhere. Obviously being here has also been huge, even if just reading and following the links, we’re all in the same boat. It’s good to feel welcome and see that we’re not so different. I personally really resonated with a site called Rational Recovery, it’s the total opposite of AA but I really liked the mindset of putting you back in control and a life long commitment to ridding yourself of this crappy existence we’ve become trapped in. Maybe if you can’t commit to permenant change (I know I couldn’t for many many years) maybe start to think why not? Like many I wished I’d not wasted over 2 decades on this crap, but that’s easy to say in hind sight. With this shift in perspective the cravings have been manageable, I’m enjoying Al free drinks instead, and all the time I’m looking onwards and upwards. Best of luck and strength to you, dig deep we can do it. Xx

  • Noodle71 posted a new activity comment 3 days, 14 hours ago

    Oh my Lord, can totally relate to the exposing of body parts (cringe) and totally inappropriate behaviour!! 😱 and like you say so interesting on the flip side, if not a tad tedious. I had to endure a three hour get together with two very Merry individuals who asked each other the same question over 50 times I tell ya, definately a moment for the sober toolbox to draw upon when any fancy comes knocking 😂😂😂

  • Noodle71 posted a new activity comment 3 days, 14 hours ago

    I hear ya, my boys are older but all they’ve known is alco Mum, all be it high functioning and mostly pretty easy going but alco all the same. I couldn’t even take them to the cinema during the day without a water bottle full of wine, same as any function at the school. So full of regrets and total guilt that wine was my main priority. Not any more though and we got there in the end. I sat today talking my boy through his career options as we looked for 3 hours at different courses and career paths. We were so engaged with cups of coffee and biscuits, it struck me afterwards how up to pretty recently that probably wouldn’t of happened or if it did, I’d of either been very hungover, drunk or clock watching to get drunk, either way that would of been pretty pointless and lasted for 20 mins Max and likely end in an argument. Alcohol steals so much from us, it’s important that we remember that. Great that you’re spending quality sober in the moment time with your kids now, even if it’s crazy mad, I know I’m enjoying experiencing this too xx Good on us Mums xx

  • Noodle71 posted a new activity comment 6 days, 2 hours ago

    @malibustacey wow!!! Happy Birthday have a brilliant day!!! 😊

  • Noodle71 posted a new activity comment 6 days, 2 hours ago

    @mandles congrats on day 20,Im coming up behind you day 15 for me today, to be honest struggling a bit last two days but to be expected and hanging on in there. My Mum had pancreatitis not alcohol induced but caused by inflamed gall bladder that she ended up having removed, and yes she said the pain was off the scale. Important to remind ourselves of the damage we can do, and the health we are giving ourselves by nurturing and respecting our bodies. I’ve also been reading some grim stories about young people with terminal liver failure from drinking, and their tragic battle to stay alive, and yet some still fatally drink themselves to death, how heartbreaking for them and their families. The threat of lethal damage from alcohol should never be underestimated. I’ve been on the AL free wines and they’ve got me through so far, gonna give the AL free beer a go, especially with curry bet they’re yum x much love to you you’re an inspiration X

    • @Noodle71 you and I are right around the same timeline for committing to being AF, so I feel your struggles! I have the same mindset as you – it is to be expecting. I think just reminding myself there will be difficult periods of temptation instead of trying to deny them has really helped me surf through them. Even on Day 14 for me – they are already starting to be more spaced out and I am not spending nearly as much time thinking about buying alcohol. 🙂

      @Mandles – boy I am only just now starting to see what a strong “it won’t happen to me though” attitude I had about the dangers of heavy drinking. I seriously kept thinking that “maybe someday” I would have issues if I kept on drinking more and more, but I was so so blind to the effect it was already having on me. I was sleeping poorly, very restless, headaches on sober days which should have been a huge indicator which I missed until I finally stopped drinking 14 days ago… and of course being puffy/bloated/weight gain. All of this is turning around now and it has honestly shaken me how much of a toll all that alcohol was taking on me with me being in complete denial!! Congrats on 20 days – one month here we come!! Hope you had a lovely visit with your daughters 🙂

  • Noodle71 posted a new activity comment 6 days, 3 hours ago

    @teazy that’s a really good point! X

  • Noodle71 posted a new activity comment 6 days, 3 hours ago

    @saoirse firstly so good on you for being so so strong for your son, I can’t imagine how very hard this last year has been for you. I am sure that eventually your son will recognise the battle you have gone through, and through determination and love for him you are winning and won’t give up. As his years mature he will see this. Give some allowance that his current rejection is because this situation is raw, and he has been hurt, and like you say others are also influencing him, but you will come through for him. I admire you so much, and congratulations for turning your life around, much love xxx😘

  • Noodle71 posted a new activity comment 1 week, 2 days ago

    Hi there, I could of written your post. Every word. I’m a few days in, not focusing on numbers as this is the way for me now. I’ve spent years torturing myself over what I’ve done whilst under the influence, from crazy, promiscuous, damn right embarrassing, low and the just stupidly dangerous. I realised alcohol just makes me into an obnoxious tIt actually, the most uncool person in the room. Once I realised that after 20+ years I’ve forgiven myself, as I know now it truly wasn’t me, and that’s why it has to go. For me there isn’t one benefit that comes from drinking, just a lot of embarrassment, health issues, and a total block on my life’s plans and time I need to do anything. You sound like you’re beating yourself up over drunken actions, I hope you can see just this day, a new change proves you know deep down you are not totally to blame for them. Move on up and out, embrace the new you! 😊

  • Noodle71 posted a new activity comment 1 week, 3 days ago

    @k1w1 no I’ve never been able to do it either, and I’m pretty good with puzzles, I think my brain just says Nah numbers 😫

  • Noodle71 posted a new activity comment 1 week, 3 days ago

    @seizetheday I lol’d too 😁 though I reckon I’d be up for a medal of some sort of that were the case, congrats on day 50!! Way to go😀😀😀

  • Noodle71 posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    Me too, reading these posts makes me believe it’s totally doable, sure lots of work to be done, but like my Grandad always used to say, you don’t get nothing for nothing, and hearing it’s so worthwhile fires up the motivation, thanks 💛

  • Noodle71 posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    Thanks everyone for your tips, support and shared resources😘 I have read through the AA site again this morning and have decided it’s not for me. I’ve got lots to go at here, and as so many have suggested and what I thought myself is that I need to make my own path and fine tune a kit that will take me to forever and beyond. Found a local spiritual meditation group that meets once a month and also yoga for beginners is starting up in two weeks time, so I am looking forward to that. Been walking the dog more which he’s loving, eating a bit better, oh and a new discovery of sound sleep is just awesome. Thrown myself back into my art and crafts which has always been my life but was being sidelined more and more by Al, a reawakening of creativity I’m excited to see unfold. Lots of online resources and this lovely group ❤ day 10 today, much love and strength to all you lovely people, have a beautiful day xx

  • Noodle71 posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    I like that idea, thinking that you wouldn’t pour alcohol down our pets throats. We do some horrible things to ourselfs we’d never do to others it’s mental!

  • Noodle71 posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    @kaydee congrats that’s awesome!! 😀

  • Noodle71 posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    @lucy, I hear ya, I’m only day 9 in and have spent this week having in depth conversations with family and friends, then tonight my hubby downs over half a bottle of whiskey, at one point insisting I clink glasses with him to say cheers to sobriety! ? Is it me lols?? I admire how you stormed through what sounds like a tough day, chalk that one up to you being bad ass 😀😀😀

  • Noodle71 posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    Hi @lesleylily Yup I feel exactly the same! Well done on day 7, apart from feeling very emotional yesterday with lots of crying, even in the supermarket (lordy) I am feeling better and stronger everyday, we got this x

  • Noodle71 posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    Hi @lucy, yes I think that’s how I would be, if you could get me through the door. I honestly feel it would do more harm than good. Thanks for that as t, it’s interesting that so many feel the same and have found other strategies to manage their recovery, it’s good to know I’m not alone 😘

  • Noodle71 posted a new activity comment 1 week, 4 days ago

    Hi @jo14, you’ll know exactly where I’m coming from then! I suppose we’re all on our own unique path and there isn’t a single solution for any of us. I’m using a mish mash of resources, foods and drinks and special wonderful people, oh and some awesome online support, so far it’s working 😁

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